All aboard Minster's Ovulation Tea Party Bus - TTC away from cat poo Bus 38

[Minster2012]

I hereby invite you all to Minster’s First ever Eggy Tea Party...🥖🍍🍔🍦🍰🍫🧁held to celebrate the even slightest whiff of an Easter Ovulatory event...

Don’t fear Boris, it will be outside, socially distanced at various points of the UK & Ireland (other parts of the globe may attend), whatever the 🌞❄️⛄️we are up for it & often the sperm & 🥚stay apart at our gatherings too, even though we don’t want them too 🤣.

It’s a bring your own event, private chefs & hello fresh/gousto boxes may attend, pics of your offerings encouraged...🥦🌽🌮🥘🍝🍻🍹🍸🧉🍾☕️🍵🧃🥤🧋

Get your glad rags on ladies Cos we are having a party 💃🏼👯‍♀️👫& we can go OUT now! (Well we are done with stopping in aren’t we?)

This bus is the one where TTC happens in many different forms, shagging conventionally, unconventionally, with the help of scientific intervention, IUI/ICSI/Clomid/IVF & even just watching from the top of the bus 👀. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been trying for days, weeks, months or like some of us we’ve been around each other for so long we can’t bear to leave, nothing is TMI and there’s never a silly question...

Hell we KNOW TTC is tough, lots of us have had heart ache & are chasing 🌈so we are there for each other, as well as trying to have laughs along the way 🥰☺️

Oh and we like an embarrassing story to get your ticket for entry please!

And if you see mention of my blog then blame these guys they made me do it...#shamelessplug

minstermusings.co.uk for the blog that’s where the full stuff happens too explain my weird story & minstermusings on insta - some of our ladies have made special anonymous accounts so we can link up via me 🥰
If you want to sign up & get updates please do, please note your username if you comment shows up to others so maybe make it anonymous I won’t be offended 😂🤣(unless you are mean)

Story so far...

June 24 BFPs
July 11 BFPs
August 18 BFPs
Sep 4 BFPs
Oct 7 BFPs
Nov 7 BFPs
Dec 14 BFPs
jan 7 BFPs
February 8 BFPs
March 5 BFPs

What will April bring? 🐣

Hi everyone, thanks for all of your kind words, I am now coming out of the other side. Still wobbly emotionally but have passed more or less everything and bleeding is slowing down. I have developed a weird blister on my stomach though which has me freaking out about immune disorders etc. Sent message to my GP but pretty sure they will just say it is in my head and I am anxious after the mc.

Seeing as I am no longer pregnant I went ahead and had my second covid jab today so ready to get out and about, and have more distractions during future 2wws. Trying to decide whether to jump straight back in or not. I think I will but would rather I could get some basic investigations first if possible. I know this is unlikely with the NHS though, can’t believe they make women go through it 3 times before looking into it. Hoping the study saying that women who fall pregnant within 6 months of miscarriage are more likely to have a successful pregnancy is true and can catch quickly again.

Pregnancy has almost lost its appeal in a way, I’m pretty sure I will be more terrified than excited if I do fall pregnant again. Any others who have miscarried feel the same?

So OPK’s and fertility lube at the ready, jumping on board for another round hoping for a short (and final) trip on the TTC bus.

Welcome to any newbies, I’m not normally this down in the dumps. Hoping to regain my sense of humour shortly!

@Haiyaa glad you're feeling a little better. How far along were you? I've had 2 chemicals since January 2020 and I'm definitely not going to enjoy the first trimester of pregnancy if it ever happens again for me because of them as I know I'm just going to expect it to happen again. Mines were both between 4 and 5 weeks. It really sucks. I tried straight away again but I wasn't tracking BBT or anything at the time so I don't know if my cycle was normal and ovulation happened afterwards. It's been 9 months since my last chemical now.

@Minster2012 jealous of the beach day out 😍 we've been getting a mix of sun and snow up here in Glasgow today.

@InkyPaper can you do a trial run to see where the SA hospital drop off area is? Completely get the anxiety of getting it in within the hour. I've got a map for our hospital and the andrology drop off is at the pathology building so thankfully it should be easy to locate when the time comes to drop off the SA... in June 😭

@2020mission I was just 6 weeks so not very far along but I definitely passed what looked like a sac (sorry if tmi). When I did my line progression the Femometer strips were really slow to get darker which made me think maybe blighted ovum until this stupid blister came up right on my stomach.

We went for a beach walk yesterday, weather not as nice as near you @Minster2012 but we did stop for fish and chips (plus battered gherkin) afterwards and ate it in the car, DD was over the moon. For some reason she is obsessed with eating in the car.

Whoop @Dollybird89 8 day AF is excellent news!!

@MartyMcShy oh I do hate the 'just relax' advice though - erm, fuck off, if I could, I would!! Although I do agree with @DKDK123 that it affects your hormones. I get mega hives over pretty much nothing when stressed although decided not to be stressed anymore (has worked for the last 12 months) - I read about chronic stress which resonated with me.

@pennysays maybe ovulation is on the way? Just keep shagging and hope for the best?!

Was just trying to catch up and mind was boggling at your vagina cave @Minster2012!

@InkyPaper some hospitals publish maps of where everything is, maybe worth looking to see if you can find one to alleviate one stress?

@Haiyaa I didn't really feel excited when pregnant with DS after a previous MMC. It does take some of the magic away but at the same time I was so relieved to be pregnant again! It took me 5 months of proper trying after my MMC settled down to conceive again. I'm pleased your starting to feel more yourself though

I'm having a weird day. DH couldn't cum last night (I mean I did multiple times?!) and so now I'm worried that he doesn't find me attractive or that he thinks I'm a sex pest. I'm also worried that he's worried about it (knowing him he will just say he's ok and was just knackered - which he was!) but I'd hate for him to be worried about it.

Most of all I'm worried that he won't want sex tonight and we simply HAVE to as well haven't since Thurs and I have ovulated yesterdayish. Argh! So basically yes I'm worried.

Need to talk to DH about it but not had a chance to get today.

@Haiyaa it's all awful, however along you are there's no nice MC sending you lots and lots of big hugs, and pleased youve been able to get out and enjoy the beach walks pleased you are coming out the other side. Battered gherkin, god I LOVE a gherkin!! What tests are you thinking of? Genuinely can't believe it was snowing earlier, still flurries at around 12 then beautiful sunshine! Bizarre @2020mission it's crazy 🤣but loving it! So pleased I don't feel crap but I did dose myself up on paracetamol for 24 hours and baby aspirin

@Franklydear love that thread! Family holidays 🤣😂yes I Always need a break afterwards 😝

@InkyPaper I get worried going to hospitals I don't know. I hate not knowing wearing I'm going or parking

Ladies my boobs are massive. Not a symptom spot, just a statement of fact 🤪

That’s really tough @larrythelizard, sometimes I think it is the pressure especially if they know it is the most important time of the month. I don’t think he doesn’t find you attractive! Maybe with your health scare he is just more worried about what might happen as pregnancy is such a risky time anyway?

I am hoping I have solved the blister mystery as well. Although I am embarrassed as I have already messaged my GP. These last few nights I have been going to bed with a hot water bottle and as I don’t need to be over cautious I have been having them scalding hot. Pretty sure I have burnt myself 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’m not a stupid person generally but will readily admit I have next to no common sense!

@Minster2012 mainly looking at my immune system (I’ve suffered badly with sinus pain for the last year and can’t get into ENT), worried I might be “overstimulated” and maybe to look specifically at antiphospholipid antibodies although realistically I could just start myself on aspirin but that feels a bit wrong without knowing I actually have a problem.

@Haiyaa só glad you are starting to feel better, I am too worried about being pregnant again, also 5 months from MC here too and nothing has happened yet, one step at a time, first recover, then TTC, will worry about pregnancy when the time comes

@Haiyaa well you can always message the GP back and say it's fine it's all sorted? And glad you worked it out and I'm sure you know the best creams for it 😊

@larrythelizard I echo @Haiyaa it's tough sometimes but NO WAY will it be Cos he finds you unattractive. My DH couldn't finish on the last time we tried & I felt exactly the same like a pest Cos I had so many high fertility smiles we were DTD every other day by the time it got to peak I basically raped him 😬but I knew that was the important bit yet we have sooo much sex it's never an issue usually. So I think it's much more to do with the pressure. Not sure what the remedy is though 🤔

Thanks @Haiyaa and @Minster2012 - I tend not to talk to him about ovulation and peak and stuff because I don't want him to feel the pressure. I think I'm mainly worried as I feel we NEED to DTD tonight and he may not want to!

I do feel the need to check in that he still wants to be TTCing as he's been very slightly weird about my day 21 bloods, or maybe I'm just imagining it??

@larrythelizard our problem was also pressure on knowing ovulation day, so now I tell him once I think it's past, until then he knows is coming but not when, it seems to help, he does want to know and be aware of the tww

The 🦐 gang

Thanks @Franklydear I think we need to work out what he does and doesn't want to know. His communication is generally rubbish (mine too but I'm working on it) so I fear it'll be like pulling teeth. Would all be W complete non-issue if I wasn't desperate to DTD tonight!

@larrythelizard same here, only got a reaction when I said maybe it was time to stop, he e said no way, but hadn't express many thoughts on it before that

@InkyPaper, I can totally relate to that! I'm such a stress head. I think I've passed some of my stress into my dh too, poor guy.

I'm lucky that nobody has said that to me @larrythelizard coz it would push me over the edge. My dh has had the same issue the past few months. Never had it before but the pressure of ttc has caused it. He's already nervous about this month. I don't tell him anything anymore but he still knows. I found it really difficult too and was made worse by some other things I was going through re my self esteem and image. My dh isn't the best communicator either but I know he loves me and my issues are mine. He hates the fact it upsets me and that makes it worse for him so now if it does happen I don't make a big deal of it and he's fine the next time. Whoa that was long winded, sorry!

@Haiyaa, big hugs to you.

@pennysays...and this is why I hate opks. I got a false peak the last time on my advanced cb so didn't bother last month. I find them so stressful. I tend to go more by cm and horniness these days...scientific I know 🤣

@Dollybird89, I hope you get answers at your appt x It makes me so cross to see women dismissed or made feel like it's in their head when if it was something to do with men it would be sorted straight away. Women know so much about their own bodies but it's usually just ignored.

@InkyPaper our hospital has a map online showing you floors and departments etc and also the car parks. It's terrible to park though so I drove and just dropped DH off by the door he needed. Then I drove (you can't stop there) away and just waited where I could and he texted when he was coming out again. Literally he only had to sign it over, so it was pretty quick. We did that both times as it was just easier and made it quicker than wasting more time parking. Don't forget to not let it get cold!

@larrythelizard I think most men have the odd occasions where that happens and even more so with the pressure of TTC so don't blame it on you it definitely won't be! Like @Franklydear I purposely don't tell my husband when I think it's ovulation day but he's kind of aware that we need to be DTD at least every other day from when AF ends so he knows but doesn't know when it's crucial 😅 I know it's better to DTD as close to ovulation as you can but you've DTD Thursday so you're not out even if it doesn't happen tonight as they can survive in there for a few days.

@MartyMcShy interesting what your doctor said. @InkyPaper you sound like me, I get stressed about being stressed 😂 I'm naturally a bit of a stress head tbh, I think I'm going to try reflexology. Anyone tried it?

@Haiyaa really glad to hear you're feeling ok as you can do 💕 I'm on that page with feelings about falling pregnant, I know I'll be a complete mess probably for the duration if it happens . Miscarriage really toys with your emotions.

@larrythelizard that's tough with DH, it's happened a couple of times with my DH in this TTC journey, he's quite open and says he doesn't know why but I think it might just have been the pressure, not that I was putting him under any just probably putting himself under pressure. I've just said the day after ahhh it doesn't matter we'll go again and if it doesn't happen then it's fine (obvs you desperately need the swimmers but it's hard)

@Minster2012 yayy to the big knockers 🥳😉

DHs done bedtime tonight so I've had time for a long shower, shaved my legs, everything else, moisturised everywhere so I feel smooth as f*ck. Looking forward to some DH time 🍆 as he's been on call all week (always coincides with fertile week) barely seen him apart from a few quickies 😂 thinking he can't possibly get a call out as it's Monday tomorrow and things can wait and 19:55 and bam he's got one 🤦🏼‍♀️. Now feeling smooth and sorry for myself 😆

@bez91 oh no that's Sod's law!! I love that feeling of a nice clean shave and moisturise session I literally rub myself over him like ooooo am I smoooooth as a baby's??? 🤣😂 is he back yet?? Hope so!

See totally get you on the OV thing, obviously I'm slightly new to the game on that front and DH is actually interested and was asking me, and when mine went to static I actually whooped (having never ovulated before and probs still haven't but signs are looking good like big boobs!) but by that stage he was like thank god 🤣

Hi all, just trying to catch up on the thread. I should ovulating any day. Cannot wait to put away the designated pee pot and not use it twice a day.

@Minster2012 urgh no, he's just text me he'll be at least another hour so I think it's a gonner with his 73 hour working week wrapped up 😫 I wish my fertile week was at a more convenient time 🙈 hey the signs are good and that's a win (.)(.)

@Katiekattty yesss for ovulation! Get on that 🍆🤗🍆🙌🏻

@bez91 nooooooo maybe he can wake you up for some midnight sex a la @Dollybird89 & @Justanothercyster?! Send him a pic of sexy legs & say you might have to wake them up when you return but you promise you won't mind this time??

Oh @bez91 that's a bummer! One advantage of lockdown/work from home is that neither DH or I are travelling for work!

I'm a happier person today, as my rational brain realised, DH wasn't concerned about his failure on sat, he was just tired. And had sex last night so I feel like we've given it a good go this month.

So, 2 DPO and 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼 for a 10 day LP (or a BFP I guess!)

Morning, back to work, bus doesn't look busier than normal yet, snowing a bit, wtf?
@larrythelizard see? @bez91 middle of the night sex and back to sleep is great

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