December 07- MC Avengers in big pants, going through, been through or pg after a mc, still here, still eating cakes. We will not be beaten!

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OK so I have a reasonably positive start to the new thread.
What I thought to be AF turned out to be a bad case of theruns
And so when I poas'ed last night I actually got a BFP

Very nervous about it, but happy too. I actually went to the place(shopping centre) I got the positive with my dd for good luck
My dh thinks I'm mad but hey don't they all
now if I can just get past the nine week stage without going insane

ALBS glad your finally able to admit your pregnant

Lissie glad your getting that referal at last
ilts sorry it didn't happen this time

Thanks for that
have decided to see Gp in the morning if still bad tomorrow.

Seems to have eased off a bit for now. So hopefully I will have an OK night - if not I'll be bakc on here!

Good news for scans today btw!

Kasha excellent news, I had a few tears reading your post,so very happy for you!x
cece hope you feeling better hun x
Lilypink fingers crossed for you! I hope your bloods are ok xx

Brilliant news Kasha. It is always such a joy to see the little bean wiggling and the sound of the heart beat is the best sound in the world. Actually no it is the second best. The first best is the sound a newborn makes when they arrive in the world. I have heard about 60 times and it never fails to make me cry.
I am feeling slightly sick but that has more to do with the bag of jelly babies I have eaten to cheer me up. It has not worked. Feel horrible as the sugar is driving me mad. That will teach me!

Cece, keep an eye out for increased pain, sharp or stabbing as it could be possible for you to have an infection as already mentioned. It could be (sorry no better term to use) retained products. Sorry it is horrible to say it that way.

Lily I hope you get a good result with your bloods. Have you got them yet?

Kasha how fabulous!!!!

Ronshar will phone again tomorrow for results - more fluid from boobies this pm By the way I do spend my time doing things other than prodding myself

Well lily thats nothing. There are some around here that seem to spend their time searching for their Cervix. At least you can do yours in public
That is good news though isnt it. Something is still happening!

Hello all

Kasha I am so pleased for you, and my heart goes out to everyone else who is recovering from recent trauma.

Well today I had my follow up scan to confirm the failure of the pregnancy. I didn't have to have the ERPC as I mc'd here at home at the weekend , which was 'lucky' as the doc put it as they had no beds available so they would have cancelled me anyway.

While I was waiting at the EPU another girl was sitting in the waiting room in tears. When they called her in she could barely walk and it was clear that she was already bleeding badly. It was so upsetting to see her like that as as I now know what it is like. I wish I had gone over to her and given her a tissue and said something nice but I felt rooted to the spot and just didn't know what to say or whether she would even have welcomed it. I don't know why I'm sharing this, but I have been thinking of her all day.

Hackney. I am so so sorry. It is one of the hardest things a woman has to go through. It is as though our whole reason for living is not valid as each of our pregnancies fail. Try not to be too hard on yourself for not offerring comfort. You were probably not in the right place yourself as you were also trying to come to terms with the loss of your baby.
Use this thread to work through how you feel. I have and to be honest I really dont know how I would have got through the last 11 months without it.

Thanks jules, I'll give them a ring now.

Hackney so sorry for what you are going through. I don't imagine there's anything you could have said or done to make that poor girl feel any better, look after yourself xx

oops post to jules on wrong thread sorry!

Hackney sorry to hear your news our thoughts are with you and don't beat yourself up about not speaking to the girl at the hospital, your both going through the mill I doubt she even noticed you there.
Well I'm more uncomfortable today and definately sadder, yesterday felt really positive and on top of the world, not so today. Bit grouchy too, dh just rang to moan about how tired he is and how crap work is, I was so put out that he didn't ask after me, how selfish am I? He doesn't even realise then why I'm so quiet, and have a small strop on him!
I hope it's hormones!

Just got back after leaving house at 9.50.

What a morning. Went to GP who then sent me to EPU - last place I wanted to go - for a scan to see if I had anything left inside after Hope's birth last month.

Turns out there is something there but difficult to see because of the bleeding ... She called it an 'irregularity' and my uterus is sligthly larger than it should be. Anyone any experience of this?

Waiting to speak to GP again when she finishes surgery to see if I have to go back once bleeding has stopped for another scan .

I was Ok till I got to the reception desk of sonographers and then it all came flooding back - what happened last month - and had to be led to a private room for a sob

It didn't help that the woman didn't bother to read the form GP had filled in and asked how many weeks pregnant I was.

so sorry cece that woman must have been from the same mould as the cow whoi asked me the same when I went to check it was all gone

sorry no advice on enlarged uterus, the retained products however can lead to infection although not always
jope your GP is more helpful

My GP was lovely this morning so hoping she will be equally nice in half an hour when I phone up to discuss the scana dn whether I need to take the AB's she has prescribed me. She kept muttering about endometrious... in the appointment this morning.

good luck, cece. so sorry that you are going through all this. hope its nothing serious. xxx

Hi everyone,

pretty sure I'm going through a missed miscarriage at the moment. Started bleeding on saturday, then it stopped, then started again on Monday so rushed into hospital for tests etc, only to be told at scan on Tuesday that embryo probably stopped growing at week 5 or 6. I would have been 11+1 today. They coudn't say 100% though, so I have to go in for another scan on Tuesday morning.
Since then, the bleeding has definitely increased, though it's not really anything more than a period. I know this is what everyone asks, but does anyone have any advice as to how long it might take to finish 9assuming I'm no longer pregnant, which my dates would suggest was the case)

Any advice would be very helpful. Am hoping it's all over soon

Cece So sorry to hear about your experiences at the hospital this morning. Hope your GP is helpful when you ring her. Sorry, I also don't anything about enlarged uterus either. But given what you've been through it must take your body time to settle down again?
Ceedub So sorry that you're going through this at the moment. I also had a mmc and miscarried naturally. Everybody is different, but when I started bleeding it took 4 days for it to get really heavy and pass clots and stuff (sorry, TMI). The heavy bleeding lasted 2 days and then tailed off. In total I think I bled for 10 days. I had a scan on day 2 of the heavy bleeding (when I was booked in for the ERPC) and was told that everything had gone and that I didn't need to come back unless the bleeding got very heavy. I was in some discomfort with the heavy bleeding, but took some painkillers and it was OK. Physically I was back to normal very quickly (AF arrived 29 days after the heavy bleeding). Psychologically is a different matter, but I've found this thread really helpful. Talking really does help in getting through this awful experience. Take care of yourself and ((hugs)).

Thanks cricri, that's really helpful and very reassuring to hear you were able to get over the physical side of it so quickly. Know what you mean about the psychological side, so am really grateful for the support.
does anyone know why this happens? (i mean, i know that the part of the egg responsible for producing hormones keeps doing its bit, even if the embryo doesn't develop, but why doesn't it all stop at the same time like with most miscarriages?).

hi ladies. I'm officialy back! on CD7 and taking angus castus, folic acid and pregnacare. dh is about to get lucky

cece, im so sorry that this is happening to you, i cant imagine what you must be going through. i wish i could take it all away x

ceedub - sorry you are going through this it is quite sad.
I had a mc in early December and bled for about 2wks but not very heavily, I found passing the sac quite upseting. In my case the embryo and sac had stopped developing at about 5wks but I only found out at 9wks.
on a previous mc the embryo had not developed at all but the sac carried on almost normal for dates until 12wks when we found out, on that occasion I opted for an EPRC as I felt it would be less traumactic.

reasons why are hard to come by really

Ceedub As sfxmum says, sometimes there seems to be no reason why it happens. I recently read Lesley Regan's book on miscarriage and found it really useful. There is a section on mmc and it answered a lot of my questions. I also found it hard to understand how my body had continued to think I was pg and that I was having all the pg symptoms even though the baby had stopped developing weeks previously (I found out at what I thought was 13 weeks and at the scan I was told it stopped developing at 5-6 weeks). Nature is very cruel

Hi cecedub

I have just been through exactly the same experience. Last week I had a little bleeding, was 11+2 when I was scanned but it had only reached 6 weeks.

In the week in between my first scan and the confirmation scan I mc?d naturally at home. It was like a very heavy period that gradually got heavier and heavier, and correspondingly painful, over the course of 3/4 days.

As it increased I passed lots of clots and tissue material. On the 4th morning (Saturday) I was woken up at 6 am by severe cramping pain. I had to get up as it was so uncomfortable, and I left my husband in bed. I soon realised that I was having contractions of sorts as the cramps were coming every two minutes and would last for 30 seconds. During the contractions I couldn?t even stand up it was so painful, but deep breathing helped massively. I was having to change a sanitary pad every 40 mins or so. This went on for about 3 hours, I passed more material and then it was over. I felt calm and relieved afterwards, had a shower and went back to bed.

Since then I have been bleeding very very lightly and it has almost stopped. I am pleased I did it at home rather than having surgical intervention.

I?m so glad for Mumsnet ? if I hadn?t read about the experiences of others I wouldn?t have understood what was happening and would have been really freaked out. But I was prepared.

Thinking of you.

Hi ladies
AF arrived. Its really painful

Feel really sad like I just want to go bed as its like doublly confirming miscarriage IYSWIM.

Sorry for me post. Gotta go DD due at dentist. X

Maybe someone should start a new thread for January, as this one is getting a touch unwieldy.

xx