Preparing to TTC in 2022

[WingingIt09]

DH has agreed to starting to TTC baby #3 in April/May. We already have a 2 daughters (age 4 and 2). I'm so excited to start trying! I think it's going to be a long wait until we can start actively trying!

Starting to think about things to do to help prepare my body. I'm currently on the progesterone only pill so thinking of when to stop it. I have 5 days left in this packet and then one packet left after that in my current prescription. Don't know whether to stop when I finishes this packet or at the end of Jan after my next packet. Any experiences of how long it takes cycle to regulate after the pill?

I need to try and eat healthier as I've been so bad recently with Christmas but I'm a healthy weight so not too worried there. Also ordered some TTC vitamins which I remember from previous pregnancies is good to take 3 months before TTC.

Anything else I could do? Is there anyone else who will be starting to try later in the year and so excited that you're already on here 🙈?

Hello! Can I join please? just finished period and going to start officially trying this month. Third baby, my other two are 3 and 2, and I'm 32

Hi all, nice to see this group continuing to grow!

I finally got a visit from AF this week so will just about be able to start TTC in February as planned. I'm excited to start using my OPKs!

Hope everyone is doing ok :)

[quote LucyLoopyLu]@BellaNutella88 - I understand completely, it makes things easier to have something positive to focus on coming down the line!

We have two holidays coming up as well, and I'm stupidly exited! One is a "honeymoon" (our original honeymoon was meant to be in May 2020), and its a completely different and not as amazing holiday but still very exciting! The other is a family holiday which was meant to be in 2021 and has now been rebooked.

I'm just in a bit of a tizz about the timings RE TTC as it would be awkward to not be drinking on the family holiday but v unlikely to be necessary so I'm probably worrying over nothing [/quote]
Oh congratulations ! Sorry that you had to move it but exciting you still have these holidays to look forward to :-).

I'd try not to worry yet and if it does become an issue you can have a think. Depending on how close to the family you are, you could always just tell them ?

@LucyLoopyLu when is your other holiday?

Weve got our first ever holiday just me and my other half in May so definitely don't want to be pregnant then. And the in September we've got my brothers wedding in Cyprus...I don't really mind being pregnant for that but I'd like to be past the first trimester, so I've not given myself much time 😅

Welcome @FourOclock I've added you to the list!

@Nyxxie that's exciting! Fingers crossed for a BFP for you this cycle! Xx

Welcome to all the new group members just wondering if anyone else's OH seems in denial that sometimes people can get pregnant quickly? My OH is convinced it's going to take years (a few of our friends are going through fertility treatments) and I am aware that there is a chance it won't happen easily but on the other hand trying to explain it could happen quickly doesn't seem to be sinking in and he's talking about a big holiday next year after my friends wedding in the states. I'm absolutely demented and praying that I conceive before my friends wedding is booked in a few months time because it doesn't seem to be sinking in that it's risky booking a big holiday. I've said we will put the money aside and if not pregnant by then we can book last minute. Men really do not think logistically do they

My husband is the opposite, assumes it will happen first month of trying so has been saying no need to try yet there's loads of time! He actually used the phrase 'we've got all the time in the world' until I pointed out that actually women DON'T have all the time in the world

But no they don't think logistically. My husband has busy seasons at work where he works 7 days a week, no way he could have a day off during that time let alone paternity leave. Yet he doesn't think about us having to not TTC when a birth could happen during these times!

@FourOclock I'm glad I'm not the only one who's OH doesn't really think of all the ins and outs of it all. If they had a brain they'd be dangerous! Think us women just need to take matters into our own hands when TTC because the men just have no clue

I think my other half is so cautious and such a planner that he is the exact opposite!

@dreamingof3 If I was pregnant on the family holiday, it would be very early days or even possibly during TWW, but that would be if we got lucky first cycle trying which seems v v unlikely! I think I will just take it as a bonus. No one ever died from not being able to have a glass of wine 🤭 but yeah I would have to tell them, it is close family and they know I wouldn't go on holiday and not drink

My DH seems to think he will get my pregnant as soon as, whereas I’m terrified it will take forever! He has come to terms with the fact we won’t ski next year, but if I’m not pg we are putting aside money for a last min trip

So slightly awkward conversation with a friend today... essentially telling me she hopes I'm not going to be pregnant for her hen do/wedding (Gets married end of March 2023) so that I can enjoy it properly..... definitely planning on being pregnant/maybe even having a newborn by then. Wedding is 2 hours from home so potentially may not even make it if due date timing doesn't work out... Also based on things she's said possibly a child free wedding. I've no problem with that and will happily arrange childcare for my older 2 but hoping that allowance would be made for a newborn if baby has arrived by then otherwise I won't be going then either 😳

I find that such a bizarre thing to say @WingingIt09! And it would make me want to ensure I'm pregnant for it

My first two pregnancies everyone found out veeeery early on, I was determined this time to keep it quieter but now we've officially decided to properly try this month I already want to tell the world. I'm never going to be able to keep quiet until 12 weeks. Although I have a friend who has been trying for a long time to get pregnant with her second and I'm already worrying how I will tell her (not that it's guaranteed I will get pregnant at all!)

Haha, it's a close friend who've I've known since I was 11, so I took it with a pinch of salt. She doesn't have kids and isn't planning on having any so I just think has no concept of being pregnant etc. I am considering trying to avoid being due mid March - mid Feb as I'd be gutted to miss the wedding as she's an old friend. But already need to avoid mid May-mid June due date as my brother is getting married end of May and definitely not risking missing that! If I try to avoid my friends wedding too then things get a little to complicated!

That should say mid March - mid April 😂🙈 not mid Feb!

@WingingIt09 if we tried to avoid everyone's plans we'd never be pregnant 😅
My sil constantly says to me 'you best not be pregnant for x y z' like it would ruin all her plans 😒 she doesn't even know were going to try, I just haven't ruled it out

Although for her I think it's more to do with the fact she'd also love a third but her dh (my brother) has said absolutely not

If it's any consolation I was pregnant for my own wedding and still had a great time!

My DH thinks it will happen really quickly and I am trying to explain that due to the vasectomy it probably won't!

Two months today until the reversal :)

Hope everyone has had a good day

Hello everyone! This is such a lovely thread. I started my own yesterday and was bombarded with negativity about TTC using cycle tracking/OPKs but you guys seem to be on the same lines as me!

We are going to start TTC in April 2022 and I’ve read lots of comments saying you guys are the same with regard to waiting a few months. Can I ask your reasons for waiting? My partner wants to wait but I’m SO keen to start asap as I know it can take a few months!

Xx

What is your partner's reason for wanting to wait @PrettyPolly92?

@Vasectomyreversalhopeful keeping everything crossed for you that the reversal goes well 🤞

@WingingIt09 that must have been really hard to bite your tongue. As much as we would all love to prepare and plan when we're going to get pregnant life goes on and as @Dreamingof3 said there's always plans and events so I really hope your friend understands that. My best friend is getting married in vegas and I'll happily travel if in a safe pregnancy timeframe or if I've got a baby at least 6 months would just travel out for a few days but he understands if I can't make it even though I'm his maid of honour (well gay wedding version of a bridesmaid) if I'm pregnant he would rather I was safe and will just be happy for me regardless.

Hardest thing I've found about Preparing to TTC is to realise for once in my life it's actually about me and I need to be selfish. We're all so used to putting other people first as women and it's such a strange adjustment to be like nope this is my time to suit my own life

@FourOclock Although we’ve spoken about wanting children before 30 (we both turn 30 in 2023) and it was actually his idea to start TTC this year I think he’s a bit scared as he knows our lives will change and things are good as they are. He’s promised me by April he’ll be “ready” 😆 so I was just wondering if anyones OH is similar to mine?

Last time round my DH kept changing his mind about being ready to TTC polly which was very hard for me as I was desperate to get cracking. It was definitely down to fear.

This time round he has promised me he won't change his mind and he is sticking to it.

Thank you 2022. We have gone with a really good clinic using the latest, most effective techniques so am hopeful :)

@PrettyPolly92 aw sorry to hear about the other thread I've loved this one so far and so supportive.

April will be here before you know it and gives your cycles time to regulate if you're just coming off birth control. I imagine the impact of a pandemic and wanting a few more fun months is probably in your partners mind before life changes forever. I know my partner would be the same if we hadn't just managed to have a big holiday he would probably want a few nights out after not being able to for a few years. Are you off birth control and have you started tracking ?