December 07- MC Avengers in big pants, going through, been through or pg after a mc, still here, still eating cakes. We will not be beaten!

[aquababe]

Hope the titles ok

OK so I have a reasonably positive start to the new thread.
What I thought to be AF turned out to be a bad case of theruns
And so when I poas'ed last night I actually got a BFP

Very nervous about it, but happy too. I actually went to the place(shopping centre) I got the positive with my dd for good luck
My dh thinks I'm mad but hey don't they all
now if I can just get past the nine week stage without going insane

ALBS glad your finally able to admit your pregnant

Lissie glad your getting that referal at last
ilts sorry it didn't happen this time

Sorry had to post and run as dd was about to start throwing her poo around

Kate, Sorry you had to join us hope dh made it up to you for missing your wedding anniversary

Tjuice glad to hear the pains have calmed down I like to take feeling sick as a good sign

Hope this thread is full of positives

Great start to a thread - CONGRATULATIONS

yay aquababe!!!!

and great thread title

The title was really Lissie's idea on the old thread

Aquababe, congratulations that is fantastic news!! I am now week 11 and have first scan tomorrow (so very very nervous), so just wanted to say that you will get there really quickly. Especially once the tiredness kicks in and you are only awake for 9 hours s day, then the weeks fly by!

I know I felt terrified when I got a bfp after a mc, and you will knicker check like a madthing but try to think as positively as possible - and good luck!

Yey aquababe! What a brilliant start to a thread x
Hope all are OK. Glad to hear lissie is getting some more support finally

CONGRATULATIONS Aquababe so very very pleased for you xxxxxxxxxxxxx

oh there you all are, feeling very down and sorry for myself today in Chez Sweetkitty, both DDs have more spots but are fine apart from the itching. I have a sore throat so even if I could eat some food it hurts, I am drop dead tired and am stressing about my scan on Thursday. But ho hum.

aquababe - congratulations great news, you know join the knicker watching, stressed out until 12 weeks brigade I'm afraid but it's good news and fingers and everything crossed for you

ALBS - how are you doing? Have you dared to work out when you are due?

sybilvimes - best of luck for the scan tomorrow x

big hello to everyone else too xxx

Hi there. Been lurking in the background for a while now but not felt ready to join. But today I feel the need of join the gang and eat cake. But could I be spared the big knicker wearing please ?

My history is mmc and ERPC 1999, DD1 - 6 yrs old (from 1st marraige), DD2 nearly 2 yrs old (2nd marraigae) and mmc and ERPC 2nd Nov.

Kitty can vouch for my fine character and general up-standing-ness as we share an post natal thread. Well, I hope she will!

Thought I'd got over mmc No2, but feeling rather wobbly this week as 2 g'friends have new babies and the old hormones are going haywire. I tihnk we're going to start TTC this month if AF makes a return, although have to admit to be incredibly scared. But, instead of being a paranoid wreck with DH, I can come on here and speak to you lovely ladies and calm myself down.

We used OPK's last time, but was wondering whether anyone had better suggestions? Silly thing to say, but I don't think my body 'does' boy's, so really want to 'try' for a girl. Don't get me wrong, would be completely thrilled if it was sky blue pink with yellow dots, but just don't want things to go wrong again. Do you BD before ov for a girl or other way round?

Enough with the questions. Lovely to be here and even though I don't know you all yet I wanted to say congratulations to all the BFP's and fingers crossed for all the scans.

My typing sucks today. Wade your way thru the typos if you can .

Last one I promise.....

Kitty - forgot to say that you can add bicarb of soda to luke warm bath to stop DD's itching. And when DD1 one got it in Barbados, the doc there gave her anti histamine (sp?) to help with the itching. But you prob know this already.... Hope they get better soon. Lots of TLC, calamine lotion and DVD's. It's miserable when you're all ill.

Yay congratulations aquababe - lots and lots of sticky vibes heading your way !

I love the thread title too!

SK Hope the itchiness stops soon

HTGG Welcome but sorry you are here. Have you read Toni Weschler's "taking charge of your fertility"? There's a chapter in there about trying for a specific gender, I think for a girl you need to BD several days before O.

Still feeling a bit crap here. Had a horrible nightmare that the sonographer was wrong and that I killed my baby by having the ERPC which even though I know isn't true still makes me feel sick (sorry to lower the positive tone of the thread)

I did get my shiny new basal thermometer in the post though so now I can get back to charting...

Congratulations Aquababe

HTGG Hello, sorry you had to join. Kasha is right, for a girl you need to BD before ov and for a boy on at ov.

KashaSarrasin Sorry you are feeling down. It's weird how our minds play tricks like this. You start to think you are coping then your brain has second thoughts. Chin up and take care x

georgie - sorry you had to join our merry band but it is great here a mad bunch so you will fit right in I kind of threw myself back into ttc straight away became like a mad woman, I was lucky to get pregnant 2 months after mc am 7+5 today scan on Thursday so everything crossed we have a healthy bean in there

kasha - horrible dream think it's just your brains way of working through things

Aquababe Congratulations! Hopefully this luck thread will rub off on those of us waiting for BFPs
Kasha Those sorts of dreams are horrible aren't they and they also stay with you all day. As SK says, it's your brain trying to process everything. Try to find something absorbing to take your mind off it.
HTGG sorry you had to join us, but welcome to the thread.
ILTS sorry things didn't work out - I did wonder where you'd got to. Hope you come back soon as we missed your battered sausages
I caved in and bought some OPKs yesterday but no surge yet. Only CD11 today so very early but it's good to have something to focus on!
Hope everybody else is OK.

Hi KS - Toni Weschler's book landed with a bump on the doormat last week. Had a quick look through then balked at all the info. Will make determined effort to wade thru. Although will prob take some points from it, use OPK's and try and chart temp. Everything and anything at this point. Poor DH been packed off to work eith bumper bottle of vits and loose pants . Really sorry about your horrible dream. It totally puts you off kilter when that happens. Hope there's no repeat tonight. Lavender and a warm milky drink might help get you in the right frame of mind?

Kitty - hello lovely. Thanks for the thumbs up! How's the itching? Good luck for Thurs. Will have fingers crossed for you.

Cricri - I'm afan of OPK's, But they are rather addictive.....!

Ah - found you all.

Congrats to aquababe. Let us know if you manage to keep your sanity for the next few weeks.

Georgie and Kate sorry for your losses. Also had mmc about a week before and I also thought was getting better but feel a bit rubbish this week - maybe AF is on the way ? So could be hormones or the reminder that no longer pg.

Kate - know what you mean about indulging in stuff that you can't have when pg - each time I have tried I have just found in a letdown. Except for a lovely red wine we had on sunday - mmm maybe red wine is the answer to all life's woes.

Hello to everyone else - lots of posts to catch up on so probably missed something big.

Congratulations Aquababe FANTASTIC news!!! Never been a big fan of the runs, amazing the things that can become good news in the right circumstances!

Good luck with the scans Sybil and Sweetkitty - will be thinking of you.

HTGG I know exactly how you feel, and I guess our hormones might be at similar levels as you had your ERPC the day before me. We went to stay with friends of ours last weekend who have a 2yr old DD and a baby boy born in August. It killed me. But on a positive note, she had a mmc with her first pg and has had no problems since... Just very hard to see people with babies at the moment - everyone I know seems to be pregnant right now! But we'll get there [she said, trying to sound positive...]

Kasha so sorry to hear about your dream, feels like just when you've had about all you can cope with your subconscious gives you a little bit more. Very unfair. But as a friend said to me recently, the lowest ebb is always at the turn of the tide...
On a more practical level, can I ask you about basal thermometers? Have just started using one. This is a really dumb question, but do you just put it in your mouth or under your tongue? Also, how do you clean it??
Love the new thread title BTW - may amuse you to know I found it by searching for the word "cake" !!

i was wondering where everyone got to . . .

CONGRATS AQUABABE!!! wonderful news. let's do the nervy, one-day-at-a-time thing together . . .

sybil - best of luck with your scan or rather, hope it went very well. so nice to be near the end of the trimester. i am 9 plus 3 days and feel like time is just inching by.

georgie - sorry that you are here but welcome

sweetkitty - i had chicken pox in my late 20s and was on antihistimines constantly. poor kiddiwinkles hope they make a quick recovery. are you okay?

kasia - horrid dream - i had several of that nature too actually, even though you have to be double-checked here, i wondered and wondered. i think its probably normal and part of the process to "go there" in your mind actually. at least, i had these phase of unwelcoming thoughts that passed very quickly. i hope you get a good night tonight with sweet dreams.

hi teehee

well, i got my appetite back today and actually ate the lunch at work (danish meatballs (frikadeller) with new potatoes) and then had dinner too (at Hereford Steakhouse - a sirloin with garlic butter, jacket potato with sour cream and veggies).
That is the most i have eaten properly in a while and i feel much better.

which is obviously something to worry about - in my crazy world. i keep taking off my acupressure bands and stopping the vit b6 just so i can feel vomitous - then starting up again - its ridiculous. i wish i could just have faith in my body that its doing the right thing . . .

aww Tjuice your dinner is making me feel and pukey at the same time, I have had half a bowl of ready brek, half a slice of toast and half my dinner today, not good but enough. I'm also in the one step at a time club. Chicken pox when you are an adult is nasty so it's better to get it when you are young but my poor babies, it's on their scalp and even DD2's private parts poor wee things. I'm ok as it's only if you have never had it that it's dangerous in pregnancy, unfortunately I have scars on my face so theres no doubt. Just felt terrible today think I have tonsilitis again, feel the usual sick and knackered and have my poor babies to look after. Feeling very sorry for myself

helo to everyone that made it across to the new room, comfy beanbags, loads of wine (virtual and real) and of course cakes aplenty xxx

kate actually I tend to breathe through my mouth, so I've never managed to take my temperature accurately by mouth. I temp vaginally which sounds gross but is actually very easy and also very accurate. I clean the thermometer with a quick wipe and the occasional dip in disinfectant - I don't insert it very far and I certainly don't share it (!) and have never had any problems.

I'm sat here drinking a large whisky in the hope that it will let me sleep tonight .

Oh my, I couldnt find you and then I got a bit panicky and then it took me ages to find everyone and I thought I might cry.
Then I saw the opening post and I thought brilliant that is just going to finish me off! In a good way can I say.
AQUA that is fantastic news Blumin well done to you & your DH.

So sorry to all the new girls. It is great here. Big pants are not optional, but you can wear what ever style you like Mine are lacy but not see though because I would be arrested for gross indecency.

I have managed to get through a whole tub of Caramel Chew Chew. So I now feel a little sick if I'm honest. Never mind. It was nice.

Sweetkitty I meant to suggest before. Have you got Piriton. It is brilliant for little ones when they have CP. My dd2 had it in August and she hardly scratched.Combined with the old faithful Calamine lotion.

Oh God I've just seen Expatinscotland's post and now I feel so so sick - why oh why didn't I insist on them rescanning me???? Sat here in tears and completely panicking. I'll never ever know now if I did the right thing. It never even occured to me at the time that they might have made a mistake. Rathionally I don't think they did, she did a very thorough transvaginal scan. How do I live with the thought they may have done an EPRC while I was still p/g???

I'm so very happy for expat but this has put me in a right state. DH has already gone to bed and I'm completely freaking out

kasha - i really hope you managed to get some sleep.
seriously, these people know what they are doing and there is no way that they would have terminated a viable pg.
i saw a documentary the other day "Flying - Confessions of a Free Woman" - and it was in the US and she filmed herself having a scan. Sadly, although they found a heartbeat, the measurements were way off to be viable and she had a d&c - after only one scan. Much as we can berate them, these consultants do know . . .
as i said, it was definitely part of my mourning/healing process to question everything (i saw my dr and gynae a couple of times to grill them about why it had happened to me) and maybe you need to talk to someone too.

i really hope you are okay. are you having some time off at the moment? if its possible, you should go away for a day or two, just to get out of your environment. my mum took me on a spa weekend (i ended up having a massive breakdown/cry halfway through the most excellent hour-long aromatherapy massage ) I know its prolly hard before Xmas - but its all about you now, giving yourself time and space to make sense of all this.

i'm sorry if i worried you and i really hope that you get rest and peace.xxxoooxxx