December 07- MC Avengers in big pants, going through, been through or pg after a mc, still here, still eating cakes. We will not be beaten!

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OK so I have a reasonably positive start to the new thread.
What I thought to be AF turned out to be a bad case of theruns
And so when I poas'ed last night I actually got a BFP

Very nervous about it, but happy too. I actually went to the place(shopping centre) I got the positive with my dd for good luck
My dh thinks I'm mad but hey don't they all
now if I can just get past the nine week stage without going insane

ALBS glad your finally able to admit your pregnant

Lissie glad your getting that referal at last
ilts sorry it didn't happen this time

Oh my god albs I'm struggling with this for the first time, I can't imagine what your going through. I will keep my fingers crossed and send you sticky thoughts. Please ring the EPU as suggested and get a scan booked

dh phoned. she was useless. said she shuts at 2, so get dr to refer next week or if bleeding a lot to go to a and e.

was 2 wipes of red blood and a bit of pink on panty liner. stopped at mo....

just go to a&e now, hope you are ok

call nhs direct!

keeping fingers crossed for you {{{hugs}}}
just call EPU don't take no for an answer / gp to A&E
not knowing is hell

thinking of you

albs

go to a and e please, but go now they often have access to people that epu don't.
last time I stupidly waited till mt hubby had come home and they'd gone home for the day.

really really hope it's totally nothing

sorry to those who've had to join us.

cece that must be soo frustrating about results as if losing Hope wasn't bad enough.

alittlebitshy I hope the bleeding's stopped and you've managed to sort out a scan. Fingers crossed everything turns out OK for you!

Alittlebitshy - so sorry you are bleeding remember not all bleeding means mc. Your doctor is crap - I hope you have gone to A&E or could you speak to your midwife? Will be thinking of you tonight x

KashaSarrasin - sorry you are still spotting it is so stressful. Just so you know i also spotted for first 2 weeks and had 2 big red bleeds. I am also avoiding EPU at all costs - private scans are worth the money!

MollieMooma - so sorry you about your mc! I totally understand how you are feeling. I had a missed miscarriage and found out the baby had died at 6 weeks when i was 11 weeks. I just felt like my body was useless - try not to blame yourself your body did everything it could to look after the baby x

Lissie - Glad you are finally under the care of LWH. Poor you having so much blood taken - drink lots of fluids and some cake is probably important too. I know this is the start of something good for you x

Flumpytigger - sorry to see you on here too. My second period after mmc was 6 weeks. But the next month everything settled i ovulated on day 14 and got pregnant. Or if you are having sex could you be pregnant?

Hello everyone else - hope you dont mind me still lurking. I miss you all x

aw lcy, tthanks its lovely to see you!

Hi ladies I am sorry butting in but I need advice (you might have seen me on the other thread) I am six weeks n 1 day preg and have been bleeding on off lighly only a little here ad there red and brown not alot but consistent.......

preg tests still positive.....

had scan they couldnt see anything bar thickened womb....

slight brownish on paper when i wipe but I still feel pregnant.....

she said my bloods today were 417 but wouldnt say if this was good or bad does anyone know if for 6 weeks this is ok or very low she would not hint atall only said they were keeping a close eye on me in case it was ectopic and i have to return for bloods on sun am....

any advice re whether 417 is good??????? I havent a clue.....

also is slight cramping and the odd twinge on left hand side normal please advice

SOAMI Its not actually the number they are interested in it's whether it doubles in 48 hours. So I presume they have asked you to come back for a futher blood test? For example at my last m/c at about 8 weeks I had a figure of 9,000 but as it was only 12,000 the next test although high it did not mean a viable pg as was not doubling. So you may actually be fine!

ALBS I tink you just have to be a bit pushy, I have heard of loads of women who go to A &E for a scan when they see a littlebit of blood, you cant wait all weekend not knowing whats going on.

Well, I think I have good news I got a BFP this morning! I had thought af was on her way cos I spotted for 4 days, but it stopped suddenly and my boobs felt a little tender so tested.

But obviously I am terrified as with 2 m/c I spotted for a while but with DD I literaly spotted once.

And as I have tested so bloody early (guestimate 3Wks 5days)its gonna be a long 12 weeks - if I make it that far..

Hi everyone

molliemooma and flumpytigger sorry you are here, but you've come to the right place for great support!

lilypink that's great news! I hope everything goes well for you this time. Being pg after mc is terrifying, I think you just have to take it one day at a time

soamipregnant lily's right about the numbers doubling, I hope it works out OK for you.

Well, I just had another red bleed , bizarrely at exactly the same time as yesterday's, right at DS's bedtime. Just a few wipes, and mostly mucous, but definitely red not brown. I'm trying to convince myself it was dark red rather than bright red, but it's really messing with my head, especially as I can't get even a private scan until Wednesday! I don't think EPU would be any quicker (even if I could face it), I've always had to wait at least 5 days for an appointment in the past and have to go via GP so can't do that now until Monday. Arghh - why does my body have to do this to me!!! Actually, this pg so far is very similar to DS's, with regard to spotting, except that then I was blissfully ignorant of everything m/c related and didn't even realise I was pg until 6 weeks, so it was a lot less stressful.

Kasha how worrying for you - are you feeling pg though? Sore boobs, sickness etc? Hope you are as that will be a really good sign for you. Wednesday is going to seem a long wait for you. How many weeks will you be then?

Hello everybody, especially to molliemooma and flumpytigger. So sorry you had to join us but you'll find lots of support here.
ALBS how are you doing? Fingers crossed for you.
Kasha Fingers crossed for you too - any more bleeding?
Lilypink congratulations! Hope this one is a sticky one!
Lcy good to see you! How have things been since your scan? I've missed you, Sweetkitty and Jules but I do occasionally lurk on the Knickerwatchers thread (I live in hope of joining you all!) to find out how you're all doing.

hi ladies

so sorry for albs and kasha. i had the tiniest bit of brown yesterday and went to my gynae today. she said again that when the womb grows, blood vessels can burst and that may be what you are seeing. so please try not to worry. my fingers are crossed.

lily! congratulations! that is fab news. we all these are scary weeks but the odds are always in your favour. i think this is a great space to let off steam during the tense part. but its really cool and i hope you are as chuffed as i was (and still am).

i told my work today, and my boss was very nice. but now i await to hear what maternity package they offer (i am the first women to be pg in a mainly male ad agency).

sorry to see that theres alot of new names that have had to join this thread!
ALBS I hope you are ok hun, I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you! xxx
Lilypink congratulations and lots of luck to you!
I dont appear to have 'O' this month so I'm just waiting for AF to come now. Not sure if it will actually come this month, may have to wait until I get an 'O' before the next Af? It's the first time since temping that I haven't 'O' so really sure that time is running out for me! I am going to TTC for a couple of months and if I dont get a + soon, I am throwing in the towel, I'm due back at work next june after a career break and I really need to go back then because 'finances'dictate it!

Bleeding seems to have stopped for now, still feeling sick and boobs still sore (although I'm paranoid I'm less nauseous and sore than yesterday...) Tjuice I like the blood vessel theory, I do feel like I've developed a bump in the last few days so maybe that's why (I can live in hope, anyway. I hope you don't get any more spotting. Lily - I'm not sure on dates as we weren't actually TTC until after I'd had a normal AF, going by Fertility Friend I should be 6+3 on Wednesday but I'm not convinced by their calculated O day.

emmsy1 hope you get a BFP soon!

Hi - sorry not to have come back.

well, we called the epu at a diff hosp (the one i plan to have baby in actually, rather than the one thr gp automatically sends you to) and they said go to a and e.

the a and e was fabulous. so efficient. whipped me up to epu.. internal (ugh), scan......
11 week baby WITH heartbeat. Was sure it was over when baby looked still, but then they showed heartbeat, and then prodded and woke baby up. what a relief.
no idea why the bleed. was just a few wipes worth then a bit of pink on panty liner, but it panicked me.......... they said poss to do with placenta kicking in? TJUICE - what you said about blood vessesls is actually reassuring
they said is good sign to see heartbest at this stage.

hope i don't have repeat performance.....

thanks for all your concern, and sorry i came on with such a panicked message.

a littlebitshy - that is lovely and such a relief for you of course

kasha thinking of you hope all is well

hello everyone else

albs don't be sorry we've all been there. Fantastic news to hear your ok
Good to hear hospital was good too

kasha hope your bleeding has stopped for good and you get no more

So glad for you ALBS - that is exaclty the news we all wanted to hear, I can imagine your absolute joy - thank god for that lovely A&E

I'm sorry but I need to rant. I am so angry and upset. I am sure that I will lose this pg too.

The exact same thing is happening as before - I have tender boobs - test and then within 24 hours all symptoms gone and then few weeks later I lose it. I tested yesterday - had sore boobs and not today, nothing at all.

I am really angry with the bloody hosp policy of '3 M/C' before they investigate. Surely it was obvious when I M/C July then Nov both at very early stages that something is wrong - probably progesterone. So why am I having to go thro this ALL OVER AGAIN

I am only 4 weeks tomorrow and 1st time I physically lost it at 6 weeks second time at 10 weeks so now I have to go through all that wait - again. I am furious furious furious. Also with my body too for being so crap at nuturing a little baby - what is wrong with me?

Albs - such fantastic news, so pleased for you, no need to apologise for your panicky post, I'm sure we would all be exactly the same in your position.
Lilypink - please don't blame yourself, I know it's hard but you don't know for definate yet this one might be a keeper. Why don't you contact the EPU to see when the earliest is that they will scan you, so you don't have to wait too long?
Only experiencing my first m/c at the moment(and still waiting for final scan and to book the ERPC) I know how frustrating it is too wait, I can't begin to imagine what it must be like when it's repeated.
Hope you can try and relax, put your feet up and do something to take your mind off it, like demolish loads of naughty food!

Lilypink - I am so sorry for what you're going through. It really isn't YOU or your body being 'crap'. It's so so hard. I had my second missed m/c before Christmas and though I am very lucky and my NHS hospital investigates after two miscarriages not the usual three, the consultant told me after lots of investigations that THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH ME.

Now, you'd think I'd be happy with that diagnosis - but no. I was kind-of hoping there would be a definitive answer and a solution, so that next time will be different.

Sometimes m/cs happen for no reason, or a reason it's impossible to determine after the event. It's so so hard and unfair and painful - but that's how it works. I haven't yet got my head round it. I hope this pg sticks for you...

I actually came on here to get views on how do you 'know' when it's time to try again? I am ready physically - AF out of the way, temping, OPKs ready etc... but then full of tears today in M&S cafe (of all places) because there was a baby at the next table having some puree...

I'm ready to have a BABY but I'm not ready to have another miscarriage. Can anyone identify?

Verso - i totally identify! I desp wanted a baby after mc but didnt feel ready emotionally and even cried the first time we had sex again (poor DH!). I did alot of thinking before we tried again. I wanted a baby but i didnt want to ever experience a mc again. DH pointed out that there is only one way to make a baby! i did some reading and Lesley Regan says that if they find nothing wrong on your tests you have a very good chance of having a healthy baby next time. I tried to think about it like child birth - very painful and no one would go through it apart from to have a baby. Mc is also very painful (esp emotionally) and no one would attempt pregnancy again apart from to have a healthy baby. I wish i could promise you that it wont happen again - i cant - but your chances of a healthy baby are high and it will be so worth it in the end.

Sorry a bit rambled x