Ho ho ho! We all want Santa to come (with loads of BFPs)! It's the December thread 🎅🌲🎁

[Squiff70]

I don't know. Not even a week into November and sadly some are out for this month.

If you're dreaming of a white Christmas and you're definitely on Santa's NAUGHTY list, this is the one for you. Not a December bus but a December SLEIGH!

So go Dasher, go Dancer, go Prancer and Vixen! We don't want you to bring us those toys. Please stuff our stockings full of BFP joy!

@Squiff70
Dunno if I'll bother with another test. I don't feel pregnant but also don't feel like my period is on the way.
I'd usually have cramps and sore boobs by now but got nothing!
I'd just like to know where my body's at 😂
Feeling better today though, still bit of low mood but no where near as bad as it was x

Hi everyone! I feel a bit wierd joining onto this thread as I haven't even had my FW for November yet, but no wierder than me planning for Christmas all year round 🤣

I'm 37 and have been trying since 35 starting back in Jan 2020. Started hating birthdays as they're now a massive kick in the ovaries every year. We miscarried back in December 2020 and still no luck since. Trying super hard not to let TTC take over our lives, I think if we'd put everything on hold for all this time we'd have gone bat crap crazy by now! 🤣

Anyway 🤞 for November and December!

@Bringonbaby3 Hi! No sign of AF yet. No signs but I don't really get any anymore, it just turns up when it feels like it! I never get sore boobs, I'm still breastfeeding so I think that has something to do with it. I've ordered some tests, so will test tomorrow.

I know what you mean about the sleep thing, I'm usually a good sleeper, and drift off quickly, but every so often, I will have 2 or 3 days in a row where it takes me a couple of hours to drift off. So annoying!

Hi @Squiff70
Thank you, you can probably tell I made that username in summer, not so sunny outside at the mo!

Ah yes, it was such a such a lovely time to get a bfp, well, any time is , but Christmas time, it was brilliant.

It's always lovely to hear when people get their bfp, it makes me feel good, especially if they have been trying for a while.

Ha, it takes alot of willpower from me, I purposefully don't buy extra ones, otherwise I'd just use them all, even if one was negative. I ordered some today , so will test tomorrow if af doesn't show up today, which sods law, she will!

@Squiff70 thanks lovely, any unusual discharge/CM making me think I had an infection has now gone but now AF is 4 days late and still getting BFNs! Do have AF like cramps though so hopefully she's imminent and I can know for sure and start trying again. How are you getting on?

@SkaterChick, the first part of your last post mde me laugh when you said "I don't feel pregnant". Neither did I, but I was, with twins! You never know. You're not out until the larger lady sings. Sorry you're still struggling with low mood. Feel free to chat it out with me if you think it may help x

Welcome @BellaBella1984! It's not weird you've joined at all. I'm 4/5 DPO so still in the run for November too. Sorry to hear you've been on this journey for quite a while now though, that must be really tough on you both. Best of luck for your FW for a Christmas BFP!

Keeping my fingers firmly crosed for you @ItsSunnyOutside. It would be amazing ot get some BFPs on this thread - let's hope you're the first! When do you think you'll test and which tests did you order?

@HRHXO I'm glad your symptoms have gone now. It absolutely sucks being late and still having BFNs. That happened to me last cycle where I had a 36 day cycle (usually 28 days bang on) and it was so frustrating but for me I think it was na anovulatory cycle as I had peak OPKs for four days and 'high' readings for nine days. Hope you get an answer one way or another very soon.

I'm ok thanks. 4/5 DPO and not much to report. I had some very strange pains near my right ovary last night and am weirdly a bit emotional today but not reading anything into it as it's too early. I plan to test in about another week.

Can I join this thread please? I have long cycles but short luteal phase, it's been getting longer though so trying to remain optimistic. TTC baby no 1 for nearly a year now, I'm 31 and DH 35.

I do the ovulation test sticks and the line was quite a bit darker this morning. Expect to hit my peak in the next couple of days meaning we're going to be DTD loads!

@Squiff70 I felt it last time and was nauseous by now!
There was not even a whiff of a faint line on my test. And I'm at least 11/12dpo so I'm hoping for December. Be a nice Christmas treat!
I have no idea if AF will show up though. They said it could take a couple months after but hoping as I ovulated that I'm having a cycle!

Jumping onto this bus as AF arrived today and that marks the end of our first TTC cycle! I'm not too worried about AF arriving as I was super ill during my fertile window and so DTD wasn't high on my agenda 😅 although I did secretly hope we'd be that couple that get pregnant straight away!
Onto cycle 2 and armed with a wealth of knowledge and things to do differently. I was surprised at how stressful I found the fertile window and trying to schedule in sex at "the right time" I was also surprised at how awful sex can be when you're doing it because you kinda have to. DP and I have talked about how to get round it this cycle 👍
Plan for this cycle is to:
Avoid getting a cold
Dtd a lot more!
Don't drunkenly use non sperm friendly lube 🤦🏻‍♀️
And .... "just relax" 😅

Oh and no matter how hard I try I can't seem to stop myself from testing early!

Good luck to everyone!

Well I've got my first few signs that AF is on her way today, my boobs are getting sore ... I know this because when the cat launched herself from the windowsill to the bed at 3am she landed on my boobs it was excruciating 🤣 when she did that same thing two days again it didn't hurt anywhere near as much 🤣
She always manages the stand with her full weight through one paw that she puts on my boobs, this is usually my monthly oh they're getting sore notice 🤣🤣🤣

Also has some cramps this morning. All coming a bit later than expected but it's signs my cycle is doing something!

@Squiff70
I ordered the first response ones {pack of 2} from Amazon. They arrive today, eeekk.

I'm on CD 33. No pregnancy signs at all. So it is most likely a late period, as they have been so up and down. I'm still holding on to a little hope though.
I will update later on!

How are you feeling?

I'm jumping on this December sleigh if you'll have me.

November was not the one - ovulation was about a week later than expected/originally predicted, which meant we DTD too much too early (well, it wasn't going to be early if O wasn't so bloody late!!), and now that it's GO time DH is absolutely over it/cannot perform. The irony is, he will be fine in 2-3 days' time, but of course, by then it will be way too f*cking late. So I'm basically OUT even though I'm still not even 1 DPO.

Have you had such months? When TTC is going really great, until it's not and then it goes to shit really, really quickly? That's how I feel.

I hope December is kinder and luckier.

PS I'm not such a Negative Nancy usually, I promise I'll bounce back and not be such a miserable cow. x

Hi @Janey3090 and welcome! Hope you have lots of fun DTD and lots of luck for this cycle too. Keeping everything crossable crossed for you!

@SkaterChick you're still not out yet! No BFP and no symptoms at (now) 12/13 DPO doesn't mean diddysquat really, not in TTC terms. I even read a post the other day that somebody was getting BFNs until 19DPO and didn't have symptoms! Anyway, what will be will be...

Hiya @xoxo321 and welcome to you too! Do you want to share what happened this cycle when you say "life got in the way"? Have you just been busy with general stuff or has something big happened? TTC is very consuming and I think a lot of us have times when it's all we think about too.

Hi @kitty1993! Sorry AF got you this cycle! I hope you have recovered from your illness now, or are well on your way to recovery. The problem with DTD a lot is it can lower sperm quality. Every other day is ideal really. Or every day if you both feel like it but definitely no more than once a day! I had to laugh at "don't drunkly use non sperm firledly lube". Invest in some Pre-seed and have it to hand next time :) "Just relax" is a winner. I have done that (so far) this cycle too. I think I'm about 6 DPO today ish and not the slightest bit tempted to think about testing. To be honest I've been so busy my mind hasn't really been on the TWW.

Sorry, hit 'post message' as every time I type a long one I manage to delete it by accident.

@ItsSunnyOutside Have your FRERs arrived yet? Will you do one today or save for FMU tomorrow or another day? I'm feeling ok, just tired really but I have a nearly-two-year old so tiredness is part and parcel of it, lol. Thank you for asking how I am though, I appreciate it!

@Danani my friend of course we'll have you! You sound so upset and frustrated today. Does DH know how you feel? Like I said on the November thread, is there no chance he'll be up for a quickie later? Doesn't have to be a passionate hour(s)-long lovemaking session. You're not being a Negative Nancy, your post is real and your feelings are legitimate and understandable and sometimes, frustratingly, that's part and parcel of the TTC journey. Hugs!

@Danani I totally get that. We've had months where the dude just doesn't want to DTD or our work schedules have prevented the right timing.
I did sit him down and explain about opks, what they do/mean and he said he didn't realise how important it was to time it and catch the window and that's helped tbh as I just say to him I have the symptoms, lets start having all the sex and then I let him know when 'the stick says we need to have the sex' and it's helped relax things and giving him a 'heads up' so to speak has helped us fit it in.

@Squiff70 well I have no tests in the house and i won't let myself get another and test until at least Saturday as AF due Friday. Hope your ttw flies by! xx

Thanks, @Squiff70 and @SkaterChick!!! I really appreciate your encouragement!
DH knows I got upset and fed up, but he feels equally bad because his thing doesn't work today and he says he feels this pressure to DTD especially when it's THE time and I feel annoyed but equally, I also emphasize with him!
I sometimes think that I have it easy because I can go any time, anywhere, I get in the mood super easy and even if I'm not fully feeling it sometimes, it's not like I can't do it. With him, it's literally the opposite. He's great when he feels up for it, but if he feels he has to perform or there's a lot at stake because it's THE time, he feels off mentally, and then that sometimes has a physical effect also. And then on top of that this month, we've been at it for 2 weeks now every other day, which is not our usual, so I think he got burned out, figuratively and literally.

I just have to suck it up and accept it's not our month, and maybe next time only start when we're at the peak.

@SkaterChick I never thought I'd say this but so far the TWW has flown by. I've just been so busy (working a bit from home, looking after a little one and bonding two rabbits) that I've barely had time to think about it.

@Danani your frustration is completely understandable but it's nice that you empathise with your DH. If he can't do it he can't do it! It's not like you can force emotions and force your body to do something it's not quite prepared to do. If your roles were reversed and you'd overdone it and couldn't perform for whatever reason then you'd hope your partner/husband/wife would support you regardless. I actually think you're still in with a chance from what you said earlier, however I'd chalk this cycle down to experience and say you've both learned to leave it that little bit longer next month. You'll get there, I just know it. Maybe that Christmas BFP is waiting for you....

Hi everyone!

Can I join in as well? AF arrived for me yesterday so this will be cycle 2 of TTC for baby #2. I'm 33 and DH is 32 and we have a 19 month old. Hoping for a bfp as an early Christmas present! 🤞🏼

@Squiff70, no, you're totally right. If the roles were reversed, and I wasn't feeling up for it, and he was pushing me, I'd be absolutely fuming. I'd be appalled, so thanks for bringing this back into perspective for me.

Ultimately, we're young, my cycles are like clockwork (usually) and there is no logical reason to think there is anything wrong or that things won't happen. I just have to take a chill pill, go with the flow a bit more, and trust that things will happen in their own time, not on mine. And that's OK.

I hope you are right, would love a Christmas BFP for us all! :)

I'm hopping on here if that is OK. My Af is just starting to arrive (got cramps and my cm is brownish) so I'm out for November. 😩
This was my first month using OPK's and first really ttc although been off birth control for a while now. Got a 3 nearly 4 year old daughter.
🤞 for all the bnp's in December. 🎅

Ah, ovulation...waves goodbye to my egg as it sails merrily through my swimmer-free womb

Between everyone having norovirus, travel for work and my husband getting unexpected extra work, we haven't DTD ONCE this FW.

At least I'm having lovely EWCM and ovulation signs - I feel my cycle is getting back to normal after my MMC, so taking that as a silver lining and marking out Dec 4th/5th weekend for DTD time.

At least I'll have a chilled TWW this time!

@HereWeGoAgain2022 hello! Best of luck for your new cycle - fingers crossed it's the one for you! I have a little one too :)

@Danani that's the spirit! Do you mind me asking your age?

Hi @Glago2017 and welcome. Sorry AF got you - I get how that feels, especially on the first cycle! With a bit of luck and Christmas magic...

@Shortmamashortcycles oh no, so sorry to hear you've all been unwell and that you and your DH weren't able to DTD this cycle - totally understandably! Also so very sorry for your MMC. Your post is light-hearted but I do genuinely hope you're as okay as it's possible to be after what you've been through

Good morning everyone! :)

I told you I will snap out of the funk! Feeling much better today. Nothing has changed, but my headspace is just much calmer and happier today. I don't know why yesterday everything seemed so...catastrophic, I was in my old head and just felt so shit. Today, feeling very much like myself again which feels so nice!

Thanks so much for all of your kindness and words of encouragement, I really appreciate it!

@Shortmamashortcycles ahhh sorry you've missed the FW completely this cycle, huni. On the bright side though as you say, all of your signs look very healthy and promising and you also get to avoid the TWW. Hopefully next cycle is your lucky one!!!

@Squiff70, I'll be 31 next year and DH - 33. I know we're not 20somethings but I refuse to freak out that we're old or late in any way.

LOL meant to say I was in my OWN head, not OLD head haha. Really need to proofread before sending!

@Danani I was 34 when I had DD and got my BFP on the 3rd cycle. You and DH are absolutely fine ☺️ I’m 37 now! 🙈