December 07- MC Avengers in big pants, going through, been through or pg after a mc, still here, still eating cakes. We will not be beaten!

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Hope the titles ok

OK so I have a reasonably positive start to the new thread.
What I thought to be AF turned out to be a bad case of theruns
And so when I poas'ed last night I actually got a BFP

Very nervous about it, but happy too. I actually went to the place(shopping centre) I got the positive with my dd for good luck
My dh thinks I'm mad but hey don't they all
now if I can just get past the nine week stage without going insane

ALBS glad your finally able to admit your pregnant

Lissie glad your getting that referal at last
ilts sorry it didn't happen this time

Hullo all

Can I join? I thought I was 11 wks, but started bleeding on Tuesday, and yesterday a scan showed baby stopped growing at about 6 weeks. This was first pregnancy so this is all new to me. Annoyingly, the hospital policy is that I have to wait a week and have another scan to before I have an ERPC (I want it over with quickly).

So it would be nice to join and and cheer myself up a bit.

xx

Hi SKF - i have just posted on your other thread but wanted to welcome you to the avengers thread xx

Thanks Lcy xx

Hello, can I join? I know some of you from the other kincker checkers thread. I lost my baby at 18 weeks on 13th Dec. A little girl called Hope. We have been ttc since New Year. No idea of cycle as haven't had af yet.

Oh and before that I had an mmc at 9 weeks in March 2006.

Welcome cece - i hope you are holding up ok. So sorry about you mmc and losing your daughter. Hope is a beautiful name x

Welcome SKF and cece but sorry you had to join us. You'll find lots of support on this thread - it's been a help to me in recent months.
SKF I found out my baby stopped growing at 6 weeks at my 12-week scan. I opted for the "wait and see" approach before caving in and requesting an ERPC. In the end I mc'ed naturally before the date of the operation. Different hospitals seem to have different policies as I could have had an ERPC immediately had I wanted it. I understand what you mean about wanting everything over and done with.
Cece so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter and also your earlier mmc.
I hope we can help you both through this ordeal on this thread by offering you our support.

Hello ladies. You will find a fantastic group of ladies here who listen and supply cake and laughter in any order required.

Cece I lurk quite often on the knicker thread as I have managed to get there and then had to move away again! I saw your story and it made me cry with the unfairness if it all. I wish with all my heart that you get another opportunity to have a baby. Have the hospital given you any idea as to why you had a late MC?

SKF and cece welcome, and I am very sorry for what brought you here.

I hope you find some comfort solace and companionship here and that this year brings you hope, and healthy babies

Hi everyone is it ok if i join too? I was called 3rdontheway but changed names after mmc in December. I started bleeding on the 14th December and had a D and c on the 16th December. I bought a pregnancy test today (clear blue digital). I dont know why i bought it as its only 27 days ago i started bleeding and 25 days since the d and c. The test said not pregnant. My hormones are all over the place, i dont know when af is due or if ive even ovulated yet and tbh i just want it out of the road.

There has been a bit of an error with post mortem tests so will never know for sure. However, Hope was born with the cord wrapped around her neck and shoulder several times. She was in quite a tangle poor thing. The midwife said it was rare but she had seen it happen before so that is probably why she died.

Cece So sorry . I can't imagine what you're going through and all I can offer is (((hugs)))
Ele08 Welcome and so sorry to hear about your mc too. I guess the BFN is good in a way because it means that any pg hormones are now out of your system. Usually AF makes an appearance anything between 4-6 weeks after the D&C but it can vary. Have you seen this site?
I found it had lots of useful information.
Give yourself time to grieve for the moment and take care.

Hello all...SKF here. I have changed my login name due to a needing a new start and all that.

Thanks for making me feel so welcome everyone! Cece - Hope is one of the names I had picked out too.

Welcome Hackneybird, cece and Ele08 but so so sorry you had to join us... You will get enormous support here though, I hope that helps you through what we all know is a really terrible time.

cece still can't believe that your hospital made such a cock up (putting it much too mildly) with Hope's postmortem, I hope the new year brings you some answers, but above all (not to sound too new age) happiness and peace xx

Hello, Hackneybird, cece and Ele08. I too wish you didn't have to join us but you are very very welcome. The people on this thread are fab. I haven't read your stories yet - not sure if I can as I'm still v emotional re the whole thing (on first AF post-ERPC so I have an excuse!) but I do wish you all well.

Hello to all the new people who have joined us, I'm so sorry for what you've all been through, but hopefully you'll find the support here helpful in getting through the next few weeks and months. Cece, it must be even more agonising when you feel like you're in that safe zone, and you're just working towards taking your baby home.

Christmas was OK, though as it was the first 1 since my mum died, it felt like quite a sad time really.

Oddly I find myself more envious of pregnant women than those with small babies. Maybe it's because I just want to go back to where I should be. My relationship is still rubbish, but i still feel the irresponsible urge to become pg again. We did have a reckless moment on the night of day 14/early day 15, so you never know, but I think it would be a bad decision really. I'm just glad for dd who brightens every day (though not so great when awake for 2 hours at 3.30am last night!)

Hope everyone is ok, it's so great to hear the good news from Lcy and Justjules.

Hi everyone

Welcome cece hackneybird and Ele08 but so sorry you had to join us

Great news lcy and justjules I'm so glad everything is going well for you both!

splishsplosh the mcs have put a bit of a strain on our relationship as well, you're not alone. Even now being pg again I can tell that DH is stressed too. I hope things get better for you both soon.

I'm still a bit too scared to go and post on knickercheckers anonymous, which I know is silly, but my last stay there was so short . Is it OK if I carry on posting here for a bit? I'm still spotting, and had a bit of red blood earlier this evening which freaked me out, but it seems to have stopped now. I keep telling myself that I bled more than this with DS and everything turned out OK with him, so some spotting isn't necessarily a bad sign. I'm going to book a private scan for next week as I just don't think I can face the EPU right now (again probably silly, but it gives me the creeps just thinking about going there again as it's been bad news the last two times).

Kasha stay as long as you like! Hope the scan gives you the reassurance you need, and really really hope everything goes smoothly for you this time, as you said, a bit of spotting is not necessarily a bad sign. Will keep everything crossed for you

{{{hugs}}} splishsplosh hope you're ok xx

Hi Girls
I wonder if I can join you? Had 2nd internal scan yesterday where they confirmed the baby stopped growing at 5 wks (I should be 9+5) got to have 3rd scan next week but just hospital policy and then make a decision as to whether I let things happen naturally, or medically managed. Really confused by the whole thing and today feel really angry with my body. Basically the baby died the week I found out I was pregnant, so the whole time it was all fake and my body let me believe I was pregnant (and still is as I still have symptoms) and it was all a lie. How can I believe my body if and when I fall pregnant again? Also can't believe I'm returning to work Monday and have to act normal, even though I'm carrying this dead baby around in me. Not coping at all today sorry if I've waffled needed to get this off my chest

hi, first i'm sorry to all the ladies who've had to join us. im so sorry you are here and that youve lost your babies, cece: i remember you xx

im sorry if this is insensitive but i had my appt with LWH yesterday and they took gallons of blood. we have to go back on the 31st for the results (will rush them through) and for a bone density scan. will almost certainly need thinning injections and very frequent scans next pg but she seemed very confident that they can help us and on the 31st we will see the man himself (he's on hols for a month after, and he wants to see us himself) she has also done a pg test. (af has gone awol) which we get the results for today but think af has started now. i gave her my stats ands i just thought "should we give up?"ive been pg 8 times in 3y! still im lucky enough to have ds i suppose...

Hi,
I have been lurking for a while and just wondered if I could come and join you.

We lost our beautiful son Harry on 7th February 2007 at 25 weeks and then I had a mmc in mid October.
I'm feeling pretty useless coming up to the one year anniversary of his death and I had hoped that I'd be pregnant again by now, so we would at least have something to focus on.

Just feel so empty. This isn't helped by the fact that I thought I had a normal af 4 weeks after mmc bleed but I am now on cd83 - no af since the last one!
Where does this leave ttc? Has anyone else experienced such a massive gap between af since mc? Should I be worried?

I'm so sorry to those of you who have been through or are going through a difficult time at the moment. Love and hugs to you all.

xx

oh shit oh shit.

am 11 weeks tomorrow and bleeding .

shit not a 3rd time oh no oh no oh no

oh albs, ring epu NOW!!!

Oh no alittlebitshy!! I have absolutely everything crossed for you and willing with all my heart that everything is going to be ok with your little one.

Hugs
xx