Post Pill Party – The Garden Soiree

[TheHotelCalifornia]

Tables laden with high-end afternoon tea, beautiful bouquets of fresh flowers, and a string quartet playing softly in the background…it’s the Post Pill Party Garden Soiree! The girls have swapped their checked shirts for pastel dresses and it’s time to sit back and relax after a stressful few weeks (months…years!!)

Welcome to the 10th (!) post pill party thread for women who have recently come off the pill. Whether you’re struggling with an insanely long cycle or an insanely short cycle, your luteal phase is crazy short, your temps are all over the place, or you’re just feeling like if you see one more day of a damn flashing smiley you’re going to throw it out the window…we’re here for you. Perch yourself daintily in a chair and join us!

Ladies already at the soiree:

@juno231
@Kay00
@Moocher90
@Emmgrem
@Nellieee
@TheHotelCalifornia
@ams19
@chinchilly
@sperr
@crabette
@LauraT94
@TheDaydreamBelivers
@cams50
@robyn101
@abi555
@tillybabs
@MissC07
@minipilling
@glow92
@FlyingGiraffe
@Elsie2021
@Gracie2021
@Flowers222
@MancMama39
@firsttimemumm321
@mrsmacmc
@MintGreenLife
@Ttcin2021
@Melissaq94
@AllyCat31

Please tag anyone I’ve missed!

@TheHotelCalifornia thank you, you lovely woman

@TheDaydreamBelievers especially as people say you’re more fertile after a miscarriage...well not over here!! Someone has said ‘atleast you know you can get pregnant’ a few times 🙄 then the whole ‘atleast it happened early’ then I feel like I shouldn’t be upset about it 🤨 I’m abit more emotionally stable today though! Sounds great about being on the waiting list for therapy..sometimes a good cry and blurting it out does help.

@MissM94 I’m abit wierd as I wouldn’t wanna share a hot tub at all, all other peoples skin cells and sweat bubbling about 🤮 I just don’t like stuff like anyway, social distancing has been great for me because I’ve had a valid reason to tell people to get away from me 😂😂😂

@MissM94 agree with others on the hot tub front. Would depend on what she is using. But your colleague sounds rather insensitive and just wrong!

I am looking for some advise! I did a home 21 day progesterone test this cycle to check I was ovulating and just got the result today of 24.3nmol/L, they said it was inconclusive as to whether I ovulated as it is below 30. I obviously did ovulate but now I am panicking that is too low to support a pregnancy?! Anyone a progesterone expert 😅

@Flowers222 did you do it on cd21 or at 7dpo?

@TheDaydreamBelievers I'm glad you're getting some therapy in, it can be so helpful ❤️

What idiots are telling you at least you can get pregnant and at least it was early 🤣. Oh hey at least your child died at age 2 and not 4 - that would've been twice as bad - SAID NO ONE EVER. I'd have some choice words for whatever witch has been speaking to you 😅

@Juno231 I actually did it 8dpo because of the bank holiday

@Juno231 it was actually a really close friend who has repeatedly said those things, I don’t actually think she meant any malice by it, more of just a lack of understanding she’s had several healthy planned and unplanned pregnancies and never experienced and struggles or losses so I’m giving her the benefit of the doubt!

@Flowers222 try not to worry too much I read progesterone can fluctuate throughout the day

@ChinChilly yeah sounds like my super fertile friend who likes to point out that she can't believe her baby is X months old and there I am still trying... (she started trying 3 months after me) - no malice in it at all but such a stupid thing to say

@Flowers222 okay just checking - (8 is fine btw) - tbh I wouldn't worry until it's done properly. I just don't trust the home tests cause you never know how long it took for the sample to get to the lab and how much it deteriorated en route... it might be a good thing to use as a stick when calling the GP to request they do them now on the nhs instead?

@Juno231 these super fertile women just don’t understand, they also don’t get it when you start loosing your head over it!

@Flowers222 @Juno231 makes a good point, give your GP a call and see if they can run another test? They can check your HCG while they’re at it

@ChinChilly @Juno231 thanks both. I have calmed down a little now. I guess just because it was a little low at 8dpo doesn't mean it will stay low! I will have a chat with the doctor just for some reassurance.

@ChinChilly I am really sorry someone has said that to you! So unbelievably insensitive! No one can tell you how to feel and shouldn't try to spin a horrible experience as a good thing! 🙄

Maybe I am just being a bit over sensitive about it then cos I've been a moody cow for the past couple of days hahaha she's wearing a tampon.. yeah that woman is a very anti kid person so understandably comes out with lots of shit & has no idea that to be infertile would be the end of someone's world and to just be a bit kinder, literally scares me to death that that could be a possibility so really bothered me her saying that so casually 😅 anti kid people are weird, you can't just hate kids & not be arsed about people that want them just cos you chose not to have them for whatever reason! Strange behaviour

@MissM94 I get not wanting kids but I find it weird when child free people get so anti children? Like actively dislike them and don't want to be anywhere near them. Imagine saying that about old people?

@Flowers222 I’m pretty thick skinned most of the time so I just politely smile and nod my head!

@Juno231 @MissM94 I also get not wanting kids but those people who hate kids and think people shouldn’t have kids because of the environment...seriously 🤨

@ChinChilly I know! 😂 saying that kids ruin lives is my pet peeve!

@Juno231 that's what my step monster in law is like! She literally cringes when a kid goes to hug her, it's so strange and rude!

Ooh... your monster in law! Her reputation precedes her haha!

I think a lot of these negative and hurtful comments come from a place of ignorance, I think part of the problem is that women don't talk about their TTC conceive experiences... instead we hide away on these threads haha!

When/if I finally get pregnant I'm going to tell everyone that it wasn't easy, and that anyone who wants kids in the future needs to think about coming off the pill as early as possible.

Hi everyone,

Il also been a bit awol from the soirée. I’ve been trying to take a step back, reduce supplements etc. I genuinely don’t think it’ll happen for us without some kind of fertility treatment and it’s such a slow process between every appointment so nothing to report.

@Flowers222 huge congrats!! I’m sure your progesterone will keep increasing but no harm asking to double check.

@Juno231 the lap sounds pretty awful but glad your wounds are healing ok. When’s your next appointment?

@Kay00 sounds like your appointment was great. Must feel brilliant to get the ball rolling. I keep thinking about going private so maybe I should. You’re so right about people needing to be open about their journeys. I’ll do the same if it ever happens!

@MissM94 such an annoying comment from your coworker!! How rude. I wonder if the anti kid thing is a defence mechanism. Maybe she or other people who comment like that couldn’t get pregnant. I know how hard it bloody is!!

@cams50 lovely to hear from you! Where in your cycle are you now? Are you still tracking or dropped that too? My next appointment is 17th of June I think but I don't know what it's for so wouldn't be surprised if it got rescheduled.

@Kay00 I'll do the same - big announcement with how long it took and how difficult it's been. One of my old colleagues asked me the other week about kids and I was honest with her - her response was that omg it took her a year and why does no one talk about it?! Whereas I'd assumed she was a fertile unicorn all this time. Made me feel so much better to hear her admit she'd struggled too.

Evening ladies sorry I've been MIA things were getting on top of me. In a better headspace now and hope to stay there!

Cycle has returned since covid vaccine 💉 never been so glad to see lines on my OPK test strips. CD17 so not much a doing.

Finally had my ultrasound and up the foof scan today and to call GP in 7-10 days for results. Never seen the hospital so clean!

@Juno231 I hope your wounds are healing ok what a harrowing lap!

My outlaws have been outrageous again - nipping DH ear as he 'is 40 this year you know'

Thanks @Cams50 😊 I actually just spoke to the doctor. He said if I wasn't pregnant he would test it again as it is a little low, but as I am pregnant then I obviously ovulated and according to the NHS I am in the normal range for where I currently am 🤷🏻‍♀️ So feeling a little more reassured now I guess. Sorry it's been a slow process for you, must be frustrating!

@Kay00 I plan on being honest and open about how long it took, I only heard of friends getting pregnant quickly which just made me sure something was wrong with me and put on so much more stress and anxiety each month it didn't happen.

@Kay00 @Juno231 I will definitely tell people it wasn’t easy when/if i get pregnant, I don’t think miscarriage should be such a taboo thing either, i suppose sometimes struggling to conceive and miscarriage can just be abit too hard to talk about sometimes

@mrsmacmc did they give you any info there and then? Mine told me pretty much everything there and then she said I’ll get the full report from my GP though. I notices the hospital was super clean, although not the department you wanna be in when your struggling ttc...babies and pregnant women everywhere!

Oh yeah wierd thing my sonographer said ‘did you’re GP refer you for retained tissue from the MC’ I was like urmm nope it was pretty early mc and I’ve had 2 periods and negatives test since then but now you have me worried! She didn’t say anthing else 🤔

@ChinChilly My boss asked what my scan was for (think he assumed I was preggers as we need to show appt letters) I told him it was to check for alien interlopers 😆 Never seen him retreat as quick into his office 🤭

I didn't even think to ask while I was there 😫🙈 only random question was if I get pain in my pelvis 🤷‍♀️ only at ovulation and AF visiting. It was incredibly quiet at the hospital today as I had steadied myself to see bumps & babies ❤️

@mrsmacmc hilarious, I kinda like embarrassing men about women things, one of my male colleagues said a period was just ‘a little bit of blood once a month’ well he knows all about it now 😂

The flexi hours we were are perfect for apps like that, I just book myself out for a few hours and nobody even asks! Plus working at the council everything is overly politically correct so they’re probs not allowed to ask incase they offend me 😂

Fingers crossed for the results, sure everything is fine!

@Juno231 thank you! I’m in my ‘slow start to AF’ phase where I spot for ages in my short lp before proper AF. I’m still tracking but a lot less seriously like I don’t mind if I miss a day etc. My DH had his repeat SA last week so waiting for those results so we can finally (hopefully) be referred to the fertility specialist. Glad your appointment isn’t too long away. Do you think they’ll discuss IVF potentially or do you think that was meant for the other patient they mixed you up with? I totally agree about the announcement saying how hard it’s been!

@Flowers222 glad you’re reassured! I hope you have a really smooth pregnancy ❤️ Has it sunk in yet? Eek so exciting!

@ChinChilly it's great fun 🤭 thank you,
I'm hoping everything is OK, I did have a cyst on my left ovary years ago the size of a plum so hoping it's nothing to do with that ❤️

@Cams50 ugh slow start AF is frustrating ❤️