Post Pill Party – The Garden Soiree

[TheHotelCalifornia]

Tables laden with high-end afternoon tea, beautiful bouquets of fresh flowers, and a string quartet playing softly in the background…it’s the Post Pill Party Garden Soiree! The girls have swapped their checked shirts for pastel dresses and it’s time to sit back and relax after a stressful few weeks (months…years!!)

Welcome to the 10th (!) post pill party thread for women who have recently come off the pill. Whether you’re struggling with an insanely long cycle or an insanely short cycle, your luteal phase is crazy short, your temps are all over the place, or you’re just feeling like if you see one more day of a damn flashing smiley you’re going to throw it out the window…we’re here for you. Perch yourself daintily in a chair and join us!

Ladies already at the soiree:

@juno231
@Kay00
@Moocher90
@Emmgrem
@Nellieee
@TheHotelCalifornia
@ams19
@chinchilly
@sperr
@crabette
@LauraT94
@TheDaydreamBelivers
@cams50
@robyn101
@abi555
@tillybabs
@MissC07
@minipilling
@glow92
@FlyingGiraffe
@Elsie2021
@Gracie2021
@Flowers222
@MancMama39
@firsttimemumm321
@mrsmacmc
@MintGreenLife
@Ttcin2021
@Melissaq94
@AllyCat31

Please tag anyone I’ve missed!

AF is here so I'm cycle 17.

DH is excitedly building me my new egg chair he got me as a present so I haven't told him yet and I've got a lump in my throat, trying very much not to cry, but I needed to tell someone, so I've put it here.

I'll catch up on the last few messages in a little while.

@FlyingGiraffe I'm still here 👋. 4DPO and still tracking my BBT purely because I'm a lover of data. Got my lap on Tuesday and am currently in self isolation after the covid test I had done yesterday.

@Moocher90 I'm sorry your chart is being so unhelpful - I'm afraid I have nothing to add to the analysis other can wait and see 😅

@minipilling you only need to do it every other day so don't tire OH out unnecessarily in case you have 8 days of flashing smileys and he gives up before ovulation day!

@TheHotelCalifornia Hi! 🖐 I was wondering how you were getting on! (Along with @Flowers222 @Gracie2021 @Kay00 @Juno231 @TheDaydreamBelievers @Cams50 and others!) My fingers are tightly crossed that the soy works its magic and you ovulate earlier this cycle! 🤞 What day was it last cycle again? Any other signs like watery cm? I'm not too bad with the tww...yet! I think it's better when I'm in work and preoccupied with that but I hate the fear of seeing blood in my tww as it usually starts so early (like 7dpo!) And then I'm never sure if it's the start of AF or something else because my temps dont go down until I'm well into the proper thing! It's the head-f that gets me down! I never usually get to double figures to test. I wish af would start suddenly on 14dpo like it does for others! 😂

@ChinChilly I vote spike his food with Wellman! 😂 you might be saving him that visit to the GP! 🤣 what day are your bloods? Having seen your previous charts I'm pretty sure you're ovulating too! You have such a steep temp increase!

@Lovebug06 sending you hugs ❤ it's awful how long and unpredictable this journey can be. I'm sure it will happen though and you will get through this tough time xx

@Juno231 👋 How are you feeling about the lap now? Is DH going with you? Fingers crossed that the half hour/hour goes quick and you dont feel too bad after it 🤞 we'll be thinking of you! Hopefully it will help figure a few things out!

@FlyingGiraffe thankyou. I have been positive, the last few days I have even been positive about other things and not even anxious as usual. It's made no difference to how I feel right now. Positivity out the window.
Feel like my hearts gonna break

Oh @Lovebug06 I’m so sorry lovely, breaks my heart to read your message we all know exactly how you feel. It’s the absolute worst. Def go snd tell your DH, don’t bottle up your feelings. I felt so low for a good few days when I got AF but now time has passed and I feel better. I know that doesn’t help though 😔 but I honestly know how you feel abs it’s shit. And you absolutely need to let yourself feel shit. remind me have you gone to your GP? I hope you’ve got some chocolate and wine you can have tonight ❤️ Sending you so so much love and we’re all here for you if you want to discuss a plan of action for this cycle or even just complain about how crap it all is xxxx

@Juno231 just tested again and now it's just a blank circle :/ does that mean I haven't ovulated? It felt like I did (pain etc). So currently on CD13. Negative OPKs on day 8 and 9, flashing smiley on 10, 11, 12. DTD on those days! Will be gutted if I missed something. My period tracker app suggests I ovulated on day 11 by previous calculations (I tend to ovulate this early).

@FlyingGiraffe really, why are men such babies 😂 yeah i always seem to have a temp shift so I’m fairly certain its happening, I think my TSH is playing apart to be honest or we’ve just not been lucky yet!

@Lovebug06 sorry AF has arrived, eat your own body weight in chocolate! Sorry I can’t remember have you been to your GP yet?

@FlyingGiraffe thanks for checking in! Nothing much to report. CD16 here. Don’t think I’ve ovulated yet but we have to abstain for a few days because of DH’s repeat SA plus it’s my 30th this weekend so I’m just going to drink and get in a hot tub so I feel this month is a write off. To be honest I feel every month is a write off 😂 I feel like it won’t happen for us without help but then other days I feel super hopeful so just keep going I guess. Got everything crossed for you that you don’t get any spotting. I totally relate on the confusing lp bleeding. Hoping this is your month 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

@Lovebug06 so sorry about AF 😔 as the other ladies have said, we totally understand and please feel free to vent/ rant. It’s so shit. A colleague of mine announced her pregnancy today on social media and she got married last summer same as me. Take care of yourself. At least you’ve got your DH’s SA coming up so the ball is rolling ❤️❤️❤️

@FlyingGiraffe very sweet of you to check in! CD45 here and nothing happening

My chart is on the up again... will see what happens over the next few days.

@FlyingGiraffe thank you for checking in! I know I've gone very quiet for the last couple of weeks. I just needed to take a break from everything. Though this has been an odd cycle. Usually I ovulate cd29ish but this time looks like it happened cd16. I wasn't tracking anything thinking I had a couple of weeks when I noticed loads of EWCM. Did an OPK and it was positive. Temped for a couple of days and had a temp rise so looks like I'm 1dpo. Only difference this month is that I stopped taking pregnacare 🤷🏻‍♀️

Hope everyone is getting on ok!

@Flowers222 lovely to hear from you! And glad you're ok 😊 That's amazing that its come forward so much after stopping Pregnacare! Although I'm sure I read about it making peoples cycles longer. Maybe you were one of the unlucky ones?!

@Moocher90 glad your temp has gone up! 🙂

@TheDaydreamBelievers 👋oh that's so rubbish. You're not taking pregnacare are you?! Fingers crossed you ovulate soon 🤞

@Cams50 I know you understand the lp frustration more than most! Thanks lovely ❤ happy 30th for this weekend! 🎂🥂🥳

@Lovebug06 hope you're feeling a bit better today 💛

I had a little bit of brownish cm this morning. Nothing since but it's started the messing with my head games again! I'm only cd6 so I'm just waiting for more...this isnt unusual for me unfortunately! 🙄😞

@TheHotelCalifornia thankyou for that lovely message it was really so so nice. I have been to the GP. My score was 46.5 for progesterone which I think is good, DH SA we are waiting for the results, I imagine it'll be fine as he has dc but you never know. So as soon as that's back I'll be ringing GP for the referral to the clinic, is that right? I think I'm a bit behind for how long I've been trying. I have stopped crying but I just feel so low today. I think because I was so positive about others things I really thought I'd be fine when AF arrived, then it came and it made me feel as terrible as ever. I don't feel annoyed or angry this time at the unfairness, I just feel defeated by it all.
@ChinChilly yes I have, waiting for DH results to come back at the moment, so hopefully we can get the the ball rolling a bit more very soon.
@Cams50 yes I'm glad his bit is done and just waiting for it to come back, then hopefully we can get some answers.
Sorry to hear if your feeling rubbish about your colleague. It's so tough putting on that excited smile, I genuinely am happy for others, but it's so hard for those of us trying and not getting anywhere. Lots of love xx

We were meant to go and sit in our friends garden yesterday evening but I told DH just before and was just in tears so he postponed. Then my friend turned up with flowers (he hadn't told them why but she knows a bit of what is going on) and sat in my garden with me. Had a good cry and a good laugh. Did me the world of good. Would have just had a miserable evening otherwise.

DH was very quiet and barely said a word about it. Made me feel a bit worried. He messaged today that he is finding it hard and is feeling bad about it (maybe as awaiting his results?) and that it's affecting him knowing how much its hurting me and he can't help. He told me the other day a couple of months ago he realised its really not happening now and has come out of the 'it'll just happen' mindset. He said he has felt likes he's failing and then he realised that's how I've felt the last 16 cycles and it's made him think and change..so that's good but also I don't want him to be sad lol. But I'm glad he's understanding it a bit more! X

Sorry for waffling on

@FlyingGiraffe thankyou ❤️ it's a new day.
Ah it's so annoying when it messes with you. The symptom spotting is so hard as most symptoms are symptoms for both. And mine personally seems to keep changing. Hopefully it means something good though!

@FlyingGiraffe I take pregnacare's ovulation support (basically myo-inositol) but not the generic conception vitamins. Other than that I take vitamin D, folic, and vitamin B complex

Hello ladies!

Sorry I have been away for a few days, life has become crazy busy; I have been prepping for my colonoscopy/gastroscopy on Weds, I'm now on a low fibre diet, and isolating after completing a 35K walk yesterday!

Oops... pressed send before I finished typing.

@Lovebug06 super sorry AF turned up again hopefully you get some answers from your tests soon. Good to see your progesterone was nice and high

I'm on CD10 so will start OPKs again soon I suppose. This month I started SOY ISO on CD3 but ditched them after I had a sleepless night of heart palpitations and headaches... they're just not worth it.

So this cycle im just taking Conceive+ Fertility support with Conceive+ Ovulation support and I managed to convince my OH to start taking a supplement, so he is taking Conceive + Motility support.

I have my first fertility clinic appointment on 6th May, so i'm gearing up for that. I probably won't have ovulated before then, but it would be nice if I ovulated this weekend coming as my OH and I will be on a little mini break in Cornwall

@Flowers222 funny you should say that i think my ovulation was pushed back a few days since I started seven seas 🤔

@Lovebug06 great that you’ve got the ball rolling, hope your feeling abit better this afternoon!

@Kay00 mini break sounds lovely!

Thanks @FlyingGiraffe I was definitely shocked to be ovulating so early! I read that too but didn't think it could be the problem for me

@ChinChilly it does seem odd. Maybe the seven seas tablets have delayed your ovulation a little. When I started taking pregnacare my cycles reduced from 75 days to 45 so I thought they were helping. Maybe it was just my body getting used to not being on the pill and they were delaying ovulation. I am just taking folic acid and conceive plus ovulation support now and will see what happens.

I’ve been quiet but lurking in the background, just caught up on all your messages and sending love to those who need it. Seems a lot of lows over the past few days, but we are all here to vent and lend and ear so really hoping you all get the answers you need soon. 🥰

I too have nothing to report. Just waiting on AF over the next few days, now I’m CD28. I’ve had major cramps, very much like period pain cramps the last 2 days and today I’ve been needing to poop (sorry TMI) more which is usual for my tummy around my period, so I feel she’s on her way. I just hope she comes before the 42 day cycle I waited last month for my first bleed post contraception. I did ovulate CD15 though first month after I had my AF off the patch, so I’m still giving it until the end of this week. My money is pegged on Wednesday which would make it a nice round 30 day cycle but as we all know, Mother Nature is a cruel mistress and likes to keep us guessing so who knows! I’m eating the place out of house and home though this week so need anything that can curb that hunger! Hahaha.

@Kay00 thanks, looking forward to getting closer to answers...
Heart palpatations and headaches, I don't blame you for stopping them!
I so hope you ovulate when your in Cornwall! I hope your not to nervous about you app, its good it's happening soon.
@ChinChilly thankyou, I am ❤️
@chillysT I hope AF doesn't come. Ah mother nature is bloody cruel. I mean who puts period and pregnancy as the same symptoms! And waiting it out is horrible, hope your okay and the next few days aren't too bad for you.

Hello all. Sending much love to those that need it.

Well, I've been lurking quietly as I've nothing much to report. Am CD93 after coming off the pill. I would never have believed it! I'm fit and healthy. Or so I thought! I have good and bad days but am trying not to let it consume me.

Last time I posted, I said I was getting fairly dark OPKs. I then did a CB digital and got a proper smiley face! I actually cried and did a little dance. I've read that you can still get a smiley and not ovulate but I'm hoping I've had enough bad luck already with the post-pill problems. So let's hope my body has kick started itself.

We DTD the morning of the smiley, and a couple of days before that, but then nothing for 4 days after the smiley. DP had man-flu and my seduction techniques fell flat. I'm still trying to maintain the illusion of spontaneity even if I'm secretly reading everything going so I stopped short of jumping him.

So I guess this is what they call the 2ww. Perhaps I'll be one of the lucky ones and get a BFP, although to be honest, I'd be over the moon with AF. If it's neither of those, I'll be rather upset!

Have started fertility acupuncture and have spent a small fortune on zita west vitamins. I would rattle if you shook me.

So I shall keep you updated! I'll do the thyroid home test if nothing arrives in the next week or so and then start to bother my GP.

@Lovebug06 I actually realised I’m on CD29, after a total miscalculation. Oops! So that’s expecting her to come tomorrow then, rather than Wednesday. I too hope she doesn’t come, but I have period style cramping and massive fatigue this morning and tonight. Weirdly though I haven’t had tender breasts this time, they’re absolutely fine in comparison to my last cycle so tbh I can’t see it being a BFP unfortunately. Will obviously keep you all posted but all I want to do is sleep, eat and cry. You’re so right...For Mother Nature putting them both as the same symptoms needs to have a strong word with herself! On another note, I hope your egg chair is good! 😂 Sounds good that your progesterone levels were high and that OH is understanding your feelings a little more. It’s always helpful when the men get our emotions even just a little bit.

@Flowers222 I think it only delays mine by a couple of days and folic acid on its own makes me feel quite sick so I’m not sure whats best to do 🤔

@Lovebug06 glad you’re feeling better ❤️

I literally have no way of tracking this month, I can normally see what’s going on with my RHR but since I’m back in the gym I’m guessing its not that reliable 🙄