thread 2... TTC bubba #1

[xoJellybean]

Thread #2... TTC our first!

[quote Kristinax]@broodyas ah amazing news, huge congratulations!! how are you feeling? I bet you're over the moon?

How is everyone feeling this morning? Has anyone tested or looking to test?

I'm 8dpo and tested today, and shockingly it was a BFN.. I don't know why I do it to myself! But now I can relax until Friday, I'll do another one then at 10dpo! I haven't got any symptoms though tbh, just the normal ones I get before my period so not very hopeful this month tbh![/quote]
Thanks so much :) I'm feeling excited but trying not to get my hopes up too much as it is still super early.

I'm sorry about your negative test this morning, it is still super early so there's still a chance! :) all the best for your test on Friday

@broodyas yeah it's tough that you can't jump right in and let yourself get really excited isn't it! But I wish healthy pregnancy for you, hope it all goes well!! :)

I got another BFN this morning, with a FRER and I'm only 4 days away from AF so I think I'm done this month unfortunately! But feeling ok, now I'm prepared for my AF at least and ready to move on to another cycle! :)

@Kristinax you never know - it's still early and still got a few days until AF arrives!

AF normally arrives first thing in the morning for me so was starting to feel a bit hopeful when it didn't arrive this morning! Tested and BFN so thought it must be the Pfizer jab delaying it.... then this afternoon, AF is here ☹️ So I'm onto cycle 11.... really feel like it's just never going to happen for me.

How's everyone else doing? X

@Lebe14 yeah that's true, I'll just expect my AF but if it doesn't arrive and I get a BFP then that'll be a nice surprise! :)

Oh no, sorry to hear!! :( it's so devistating isn't it, having to go through the same emotions month after month, hope you're okay ❤ New cycle is a new chance though, I hope August will be your month!

Thanks @Kristinax xx I'm okay but thinking I might take a month off OPKs, tracking and mumsnet. Then see about starting tracking again in September. I'll try and find something else to obsess over in august 😂 good luck to you - fingers tightly crossed x

@Lebe14 yeah thats totally understandable, it's good to have a break from it I imagine, it can become soo consuming! This was only our 2nd month ttc and I'm already drained from it so I can understand!

I got my AF today a few days early! I'm glad it's come early though so I can start fresh again and hope next month will be more successful!
Will keep my FX for you too, hopefully the more relaxed approach works!x

@lebe14 sorry about AF, but I hope you have a nice relaxing month now! Even though I did use some opks this month (one a day for 4 days until I got a big peak) I was definitely more relaxed than previous months.

@ruibies welcome! Sounds like you're only a couple of days behind me. Hope the tww isn't driving you mad yet!
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@kristinax Good luck with cycle 3! New month new start - have you got a game plan for this month?! As time has gone on I've added more and more things to my ttc strategy 😂
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I'm currently approx 7dpo (cycle 6). I think we unintentionally did something like the SMEP plan this month, whereas normally we're knackered and have to take a break from dtding after my peak! I don't actually know how soon I ovulate after my LH surge, so I'm hoping this will have made a difference. 🤞

Been a while ladies! How is everyone doing?

Hey @xoJellyBean!

We took this cycle off actively TTC and I have felt so much better and less pressured about everything. I didn't use OPKs but still know roughly when I ovulated. We didn't get a chance to BD close to ovulation time due to my partner working away, but that's actually taken off so much pressure for the 2 week wait as I know we won't have conceived and it's all about waiting for AF to arrive and finish to try again next cycle. AF is due end of next week. Not sure what I'm going to do next cycle tracking-wise. Think I'm going to give OPKs another miss but I might see if I can start BBT again just to check I'm ovulating. I didn't get on with this before as I wake up at different times, but I think I'll set my alarm a lot earlier to take my temp and try that way. I do need to now make an appointment with my GP but might wait one more month and enjoy feeling chilled about it all (first time I've felt like this since starting TTC), as I know tests will cause me stress and anxiety.

How have you been getting on? X

@lebe14 It's good that you've been able to be more relaxed about it this month, the pressure is just unrelenting sometimes isn't it! What cycle are you on now?
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We were supposed to be stopping for a few months cos the due date would be a bit too close to our wedding reception to be a good idea, but this week we've been ignoring that! No opks, so definitely more relaxed, but I know full well that it's FW. 😂 I don't reeaally believe we're likely to conceive this month though. I'm starting to worry that maybe I'm not actually ovulating - I've never had much in the way of cycle symptoms but the things I do notice are quite regular (period timings, ewcm, lh surge) so maybe I'm just being paranoid! If we do conceive this month, I'm sure we'll make it work with our wedding, and if we don't, that's another month of ttc closer to being able to ask my doctor for help.
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How are you getting on @xojellybean?

@taytay2020 we'll be going onto cycle 12 😱

That's great you're feeling relaxed too. You never know what will happen this month and if you do conceive (fx) then like you said, I'm sure you can work things around.

I feel the same around ovulation. I used to get ovulation pain but haven't had it the last few months... my cycles are also really regular, like yours. Just think there must be something off.... I'm worried about putting myself through loads of tests, which I know I'll find stressful, but equally I'd like to find out if there is something wrong, so we can then make a decision whether we intervene or call it quits and get another dog 😂 I'm not sure I could put myself through something like IVF.

Fingers tightly crossed for you this month! Hopefully being more relaxed will have a positive impact x

Hey @taytay2020 how have you got on this month?

I'm coming up to my fertile week. Trying to start up BBT to check that I'm actually ovulating, as I believe this is the best way to find out. Am I right in saying that my BBT should stay level until ovulation and then it should rise? I then take the day before the rise as ovulation day? I'm using a fermometer so pretty sure it will tell me if I log in it in the app, but thought I'd check. Let's hope I can take my temp at the same time each morning. Not sure yet whether I'm going to use OPKs this month. Really enjoyed feeling relaxed last month.

Had a mad dream last night that I got a BFP 😂😂 two solid lines. Never had a dream like that. Was gutted when I woke up and it was just a dream!

Hope everyone's doing okay x

Hi @lebe14! Sorry for the slow reply, the mobile app has logged me out and I haven't yet gone through the faff of remembering what my password is to get back in! Fortunately my computer still works.

I don't exactly know which day I ovulated this month because I didn't test at all, but I must be close to the end of the tww now. From ewcm I suspect that I ovulated during a dtd-free spell, due to work and visiting family, so I think my chances are pretty low this month.

I've been doing an uncharacteristic amount of exercise lately, so if I have to wait until next year to ttc again at least I can enjoy a flatter stomach in the meantime...! Silver linings.

I have no idea about bbt sorry - I haven't looked into it because I know I don't wake up at a regular enough time for it to be accurate!

What a cruel dream! Fingers crossed it will come true for you soon!! I had a very very boring but weirdly specific dream last night. Is that a symptom?!

Hey! I feel like lots of people do mention having vivid dreams when they get a BFP, but who can say for sure. Finger crossed for you. Love that you've found a silver lining if not 😂 I need to find one.

So confused as I started back with the OPKs this month. Got my solid smiley on clear blue yesterday morning. But when I used a cheap easy@home opk in the afternoon, it was negative. Did an easy@home opk this morning and looks positive to me... so as these are a day apart, when the hell should I be ovulating? I guess I should go on the basis that it could be today or tomorrow..... x

I'm so crap at keeping up. 🙃🤦🏼‍♀️

How we doing x

@xojellybean How are you getting on?

I'm waiting for AF. Now ridiculously late but I'm still just getting BFNs. So everyday I'm paranoid that AF is going to arrive (and day 1 is a b) but still nothing. It's so annoying!

@taytay2020 I'm currently CD28 and haven't ovulated yet!! 😭 slowly going insane lol you're not out until she shows ☺️🤞🏻

@xojellybean oh no! So annoying! Sounds exactly like how my month is going - this is the first one I didn't track, and it's suddenly sooo irregular! No idea when I ovulated, but I'm normally on a 28-34 day cycle and somehow now I'm on day 38! I'm really wishing I'd tracked it now, cos I seem to get AF on day 15 after ovulation, so if I knew when I ovulated at least I'd have some idea of when to expect AF now. We're definitely not ttc now until January, so for the next few months I'll still be tracking but only so I'm not in this annoying situation again 😬

@taytay2020 isn't it a bloody nightmare!!! Feels like such a wasted month if it turns out I didn't ovulate 🤣 that's so frustrating for you 🙈 it's good to take a break, I'm too stubborn now lol feel like I need to keep going🙄

@xojellybean So, when I said we're 'definitely not' ttc I guess I meant we're definitely not supposed to be, because we've actually carried on regardless - except now we're calling it Danger Sex 😂.

I used opks yesterday for the first time this month and got a positive result, which is weird cos I was only on cd11 - I guess this'll be a short cycle (esp compared to last month's 38 day monstrosity).

This is month 8 for us, and I don't reeaally believe it's going to happen naturally now. My only hope for this month is that sod's law has probably increased our chances - it would lead to the MOST inconvenient due date 😀

Hope you're getting on ok 🙂

Hey ladies, how is everyone doing ☺️

We have decided to go private as my blood results came back rubbish unfortunately 😶 it's thought I have pcos. Have my first appt in a couple of weeks❤️

@xoJellybean ah no! How're you feeling about that? What is it in the blood test that makes them think you have PCOS?

We had some tests done last month and everything came back normal, so we've been told to go away and try until January then I might need further investigations into my womb. Also found out I have a septate uterus but that shouldn't be stopping me from conceiving - and I haven't had a hint of a BFP ever!

Might try pre seed this month, but need to convince DH to give it a go first. I think he's getting fed up of all the stuff I keep trying and spending money on 😂

@BritInNZ heyy. So my SHBG was 13 (should be 18-122) and my androgen was 9.2 which is far too high🙈 I'm getting a scan with the private clinic so that'll probably confirm it. My mum has PCOS so I'm not overly surprised. I just hope the consultant sorts me out quickly lol

What is a septate uterus?? I have never heard of that! Fingers crossed you conceive before January 🥰 my DH is the same, especially since all my spending made no difference as my hormones are screwed 🤣🙈

@xoJellyBean Ahhh I see! I hope you get things sorted ASAP! I didn't get the full breakdown of my results, just the 'you're both healthy no need to worry' 😂 probably a good thing otherwise I'd obsess about it!

Basically my uterus is more of a heart shape than an upside down triangle. There's various levels of septate and the worse it is the more likely you'll need surgery to remove it (some people it's so bad it splits your uterus into two parts). If an embryo implants on the septate it can result in miscarriage, and your pregnancy would be classed as high risk and more chance of needing a C section. I'm still waiting to find out how bad it is but my gynaecologist didn't seem concerned thankfully!