TTC - Ovulation etc.

[MrsRosaline]

@newtolineofduty @hoola23 @LittleDoveLove @wannabeamummysobad

Think we need a new thread as I tried to post on the old thread and it wouldn't let me!! Please tag in anyone else I've missed who may want to join us here!

@hoola23 did you buy any more tests today? Will you try and hold out? I read a really convincing article on reasons not to test early which was saying that the data quoted on FRER and CB which says 99% accurate from four days before your period etc is totally skewed and faulty!!!! And you just end up with false positives/negatives! Xx

Hello all! Hope you don't mind if I tag along for the ride? Currently 9, possibly 10dpo (not entirely sure as I got my smiley face early morning on day 15 so I'm assuming I ovulated day 16). Hating this TWW. 3rd cycle of trying for baby no. 2 - got pregnant almost straight away with DD, who is now 2 years 2 months.

Bought a pack of 20 cheap tests on Amazon and I literally feel like doing 3 a day at this rate. Done one this morning and BFN. Can't help but symptom spot and feel like I've got nothing that's considered normal. Wish there was a fast forward button to 14dpo!!!!

@newtolineofduty no I've been good and resisted wasting more money🤣 I'm pretty convinced I'm out this month, just got a feeling. AF should be here weds/thurs next week so will just count down the days!

@CShandy01 welcome! We're pretty close in cycle dates, I'm 8dpo, possibly 9. I also have zero symptoms now apart from being tired but I had my second acupuncture today which may be why! I totally wish I could fast forward to 14dpo too! The waiting is worst than the result! Best of luck x

@hoola23 it's been a weird 3 cycles as my first 2 I would have bet money I was pregnant. Had horrific cramps since ovulation (I can always tell when I ovulate and which ovary it's from - TMI ), sore boobs, bad lower back pain....and then boom! 14 days later AF shows up.

This time round I had ovulation pain and that was it for a few days. Then from about 6dpo I've had a pulling sensation where I usually get a cramping sensation. And it seems to go all the way round to my lower back and down my glutes. Plus I'm so tired and lack any motivation to do any exercise, which is really unusual for me. Equally I can put that down to toilet training a toddler

@CShandy01 i think we can sometimes talk ourselves into feeling things because we're so tuned into everything that we're feeling. Or maybe it's just that we're so hopeful we try convince ourselves? I certainly do!! I have had felt something similar to cramps but different and much lower down since 5dpo but I actually don't feel it anymore at all! I developed a cold at 6dpo and just generally feel tired. When is your AF due?

@hoola23 AF is roughly due Tuesday/Wednesday depending if I ovulated day 15 or day 16. Basically I'm thinking if AF doesn't arrive by Thursday, then I may be in for a shot! However, we know that Mother Nature loves to be a bit of a pain and throw us a curve ball!

How about yourself! When is AF due for you?

@CShandy01 I should be weds or Thursday so very similar! This is cycle 12 of TTC#1 and I'm getting really tired of doing this every month!! How about you?

@hoola23 I feel like I can't complain as I'm only on month 3 of TTC baby no. 2. Just that it's so different to my first as I literally got pregnant without even blinking last time. This time I'm having to track my cycles as my periods are all over the place since having DD. It was a difficult birth and I'm so worried that I've had internal scarring or cysts develop (which I was told by my midwives could be a possibility).

@CShandy01 that sounds tough! Really hope everything is ok for you how old is your DD?

I am so exhausted today! I have two naps which is really not like me. Think the cold has really wiped me out!

Hopefully it's the hcg wiping you out @hoola23!!!!

Welcome @CShandy01! Xxx

@newtolineofduty haha I very much doubt it! How you doing today?

Thanks @newtolineofduty! Lovely to be on the TWW countdown with other people besides DH...who, let's face it, doesn't have a clue how it feels like haha!

DD is a handful @hoola23 but she is utterly perfect and wonderful, thank you. She was born very small considering she was late, but with the amount she eats you would never have known!

@hoola23 forgot to mention that DD IS 2 years 2 months. Only felt recently ready to try for baby no. 2. Needed to be in the right head space.

Glad you're feeling better now think there's been some awful bugs going round recently, including the norovirus

Good thanks @hoola23! Haven't been thinking about things at all but I think that'll change by this time next week!!!!!

@CShandy01 my daughter is two aswell! It's the most gorgeous age but the hardest age too!!!! (Two step children aged 7 and 9 also). I think babies are so much easier than toddlers!!!! It's wonderful at the same time too though-I love the chatting! ❤️❤️❤️

Hi @CShandy01. That sounds similar to my experience - first month of really trying I fell pregnant with DD but now I'm on Cycle Four of doing exactly the same thing as before but still unsuccessful. I also convinced myself I was pregnant first few cycles, I thought it would be impossible not to be! Settling in for a longer ride now though.

@newtolineofduty when is your period due? Mine is 13 September according to FF.

@hoola23 fatigue was a very early symptom for me! I couldn't get out of bed the few days before I got my positive.

@newtolineofduty it's a lovely age and you can see their personalities develop, but bloody hell it's like dealing with a teenager who doesn't know the consequences of their actions sometimes  I'm trying to toilet train DD at the moment and if it was TTC I think I'd be in the gin every night!

@MrsRosaline the first two cycles I literally would have put money on being pregnant. Now the symptoms are different and I still can't help but go "ooooh maybe?!?!" But equally like you, I'm thinking this is going to take a while. Can't help but feel deflated every time there's a BFN (I caved this morning and did a cheap test....why I get my hopes up I have no idea!)

10 or 11dpo for me today. Literally feel like I'm on the countdown of doom for AF to arrive next week.

Random question though guys - but my wee has gone bright yellow the last week. Did this happen to anyone else? I mean I know I bought tonnes of yellow highlighters for my classroom, but I know for sure I didn't eat them.

@CShandy01 oh 2 is a great age! Although I'm saying that as an auntie rather than a mother 🤣 my sister is doing potty training with her DD and it defo looks hard work!

I'm not sure about the wee colour thing?! All I know if that the darker it is the more concentrated!

@MrsRosaline I think my fatigue is just from this cold which is getting worse! Nose completely blocked now🙄

I had a big emotional breakdown last night about all this TTC stuff and spoke to my DH. He's such a rational thinker which I am not at times 🤣 and it annoyed me! He kept saying it takes time and we've had so much going on (bought and have been renovating a house, he was made redundant, I was signed off work with stress etc) and really it's only the last month that we've been settled somewhat. Which is all true! (Hate it when he's right🤣). He said next month there will be no OPK, no testing, no googling etc etc and we will just DTD every 2-3 days all month and if nothings happened by the end of sept then we will book our fertility appt. I kept trying to say that's not how it works etc but he finds it hard to believe that every single woman has only got pregnant by having sex at exactly the right time!

I'm not sure how I feel about letting go of all the testing and charting but I know it can't be a bad thing! I had a lot of reflection time last night and I defo have issues with perfectionism and I think that is part of my problem. I'm so critical of myself even when it comes to TTC! It's the whole unrealistic expectations and the need to be in control I think and then I just go 100mph and start thinking the absolute worse and that I'll never conceive.

I don't always think people really understand this whole TTC thing. I'm not sure my husband fully gets it either; he has two DD from his first marriage and it kills him when they aren't here with us. I said that's how I feel about not being pregnant which I think maybe helped him understand but who knows!

Sorry for the rant! I do actually feel a lot better this morning about it all. I watched Brene browns perfectionism talk and that really helped to switch my perspective! My urge for testing has actually gone!

@hoola23 omg I could have written that!!!!! You're right blokes don't get it. I've tried explaining to my DP so many times how hard it actually is to get pregnant but he still seems to think every few days is enough! He's not accounting for the fact we're not 18!!! How old are your step children? How often are they with you?

@MrsRosaline I'm due Thursday 16th so it will have been an 18 day TWW given I ovulated early!!!!! I'm assuming AF will show early though!!!!! Do you know when you ovulated now? It sounds like the CB monitor and ovusense say different things? X

@hoola23 I also totally relate to the perfectionist stuff! Every time I see a BFN I feel like I've failed/like I'm not good enough, even though I'd never think that of anyone else who was TTC! It leaves DP with the same feeling too. He was chilled the first couple of months but the last BFN really upset him xx

@newtolineofduty yeah they totally don't! His girls are 11&14 now! We have them pretty much 50% but the older they get the more they stay with us! They have a difficult relationship with their mother who is not particularly maternal (I'm not slating her I promise! And I always try to defend their mum when she's upset them!!) so they are very close to me and being girls, they always want to do girly things rather than hang out with their dad! Which I obviously love and has made it a lot easier to bond with them but I think it also reinforces to me that I don't have my own! It's like I do all these "mum" things all the time for them but I'm not a mother. Me & my DH have a large family combined and I'm the only one who doesn't have a child so these family get together are always so hard with all the little ones running around and all the baby/parenting chats which I feel I can't contribute to

@hoola23 everything you said is 100% relatable and I'm glad your other half could understand the frustration, emotion and everything else that comes with TTC. I've had to explain to my hubby how you just symptom spot all the time because ultimately, it's my body that's playing host. And we're all just chemicals at the end of the day, and if these chemicals are telling me one thing, then I'd like to know!!

It definitely can't hurt to take a step back. I think often our bodies can "feel" when we may not be ready to conceive. My sister in law tried for 4 years to have a child, and as soon as they were booked in for fertility treatment, she relaxed and ended up getting a BFP. Then 2 years later she got a BFP and that was a result of relaxing on holiday

Still, it's so hard not to second guess all the time. It sounds awful, but we only use OPK just because we're exhausted so much of the time that if we didn't, we'd never DTD!! And I don't really believe in virgin births

@hoola23 I totally understand. Bring a step mum is a weird place to be because you're a mum but not at the same time! A lot of my friends struggled with adjusting to their new identity when they had children whereas for me it totally solidified it, as it just felt like everything came together! Being a step mum is great prep for a baby too (your life is already not your own etc!) x having the older ones will be a fabulous help too! Do they know you'd like a baby? X

I definately agree with @CShandy01 that taking a break from tracking has lots of benefits! I was planning to this month but in the end I couldn't let go of the control and im glad I didn't As I ovulated three months earlier than usual! I also think if you're going down the fertility route it'd be good to have a complete note of all your cycles etc! X

@CShandy01 @hoola23 so many errors in that post! 😂

Being not bring! And I ovulated three days early not months! X

@newtolineofduty that's interesting about your friends who struggled. For me, I've been around children all my life and I was a nanny for several years before moving into my career (child protection) so literally, my life revolves around children, just not my own! I think the kids know we want a baby but at the same time I think the classic jealousy symptoms will kick in but that's to be expected. Plus the elder one is having sex ed so she just thinks it's all gross now she's old enough to understand 🤣🤣 I don't blame her!
How old are your step children?

I'm really going to try and stop testing next month. I know I'm pretty clockwork with ov between 12-15 cd so I'll just make sure we DTD lots then!

@hoola23 they're 7 and 9. They were 4 and 6 and we had lots of regression when my daughter was first born so it was a really tough first few months! We've waited this long because we felt the oldest two needed to be much older before we could cope with a 4th!

That's really lovely youre step daughters are close to you-it definately helps! Having my daughter has bought me much closer to my DSC as they all adore each other so the additional pressures are worth it! 😂 x