December 07- MC Avengers in big pants, going through, been through or pg after a mc, still here, still eating cakes. We will not be beaten!

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OK so I have a reasonably positive start to the new thread.
What I thought to be AF turned out to be a bad case of theruns
And so when I poas'ed last night I actually got a BFP

Very nervous about it, but happy too. I actually went to the place(shopping centre) I got the positive with my dd for good luck
My dh thinks I'm mad but hey don't they all
now if I can just get past the nine week stage without going insane

ALBS glad your finally able to admit your pregnant

Lissie glad your getting that referal at last
ilts sorry it didn't happen this time

You're totally right popsy, about the laughing thing I mean. I really need to remember that, especially today. Been feeling really weepy today, mostly cos I think I might have OV'd about 12 days ago and was stupidly hoping for a bfp this morning... We were meant to be being careful this month to wait for at least one af after EPRC before ttc again, but we had a little "ooops!" 2-3 days before possible OV (apparently condoms don't work so well if you leave them in the drawer?!?), really early to test I know but for all sorts of stupid reasons I did...
Anyway.. .
I get the results of my blood tests on fri, tests were weeks ago. Can't decide if I feel more sad or more impatient, I just want to get on with it!!! Although of course I know that's not how it works...aaarrghhhhh
Now off to look back through the thread for that genius list of presents popsy wrote last week... Let the credit card melt down continue!

Hi Ladies

Well my bleeding has stopped and its DH birthay tomorrow and I was thinking of surprising him - you know I don't have any contraception - shall we just do it, they say to wait a month after miscarriage but would it be so bad if we did not use anything for the month? let me know -

You've got about an hour!!!!!

Coolkat

I say that if you feel ready, go for it! Your body knows best.

DH and I carried on with ttc 3 days after my bleeding stopped !!

OK, hes fallen asleep on the sofa .....asshole!

His loss!

Wake him up

The night is young coolkat - besides, it's his birthday, wake him up!
Only reason we were supposed to be waiting was because of the blood tests I had - hate the idea of getting a bfp then finding there's something wrong which caused me to mc last time and would mean that I'd have to go through all that again... Too horrible!
Now if that little speech hasn't put you in the mood for some bd-ing then I don't know what will (!) sorry

Hey all - hope all OK this morning

How you doing today jules?

Hello, everyone. Thanks for making me feel so welcome. I was going to post about not being sure how long to wait before trying again but I think someone else was saying exactly what I meant... I should scroll back to check who. Anyway - I too have a DD who's 2.8 and wanted her to have a sibling sooner rather than later as I'm 37. Been fretting that I've left it all too late and my eggs are rubbish quality etc etc. No idea if that's true but I'm worrying anyway.

I know I have to wait at least until we've seen the consultant - and no idea when that will be. Not even sure if I can go through it again. Maybe one child should be enough and I should just be grateful for what I do have.

Just feel very wibbly again today. Went back to work (D&C was Friday) - but came home at lunchtime due to mixture of wibbliness (feeling sort-of spaced out like life isn't quite real) and big cramps. Think I overdid it at the w/e. Mum came down and meant well but she is high maintenance really - and I insisted on putting up the tree. Glad I did as DD loves it - and it's nice to do positive things - but I'm tired, and so so sad .

I wish it was this time last week when I didn't know yet

hello all

back from hospital, scan confirmed all out and looking normal except for tiny clot which should just come out naturally.
I certainly feel like I am ovulating, or maybe just 'in the mood'but we will use protection until after the first normal period I think.

feeling dazed and a tad sad but it is expected, hope my cold/ cough clears as I could really do with going jogging, that always lifts the cobwebs.

my sister went with me and to look after dd, which was nice I then visited the newly opened choc shop for some consolation

hope you are all holding up ok

hugs to Verso

Sorry you're feeling sad today Verso. Some of the wibbly feelings could be down to the anaesthetic, never mind anything else. Is there anyway you could take a few days off work and rest? Allow youself time to come to terms with what has happened and grieve - it does get easier I promise. We're here if you need to talk. Hugs to you x

Many big hugs to verso and sfxmum xxx
It's rubbish when you're going through it, but we all understand here, so use us to vent whenever you want.

Hello all. I feel terrible, as I keep ducking in and out and missing what's going on with everyone else. I am feeling so self absorbed at the moment. I apologise if I come across as selfish right now . I hope everyone is ok? I will try and update myself by reading back through the thread in a bit!

Well, I'm back again as I am feeling absolutely awful about my m/c in October. I dealt with it so well at the time, and thought I was fine, but in the space of a week I have found out my step sister and my best friend are pregnant - exactly the same dates as I had. It's just too much to cope with right now. I feel like my insides are being pulled apart (literally - it's a horrible feeling).

LoveAngel I am sorry you are feeling like this October is not so long ago and pregnancies of those near are hard to take.
be kind to yourself and take care, things will change

I am having a terrible day - i am now 5 weeks and i started bleeding today. This is exactly the same time that everything went wrong last time - although i took another 6 weeks to mc properly. Shit i just can't believe it is happening again - i am so scared i will never be able to carry a baby full term.

Please can i have some support / kind words

hi lcy i haven't read over the posts yet but wanted to write straight away and send you HUGE hugs! I know this must be a really scary time for you but I know loads of people who have bled during PGs and gone on to have healthy babies - my sister bled (AF) all the way through and my nephew is now seven - and the lady i was with today had a period in the first month even though she was PG. Am crossing everything that this is all it is for you and that the MC last time was just your 1/4 chance thing.
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hi Lcy I am sorry you are bleeding again it is so hard after a mc to have anything like this {{hugs}} please feel free to talk here. have you called the doctor? I know they are not always helpful, as you know these things can happen and all can be well.
take care

Okay caught up phew
loveangelgabriel I had three friends PG when I MC - hated them all but we're okay again now they have babies - spesh as they are getting no sleep/sex/life...hmmm am stil trying to persuade myself I don't want this as too horrid not to be able to do anything to make my pesky body sort itself out

I was so full of this overwhelming jealousy and sadness whenever I saw them and their swollen bellies so you are definitely amongst friends here...I actually told them how I felt cos it was tearing me apart inside - I was getting the scan pics as I asked them to carry on as normal but dies inside every time i received news - I was writing cards to them all (5 with new babies) last night and felt a pang - but that is all it was ...so it does get easier even if it never goes away

My biggest fear now is going to my mums for xmas and seeing old friends who I knwo are ttc - i feel like asking them to warn me in advance so i can enjoy xmas instead of dreading an announcement - however sense prevails and I know i have gotten through a lot worse than that (popsy counts her life battle scars and cos she feels strong!!)
Been shopping again today on way home from conference (was about amputees - so good for me to see people worse off - makes you think how lucky you are in grand scale of things)...bought some snazzy cards and wrapping papers from paperchase and some pretty note books and pink pens- all girls need one

Hmmmm this has turned into a long one sorry - you can tell I've been missing in action today....

Hi

So So sorry Lcy, I hope it turns out ok for you, the waiting is agony I know. thinking of you.

Verso its hard isn't it, I went back to work today following my MC last week and feel like I am surrounded by pregnant people who are very nice but I am jealous.

Never feel like you are self obsessed loveangel, if you can't vent here then where can you, it is very hard to follow everyone.

Hope everyone else is ok.

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What a rubbish day for everyone - am sure the fact that it's monday doesn't help!

Verso don't expect too much of yourself, I had my erpc on the sat then went back to work on the wed which I knew was too early but I'm self employed and I knew I stood to make/lose quite a bit of money that day! But I took nearly 3 weeks off before that - basically from the time we had the 1st scan which showed the suspected mmc to the erpc. And I DEFINITELY needed it. Somehow the fact that we couldn't afford it didn't seem to matter all that much. Some days I was saner than others, I just tried to have as nice a time as possible, it helped that it was over half term and quite a few of my friends are teachers, so we went out to play quite a lot and actually I surprised myself by having a really nice time. I know your circumstances are different from mine, I didn't have a little person to think of so I could just be completely selfish, but I guess what I really mean is give yourself a break!

Same goes for you verso! It's such a horrible feeling, and I can't imagine what it must be like to have your sister and your bf pregnant, but by the time their babies are born we will be pregnant too! (Please please please!!) That's the only way I'm managing to cope with people I know who will be having babies when we should have been... As TS says, we're never going to get any bd-ing action if we're crying all the time! {{{{hugs}}}} to you - it's so tough.

Loveangel - {{{hugs}}} to you too, am keeping everything crossed for you. Bleeding DOESN'T mean history is necessarily going to repeat itself. Have you got an app to see the doc?

Sorry for the long post ladies!
On a more positive note, my temp dropped really sharply this morning and af turned up!!!! Never been so pleased to see her! 27 days afer bleeding stopped from erpc and 13 days after I think I OV'd - fingers crossed she won't be invited next month!

hugs to you too coolkat, crossed posts. Hope you're ok.

Hey again.

Lcy, I'm so sorry to hear what is happening with you. Have you called up your GP / hospital? Don't know what to say, really. I know that horrible, sicky, sinking feeling so well myself, all I can do is offer you pathetic cyber hugs .

Thank you coolkat, kate and popsy. It is so wonderful having this forum and being able to (almost) instantly get support and opinions and just...well, company in what can sometimes feel like a very lonely situation to be in.

Popsy, thank you in particular for your post. Totally relate with it! I'm dreading hearing more good news from friends who are ttc. I hate myself for being so mean spirited. I haven't told many people about my m/c either, as I don't want to depress or worry people, especially my pregnant friends - maybe that is the wrong approach? I don't know. All I know is that bottling it up makes it worse.

Lcy, a big hug to you, you must feel awful at the moment. But like others have said, it is quite possible to have bleeding, and the baby be OK, so fingers and toes crossed for you that this is the case. Isn't it something like only 5% of women have 2 consecutive mc?, so it's not that common. i really hope you're ok - can you get an early scan? Or blood tests?

Shopping sounds like good comfort. I've been doing christmas shopping, much earlier than usual as I'm a last minute kind of girl generally. But it's cheered me up a bit, even though a toddler is not an ideal companion in this. In fact I reckon we've had the most even strops over the last week.

Thanks everyone - now a period type bleed. I could go to hospital but it is only early days and there is nothing they could do to stop it. Will go to the doctors tommorow to record it. Just sitting on the sofa crying with DH - we can't believe its happened again!

Hey LoveAngel (ooh sounds like a cool porn name - can mine be pottymouthpops"? or popsitinregularly* )

Glad to be of help - I always feel so much better when people say soemthing that I have been feeling too - you can feel like you are going totally insane - I spent much of this year totally obsessing over (1) PG women, (2) might be or soon to be PG women, (3) everything coming out of my body on a daily hourly sod it minute by minute basis (4) measuring anything I could and then analysing the fuck out of it - by asking everyone i knew, searching the internet and generally going insane (am an overthinker to be fair so no suprises there), (5) crying at weird moments - usually after a drink (6) hating my body, (7) trying to have sex then going off it (8) shopping , (9) working too hard to try to take my mind off the massive hole in my life stretching ahead of me, (10) hating everyone and anyone that tried to give me advice even when they were trying to help.............the list is endless

Anyhoo - I'm here for you hon - my job in life to make people feel better about themselves
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FCK so sorry Lcy* - we corssed posts
Hate that I have just posted long insignificant ramble when you are going through this shite....big hugs and am still crossing fingers, toes and eyes for you and your little beanie