. 🦕 Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 6 🦕

[Annny27]

Hi ladies! The dinosaurs are around plus a few newer ladies too :)

First one in March, last one at the weekend. There is mourning literature that it can alter cycles 🙄

@ButtercupBlue
Sorry forgot to reply I'm taking 800 iu for 3 months then 400 after that to keep me where I should be 💚

Thanks @Annny27 I have just tried to do an online consult thing for the blood test (very hard to get a Drs appointment without going through online and phone triage first ..) and it wouldn't give me the options so I couldn't submit it it kept wanting me to put in physical symptoms which I don't have!!! Argh why is it so hard to get any advice or support about this from a Dr??!? Will try phoning tomorrow ... so annoying. I'm still spotting af still hasn't kicked in probably was due to start today. Fed up and want it to just get on with it!

[quote Babyghirl]@ButtercupBlue
Sorry forgot to reply I'm taking 800 iu for 3 months then 400 after that to keep me where I should be 💚[/quote]
Thanks for replying. I don't think I'm taking a high enough dose. They told me to buy it over the counter but not which dose to get so I've just been taking the 400 iu ones so I think I'll double up!

Kiwi17, can you put ‘difficulty conceiving* as your symptom? I hope you get through to them soon and that AF starts properly, so you can get counting down to ovulation again.

My period still hasn’t started - six days late now. Getting quite frustrating and feeling like I’m still physically broken. When we started trying, we said we’d only try until May, as it would have been my last chance to have a baby before turning 40. We thought we’d hit the jackpot in January when we got the BFP, and now it feels like it just won’t happen at all. DH has offered getting private tests, just to see if we are likely to conceive etc, but that feels pointless, as we did conceive and lost it. Sorry, I’m just feeling really sorry for myself at the moment. Feel free to ignore.

@miscarriage39
Please don't give up you will get that rainbow baby soon, also stressing can delay your period did you ovulate this month 💚

Thanks Babyghirl. Erm, well, according to the sticks I ovulated, and I had loads of CM (albeit a few days after the tests predicted ovulation), so I’m assuming I did, but can’t know for sure.

@miscarriage39
Hopefully it will start soon maybe you geared up to ovulate but didn't and did a few days after that so I would give it to Monday and if still nt arrived phone the docs 💚

Thanks @Miscarriage39 I have now phoned the Drs and will book on the phone instead thankfully! And af kicked in fully today so hey at least that's a start.. I'm sorry you're feeling so down about it. Why did you give yourselves that deadline? Was it just a kind of target or wanting to not have a baby after 40? Fingers crossed for you - maybe you ovulated later and that's why af has been delayed? I know what you mean about the tests but I get the impression they can give you info about fertility as well as maybe reasons or things that could have contributed towards the mc. That's what I'm hoping anyway! Just bought some vit c for me and vit d for dh... we'd definitely rattle if you shook us! I'm hoping the vit c might help with progesterone but who knows 😂

When will you get to actually talk to the GP Kiwi17?

Yes, it was just a sort of cut off we set. I was quite negative going into TTC as felt I was maybe too old, so we said we try until May, and if nothing happened, we’d accept it and move on. I really wanted to have a baby before I turned 40. I think going into this, I was fairy okay either way, but having got pregnant, it feels harder to let it go. We had decided to keep trying, but now my period seems to have disappeared I just feel stuck and unsure what’s happening.

Yes Babyghirl , if nothing has happened by next week, I will call the GP.

@miscarriage39
Your not to old I know someone who was 47 thought she was going through the menapose and she was pregnant so keep trying you will get your rainbow baby 💚

@Miscarriage39 I was going to phone today but had a good chat with dh last night and we're going to try and relax a bit more about it all so I'm going to leave it for now and if we still haven't got pg by Sept will contact them. Just want to chill out a bit more - easier said than done!! Oh ok I get that about the deadline. I know my mum was saying to me that there is a 10 yr gap between me and my siblings because they weren't going to have any more and then she got pg whilst on the pill but then had a mc and then realised she did want another one and then had 2 more mc before me - she would have been 37 I think? It's a hard call to make. Hopefully the gp will be able to give you some answers 🤞 am I right in thinking you have another lo? How old are they? :)

I have everything crossed that taking it easy is just what you need Kiwi17.

Thanks for the reassurance Babyghirl and Kiwi17. Yes, I am actually very lucky and have two children who are 5 & 8. We always said we wanted another, but DH used to work away a lot and I was completely on my own with the children, sometimes for weeks at a time. I do know that I am really fortunate, and I feel a bit of a fraud being upset when I am already blessed.

Aww thanks! Do you know what though? I sometimes feel like a fraud as I have my lg too and I feel like people look at me and think why you whingeing you've already got one? But I don't think any loss should be written off as it's still a loss of a baby that you were excited for and planning for and now it's gone. Fingers crossed for you that you get some answers and your rainbow baby which you deserve as much as the rest of us do 😁

@miscarriage39
Don't feel like that your not a fraud at all just cause u have 2 does nt mean you can't have anymore, 💚

Totally agree girls don't feel tricked into feeling like that, the minute you see that second line you become a mum of 2,3,4 you planned a future with that baby your feelings are valid x

Been so bad at catching up here - been trying to take a step back tbh from obsession (doesnt really work haha)

I am 13dpo and feel the period coming and had a bit of beige discharge which is the start of the spotting for me. Ofcourse I am always hopefull that I will be one of the fertile after miscarriages kinda person but not this time!

@babyghirl is AF on the way out?

@miscarriage39 @kiwi17 its totally valid whether you are childless or have children already - a loss is a loss ❤❤

@justwant2beamum how are you?

@kiwi17 I think a relaxed approach will be good for a few more month for you :)

I am having another progesterone check this month at GPs - will call them when I have ovulated and then book in a time on 7dpo. Does mean I will use LH strips this month to pinpoint ovulation so that I know for sure.

@Annny27
It's just spotting nw cd4 for me lol periods r awful lite gs 💚

Thanks everyone. When I was half way through the failed the failed medication management one of the doctors asked if I had children then told me that the experience wasn’t half as bad for me as for women who didn’t have children. I get what she meant, and I totally appreciate that the longing for a baby when you don’t have one must be so painful, but it’s left me feeling bad for being upset about our loss. I know it’s stupid.

Annny27 I hope the progesterone tests are helpful. Sorry it looks like AF is arriving, but you’re not out just yet.

@miscarriage39
My losses aren't anymore harder than yous a loss is a loss no matter what it's still a longed for and planned baby so sorry the doc said that to you 💚

Hello everyone. I hope it it ok to join your thread. I am 35 and have just early miscarried for the second time in a row whilst trying for my first child. Feeling a bit deflated but hoping that being part of a group of others that have experienced the same thing will help. You all sound like amazing positive people and that’s so great.

@HHMA
welcome to the group so sorry you find yourself with us but glad you found us for support miscarriages r awful esp when you keep having them, I have had 4 miscarriages trying for my first baby but now I am with the rmc and getting progesterone on my nxt bfp so hoping that helps have you asked your doc to referre you for tests 💚

Thank you for responding to my post, I am so sorry that you have had to go through this 4 times but am glad you have a plan in place for your next bfp. I haven’t asked the doc for any tests yet as I am scared they will just tell me I am being silly. If you don’t mind me asking, at what stage did you have tests etc done? Thanks again

@HHMA Welcome to the thread and I'm so sorry for your losses.

@Miscarriage39 That's a terrible thing for the doctor to have said to you. Sometimes people can be so bloody insensitive. A loss is a loss. I'm lucky to have two wonderful children but it doesn't make the pain any less when I lose one of their much wanted siblings!

Not much to report here. I've started taking my higher dose vitamin D. Pretty sure we missed ovulation this month. I don't track but had a few signs that it might be happening just as DP started to feel poorly with covid symptoms! Thankfully his test came back negative and he's feeling better now but think that's us out for this month.