TTC December thread

[mightbeyesmightbeno]

@kizzy97 @Peonies94 @Tinkerbell098 @jhodd @EvelynSalt starting this from those of us that are out this month and ready to go for December!

This part is nearly as bad as the TTW - waiting for AF to be over and to be able to crack on!

By my calculations we'll all know before Christmas if the next cycle has been a success for us - so hopefully either way happiness or sadness there will be lots of opportunities for lovely family time x

Hi @Glago2017
I don’t get much EWCM. I’ve tried pre seed the last two months with no success yet but it worked first time when I got pregnant with my little boy. I’m trying evening primrose oil until ovulation this month as I’ve heard it can help with increasing cervical mucus and also trying to stay more hydrated - I never drink enough water and apparently that can make you more dry down there!
How long did it take to conceive your first?

Sorry @mightbeyesmightbeno you tagged me ages ago but I wanted to ignore till closer to the TWW. I’m due AF on the 16th so the next week is the busy week and then two weeks of waiting! Fingers crossed it happens this cycle.

Ive just found out a very good friend of mine is pregnant. Married with 2 children already but this time it was an accident. Obviously happy for her because she's happy. But it still stings a little. Makes me hope even more for this month and then that makes me worry that but over thinking about it will stress me out and then it won't happen.

Nice to see you @Ballygowenwater . Really hope this is your month! I will be due AF around 20th (hoping it doesn't arrive but if it does then I hope it's gone by Christmas Day!)

@moonshine160
I've heard of people using evening primrose oil, is it any good?
With my DD we just didn't use protection and just see how it went. We wernt trying but not doing anything to prevent it either. 🤣 Think from stopping BC it was about 1 ½ years but I had a MC before my DD. So this is my first time actively ttc. 🤞

Can I join? Due on the 1st Dec but currently BFN and I always get a positive v early so I don’t think nov is my month.

Welcome @Jammiedodger27 :) you’re never out until AF shows!

@Glago2017 I’m still on my period at the moment so I’m not sure if the evening primrose oil helps, I have been taking it though since CD1. I feel like I’m less sluggish and have more energy but could be complete coincidence!

Well according to my app I'm nearing my fertile window! Have dtd anyway since the day af stopped so fingers crossed 🤞 how is everyone else getting on? xxx

Can I join? Never joined one of these before but thought it might be nice to chat to some people. I came off the pill in august and weve had a 'see what happens' approach (I do have an app but dont pay it too much attention as I get EWCM which is obvious and the app seems a bit off with predictions - I mainly use it to predict period starting/count cycle day). I felt really lucky as coming off the pill after 11 years my first cycle was 27 days, next two were 26 days so I thought I was doing well but last cycle was 24 days which worried me (although i usually come on in the morning when i wake up and this was evening so i guess it was a bit like 25 days so not to irregular). Anyway this is last cycle of seeing what happens and then I'd like to try properly in the new year. This weekend and mon/Tues next week is around the right time for us going by previous months but I've had a UTI all this week so no dtd! I seem better this morning so hoping its gone in time!

Would be a bit nervy to conceive this month as I'm due my period a week before xmas and there would he no hiding that I'm not drinking xmas day! I really didn't want family to know until after a first scan (even a 10 week private one) so not stressing too much this month.

Got a peak OPK today but no ovulation pain yet. Its my DD 4th bday today so had a full on weekend of parties and visitors but squeezed dtd in tonight and hopefully tomorrow. 🤞

My period has finally ended so just going to try and DTD every couple of days until about a week before my next period is due, Eeek. Tried SMEP last two months but didn’t work and felt exhausted by the end of it.

@Moonshine160 @Glago2017 @PoleFairy @kizzy97 best of luck all! I'm CD7 today and first DTD this cycle. So it begins! When we conceived my daughter I didn't do OPKs that month as was away on holiday so unlike other months when I'd tracked I have no idea! So going to try and go with roughly every other day from in a few days time to a week or so next period.

@Theresamagicalplace

Hi can I join this one too 🙈 going to end up annoying everyone by being on each thread haha. AF due tomorrow and a stark white test today so just waiting to start again. I'm already working out which months we have to take a break to avoid due dates around my firsts birthday and Christmas, does anyone else do this or do you just say fuck it and see what happens?

You're not alone! I'm a bridesmaid for my best friend in October next year so if we don't fall pregnant this month then we're going to have to skip January otherwise I'd be due on her wedding day!

@mightbeyesmightbeno we’re cycle buddies and going for the same method this month then good luck to us

I'm going for my first smear test on Saturday! Will this affect me ttc this cycle?

Only found out today didn't think I'd be having one yet as I'm not quite 25 yet...

Can I join?

2nd month of TTC for #1 baby.

Been using OPKs but they don't seem to be getting much darker and ovulation is meant to be tomorrow 😩 dtd every other day, and yesterday used pre seed and menstrual cup after (only kept in for a couple of hours, but hopefully helped)

I have a very high BMI so am worried this will impact our journey, but cycles are 28-30 days, I'm pretty confident I ovulate every month with no issues and taking all the right supplements 🤞🏻🤞🏻

I've had the mirena crash. It was taken out ten days ago, I bled the day after for three days. Assumed this was my period. Woke up every day to cramping and headaches. Feeling generally run down tbh (but work is also horribly understaffed atm (nicu nurse) and we had a sad death at the end of my shift yesterday morning and today, full blown period! Mouth ulcers, headache, cracked hands. I just feel poop and have wondered why I'm doing this all over again at my age 🥲 OH is so excited but I genuinely don't think it's going to happen for us, without the age thing I've had 7mcs over the years, though I have 3 boys too I went through a lot to get them. Add into the fact he's away for two months at a time and due to go away any day now. Just having a low day I think.

[quote Moonshine160]@mightbeyesmightbeno we’re cycle buddies and going for the same method this month then good luck to us[/quote]
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@kizzy97

Only found out today didn't think I'd be having one yet as I'm not quite 25 yet...

You'll be fine (nursing hat on - use to perform smears). They normally call sometime in the 6 months before 25 depending on local capacity. No issues with TTC at all, and def a great idea to get done before being pregnant as otherwise they'll have to delay it. So good to get done! But honestly don't worry about it, it's the outside of your cervix x

Hey, I will join here too if that's OK :)

I am just coming off the back of an early MC (chemical I guess) at the start of this month, so just waiting for my period to arrive. Hoping it will be over the next couple of weeks so I can crack on with December. Wasn't sure I'd be up for cracking on again so soon as I struggled to adjust when I got my BFP, but feeling positive now :)

I did use PreSeed around fertile week the month we conceived, which was our 5th cycle since me stopping the pill. So I do think it helped. I'm a little bit wary of using it again just because in the back of my mind I'm worried about it helping out the weaker sperm and ending in another chemical, but I know loads of people have had successful pregnancies using it so I'm trying to push that out of my mind as I really do think it made a difference for us.

I am the same as @Moonshine160 in that I never notice any EWCM so I do think it could help me out. I also have some Evening Primrose Oil to try next cycle too to see if it changes anything. I've read it officially doesn't matter if you don't notice EWCM in your underwear or when wiping as it's likely still present inside but it can't hurt to give a helping hand.

@oldermam sorry to hear this :( I guess the change in hormones after the mirena is pretty big so hopefully now this period will be the start of back to normal cycle for you. But I'm sorry to hear you've got symptoms headaches and cramps etc. The ulcers, hands etc sound like you're really run down bless you. It's hard that OH is so excited when you feel so down but hopefully his optimism and excitement will keep you going though this rough time.

And I guess if he's away in a few days and it hasn't happened by then, it might give your body a bit of a chance to sort itself out and recover and get to good health.

So sorry to hear about the 7mcs, that must be really tough for you.

Do you have a time frame in mind for when you'll try until? I think mentally you have to be in the right place and ready and I suspect these hormones won't helping. I think just go with the flow - literally - at the mo and reflect and think once your period is over xx

@Theresamagicalplace YES, I am also conscious of avoiding Dec/Jan birthdays as my SCs both have birthdays in those months, plus Christmas obviously. It is already so hard to afford, so we could really do without another birthday there if possible.

I waited until May to come off my pill for this reason, but don't know what I'll do when it comes to March/April (which I think is when conception would result in Dec/Jan) as we'd have been trying 9+ months then so probably wouldn't be wise to waste 2 months of trying. Hopefully I'll get a BFP before then so it won't be an issue crosses fingers .

[quote mightbeyesmightbeno]@oldermam sorry to hear this :( I guess the change in hormones after the mirena is pretty big so hopefully now this period will be the start of back to normal cycle for you. But I'm sorry to hear you've got symptoms headaches and cramps etc. The ulcers, hands etc sound like you're really run down bless you. It's hard that OH is so excited when you feel so down but hopefully his optimism and excitement will keep you going though this rough time.

And I guess if he's away in a few days and it hasn't happened by then, it might give your body a bit of a chance to sort itself out and recover and get to good health.

So sorry to hear about the 7mcs, that must be really tough for you.

Do you have a time frame in mind for when you'll try until? I think mentally you have to be in the right place and ready and I suspect these hormones won't helping. I think just go with the flow - literally - at the mo and reflect and think once your period is over xx[/quote]
Thank you.

No time frame in mind. I turn 40 in January and he is 40 in June. We've kinda said if we catch and it ends up in mc we won't try again but just keep trying I guess until we do. We've started vitamins. Both a healthy weight don't smoke and only drink socially. I think not knowing when he's going to be called back to work is playing on my mind too, he will be away for Christmas and my birthday. Normally he's gone back by now but had to delay it cos his dad is poorly.

He's would really like his own so I'm also worried he will resent me if it doesn't happen. He's promised me he won't, he's been amazing tbh! Taken my three on as his own too they all get on so well.

@oldermam that's so lovely that he's taken your 3 on like his own 🥰 And I guess if you are just going to see what happens then try your best to put this horrible period behind you once it's done and onwards and upwards / see what happens. X