December 07- MC Avengers in big pants, going through, been through or pg after a mc, still here, still eating cakes. We will not be beaten!

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Hope the titles ok

OK so I have a reasonably positive start to the new thread.
What I thought to be AF turned out to be a bad case of theruns
And so when I poas'ed last night I actually got a BFP

Very nervous about it, but happy too. I actually went to the place(shopping centre) I got the positive with my dd for good luck
My dh thinks I'm mad but hey don't they all
now if I can just get past the nine week stage without going insane

ALBS glad your finally able to admit your pregnant

Lissie glad your getting that referal at last
ilts sorry it didn't happen this time

oh jules will be keeping everything crossed for you bloody hell feel bad now

Just been back to the toilet and had a brownish wipe not much and that has been over 2 hours since last time. Will be 10 weeks tomorrow, baby was fine at 8 week scan, please please please let this be nothing. I had two bad bleeds with DD1 including one where (TMI) the blood was splattered all over the toilet and she was fine, please just let it be that I don't think I can lose another one.

Not as easy for me to get a scan, they are always so busy theres at least a weeks wait (I know!) and I would probably need to take the DDs with me not ideal.

I can't remember where I read the statistics but it talked about mc and how reduced the risk is when you have a heartbeat at 8wks, reduced further with hb present at 12 wks then at 14wks .
there is hope thinking of you {{hug}}

not having a very happy day but I guess it is expected, the scan yesterday made it final so some mourning is natural I think

Sorry sfxmum it is horrible that final scan, you will need time to grieve though.

I know the stats you mean about the risk of mc being less with a hb at 8 weeks.

Hello - thanks for all the messages it means alot. I have been to the EPU this morning and had a scan. Despite heavy bleeding and cramping there is still a sac measuring 5 weeks and they couldnt see where the bleeding was coming from. It is inconclusive so they have booked me in for 27th December to scan again. I am not holding out much hope because i am still bleeding. I also had 2 large cysts on my left ovary - does anyone know what this could mean?

I hope you are all ok I will read messages properly later and reply x

Healthy and Well, Healthy and Well, Healthy and Well

lcy - great!

maybe it is the cysts that are bleeding - i think i read that they can rupture or something . . . . well, i hope its okay anyway. really really hope . . .

yes, healthy and well, healthy and well . . . .

kitty - could be nothing, hope its nothing. as jules says, you are creeping through the weeks so hope you see nothing more and its all okay.

had my appraisal yesterday - it was okay but he was a bit surprised at the raise i asked for. but i think i justified myself pretty well (practiced all weekend). it was hard for me, because i come from the world of ngo's and not-for-profit organisations (environment and sustainability) and this is my first spell in the ugly world of advertising. so i am not exactly motivated by money - as long as I have enough, you know. but in the absence of what really motivates me (projects that make a difference), then a raise will do. so i am proud of how much i have hardened up . . .so he may not meet my demands but i hope to get a bit more . . .

my scan was moved forward to today. it was great. she said it was 11 plus 5 but not sure because she printed 4 pics and three were of another baby that were in the scanner's memory. actually, that was creepy - have you seen a 16 week scan? you can see the skull but not the features and it kind of freaked me out a bit.

of course, my baby was much cuter - sitting up and squirming around a lot . . .

so now its the nuchal fold test next week. one hurdle at a time . . .

healthy and well . . . .

Hello ladies, mind if I join you? You all seem so nice and supportive.

I'm currently waiting to m/c having had a scan last week that showed the baby wasn't the right size for my dates - it was 6 weeks, just a sac, no fetal pole, heartbeat etc, when I should have been about 8 weeks. Have also got absolutely no pregnancy symptoms any more so I know it's all over.

Was supposed to be going back for another scan on the 21st December to confirm the bad news but have managed to persuade them to see me next Monday instead - couldn't bear the thought of spending the weekend before Christmas having another D&C (this will be m/c number 4 for me, the second missed m/c).

How long do you think I'll need to take off work after the D&C? Can't remember what I did last time.

hi mrsW hugs to you, very sorry

have also had 4 with 2 blighted ovum, doesn't get any easier

still we carry on in hope

Hi MrsW - sorry to hear your sad news. I needed a week to recover physically at least. Then I should have taken another week to get through some of the emotional crap but didn't, and ended up bursting into tears at work a few weeks later and going off for another couple of weeks then. It's different for anyone of course, but I'd take a couple of weeks myself, or as long as you need.
Thinking of you x

MrsW - sorry to hear your news . Are they re-scanning in case you have your dates wrong? Otherwise that seems like a long time to have to wait for news / erpc. I think even if you're certain what's happened, it's hard to let go of a bit of hope, so I'm glad you managed to get your scan brought forward.
I started bleeding on a Thursday, and didn't have a scan til the Monday - even though I felt quite certain it was a mc, when the scanning lady confirmed it, I was so upset/crying - I didn't even realise that I'd still had any hope it would be OK.

I didn't have an erpc, so don't know how long it takes to recover - I guess I would want at least a week off, for the emotional side as well as the physical. We're a nice bunch here, with cakes, ice cream and wine as well as support, so welcome x

Thanks TJuice - i will just have to wait and see. Well done in your appraisal and your scan - hmm cant believe they printed off the wrong baby

Mrs W sorry to hear about your mc. I had 2 weeks off after D&C but mainly because i was an emotional wreck. Hope all goes ok x

Lcy - don't know what to say really, if your dates say your are 5 weeks then there is always a bit of hope. I cannot believe they are not going to scan you next week, in a week they can see if the sac has grown. I only had to wait a week with mine.

Tjuice - thats fantastic news you are nearly at that magic 12 weeks now, so happy for you. If you think a 16 week scan is creepy wait until you see a 20 week one of a 3D one, they are fab.

MrsW - sorry to meet you here and you had to leave our antenatal thread, I know how that feels. Your situation sounds similar to mine, baby only got to 6 weeks I was supposed to be 8, had to wait a week and come back. I didn't have the chance to have the ERPC as I mc naturally. You have come to the right place though these ladies are great and kept me sane. I can't bear to leave even though I am pregnant again I will probably still be here in about 2 years as well.

No more bleeding since last knicker check which I'm doing hourly haven't even told DP yet will tell him tonight don't want him worrying at work. Am convinced every little twinge is a cramp the thing that worries me is the clots although with my mc I only had brown staining until the final mc proper.

Thanks for the warm welcome! Much appreciated and has brought a lump to my throat (I'm in 'brave coper' mode at the minute , so have not been expecting much sympathy).

I think they want to re-scan me just to make sure that it hasn't changed or grown in between scans, but I just know it's not right as I feel completely and utterly normal, no pregnancy symptoms at all.

Thanks for all the advice about recovery time, will let work know there's a chance I'm not going to be in at all next week then.

Will be back later with cake

Sorry, cross-posted Sweetkitty, good luck, hope the bleeding doesn't come back!

Lcy - It seems awful that you have to wait til after Christmas for another scan, like Kitty says, in 1 week they should be able to see if anything's changed. Or if they refuse to do it earlier, couldn't your gp check hcg levels?
I think the waiting / not being sure what's happening would be unbearable. Thinking of you [hugs

Hi Sweetkitty - i am thinking i might go for a private scan next week BUT if it is bad news it will wreck Christmas - difficult decision.

I hope you are ok - can you go to EPU? x

I am watching diagnosis murder, mumsnetting and eating chocolate

Thanks Splishsplosh x

Lcy, could you ring them and ask if they could move the scan forward? I did it yesterday with my local EPU, and they were very helpful.

I asked in the EPU and she said no they are full up because of all the bank holidays. I can afford to go privately - it is whether i want to ruin my christmas!

Afternoon all.

aquababe _ I am finding all the pregnancy bumps and tiny babies that seem to appear at every turn recently really hard to deal with right now, too. I'm not bursting into tears or anything dramatic - it just leaves me with a sick, tense feeling in my stomach. Disappointment, I guess?

Lcy - keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you. There is still hope. It's hard to have to wait until the 27th to find out once and for all, though... . Hope you can get plenty of rest and lots of support and looking after over Xmas?

justjules - finngers & toes crossed for you, too xxx

TJ - all sounds really positive :-) Keep your chin up, missy!

Welcome MrsWednesday - Sorry you've had to join us. I have had one miscarriage (in October) and can't imagine how hard it must be to have had multiple m/c . Please stay as long as you need to - you'll find everyone really supportive and wonderful on this thread (it's been an great source of support for me, I can't tell you how much so).

HI All - sorry not been around much - I get a bit lost.

Jules, SK and Lcy - sorry you're still bleeding - will keep my fingers crossed for you all. It must be a very worrying and frightening time.

CD1 for me today so feeling pretty . Have now lost count of cycles. One more month and then we'll give up for a couple and go skiing as I've had enough of putting my life on hold.

At least I'll be able to drink my way through christmas and the inlaws weak .

Popsy/Ronshar - hope the champagne fest is going well (Wheely wonders how long it will take to get from s.w. london to a champagne bar and whether they'd allow a 3 year old in...).

HI Wheely - sorry you are feeling low. Me and DH are also going skiing in January if i lose this baby x

Thanks Lcy- hope you don't see the slopes this year !

The thought of skiing is the one thing keeping me going at the mo. Normally we go with a big group but this year we're planning on just going with my parents who have never skied but 'want to give it a try' at 64. That means they'll be able to give us a lot of support with dd and means DH and I can ski on our own which I think will do my skiing a lot of good. I'm not v. confident although I love it so just me and DH skiing will be good rather than with lots of others.