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December 07- MC Avengers in big pants, going through, been through or pg after a mc, still here, still eating cakes. We will not be beaten!

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aquababe · 27/11/2007 09:09

Hope the titles ok

OK so I have a reasonably positive start to the new thread.
What I thought to be AF turned out to be a bad case of theruns
And so when I poas'ed last night I actually got a BFP

Very nervous about it, but happy too. I actually went to the place(shopping centre) I got the positive with my dd for good luck
My dh thinks I'm mad but hey don't they all
now if I can just get past the nine week stage without going insane

ALBS glad your finally able to admit your pregnant

Lissie glad your getting that referal at last
ilts sorry it didn't happen this time

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sfxmum · 06/12/2007 10:29

jules that is great, am always so pleased when things are hopeful for someone, brings up the average

aqua thinking of you

popsy dh is actually quite good and helpful but very english with emotionbut last time when we found out at 12wk scan he cried in the room. this time he was looking after dd so not in the room with me and it was all more controlled.
his parents are ok, both medical people who would probably try to advise sensibly like last time.
but they have been talking about another grandchild for well over a year at every opportunity.

Lcy · 06/12/2007 10:30

Jules are you still about? I am going to the doctor today to check what is going on. Unfortunately i now have right side back and abdominal cramps so i wont to get checked out in case it is ectopic (oh joy ). My doctor is a usually crap so just wanted to check what he should be doing - i am assuming he should be atleast giving me a blood test. i am only 4.3 so i doubt they can scan me yet? Can anyone help?

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Lcy · 06/12/2007 10:50

Thanks so much - right i will make sure he gets me a blood test x

Lcy · 06/12/2007 10:53

BIG BIG HUGS TO YOU JULES - are you ok?

merrylissiemas · 06/12/2007 10:55

oh jules. i wiosh i could take it away for you! when do you go back?

sfxmum · 06/12/2007 10:57

Jules you are normal but this cr*p gets to you doesn't it? horribly unfair and painful but please don't start thinking of it as a personal failure - IT IS NOT
{{hug}}

TJuice · 06/12/2007 11:19

hi jules

bollox! it could still just be the heparin and your womb growing . . . big hugs, i know it must be awful but so far, all tests, visuals etc have been good so let's keep on trucking together

lcy - very best of luck with doctor today. hope he won't be rubbish. if there is a question mark about ectopic, I was thinking they would send you for a scan immediately? maybe you should go to to an A&E - better to see soon then risk and injury to your tubes or anything. don't know much about ectopic so may be talking rubbish . . .

EllieG · 06/12/2007 11:25

((((hugs)))) to jules. Sorry you are having to worry so much.

EllieG · 06/12/2007 11:28

Popsy - please keep your mental image of me as sylph-like (not that I was ever). It's the only place I am not ginormous. Went to aqua natal last night and felt like a manatee.

sweetkitty · 06/12/2007 11:58

hi lovely ladies

jules - I think anyone in your situation would be sick of everything, you have been through far too much already.

big hugs to anyone going through a mc right now I know theres a few

Lcy · 06/12/2007 12:02

Thanks TJuice - seeing doctor at 2.00 so will let you know how it goes.

nh101andhertwinbeans · 06/12/2007 12:54

Hey Popsy! Glad to hear you're not obsessing too much about babies - that is the right way to go about it! I was thinking after my last post about my friend who had 40-day cycles. She went to a refexology/acupuncture person who got the cycle down to below 40 days the first month and 31 days the second - and by then she was PG!

(DH doesn't know his pic is on MN!)

nh101andhertwinbeans · 06/12/2007 12:58

Popsy just read your post above - totally relate to everything you are saying. It has been the hardest year of my life too and I too cannot believe how it affected me. I know you're probably thinking 'what have you got to be sad about now' but even now when people get PG around me and fly through the first trimester without so much as a tummy cramp it makes me really mad. I think 'why did I have to go through what I went through when everyone else just gets PG and has a bloody baby!'

nh101andhertwinbeans · 06/12/2007 13:00

Kasha I would definitely recommend going private - the appts are £100-ish each and I only needed one. As you have been PG before you may not need many. But then you might. It is worth having an initial consultation to find out what the costs might be and what the prognosis is.

It may be expensive but what price your sanity?

alittlebitshy · 06/12/2007 13:24

lots of hugs for aqua, lcy and jules.

hi to everyone else.

we had dd's school play this morning. It was her class (reception) combined with nursery, and was the cutest thing ever. She looked around really anxiously and couldn;t seem to find us (we were right in the cntre of the second row) and just had a big beam on her face when she saw us. .

Went to EPAU with letter from Gp. Was woman i saw when i m/c in march. Not keen on her at all. . anyhow, going on the assumption i was about 5 weeks she said it would be too early to scan so i have an app for next weds. Scared i won't make it that far - this week is my danger week . She just didn't get what I was saying about the test being positive early in my cycle so maybe last month's wasn't a proper af (it now sounds silly saying it, but i'm still baffled as to how i got bfp so early), so.... we'll see what scan shows next week. Hopefully.

kate2179 · 06/12/2007 13:39

Grrrrr phonecall from friend who's recently had her 2nd, both children conceived after about 1week ttc, telling me I need to relax and stop over analysing things and thinking about it generally. Oh, great, I'll just do that then shall I, why didn't I think of that?!?!
Am I bad person?

sfxmum · 06/12/2007 13:44

well these days I cry when I hear of people who are less than warm parents to their kids, seems so easy for some people
but really it has nothing to do with deserving, unfortunately.

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kate2179 · 06/12/2007 14:27

Was so cross I didn't realise I hadn't caught up with the final page when I posted (thought it had been unusually quiet for along time )

Jules, so sorry to hear you've had another bleed... That is one resiliant little bean you have in there, seems pretty determined to hang on so far! Doubt that brings you much comfort, and am sure you're thoroughly sick of trips to the hospital, but can they do your hcg again? The heparin is bound to make any bleed seem much more serious than it would otherwise... wich there was something I could say/do to make you feel better...

albs I really sympathise, if I ever see the nurse I saw when had mmc again I will walk out immediately. cow
It's like because they see this all the time it becomes routine to them. But will never be routine to us... You'd think they could use a little imagination... Sending out lots of baby dust...

kate2179 · 06/12/2007 14:34

kasha re going private, have heard a lot of good things about a company/organisation/whatever called BMI Healthcare, don't know if they have a hospital in your area? But cheap, but as nh101 says, what price sanity? Good luck with whatever you decide

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aquababe · 06/12/2007 14:46

Oh jules so sorry your still bleeding, i'm still really hoping one of us will have some luck.

feeling a little numb.
Had large brandy last night that helped. Mums up with me so able to 'deal' with stuff better. my dd is used to coming in the toilet with me and is getting a little confused.

still haven't heard from the blasted useless hospital!!!

fingers crossed for you too lcy and I find hospital bloods are the least painful. damn doctors always bruise me.

kate not a bad person, just came off the phone with mil who kept saying just stop trying and then you might get a healthy one
arrgh like it works like that!!!!
some people are just a bit silly and insensitive

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kate2179 · 06/12/2007 14:55

So sorry you're having to go through all this sh*t again Aqua. Glad the brandy is helping though! Your MIL should meet up with with mine, she suggested that the reason I mc'd was because it was too soon after I'd come off the pill(?!?!?) Told her I'd been off the pill for 13 months with shut her up temporarily. Apparently her dentist had suggested that little jem to her, so glad they'd been discussing me!

teeheelaydee · 06/12/2007 15:20

Lots of positive thoughts to those of you going through it today.

Really wanted to post to reassure Kate - You are not a bad person at all. I have been shocked by some of the insensitive things that people have said/not said over the past few weeks- and sometimes they have been people who have been close to me. They don't mean it but it doesn't make is any less annoying and upsetting.

If all it took was relaxing and not worrying about it there would be babies everywhere. Unbelievable. Unfortunately it seems unless you have experienced it people have no clue, Hence why MN a sanctuary/bolt hole/saviour.