Remember remember the month of November as it’s the month I’m getting pregnant 🎉✨

[Mummytobe93]

Hello everyone ✨🎉

I’m starting a November thread after being unsuccessful this month, got some spotting so probably cycle day 1 for me today, with fertile window being in the first week of November.

Please join me if you’re as hopeful about fresh cycle as I am!

My main goal is to DTD more, we definitely didn’t make the most of it in October …
I’m therefore going to be 100% honest with DH that we need to get down to business this cycle.

PS. Hope you like the title 🙈😂😂

Xxxx

That's a beautiful temp chart this month @MrsBiddy
I love the satisfaction of a good chart 🤣

@MrsBiddy forgot to say mine can often look quite different! But I've been temping for a good while now and noticed I have about 3 different BBT trends that seem to repeat. However one thing that stays the same is I have a 15 day Luteal phase and my temp always starts dipping around 12 DPO so that's how I know when I'm out even before AF arrives.

Morning everyone
Only just catching up on everything and congrats to all the BFP’s so far starting this month with a good start
I’m only cd7 and will be going into my fertile week so not much going on here, I also have started temping this month but don’t know much about it so far as only first month doing it

Morning ladies,

Think I may have spoken too soon yesterday as I tested this morning with FMU for confirmation but the lines were lighter, even though yesterday's tests were my second wee and after a drink too. So will have to wait and see how it goes over the next few days I think!

I just posted this in another thread regarding FMU not always being the most reliable: www.countdowntopregnancy.com/pregnancy-test/pregnancy-tests-urine-sample.php

Also I know how hard it is, but please don't read too much into line progression. It doesn't have to mean anything.

@lemons44
Ah thanks 😂 maybe the more I do the more I'll appreciate the nicer looking ones 😂

Hopefully I will get to understand them abit better x

@Mummytobe93

Hi *@WhiteLily86* I’ve found d quite good article in CM through Fertility Friend app www.fertilityfriend.com/Faqs/Checking-cervical-fluid.html Hope it helps!

Thank you so much!!

So basically when like egg whites you need to get down to business more? Perfect, I really struggle to understand my cycles sometimes so anything like this can help pinpoint as My periods are all over the place and can't always count days to work it out.

I have started tracking my BBT this month too.

hopefulmumma90 I am the same with BBT, so let's just hope first month of using this method helps us get our BFP's

So...random question and it might be pretty daft to even ask, seeing as we're all here - but do you tell your friends/families that you're TTC?

I feel so torn because on one hand I really want to share. I want to share with family that we're working on it so they get off our backs LOL. And I want to share with my friends who have kids already, maybe for some practical advice or even just moral support.

But on the other hand, I feel like I won't be able to cope with the pressure and the expectation of having people know that we are trying. I may be wrong, but I really feel like all of my friends with babies fell right away, as soon as they decided, so I'm also anxious about...being judged or feeling like there is something wrong with me because for us it hasn't happened instantly.

For now, I've not told a soul (well, other than you lot lol), but was curious if I'm being weird or this is just normal and most people's MO.

@LittleMysSister Congrats!!! First official November bfp! Hope everything progresses smoothly from here (am sure it will!)

@Danani sounds like you are ON IT with bbt and dtd. Keeping everything crossed this is your month

@Dobcaty great that your DH felt the interview went well. Hoping for good news! Hilarious that he now is appreciating the stress of a wait for life changing news… but hopefully both the job wait and the tww pan out for the best for you guys this month

No idea what’s going on over here. Thought o was on 31st but my little body was on ew/watery cm overdrive yesterday (sorry - tmi!). So now I’m not sure! Kind of just keeping at it - but a bit worried we peaked too early on the dtd front. Still… practice makes perfect I guess! 😜🤣

@Danani I told most of my close friends when I was coming off the pill, as we'd always chatted about things like that.

It is a little awkward now I've got the bfp though as I don't want to lie to them (also am a crap liar so wouldn't get away with it) but also don't really want to tell everyone super early just in case. Especially as three of my friends have babies and I'd guess they may have more, so I wouldn't want them feeling awkward around me if it doesn't work out for me and they end up pregnant again before me.

I didn't tell anyone in my family we were TTC as I feel like they have their own investment in it. My mum is desperate for a grandchild and is always making jokey comments, so as much as I'd like to have told her I was working on it, I wouldn't want her constantly wondering or advising me. I'd also like to wait as long as possible to tell her because if it didn't work out I couldn't handle her upset and worry on top of everything else.

I did think of telling my sister on occasions where the conversation has arisen, but I didn't in the end.

@Danani

I haven't told a sole about us ttc, I know it seems silly but I feel like they'll look at us or pity us, which is probably just my silly brain thinking that

I'm lucky that no one has hinted or asked yet but I guess only a matter of time.

I don't see it as their business really. 😆

@Danani I can only speak for myself, but I feel you!! I’m just all over excited and want to talk to my mum, sisters, friends about it. Particularly as they’ve all had babies so it’s kind of reassuring to talk to people who’ve been through it all. But, at the same time, there are some people I think I would feel the pressure from if they knew. And I couldn’t cope with that! I want talking about it to be on my terms… if that makes any sense?

It’s a tough one, and I don’t have the answer, but suspect it’s a quandary a few of us have!

@Danani I’ve got a habit of not sharing any plans/ideas with bigger circle of people before I’m 100% sure it’s happening 😅It’s probably a defence mechanism in case someone tries to talk me out of doing something or talks about it behind my back …
If I personally knew anyone who’s TTC I’d probably tell them… But I haven’t even told my mum & sister who I’m very close to, and my mum would love a grandchild. But just like you, I hate being under pressure and other people’s expectations!
In my case especially, since my DH already got a child, the assumption is that there’s nothing wrong with his fertility, so any issues with getting pregnant would put me in the spotlight.

So it looks like this lovely website is the only place I can be 100% honest about it! 💕

Ahhhh, thank you lovelies for sharing with me @Mummytobe93, @xoxo321, @Digby86, @MrsBiddy, @LittleMysSister!

It feels good knowing that I'm not being weird, and I guess it's normal and it's OK to be more guarded and private with this sort of thing.

I too am very close with my mom, and a few friends who already have kids but this makes me feel weirdly vulnerable and exposed, so will keep all the emotions and the journey to myself (and you! ) until there is actually something to share! x

Hi everyone,

@Danani, I haven't and won't tell friends or family. Partly due to their expectations wondering when it's going to happen for us and partly because we don't need the pressure. Plus it's none of their business. The other reason being for me I would like to surprise them with news they might not be expecting. I'd wait until well after 12 weeks if we're lucky enough to conceive and get that far, only because our twins were born sleeping at 19 weeks and we lost our son neonatally also, so friends and family would be permanently worried for us too if that makes sense. I have a friend who is TTC and she confided in me because she was on psychotropic medication and needed advice. If she updated me at some point I may tell her we're also TTC but I'd have to judge that on how the conversation went at the time.

Danani, sounds like you're all systems go now - enjoy DTD and I'll keep everything crossed for you!

On a personal note, I got my peak on an easy@home OPK last night and all the signs were there. Managed to DTD, only DP couldn't finish as he was so tired from work. I didn't tell him I'm ovulating as I didn't want to pile even more pressure on him but I might have to tell him we need an early night tonight and explain why! Our little girl is asleep now - he's playing games on his phone and enjoying 20 minutes peace before we have to go out this afternoon. It's all go go go here and I just wanna get him into bed 😂

I think I made the mistake of telling everyone we was trying, and then it never happened I was so excited at the time and honestly didn’t expect for it to be this long, I now joke it off with everyone when the question when we’re having a baby as we’re recently married people just expect a baby next but only a few people know about how we have been struggling and gone for tests and stuff, I find it helps sometimes just having someone else to listen to me other than my DH because he’s so chill and I’m so not 😂

My OPK is high today, well the highest it has ever been, it's my first month using easy@home so I don't know if it's my peak or not, it 0.88, it was only 0.18 the day before. So def be DTD tonight! Probably straight after DHs shower.

I am in disbelief I am 2 days late and I thought it was due to my covid jab!

I haven’t told anyone either! I recently got married so get asked by so many people, which really annoys me! I usually just brush it off. I don’t want to tell people and add pressure, as I have a feeling it could take a long time!

@Capricorn8990 congratulations! What a beautiful line too 🤩 x

Congratulations @Capricorn8990
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@Capricorn8990 wohoo congratulations girl! 🎉