. 🦕 Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 6 🦕

[Annny27]

Hi ladies! The dinosaurs are around plus a few newer ladies too :)

@justwant2beamum
You norm ovulate 24 to 36 hours after your peak so I say Monday would be a better call for your bloods to be done have you got a wlk in blood clinic at weekends 💚

Well that's me out for another month :( bang on time my 3 day spotting pre af has started as apparently that's my new normal post mc. Gutted, fed up and frustrated as we literally couldn't have done any more this month to make it work. What's making it more frustrating is that my friend is due end of June so I'm not even going to be pg when she gives birth let alone due similar times like we thought. She's literally grown a baby in the 9 months it's taken me to fail, get pg, have a mc and then fail again 3 more times 😢 I'm also feeling like this supposed 'more fertile 3 months after mc' thing is a myth - if I can't get pregnant when I'm supposedly 'more fertile' what luck will I have normally?? Sorry rant over I'll go cry in a corner now! Dh has gone away for a marathon in the lake district today so I haven't even told him yet as don't want it to ruin that for him so am just sat here hating myself :( please tell me someone else on the tww has better news?!

@kiwi17
Awk sorry the witch is on its way for you it's shit mine just around the corner to so virtual hugs from me, I don't believe your more fertile after a miscarriage either we'll I know I'm not been 5 months from my last one and no sign for me either but please don't hate yourself it will happen just have a nice bath and open a bottle of wine tonight and restart tomorrow 💚

Thanks @Babyghirl I'm trying to stay positive by reminding myself it would have been due in Feb and my little girls birthday is Feb and I didn't ever want 2 in the same month but it's hard to find the positives really! I have however bought myself a can of pre made pimms so once she's in bed I will be enjoying that with some trashing tv 😂 you sure you're out? I always find it's hardest on the cycles where I really honestly thought it had worked like I've had symptoms I had with my pg cycle and everything 🙄

@kiwi17
I tell myself I'm out to make it easier on myself but yea I think so got the pre period yak feeling in my stomach like cramps on and of but nt cramps if u get me lol that sounds messed up when I read it bck 😂😂😂😂😂😂 but have a wee drink chin up we got this girl xx

@Babyghirl I feel that way myself actually - feel like there isn't much point getting my hopes up! On a different note does anyone have experience or knowledge of a short luteal phase? I seem to only have a 10 day l.p. which Dr Google says can cause mc and infertility so obviously I'm now panicking.. but because of the mc I'm now only on 3 months ttc instead of 9 months ttc so guessing my gp won't take me seriously...

@kiwi17
If u don't mind me asking what age r u and they should still count your mc and months ttc, but please stay of Dr Google its the worst thing u can do it will have you having a boil to cancer in 0.2 sec but they say spotting is nt counted at a period so your lp could be longer but phone your doc on Monday for an app but remember you have carryed a baby before and you will again beautiful ladies xx

Thanks @Babyghirl I'm 31 so I know I've still got a bit of time before they'll consider it an issue.. I didn't realise that the l.p. doesn't end with spotting? If that's the case then my actual period normally starts 3 days after spotting so should be a l.p. of 12/13 which I guess is more normal! Thanks for the reassurance 🤞🤞🤞 for us both!!

@kiwi17
Your period starts the first day of a full flow so try not to worry, but if I was you I would make an app with the doc maybe get you 21 day bloods done to c what they say 💚

Thanks @Babyghirl will see if I can get an appointment!

Well sat nite and I'm feeling sorry for myself hate life and what ever belongs to it, just not happy girls and really don't want to be breathing anymore I really need to listen to my own advice I give out hope everyone weekend is going better than mine maybe tomorrow will be a better day 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

Owh @Babyghirl I'm sorry you're feeling so down - you've been so helpful to me this evening! Chin up and definitely tomorrow will be a brand new day and a day closer to your rainbow 🌈🌈

@babyghirl ❤❤❤ I have been there at times during this journey (especially close to AF arrival and all the hormones!)

Cuddles those dogs and we are always here for a chat! It's a lonely horrible jealous sad journey:( xxx

@kiwi17
Thank you a lot better this morning just tired thou crap sleep roll on 5 o'clock to I finish work then off to Wed yeha 💚
@Annny27
It's a crap journey but I have pulled my big girl socks up it a brand new day and I'm feeling better but could sleep lol 💚

kiwi17 I’m sorry your spotting starting, and yes, it is especially cruel with your friend being due to so soon. Try not to get Goodwin about the whole ‘fertile after miscarriage’ thing. I said that to my GP and she said that while it can be true, she believes the body often chooses to do the healing it needs to, before another pregnancy happens. I know it is so hard, but maybe your body is building strength for the ‘perfect’ pregnancy. But, as Babyghirl says, so make an appointment with your GP. They may be willing to do the bloods and whatever else they can do, just to gauge where things are at. Big hugs though, as I know how hard this is!

Babyghirl I’m sorry you’re feeling so down. Can you make a special plan for Wednesday and do something really treaty on your day off?

I’m a bit all over the place. I had cramps etc during the week, so was convince AF would arrive on time. Was due Thursday and still nothing, but tests are negative. Feel a bit like my body is tormenting me. I’m also due my second dose of the vaccine today. I deliberately delayed it by a few days so I would categorically know one way or the other, and I still don’t. (Although I am pretty certain I’m not pregnant).

@babyghirl how many dpo are you now and has AF arrived?

@kiwi17 sorry af arrived :( I have had spotting since my miscarriage and its SO annoying

@ELM7 ahhh sorry she arrived too :( so frustrating when you spot any signs and stuff!

I dont know where I am atm in terms of dpo (I have a vague idea but trying to forgot haha) but 0 symptoms. I relaly think pregnacare or the vitamins within it is helping my PMS as I used to get awfully painful boobs after ovulation and I haven't for th past 2 months. I think maybe I have estrogen dominance and that's been helped by the vitamins! They feel a bit fuller but not sore

@Annny27
Due tomorrow I'm cd28 today no idea how many dpo as I don't track but I had right sided pain 14 days ago so I'm thinking that how many dpo I am so where around that anyway lol 💚

@miscarriage39
R body's can be cruel to us at the wrong times, did u do a test today I had no side effects with my second jab hopefully you won't either. Feeling a lot better today thankgod just tired in work to 5 out washing my car to try get the day in lol 💚

@kiwi17 sorry AF got you and @Babyghirl sorry you were having a shitty night. This journey is so hard and you've been through so much, but try keep your chin up. Easier said than done I know! X

@justwant2beamum
Just home from work having a lazy nite nice bath Chinese and bed to watch a movie if I stay awake long enough lol 💚 x

Thanks everyone - it's all so crap isn't it? I think I will try and get an apt with the gp if only to chat things through if they'll let me as our gp seems to be incredibly hard to get a face to face appointment with these days! I'm trying to be optimistic about it and look forward but I've only just told dh now he's home from his race and so he's understandably gutted about it which is then making me waiver again. Argh it's all so frustrating. Fingers crossed your right @Miscarriage39 🤞 and that my body is just getting healthy again. Will you test again to double check? @Babyghirl hope you're feeling better now and get a better night I slept awfully too! No idea why 😖

I hope you are enjoying your lazy evening
Babyghirl.

Kiwi17, I think I’ll buy a better test tomorrow if AF hasn’t arrived, just to be sure (I’ve been using the strips that came with the ovulation test strips.)

Oh fingers crossed for you @Miscarriage39 🤞🤞 I really hope it's a positive!!

Thanks Kiwi17. I really don’t think it will be, but the slight possibility is driving me mad. I’d be testing more to remove that thought.
How are you feeling about things today?

@kiwi17
@miscarriage39
Ended up taking myself for a wlk set by this lake for an hour to clear the head was amazing just listening to the birds churbing away 💚