🎄Is your turkey 🦃moister than an oyster?💦TTC bus 51

[Minster2012]

Wow that last bus was an amazing bumper BFP filled bus where we were all crying and screaming for joy as lots of our lovely passengers got their BFPs…🙌🏻we are having an ADVENT CALENDAR of a BFP each day! 🥰❤️

There’s still some ppl lingering on this bus so that’s it, I’m calling time, all the rest of you are due off this bus with your 2 lines please 🤞🏻

This is the bus where we’ve got lots of things going on, bumps, rainbows 🌈, ivf, and now lots more miracle BFPs before ivf! Maybe we should issue passengers with an ivf referral on your way in too to help spur those eggs & sperm into action!

Whether you are TTC “normally”, IUI/ivf or anything we are a crew that cling together to the bitter end & always ready to help a sister out. We’ve had multiples, some losses so know two lines can be just as terrifying as none, and we’ve got ladies where those two lines are more illusive than a white Christmas 🎅🏻

It costs an embarrassing story for your ticket, doesn’t have to be TTC related as we know laughing when TTC is needed.

If you see mention of Instagram I have a public account where a lot of people are linked too:
Minstermusings, and a few people have created new anonymous accounts to record their TTC journey/life stupidities m/general annoyances on…just don’t mention TTC on a personal account.

Hi all! So. I’ve had five cycles in total this year. I’m 13dpo and I have short luteal phases so I’m officially one day late. My bbt is still high. I have the SQUINTIEST SQUINTER ever. Dare I hope?

It’s sounds a bit dark but I found all this desperate two week wait stuff so humiliating. There hunching over stupid pregnancy tests holding them up under different lights willing myself to see something. Googling every symptom, reading Aga zillion old mumsnet threads of women just like me doing the same thing. The vast majority of whom just get their period and do it all again the following month. I feel quite bleak about it all.

@Manifestingbaby I don’t mind where the thread is kept but I definitely need to have a thread where I have people who I can, say once every two to three months, turn to and say “I WANT BABY SO MUCH!” And they understand. The graduates have been through hell so will also understand. Though when there was spate of bfps I found it a bit hard to hear about it all and had to step away for a bit.

@Manifestingbaby Personally I think the thread should stay in TTC. It's been going a long time and if it moves over to Pregnancy then it will eventually die as there will be no new TTC passengers once the rest of us (hopefully) get our BFPs

I'm pretty new to the thread though so please feel free to ignore me! It's Minster's thread so I guess it's her decision really

@larrythelizard isn't it, I was impressed! I don't generally do them so haven't seen one like that in a while.

@polkadotpixie oh ok! I haven't really looked into it yet. I was more concerned about being refused for being a hopeless case, hadn't thought of it costing more.

@paintfairy i know what you mean and there really couldn't be any censorship as that would be very unfair. I sort of thought that would be just down to us to self manage. I'd probably just stay away for a few days when af arrives for example. But maybe I'm being naive and it's just not compatible.

@Vil10 thank you. I don't generally bother with opks so they might be more use to someone else. I did them last cycle to see if the tablets delayed ovulation any bit but no. At least you are pregnant before moving back home, would have been hard done when ttc. I'm sure you will be sorted by the time baby arrives. And mammy can look after you if you feel rough now 😀

Sorry posted too soon. @pennysays @polkadotpixie @Franklydear thanks for your thoughts too, as I say maybe being naive.

@pennysays fingers crossed for that squinter! Totally get you on the humiliation. I regularly ask myself who I've become when I'm wandering around the house in desperation looking for better light 😂

Right catching up as having internet issues...

@Manifestingbaby look at that OPK that's great 😃 yes @2020mission had a lovely baby boy, she's only posted once so think all in the lovely bubble atm, I'm ok thanks, been a bit sickly over Xmas so trying not to do too much

@InkyPaper covid not ideal def not, how you both feeling? But the drugs whoop whoop!! It's def moving onwards 🙌🏻

@Franklydear Christmas is for relaxing?? That's why I'm trying to tell myself (often failing)

Loving the idea of pink crockery @larrythelizard we need pictures of this when it arrives

@polkadotpixie let's hope this is the start of a better LP, do you know you have low progesterone?

@pennysays wait whattttttttt where's this squinter, I totally know what you mean on the feeling like a mad woman sat in the bathroom for AGES moving tests around the room for different lights. 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

I also have some OPKs and I need to go through the vitamins as well so happy to pass on to anyone who wants them!

Right on the thread front @Manifestingbaby raises a point that I was going to raise...I mooted it at the end of the last bus 🚌 ...

This thread is amazing for support & a lot of ppl have been together a long time & we are invested in each other's journeys & the majority of ppl who post regularly are these ppl. Often newbies come & then don't comment at all which is frustrating, and a few of us who have been lucky to get BFPs often repeat things between the threads.

We are getting less joiners & for me that's been helpful, as I try to keep up (& support/rally/remember) where ppl are at TTC wise & I've been struggling with poor internet, working & feeling a bit crappy

The sidecar has lots of ppl from this thread & yes it's pretty chatty about all sorts, obviously a lot about things like pregnancy pillows too which we couldn't sensor & it might affect ppl like @pennysays says, like atm there's quite a lot of scans going on so that might be tough (and we don't know whether to keep you guys informed of them or not??)

What I was mooting at before was that someone else should take over the TTC bus, someone who is TTC 😂I can't drive the bus forever I'm afraid but I try to keep on top of things, and those that want to keep track of ppl here can do (or try what @paintfairy suggests chat for here & pg stuff there?)

Or the other option is as @Manifestingbaby says For ppl who want to to jump over to the other thread which I don't have a problem with but that's not my thread 😂. I've certainly become mates with a lot of ppl on here & love the support & always took a look on the graduates bus when I wasn't up duffed anyway cos I'm nosy like that 🤪

It's nice that a lot of ppl use the Instagram to see stuff both TTC and not (don't know where I'm going with that tbh) but often there are pics there we wouldn't post here

What do others think?

We haven't heard from @Somatronic in a while

Would be keen to hear either way if anyone wants to take over?

Ps for ANYONE I'm always a message away 💕be that through Insta, here, WhatsApp or many other methods

@Minster2012 perfectly put my darling, I am happy with whatever. I am not often a writer but I am always a reader and this is our little community!! 💗 I will follow everybody else's lead, but I agree it's annoying when you get new people that say nothing, and it's also quite difficult when people are upset about BFPs etc given the nature of the thread.. it is what everybody is aiming for (Sorry if that offends) I think there's a difference between being insensitive and sharing happy news with people that we have all come to care about !

@InkyPaper sorry to hear about the covid. How did that happen! Are you feeling ok? Xx

Big catch up, you ladies have been busy, I went to see Spider-Man on the cinema, so good
@Vil10 well, we decided to extend the deadline till March, so getting my head around that, and doing a bit more as planning to get back to work in January from covid in mid November
@polkadotpixie that’s a good point, for people to join us, it’s everybody threat, we are lucky to have a wonderful driver it sorry @minster you can’t leave us, yes I know aibu and don’t care
@Minster2012 well, it’s definitely a relaxing Xmas for us, not having to organise/help prepare 4 meals for 40 in a week, I got a lot of knitting and crochet done while ignoring the housework though

Absolutely @Minster2012 you have been a very devoted bus driver but it's not fair to hold you to it indefinitely.

I'm not on Instagram so I do sometimes scroll the sidecar to see scans or gender reveals or babies if there's a mention of them. I suppose everyone has different sensitivity to these things but for me, when you've seen the lows you want to see the highs too.

Feel like I've put the cat among the pigeons but it does feel like there's been a shift and just wondered how to address it.

@Manifestingbaby nothing to address, I was wondering myself how few of us left too, the best thing about this bus, you can say anything to your sisters
So who’s volunteering for driving then?

@Minster2012 I often wonder how you manage to keep up with it all and yes think it’s inevitable that you wouldn’t be able to run the thread. We’re all so grateful for the energy you put into it.

@Franklydear what if we had a volunteer per thread? So it wasn’t a permanent role but changed once a month or so?

@pennysays I don’t think I can do it, spend half the time trying to guess/remember who is who, have no hope in Instagram, I just have a lot of strangers, have a couple pinned.... as far as we don’t lose the bus, whatever works is good for me

Def nothing to address @Manifestingbaby I was going to ask someone or some ppl to take over this thread for the end of this one so don't worry

& I'm not going anywhere, @pennysays I don't keep up nearly enough now, I used to know where everyone was in their cycles & that's what I've been struggling with which is the point of the thread & that's made me realise I can't do it going forwards as that should be what's important. I also agree with @Manifestingbaby it's nice to see the highs as well for instance those doing ivf we've had such success on here & I think it really helps others too as we've got a few ppl doing /done similar journeys & can help each other

It is difficult to know what might offend here scan wise but a BFP should never offend as that is the point like @blackcurrantqueen says 😂

@pennysays the changing driver is a great idea who knows one of you might love it 😂I enjoy it cos it kept me occupied focusing on others & im nosy & overinvested 😂. Maybe @Sausage1990 will come back & whip us all back in to shape for the new year as a driver in the future, she set up the side car but it's had a number of drivers so here can work equally the same

And I certainly don't mind ppl joining the pregnancy thread, I don't think many ppl would, & see how you get on, & if you get
fed up with us moaning about discharge, itchy nipples and the fact that my pregnancy pillow is shit at spooning then that's fine 😂 (that's basically just me)

@Franklydear was spider man good? And the only housework I've done is washing (after DS has gone through his bedding twice when it's just me here) not sure why you should be doing more???

No idea why half of that bold. Not intentional, shit driver 😂

And ahem the squinter @pennysays 👀👀👀let's not forget that

@Minster2012 Spider-Man is really good, I won’t say anything cos you really don’t want spoilers in this one, it would help if you watched all the other Spider-Man movies and a few of the marvel universe, otherwise some things won’t make as much sense
You’ve been a fabulous driver, and set the bar very high, cos you’re such a caring generous person

@Franklydear tbf no other bus has standards that high - all we really need is to carry on one of minsters more generic intros, and perhaps remembering to add newbies to the tag list?

I'm not a fan of the thought of merging the bus into the pregnancy one either - mainly because TTC can be so painful and censoring yourself whenever scans/baby talk becomes too much defeats the point a bit?

I kinda think we need to drop the embarrassing story for a ticket though as it adds a barrier to entry for a bus that is already struggling to get newbies onboard. Just my two cents though!

Got back from Sweden yesterday - I'm off to a friends house tomorrow for NYE near Peterborough. There will be 6 of us basically just having good food, playing board games etc and I'm really looking forward to relaxing with friends 🙂

@pennysays fingers crossed - how certain are you of your ovulation date and what kind of test did you use?

@polkadotpixie I never ended up using them for IVF but they did some initial fertility investigations and recurrent MC checks for me and DH at Care Fertility. We used the Sheffield one but I think they have one in Nottingham and we found them really good although I appreciate IVF is a whole different ball game

@larrythelizard pink crockery? You must share photos and ones of that squinter too @pennysays

@InkyPaper well that sounds like the worst Christmas present ever. Hope you've been ok with it!

@polkadotpixie crap on AF arriving but the extended LP is a step in the right direction 💪🏼

@Manifestingbaby I think it's a tough one, definitely good to see highs when you need hope but also can have the reverse effect depending on your headspace and mine changed (and still does) hour to hour when TTC

Yeo that's a very good point @Juno231 probs best to keep separate and I agree the whole thread should be all about the fun supportive ppl on it not me so it's upto the driver what they want to do intro /story etc but a shake up would be great, new driver energy 🙌🏻would be awesome.

Your NYE sounds lovely @Juno231 I bet the food will be amazing

@Franklydear they are both on the list, I can't remember the last time we went to the cinema though (& that was pre covid too, I struggle to sit for 3 hours)

@Juno231 agree the embarrassing story may be a barrier. I think the big list of bfp passengers probably puts some off too if you are just looking for ttc support? We've become such a mixed group! I just thought as there's more pregnant than not then move over there and keep the group but yeah I get that it's not that simple and definitely don't want to interfere with the dynamic on the pregnancy thread, you girls need what you need too.

@bez91 so true. How things effect you does change depending on what's going on. I wouldn't usually feel anyone else happiness takes from mine but admittedly when I got my low amh news just before the recent influx of bfps I did feel rather sorry for myself.

I'll stop having ideas 🤣🤐

The lists can be scrapped altogether a whole shake up is good and def can put ppl off

For the bumps to keep track we can post the new thread link on the grads bus each time it changes and of course ppl can nosy about threads they want!

Whatever we do I would like the bumps and babies to stop by every so often, it really makes me happy

Hi ladies ❤️
Thanks for the tag @Minster2012. I've been exceptionally rubbish at getting involved with that chats here. I am so sorry about that ladies. The pre Xmas sewing side hussle and full time work took over my life, as well as getting our house sorted to go on the market in January. All has settled a bit now so hopefully I'll have more headspace for chats, especially as we're hopefully going to be TTC again on the near future 🤞🏻

With regards to the bus, I see both sides. I really don't want to loose everyone as they dip off to the sidecar but I agree with @Juno231 and think having this thread on the pregnancy thread will be too challenging.

As someone who's had 3 losses, I've been on both threads.l and they both bring something new to the table. The pregnancy ones are great to talk openly about all things pregnancy without any filter, which might be hard for the TTC ers to read, even though we're all pretty sensitive to the difficulties of getting and staying pregnant, it still won't be the same. but equally after my loss I needed to step away from pregnancy chat and this bus was my safe haven away from it. Still connected to this gorgeous community of amazing women and internet friends, but not being with the pregnant ladies as much. It would be hard I imagine for someone not to have a safe space and for others to feel they can't share as openly.

I think having a new driver and keeping it in TTC but as @Minster2012 said, having a new driver & maybe a shake up is a great idea.... maybe take turns to drive? I set up the sidecar in my last pregnancy and it's had multiple drivers since so it definitely can work if people are willing & happy to chip in. I'm happy to chip in more that's for sure.

I also agree with @Franklydear about the bumps and babies still chatting and popping in. And also adding the sidecar link into the intro.... Anyway that's enough for me, the silent one who disappeared for a while but always lurks 😉