December 07- MC Avengers in big pants, going through, been through or pg after a mc, still here, still eating cakes. We will not be beaten!

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Hope the titles ok

OK so I have a reasonably positive start to the new thread.
What I thought to be AF turned out to be a bad case of theruns
And so when I poas'ed last night I actually got a BFP

Very nervous about it, but happy too. I actually went to the place(shopping centre) I got the positive with my dd for good luck
My dh thinks I'm mad but hey don't they all
now if I can just get past the nine week stage without going insane

ALBS glad your finally able to admit your pregnant

Lissie glad your getting that referal at last
ilts sorry it didn't happen this time

Good cheer to all this evening and may you all have the best weekend ever!!!!!

Verso if you are reading this we are here if you need any support x

good morning all just because

morning ladies

another marathon sleep to catch up on the week and i am planning to go back to bed soon. work is intense - too busy to have my appraisl on friday but will have it on monday am. but we have to launch a new product before xmas so its going to be ridiculous . . .

ccd - so sorry about your mc. its amazing the variation in how people cope. i had a strange, drunk, tearful weekend after my D&C and went straight back to work on the monday. i wasn't over it and I am not the practical coping type. I spent a long time thinking and digesting what had happened but it was okay for me to go back to work during that time. it helped that i am part-time though . . . anyway, hope you are doing okay. everyone needs to crawl under the duvet and regress now and again. in fact, i think i may do it in a minute.

coolkat - hope your mum is okay.

how is everyone else? doing well, I hope.

Morning everyone
CCD hope you are okay - reading the messages from all these positive ladies I feel like a complete drip - I had two weeks off work and was still a complete mess. Actually most people think I'm fine til I get drunk and cry
Let's hope you can pull a TJ and use this experience to make a positive change (if you don't I'll be here festering so you can always drop in )
Lying in this morning pondering on the fact that I am now officially infertile (1 year in ...)
Managed to have a chat with DH before he left this morning about how I said I didn't want to ttc for a while and how that was a total pile of sh*te and what does he think about me going to the docs to get us some clomid
He's off to have a christmas all dayer with his mates so I am here pretending to do some work but buggering about on the net for christmas prezzies
hi to everyone

so sorry...mistakenly wrong thread.
have asked mumsnet to delete.

CCD- as the others have said everyone copes differently. I had a MMC and found out at scan when I should have been 11 weeks. Decided to wait to MC naturally and seems finally to be coming to an end now. Last 2 weeks have been extremely hard, but I have tried to carry on as normal. Only had 1 day off work, but that is my way of coping. Thing I've found most hard is that because I'm a teacher I come into contact with lots of unfit parents who really don't seem to deserve their DC and that makes me feel angry and like the world is unfair! Also the insensitive comments from others around don't help and all of a sudden the whole world seems to be talking about babies! (Or maybe that's just my imagination) . Just try to stay positive x
Coolkat, I really hope your mum is ok.

Hello lovely ladies - how are you all?

popsy76 - just to let you know i also had 2 weeks off after mc and i recently went to a very posh family wedding (3 months post mc) and got hideously drunk (which i never do - at least not in front of my family) and started crying (proper snivelly wreck) - hmm bit embarresed about that still.

I hope everyone who is having a difficult time is ok.

I am ok - trying to forget about being pregnant and just getting on with Christmas shopping. Just bought 3rd series of House and me and DH are going to do a marathon episode viewing tonight x

I love these faces

I'm overwhelmed by all those positive messages. It really helps. Had good and then bad day - like you say carrying on and then got hit by an almightly contraction-like pain - not too much bleeding - but bloody hell - last time with DD there was something to show for this pain. As you say, there's a sense that things are all OK and then it hits you - I do find holding my DD very close so comforting - and she is the one that really makes me smile again! I just have to let go of those little plans one by one - it's so weird though isn't it how you just feel like everything is in a muddle, from work to the house to family. My Dad goes into hospital on Monday to have an op for a malignant growth in his mouth - but he has positive news that it hasn't spread - but what a week. Thinking of you too Coolkat - it's going to be OK.

CDD - Sorry to hear about your Dad - good news that it hasnt spread though. Keep holding your DD tight x

Evening ladies just saying hello before I go to bed

CCD - so sorry to hear about your mc, I still think of mine every day and even though I'm pregnant again it still hurts. I couldn't believe how upset I felt and how hard it was it totally shocked me, also by the way everyone else thought "oh well she already has two DC" I think a lot of people thought DB3 was an accident and I wouldn't be that bothered , for me I became obsessed with ttc, luckily I did get pregnant 2 months after mc but that has brought it's own problems. My advice would be take time for yourself and come here often it saved my sanity.

littlewifey - glad your ordeal is coming to an end, when you stop bleeding it helps a bit as does first AF after the mc, means you can get your cycle back to normal.

Tjuice - I am with you on the sheer exhaustion front am so so tired by 3om I an ready for my bed.

hello to everyone else hope you are all having a peaceful weekend x

CCD - so sorry to hear about your mmc. Like you I also found out at the scan. I think initially I went into shock as I couldn't quite believe what I was being told. Then the realisation set in that all those plans I'd started making (if only in my head) would have to be unmade, people we'd already told would need to be untold etc. I coped by keeping busy and also doing a lot of reading about mc. Like SK says, it stays with you. I'm still bitterly disappointed that it happened and have been ttc ever since, like TS, in a bid to remain positive. Everybody is different and there's no right or wrong. Just go with how you feel and if you need to talk then we're all here. I've certainly found this thread a lifeline over recent months. Hope your Dad is OK too.
Ladylush I am also hypothyroid (diagnosed in October 2004 and on thyroxine since Feb. 05). I've read quite a bit on hypothyroidism and ttc/pg but I'd be interested in your links.
Coolkat Hope your Mum is OK.
Hope everybody else is OK too. I'm having a hectic family weekend as it's my Mum's 60th so we were in London yesterday for a show and dinner and then off out to a pub for lunch today. Next weekend is my sister's wedding in Scotland so it's all go!

Hi Cricri, what a coincidence it is my mums 60th next weekend - we are having a party of her and have got her some lovely pressies. What a lovely run up to Christmas for you with all those lovely celebrations

Are you on your two week wait - or have you just totally lost track?

good morning all

coolkat hope your mum is ok
CDD best wishes for your dad

birthdays and weddings, lovely any excuse for a party I say.

popped out for a bit of solo shopping yesterday but in no mood at all.
Made an effort later to put up the tree which was great for dd she was super enthusiastic, when she woke up today she ran to the tree and started clapping and jumping in front of it demanding I turn on the lights

I have a scan on monday to make sure it is all gone. they did not book it when I was last there because the booking person was out for lunch, no one called me with a date as they promised, so I called them explained everything then the braindead woman on the other end said 'so how may weeks along are you?'
you really have to be thick skinned.

sfxmum - sometimes they don't have a clue you are just a number to them. A few days after my mc I got my 12 week scan appointment and booking in appointment and I didn't even phone to cancel it, I thought sod them.

sfx - that horrible. i was really sensitive after the d&c at those check-ups because they used the word "abortion" instead of miscarriage and although i think it may mean the same thing in danish medical language, its obviously a big difference to me.anyway, hope you are ok. your dd sounds so cute. . .

i am still in bed, much to my shame and have been grotting in pajamas all weekend. have only bought my mum's xmas gift (baroque freshwater pearl 14k earrings - want them myself) so far and whenever i look on the internet, i find nice stuff for myself instead. thanks, popsy for putting those ideas in my head (really want fig perfume too but by Henri Bendell, NY -so delicious.) Also being thinking about your topshop platforms - they sound lush . . .

the weather is grim here though, that i don't mind hibernating. its quite nice.

i should be 11 weeks now - I think! my next gynae scan is on wednesday and on friday i have my first midwife appt. i am still nervous and terrified of the scans . . . the week after is the nuchal fold (everyone gets one here) which is another ordeal - happening just before i will finally tell my parents and then fly back to uk for xmas. really hope they take it better this time.

hope everyone is doing well and having a cosy sunday with roast dinners and stuff - drool. i still can't be arsed to cook so exist on sandwiches and eggs. really should sort diet though, as yesterday i had a wipe of red blood, which opened the pandora's box of head-banging-on-wall hysteria, before i realised it wasn't from where i thought (so sorry to share tmi) but you can understand the waves of heart-stopping panic, right?

off to eat prunes . . .

Hello ladies sorry to see there are some new people hear and very happy to see some have got a BFP - congrats Twilight!

I'm just comming into the most vunerable stage of my pregnancy but obviouslt hoping that this baby stays in here! One wedenesday I will be the same stage I was when I last mc'ed so I am very glad to have a scan booked on that day.

TJuice, even here they sometimes call a mc a spontanous abortion and it does really hurt as an abortion to me is a choice that someone has made whereas a mc is not.

Lcy - Hope your Mum has as good a 60th as my Mum. I think the celebrations are going on for 3 weeks! My sister and I bought her a lovely necklace she can wear at the wedding. She's not really a jewellery person but she wanted something special.
CD23 today according to the ttc board - I must admit I had lost track over the past few days! So yes, firmly on the 2ww, although I've not given up alcohol. Just trying to be sensible just in case .
Weather awful here too.
Hope everybody else is ok.

hi jules

i did ask him last night actually, but he was finishing his paper of Assisted Reproductive Technology - can you believe it? he has been analysing sperm samples -eeew!

but will remind him now. he did say that the emedicine is a brilliant site but i just read an article in the observer mag about the double-edged sword of expert patients and their self-diagnosis. knowledge is power, as far as i am concerned. (although i do tend to put my fingers in my ears and go "la la la" when friends moan about the agony of childbirth and how babies put a strain on your relationship etc . .)

shall we do the list or what do you think?

Morning ladies (or is it afternoon where has today gone???)

Trying to do some work still - feellike if I put books all over table will at least be absorbing clever information from them...hmmm just means dining room is a mess to be fair

TJ OOh get some platforms...they make my ankles ache but I feel it is a sacrifice I am willing to make for luscious long legs ..actually you can't have them - you'll get so top heavy and be like a weeble tee hee. Are you working in Denmark? What's going on woith your folks? I told my mum early and she was really cautious and worried - i remember being p*ssed off with her then found out when I MC'd that she had too and not gotten PG again for 2 years poor mummypopsy and poor me (there is another fig perfume..oh god am off to look it up...popsy feels a pre-shopping-sweat coming on)

jules hang in there lady - just get your bloody feet up, hire some DVDs (I like casualty the old days) and stay put til beanie gets strong - great excuse to be waited on hand and foot? We're all rooting for justbeaniejules!!!

sfxmum we could write some stories on crap responses couldn't we? From the MILs to the DHs.....work mates and don't get us bl**dy started on the medical professions .

oops sorry I meant ER not casualty

I can't do a sad santa - hmmm do they think is insensitive to make sad santa festive - I'd quite like to be sad in a slightly festive way...laughing at yourself is only way to stay sane