Of course it takes a village when you're dealing with fertility f*ckery TTC bus 41

[larrythelizard]

Ding Ding

Agency bus driver here so expect driving past the normal bus stops, someone incapable of working the ticket machine and definitely no change given!

In all seriousness I really hope I have all the right names in the right places!

Welcome back to the bus where anything goes, hop aboard, tell us about you & we’ll be here for you (there’s a song in there somewhere!).

This bus has a growing bunch of gorgeous black and white springy pups on board, tortoises & 2 feisty little kittens so bring your pets and pictures are obligatory 🤗.

We’ve got TTC happening in many different forms, shagging conventionally, unconventionally, with the help of scientific intervention, IUI/ICSI/Clomid/IVF & even just watching from the top of the bus 👀. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been trying for days, weeks, months or like some of us we’ve been around each other for so long we can’t bear to leave, nothing is TMI and there’s never a silly question...

Hell we KNOW TTC is tough, lots of us have had heart ache & are chasing 🌈so we are there for each other, as well as trying to have laughs along the way 🥰☺️

Oh and we like an embarrassing story to get your ticket for entry please!

And if you see mention of the boss' blog then blame these guys they made me do it...#shamelessplug

minstermusings.co.uk for the blog that’s where the full stuff happens
& minstermusings on insta - some of our ladies have made special anonymous accounts so we can link up via minster 🥰
If you want to sign up & get updates please do, please note your username if you comment shows up to others so maybe make it anonymous she won’t be offended 😂🤣(unless you are mean)

Story so far...

June 24 BFPs
July 11 BFPs
August 18 BFPs
Sep 4 BFPs
Oct 7 BFPs
Nov 7 BFPs
Dec 14 BFPs
jan 7 BFPs
February 8 BFPs
March 5 BFPs
April 5 BFPs

So into May we go, and plenty going on...
2 May @madeoftea @crazydoglady

🤞🏻💓😘🥳🙌🏻

Taking up their seats & buckling up...

@Franklydear
@Vil10 - here for ride, not of the TTC kind for now!
@Michellescarn
@lexber
@MoominC
@amy2503
@2alreadywantanother
@JJ93
@Jam291
@InkyPaper
@bez91
@haiyaa
@minthumbugs
@Katao
@larrythelizard
@DKDK123
@pennysays
@Dollybird89
@justwant2beamum
@EllieAdam
@Hopeful110
@blackcurrantqueen
@clolo
@MessyBob89
@DKDK123
@amy2503
@kaylesd
@ArrrMeHearties
@wicketbasket
@Billythecat
@Messybob89
@tornado2Inc
@sausage1990
@Minster2012
@KayL1988

IVF/IUI/ICSI /clomid passengers as well as TTC on the side!
@somatronic
@unCliche
@clolo
@notyetamumbuttrying
@katao
@Dollybird89
@MartyMcShy
@juno231
@paintfairy
@gensola
@Sunbird84
@babyghirl

Newly promoted to the bump list!
@madeoftea
@crazydoglady123

Bumps & babies who want to keep track of us 👀
@clairey844
@Missgoldilocks
@lucyrp
@KateColx
@blodyn91
@Catherinettc - shout out for Caolan
@Busybee143
@Ltay2
@BlondePotter
@Clairey844
@Gem176
@kirky658
@Hollie657
@justanothercyster
@DJmum83
@Thinkingandblinking
@florence13
@2020mission
@Asthenia
@Hopeful110
@katiekattty

@minster2012 think we used to charge about £6 for a hand wash and try and £10 for wash and vac.

Glad you and DH got to have a good chat, my DH is also fairly tipsy as we are also watching euro vision 😂

I never washed cars, but used to clean the engine with the boys, kept us busy on Sunday afternoon
#eurovision, family style
@Minster2012, good call on getting dh to agree to things when slightly drunk

@Madeoftea wow!!!! Congratulations 🥰💕😍

@Minster2012 love your snake plants, it's completely understandable to be feeling how you do😘 might try the milk and water tips!
Gorgeous pics of your lovely boy, chasing those rainbows 🌈

Got Eurovision on here with a nosecco 🙃
Dropping our friends home and I just want to fall asleep now 😂

@Madeoftea twiiiins!

@Crazydoglady123 I don't think it does move. @Kirky658 said her RHR stayed the same too?
@Madeoftea oh wow! Congratulations! 🥳

@Franklydear oh and the tent holiday. Wtaf. I would go mental.

@Minster2012 approaching drunk DH for the win 👍🏼 cute photos 💕🌈 I'm not sure it's the first and last time I carol sung, didn't claim to be collecting for charity but also didn't claim to be collecting for underage boozing 😆

Also watching Eurovision, not usually bothered but it's not too bad this year 😊

Ha ha ha I've just realised my own terrible bad spelling there despite me being the (less) drunk one!! It was meant to say I ate a raw steak! (That's my preference when not pregnant!)

@Franklydear cleaning the engines! Jesus I bet that took took longer than me cleaning he car 🤣

@blackcurrantqueen how did the nosecco go down with friends?? Honestly Eurovision sober is literally torture I bet 😝🤣 bit least you had friends to make it better 🤔🤞🏻did you tell them?

So yeah DH & just had a bit of an argument as I put the whole rainbow so miscarriage thing on a story on my personal Insta. DH has no social
Media, nothing. Ppl tag me for him, and I do the business stuff. but in the same respect he can't choose what I do. I've told him that. He knows when I'm filming him and most of the the time we have conversations saying "I'm done hiding" like now. Argh

@paintfairy yep that's right my RHR hasn't changed since before my BFP, still in the 40s now at 23 weeks. X

Morning ladies

@Minster2012 I understand your frustration. I'm
Also being more open and honest with people this time because if it goes wrong again then I am going to need their support...!
Nosecco was ok actually, better than I remember it! We did tell our friends as they're our best friends and they know what we've been through recently as my OH had told them when I was in hospital.. they handled it perfectly they were clearly super excited but didn't bang on about it which was what I needed.

I feel like utter progesterone induced shit this morning, like I've drank four bottles of wine or something.

We are going to an 80th birthday afternoon tea this afternoon and my DD has got THE cutest party dress guys be sure to check insta later 😂
Her first party dress. Thanks covid !

@Somatronic I've just read back a bit more, sorry your endocrinologist was a dick, how does she know you aren't a secret royal! What a cow!

@InkyPaper boo to OH not getting the covid vaccine that's frustrating. You'd think if they were inviting to that test centre they'd know what they had.. 🤦🏼‍♀️
Really hope that the tests for the lactinoma give you the answers you are looking for, the fact that it sounds treatable with medication is good 🤞🏼

@DKDK123 ooh want to hear all about the wedding and free bar!

Sorry I was absent yesterday girls I was out with my friends, literally had the best day and night ever but I feel so guilty for how much I ate and drank because I was almost at my stone loss, just going to weigh myself Monday and accept whatever the damage is and move on! Hope everyone had a lovely Saturday!

@Madeoftea omg twins!!! Amazing news!! Congratulations!!!

@2020mission that's the same with mine! It makes it easier when they work with you doesn't it😂 my OH would happily take supplements but he just thinks a lot of them are money making schemes, he said it when I bought the pregnacare and then next minute my cycle was messed up😂 ohhh that would be the dream🤞🏼

@Minster2012 lovely picture of the rainbow, definitely a sign, keep your head up lovely, sending you all the love❤️

@blackcurrantqueen have a lovely day at afternoon tea!x

@Vil10 your pictures looked fab, you are beautiful, don't feel guilty for enjoying yourself x

Didn't want to just disappear incase anyone thinks there's something wrong, but going to lay low and focus on other things for a few days to keep my head busy. Wedding was lovely but I didnt make the most of the free bar yesterday, every time I tried a drink I felt a bit sick I just couldn't take to it despite trying different drinks. I have a v v v v faint bfp this morn (only 10dpo) but after 6 CPs failing to get beyond the 5 1/2week mark I dont want to hope too much so no congrats just yet please, I'm going to disappear for a bit and not think about it and will reappear in 2 weeks with either some nice progression lines or reappear earlier with a glass of wine in hand 😂 That imaginary baby I protected from the football wasn't so imaginary afterall.....7's supposed to be a lucky number right!? 7th time lucky? 🤔🤞

@DKDK123 sounds like a good strategy to me! Hope all goes well 😘
@Vil10 looks like you had a ball babe!! I did too. Hot tub in a lodge with my girls this weekend it was fab! Even managed to hide my reduced drinking and tonic sans the gin to fool the ones that didn't know! @Minster2012 I ended up telling two of the girls about ivf but told them it was next month rather than admitting I had my drugs in my cool bag in the room 🤭 I just put the freezer pack in the freezer at night and took it out in the morning so was able to keep the drugs chilled. I left a can in there too and also had it in the en suite which was cooler so hopefully they stayed at a good temp! Haven't fully caught up yet but hope you're doing ok?

@DKDK123 absolutely no congratulations but a big solidarity hug. X

@blackcurrantqueen I'm glad your friends were understanding! Hope the party is fun, not sure if I follow you or not but will keep an eye out for the party dress 👗

Ahh @Minster2012 hope you and DH made up. It's a tough one, but if that helps you working through things then that shouldn't be discouraged IMO 🤗

@blackcurrantqueen have fun today 🎂

@Vil10 sounds like you had a great time, don't feel guilty for that 🥂 it's not as if you're going to have put a stone on from having a bit of fun 👍🏼

@DKDK123 wow 🤩 offering hugs instead 🤗 keep us updated!

@notyetamumbuttrying precision planning there hiding things 😆 hot tub lodge with the girls sounds great.

Might be MIA for a few days, dissertation due in Wednesday, busiest week planned in with work travelling all over and somehow got to navigate that with possibly not having a car 🤦🏼‍♀️ testing Friday so will be distracted at least 😊

@bez91 I thought so 😂 it was a fun weekend and now I'm only tired rather than hungover and tired!!
Good luck on the disso! Do they still call it that? I did mine 13 years ago now 😆 and good luck for Friday too!

Hi all. Sorry I'm pretty much awol at the moment. Everything is moving so slowly with the fertility clinic and I've hit a wall with ttc so have just pushed it to the back of my mind for now. I'm popping in here and there for skim read so catching some updates but sorry for not being very active/supportive. Hope everyone is doing ok. @Minster2012 and @Sausage1990 hope you girls recuperating and feeling ok. @DKDK123 i saw your post and want to wish you well x
@Madeoftea oh my gosh twins how wonderful/terrifying 😂 seriously though great news. Hope you are doing well x

Congratulations on the BFPs and to @madeoftea on your twins!!! Amazing news all around!!!

I've sort of caught up but I had like 12 pages to read so it was more of a skim read.

Little update from me - My bleeding has stopped which is good as its been 10days since I passed everything so I'm pleased it's stopped because its a good sign that there's nothing left inside like last time. I've had my referral to the reoccuring miscarriage clinic sent off and I should have my 1st appointment in about 4-6 weeks time & I've got to have some bloods taken at 6 weeks & 10 weeks post-miscarriage for the clinic to test all the things (sticky blood stuff, lupus, thyroid etc) and they sent the baby & pregnancy tissues off for genetic testing from the hospital so I should have some results from that within about 8 weeks. So I'm hoping that within 3-4 months we should have some answers from everything & be under the consultations care. Apparently she's has really good success in her clinic which gives me hope.

@Katao thanks for checking in. I'm doing as an okay as possible. Struggling to want to do anything atm tbh. I like being home and with my family & in laws (especially around my 2yr old niece who just makes me smile) but the thought of going to work, or seeing friends or anything is too much. I'm just trying to take it a day at a time. Last time I cried so much and this time I just feel empty, numb & disconnected... So my mental health wise I'm not doing so good. Also struggling with my friends being pregnant. I'm currently taking some time off work and will probably take some more weeks & maybe get some counselling support. I'll get there. Just going to be different this time I think.

Sorry I'm not up to speed with everyone and not contributing much. Like @minster2012 It's all a bit much for me at the moment (can't pour from an empty cup and all that) but I'll be back properly when I can. Sending so much love & support to you all. Xx

@Madeoftea I forgot to say congratulations to twins! How wonderful 🎉
@Katao have they said when you can get started yet? I guess you're with the nhs? I am, and it does take a while to get going doesn't it.
@Sausage1990 I'm glad you're being looked at now, really hope you get some answers 🙏🏾 I'm glad you're gonna talk to someone too, must be such a lot to deal with. Talking to a professional can only help. 💗

@Sausage1990 been thinking of you often but not wanting to overwhelm, take all the time you need, one day at a time 💕
Hopefully the RMC will be useful, and there will be treatment available to stop you having to go through this again 💗

Xxx

@blackcurrantqueen Thankyou lovely!! I've felt better about the food I consumed over the course of the day and I'm even treating myself to some chocolate tonight😂 how was the afternoon tea??

@notyetamumbuttrying ohhh that sounds amazing!! Love a hot tub lodge! Do most of the girls you were with know about your journey?x

@bez91 that's what I told myself today, I feel better about it, just added myself onto an after work spin class next week to make up for it😂

@Sausage1990 sounds like things are in place for you to get the ball rolling, bet you feel slightly better knowing that x

@DKDK123 sending hugs x

@Vil10 it really was! One knows. Two knew about ivf but not when, I told them yesterday. So a few know now.
Defo treat yourself to chocolate! I had a twix earlier and a slice of birthday cake yesterday 😋

@Vil10 highly stressful with a feral two year old running around an elderly woman's bungalow 😂 but the birthday granny loved it ! Thanks for asking xx