TTC 35+ Thread 12

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Hope this works girls, haven’t done this before, we’ve run out of space on the other thread.
@thislittlebird @ElsieG3m @Marvellouslymadmum @KatRee @Anxiouswannabe

@DawnWW I wasn’t here when you were but sending congratulations and good wishes your way that everything goes really well for you, so lovely to hear some good news. Loads of luck 😊

@DawnWW thank you for sharing I always check in to see how everyone is doing and always hope someone is here with good news! 🎉 congratulations that is fabulous I wish you a very happy and healthy pregnancy! ❤️

Ps I’ve been here forever… still here… but still hopeful 🙏

@MargotChateau so sorry to hear that, it's very nice to hear you've been looked after by your doctor though

@thislittlebird I think what I'll do is do this first cycle and see what my day21 is then if it's low I'll campaign for the progesterone. I've taken my last tablet today and still no real side effects other then a very slight pain in my right ovary for a couple of minutes yesterday and today - which of course instead of making me hopeful it's working is making me question why I don't have the same pain in the left 😂🤦🏼‍♀️
Your plans sound so amazing! For my partners 40th I'd wanted to take him to Amsterdam for the weekend as neither of us had ever been, we were going to go with another couple of friends but as it was February this year that all went out the window and instead we spent his 40th on the sofa! Think I'll have to do something nice for him next year.

@DawnWW hi again and congratulations! It's so nice to hear, 🤞🏻 for a sticky one for you.

@Marvellouslymadmum Definitely campaign for the progesterone if it's low, good you'll get tested. try not to question the pains, it's a slippery slope lol

honestly I'm glad we're doing some stuff, or I might lose my mind a bit with all this still not being pregnant lark. I am worried one of two things will happen: 1) Guys will summon me to start IVF end of december and that will clash with the trip; 2) lockdown will return after christmas and will put a spanner in the works. I didn't think about any of this when I booked the flights, and now I'm worried and don't know what BA are like for moving flights. I would have loved to have gone abroad but it's all a bit complicated and the timing...as soon as I've had eggs collected I'm booking a trip somewhere out of the UK. Probably somewhere warmer. Yes, definitely re-arrange! Amsterdam would be great, they do excellent value Eurostar tickets to Amsterdam too.

It's CD1 tomorrow (started midday) and I emailed the private clinic for more Letrozole. I know it won't work, I feel miserable but I'll try one last time, and then it's in the hands of doctors. Our bodies failed :/

@thislittlebird haha I fear I'm already sliding! 😂

Ooh do they? I'll have to check those as we can get the Eurostar from Ashford.

It's sucks so much that our bodies just won't do what they're made for!! 😕

@Marvellouslymadmum yeah I remember being impressed with the Amsterdam prices, they were very good. Last time I checked, anyway!

Exactly. My body is supposed to be able to do this one thing and it cannot 😔. I’m sitting waiting for my scan and I’m so over it all and I haven’t even started ivf yet. Let’s see what this appointment brings! Fingers crossed for a normal uterus.

Normal uterus confirmed so off I go again 🙃

@thislittlebird happy to hear about your uterus (not something I ever thought I’d type!) good Friday news. Did they give you any more next steps?

Had my appointment and got my bloods booked so that’s a step in the right direction. Got the smiley face today too and must have DTD 8 times already this week...and with the pre seed so TWW will be long 🙃

Hi ladies 👋 thought I’d stop in, not sure if any of you remember me from quite a while ago. I’m still lurking, still not pregnant. Just thought I’d say hi 💖

@Carla2601 they check for fibroids and stuff every time I go for the scan so it’s nice to get the all clear 🙃. Did the doctor book your dh in too?

@Farfaraway1 hey, hope you’re ok. A few of us are still here being unpregnant too.

I have to start Letrozole today. Last chance I’ll definitely ovulate before we move to IVF and I can’t get my head around it.

Hi all, hope you don't mind if I join? Been reading the conversation for a little while and loving how supportive you are for each other 😊

I'm 35, DH is 40, TTC our first since Jan. I had an early loss at around 6 weeks in September and currently in the TWW. I thought I was doing OK but a close friend shared her pregnancy news with me today and it's knocked me sideways - of course it was her first month off the pill and they weren't even trying... I'm happy for them but still feeling a bit sad about things.

Got day 2 bloods booked for next week, along with a few other things being tested, assuming AF arrives on time as per usual. No idea what to expect tbh. Anyway, hi everyone 😊

Hi @RugbyGirl1and welcome. I’m newish too.

I feel you on the pregnancy news thing....two of my very best friends are pregnant and I’m happy for them but I also sob about and shout at my husband. I like to think that’s normal if it makes you feel any better 😂.

So sorry about your loss. I’m going into TWW tomorrow so can hang around waiting together(!)

Hey @Carla2601 thanks for the welcome!

It's difficult isn't it. Yesterday I was just selfishly thinking 'why isn't it me?'. DH has a very relaxed attitude to it all but helps make me think about the bigger picture and remains positive, think I need to take some of his positive energy.

How long have you been TTC? Is it your first? I never know when to test as have a fairly short LP, hovering around 10 days. AF due on Thursday so will probably wait until then to test if she hasn't arrived. I tend to spot 1-2 days before so an early indication she's on her way!

And good luck with your TWW @Carla2601 - when will you test? Do you symptom spot?

@thislittlebird thank you, hopefully I'll organise Amsterdam for next year instead!
Woohoo for a normal uterus lol

@Farfaraway1 hi 👋🏻 glad you're doing ok though still not pregnant here either 🤷🏼‍♀️ ooh I prefer @thislittlebird's version of being unpregnant lol

@RugbyGirl1 hi, sorry to hear of your loss, it can really hit you hard when you hear other people announcing pregnancies hope you're ok?

Thanks for your support @Marvellouslymadmum - I'm OK, in a weird way it was nice to know that I could actually get pregnant as that was my first and only BFP in the 9 months of trying. Hopefully next time it'll be a sticky bean!

Amsterdam is a fab place for a holiday - so much to see and do! It was my DH's 40th this year too and I've also had to delay the plans to next year.

@RugbyGirl1 welcome to the thread! I’m beyond fed up of people and their pregnancies, it’s like a stab to the chest each time.

I just had an argument with any private clinic nurse about how many scans I need. I’m so sick of all this and now I’m in tears, I just want to be able to conceive without all these people involved. They want me to do a scan on Friday and one nurse told me I won’t need to do three scans this month because I’ve had such predictable outcomes the first two months. Then I email today and ask to speak to the same nurse again to check the day I’m coming in is the right day and another one calls me. We end up arguing about me coming in twice more again this month.

I know what she’s saying, she’s saying every month is different blah blah blah and it’s their protocol. But the other nurse didn’t say that, she said I didn’t need to do three scans this month so I was relieved to save a couple of hundred pounds when this doesn’t work for us anyway, and now I know they’re going to ask me to come in on Monday as well as Friday and I’m angry, I don’t see why I need to do that when I’ve been triggered 8 days after I started Letrozole both months. Day 11 is eight days after I started, that is Sunday.

@RugbyGirl1 I won’t test until I’m at least 2 days late because it’s just too upsetting. I’m not sure re symptom spotting....last month I did because I was beyond nauseous but every other month I don’t get symptoms so nothing to spot sadly 🙃.

WBU?

@thislittlebird sending you good thoughts. Sounds really shitty. I don’t really have any words that I think will help but I think it’s perfectly ok to sit in tears some days (if you’d have seen/heard how I spoke to my husband and the complete meltdown I’d had when he told me our friends baby was here and started showing me pictures at the weekend you probably wouldn’t have ever spoken to me here again 🙈) you’re right it is unfair, all of it. It shouldn’t be happening and I’m sorry that it is and I hope you’re feeling a bit less overwhelmed soon although I know it’s sometimes few and far between to have good days x

That's a sensible approach to testing @Carla2601 - I rarely test tbh, there's no point testing too early and by the time it would be likely to show a decent line of any kind AF has arrived! As for symptoms, like you, I don't tend to have many and those that I do have are too similar to PMS 🙈

Oh god that sounds super frustrating @thislittlebird - it's shitty that you can't just deal with one nurse throughout and that they give you different answers to contradict each other!

@RugbyGirl1 that's it, at least you know it can happen! We got accidentally pg 4.5 years ago which sadly ended in mc and decided to wait a bit before trying again, left it about 8/9 months then started again and nothing!

@thislittlebird oh no! I hope you get it sorted, I'm pretty sure you won't need to be scanned all those times again unless there's something different when you go further the first one!

@RugbyGirl1 I don’t really get PMS symptoms except for I’m grumpy for a day a few days before and sometimes hungry but nothing regular (which I’m now thinking is maybe a bad sign and connected somehow) I have never in my life had a period pain.

We’ve been trying for 18months now, I’ve spent £100s on tests only to feel even worse so what’s the point. Feeling a bit hopeless today as I feel like I already know I’m not pregnant because why would I be....I never have been before! I have my blood tests on Friday so that’s something at least. Not sure how long the results will take but some progress towards what I want more than anything.

I got promoted last week (I’ve always been really ambitious and love love love work) and normally it’d be cause for big celebration in our house but I feel like I’m apathetic about anything that’s not being pregnant. I haven’t even told anyone.That’s one of the worst things isn’t it - it’s all consuming.

Anyway on that cheery note (sorry everyone!!!) I hope you’re doing ok x

Congrats on the promotion @Carla2601!! That's fab news! I know it's hard but you should celebrate - I'm sure it's well deserved; it's good to celebrate your achievement and hard work. I find it helps to focus on the positives in life to help get through the negatives 😊

What blood tests do you have on Friday? I have some too!

Sorry to hear about your mc @Marvellouslymadmum. Did you try clomid this month? How did you find it?

@Carla2601 thanks 🙏. I’m a bit calmer now. I emailed the clinic apologising to the nurse I shouted at debated with. I’m still not happy, but my husband said not to worry and to do the scans. I’m just so tired. It’s a three hour round trip three times in a week or so, for an invasive scan at a bargain price of £900 per month including meds. I don’t think this scan is necessary, but it’s the last couple of scans before a break and then IVF, I guess. I’m sure I’ve had many Big Ugly Cries over the last two years. Many of which have been very embarrassing, so you aren’t alone.

What tests are on Friday, day 21?

Congrats on the promotion! I changed careers in 2018 after doing a degree and I’ve been stuck in the same job I mostly don’t like since. I wanted to do more since then but I’ve been in limbo because of corona and now ivf, because I know this role isn’t high pressure and it’s super flexible and knowing ivf is approaching I’ve stayed put, when I really shouldn’t still be here.

I don’t have PMS symptoms either, really, but there’s been a few months over the last two years where I’ve had weird symptoms but very rarely. I thought that was an issue too and caused by my low progesterone, but I had high progesterone last month and nothing much going on except for a few twinges in the uterus area so I probably shouldn’t worry.

@RugbyGirl1 I even asked for the same nurse to call me, I knew another one would give me a different answer.

@Marvellouslymadmum I’ve had the first one and it was all fine. But they booked me in for a second scan and I know it’ll be too early on day nine, which means they’ll make me go for a third on day 12 (the weekend is in between, which is when I really need to go).