Trying to conceive over 40 part 2

[October1979]

Here is a new thread for us girls

@TTCat40 we have to find positive wherever possible don't we whilst were on this journey.
On a plus got positive OPK CD10 later in the evening DTD on CD11, supposed day of ovulation so now in a very hopeful TWW.......
Let's hope we get some more BFPs in 2022!!

@dollymixture31 Welcome to the group👋. I've never used a test at home kit so can't comment on that but would be interested to see what info comes out from the group. Good Luck in your journey x

@DOB78 Fantastic! 😀😀That's great news. Really hoping and praying that you'll have some great news for us in 2 week. Keep us posted xx

@dollymixture31 welcome! I can't help you there as I've never used an at home kit. Sorry x

@dollymixture31 hi, I'd say you must be ovulating if you've got pg twice, I know there's a few places to get progesterone tests done but I haven't done it myself sorry.

Dear all, the bump (21+6) and I wanted to pop in and wish a bit of Christmas love and magic to all of you. We're both keeping well and enjoying the second trimester and have everything crossed for the over 40s club. Lots of love, x

@ponymum1980 great to hear from you. I’m so glad it’s going well. Xx

I wanted to say Merry Christmas to you all. Please know I’m rooting for you. I really hope there is lots of good news on this thread in the coming months. Xx

Merry Christmas lovely ladies. Hope you all have a wonderful day xx

Merry Christmas ladies! Haven't been on here long but glad to be part of this group. Can't wait to hear more positive stories in 2022. It will be our year, ladies.
Enjoy and be merry 🎄🎉

Hi everyone,

I hope you don’t mind me joining you lovely lot. I’ve just turned 40 and have been ttc #3 for 18 months now. I already have an 8 and a 4 year old and we thought we would like another, it doesn’t seem to be happening though!
I’ve had a scan and bloods done and all ok so thinking it might be my age! Hoping to catch a good egg in 2022!

Looking forward to getting to know you all,

Sherbs x

@Sherbs4321
Welcome! I've not long joined myself. Turned 40 6 months ago and TTC my 1st one!
Hoping you and I and the rest of the ladies here will be celebrating in 2022!🎉🎉

@Sherbs4321 Hi and welcome to the group! Ah we're going to get some positives in 2022 I'm sure of it x

Welcome @Sherbs4321 and @dollymixture31 hope we can support you on your journey.

Unfortunately just before Xmas I experienced my 3rd MC - I knew not to get too excited but this time I had progesterone pessaries on board and hoped it would stick but unfortunately not so I got to almost 7 weeks again - gutted but just need to take hope in the fact I can get pregnant so something is still working and maybe I just have to be lucky and drop on the right egg - I do have a stash of progesterone waiting for the next time which I'm hoping won't be too far away 🤞🤞🤞

Checking in ladies, hope you all had a good Christmas.

Been a crappy one for us. Burst ovarian cyst two nights ago whilst I was on shift, and OH's dad has passed away this evening.

Probably sit out this month. Give me chance to recover and give OH some time,

I’m trying to conceive my first baby with my fiancé I am 28 he is 52.
We have been trying for a year! I am starting to loose hope all I want in life is to be a mum.
Could this be down to my fiancé’s age. Please ladies I need to hear some success stories of ladies having babies with an older man. Hope you all had a lovely Christmas x

@Gemandi2 I'm so so sorry its a positive that you know you can get pregnant but it's so frustrating that the little tinkers aren't sticking. Sending the biggest of hugs x
@Oldermam so sorry to hear you've had a crappy time too. Sending hugs your way x

Thanks @DOB78 I'm just going to keep trying and see what happens 🤞
@oldermam so sorry it sounds like you have had a really tough few weeks hope u r ok x
@Hopingformymiraclex welcome I don't have any experience or story which can help but wish you luck on your ttc journey - perhaps you can go to the Gp and get referred for some tests which at some stage could also include some tests for your partner too - your only 28 so I think after 12 months ttc you can certainly get referred for some tests

Thank you @Gemandi2 been a tough week tbh. Struggling with pain today. Oh's dad passed yesterday x

@Gemandi2 I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. It's not easy especially at Christmas time.
@oldermam sorry you are having such a hard time just now.
Hoping you both get your silver lining soon. Sending hugs 🤗

Hello, please can I join? Have read most of the thread in a miserable burst of insomnia last night as AF rudely arrived despite my POAS and waiting until they had evap lines then staring at them, right through to 13dpo, even though I was clearly not preggers.

Sorry to hear of your miserable Christmas news, @oldermam

I’m 40 (+ 4 months… and it feels like every month counts, now!), TTC #2. First was easy, in retrospect, at 36.5 – chemical in cycle one followed by a handful of months of wonky cycles and missed chances (DP has a lowwwww sex drive), then DD conceived in cycle eight.

No idea what this time around will bring but already I’m feeling a bit emotionally depleted. Maybe it’s the lack of sleep (DD still comes into our bed and kicks me in the head), maybe it’s Christmas – dead mother and well-meaning but overbearing stepmother – maybe it’s my sister being SO OBVIOUSLY secretly upduffed and drinking water and fruit tea all Christmas while rubbing her belly; maybe it’s fucking pandemic malaise. (Why do other people’s pregnancies hurt?! It’s not like there are finite babies: a BFP for someone else has no bearing on my own, they didn’t nick off with my egg. And yet…)

But I kicked off cycle one last month with a chemical that I thought I handled just fine, four weeks ago today actually… started trying again straight away (not very well thanks to booster shots and gastroenteritis and toddler bugs, only did it once but in the window), but cue insane POAS behaviour over Christmas: hiding test sticks from my extended family, making secret emergency Amazon FRER purchases and midnight “I’ll just tweak this stark white negative and Google obsessively”, testing at 7dpo and multiple times a day, etc. Then AF today and I have just sobbed alone in the shower about not being pregnant when I should have been, fear, Christmas, dead mothers, distant fathers, DP being endlessly fucking grumpy, my white eyebrow hairs, career failures, money, life… everything.

Sorry for the essay. I’m usually cheerier and looking forward to cheering everyone on/symptom spotting and being sensible at the same time. Insert Oprah “BFPs for everyone!” gif meme here.

Hi everyone. Hope you are all doing ok, sorry to hear about your crappy time @oldermam and about your mc @Gemandi2 it is so tough.

Hi to you @stuntbubbles hope you find being on here supportive. TTC is such an emotional rollercoaster, it really is nuts. I was 42 in August and currently 21+5 with number 2. Similarly to you conceived my first easily, took me 15 months for this second pregnancy although I had a mc at 8 weeks earlier this year. I know in the grand scheme of things that isn't long in comparison to some, though I think regardless of how long you are trying, when you want something so much that just isn't happening it becomes all consuming and soul destroying, magnified by a zillion with pesky hormones thrown in!

So here is to a new year, hopefully 2022 will be a successful year for everyone trying 🤞 xx

Hi everyone. Hope you all had a good Christmas.
@oldermam sorry to hear what you've been through. Hoping that 2022 will be more positive for you xx
@stuntbubbles - I feel you. TTC is tough. Always waiting; always hoping. This is my first one and the waiting game every month is hard. I'm 40.5 and I'm forever stressing about ovulation, periods, menopause lol. Had a chemical pregnancy last month so here we are again.
I totally hear you on testing and Googling. Every time I went in a shop that sold pregnancy tests, I'd buy one. I fell behind at work as I was always researching symptoms and whatever else I could find. I was POAS at work, hoping to see 2 lines. Waking up at 5am and the first thing I would think about was POAS. It's crazy!
Let's hope that 2022 is our year for the BFP! We've got this xx

@stuntbubbles Hi welcome to the group. Sounds like you've had a fair bit to deal with. TTC is on of the hardest things to deal with its a constant mind f@$k!
I'm 44 in Feb been trying nearly a year 😩 like you have a partner with almost zero sex drive which even in normal times is infuriating but during TTC......jeez.
We have each other here to celebrate and support when we're struggling.
Let's hope to see some more BFPs in 2022

Gosh, I was in an awful state this morning. Thank you for being so kind, @TTCat40, @Jem1979 and @DOB78 – especially when I basically came onto your long-running thread and spewed my heart out being all “me and my woooooomb!” You’re all correct, TTC is a ticket to a shit rollercoaster.

Am putting my sensible hat and emotional armour on for the next few months, and will also be much more polite than my arrival on this thread indicates. Shall start by lurking and cheering you all on for 2022 BFPs.

39 but 40 looming in May. Got a 2.5 year old and trying for another but not so far.... blood tests all fine with me. New clear blue monitor on way... husband up for it.... happy 2022 all and fingers crossed

@stuntbubbles we all need an outlet and this is the best place to let rip with people who understand your journey.
@frendandteds Hi welcome to thr group sounds like a positive start to 2022.

Happy New Year ladies my 2022 be filled with positive happy times for us all xxx