Post Pill Party – The Garden Soiree

[TheHotelCalifornia]

Tables laden with high-end afternoon tea, beautiful bouquets of fresh flowers, and a string quartet playing softly in the background…it’s the Post Pill Party Garden Soiree! The girls have swapped their checked shirts for pastel dresses and it’s time to sit back and relax after a stressful few weeks (months…years!!)

Welcome to the 10th (!) post pill party thread for women who have recently come off the pill. Whether you’re struggling with an insanely long cycle or an insanely short cycle, your luteal phase is crazy short, your temps are all over the place, or you’re just feeling like if you see one more day of a damn flashing smiley you’re going to throw it out the window…we’re here for you. Perch yourself daintily in a chair and join us!

Ladies already at the soiree:

@juno231
@Kay00
@Moocher90
@Emmgrem
@Nellieee
@TheHotelCalifornia
@ams19
@chinchilly
@sperr
@crabette
@LauraT94
@TheDaydreamBelivers
@cams50
@robyn101
@abi555
@tillybabs
@MissC07
@minipilling
@glow92
@FlyingGiraffe
@Elsie2021
@Gracie2021
@Flowers222
@MancMama39
@firsttimemumm321
@mrsmacmc
@MintGreenLife
@Ttcin2021
@Melissaq94
@AllyCat31

Please tag anyone I’ve missed!

Aaaand FF took the dotted crosshairs back off me. Of course.

Im so frustrated. Theres clearly something not right with my body - months and months of continually delayed or absent ovulation. I reckon we just got lucky the time I conceived (then unlucky to lose it).

@TheDaydreamBelievers sorry to hear that. Have you spoken with your GP? How long have you been trying now?

@Kay00 14 months - but that includes the pregnancy, which lasted 3mo. I know that isn't that long. Yeah, the GP has referred to the next steps (gynaecology) but I think its sitting at about a 6 month wait in this healthboard at the moment. Just have to bide my time! Just feeling frustrated with it today.

@Tillybabs So I’m using PreMom to record my OPK’s, and then FF for any symptoms and to log AF etc. Gonna continue and see if next month’s matches up to the previous month when my period started post pill etc, and hope she’s regular going forward now. The waiting game is fun! 🙈

@thedaydreambelievers 14 months is plenty long enough 😔

I tested today on a cheapy, BFN of course, but thought I should check. If AF doesn't arrive then I will assume my spotting was my period and it was just unusually light.

My first ever post on mumsnet....looking for some support and company

38yo TTC number 1
Been on microgynon continuously since I was about 19, except for about a year when I was about 34. In that year off, periods were regular. Wasn’t TTC then. Was just curious about my cycle and that year made me foolishly think all would be fine.

Finished last pill pack in Jan. Withdrawal bleed straight away and now CD83 and getting stressed.

For the first month after coming off the pill, I had the most horrendous hot flushes and night sweats. Luckily that has ended.

Had a few false starts with the OPKs but no properly dark lines. My BBT chart looks like random doodles so I’m giving up on that.

Feel like my body is trying to kick start but failing miserably.

I can see myself obsessing over this. Hard to stay sane! I do a preg test every couple of weeks. Nada. At least I can have guilt free G&Ts after each one.

Have acupuncture booked for next week and have ordered a whole load of home blood tests. Doubt the GP will be much help so my plan is to give it a few months and then pay for a private appointment. I’m not exactly a spring chicken!

I’m sure AF will turn up soon but I thought I’d write my story and do something productive rather than spend 3 hours googling fertility stuff each evening and getting no further forward. I feel like I need my iPad confiscated sometimes.

Thank you for listening. Feel better just typing that.

@Kay00 sorry about the bfn. Any sign of AF today?

@WhirlingD welcome! It’s so frustrating but I think it’s totally normally coming off the pill. We’ve had people get to CD145 or something like that! I think your body just needs to settle but it will get there ❤️ We’ve also all been there with the googling. Sounds like you’ve got a good plan in place.

@TheDaydreamBelievers sorry that it’s removed the cross hairs 😔 so frustrating. There’s too much waiting in this ttc business.

@whirlingD Welcome!! Unfortunately vvvvlong cycles are quite common coming off the pill. My advice is to have sex every 2 to 3 days if possible just to cover yourself as you could ovulate any day and still conceive. Hopefully future cycles will be a little more timely for you.

I'm CD14, AF usually turns up today. Last night I had the most horrendous period cramps (rolling around on the floor bad) and this morning my temperature jumped off a cliff, so just waiting for the monster to begin. Hoping its not a 9 day-er like last time 🙃

@WhirlingD welcome, the pill does do crazy things. I had weird symptoms when I came off it, for a bit, its like your having withdrawal symptoms or something!
@Kay00 I hope it doesn't come today ❤️ but mainly hope your feeling okay as I know the day can be horrible waiting.

I have to keep catching up. I find after AF comes and I'm over the upset and I feel okay, I kind of have a break from the baby stuff for a bit so I just dip in and out.. I'm now 7dpo so half way, this week has gone past quickly. I feel okay, apart from my boobs starting to get tender which is normal. I know anxiety will set in in a few days as I always absolutely hate the wait the days before. So I'll probably be on here a lot, be warned🤣 xx

@Cams50 it's back today! Toying with my ol' emotions, eh?

Further info on TTC/Pregnancy and the vaccine - now considered safe in pregnancy www.theguardian.com/world/2021/apr/16/pregnant-women-offered-covid-vaccine-uk

@lovebug06 nope, shes here in full flow now. And im living through some of the worst period cramps ever... ugh 😭🤮😖 whhhyyyy!!?? As if having a period wasn't bad enough??

I'm meant to be meeting friends in 45 mins for a pub lunch; my first social outing in ages and I could vomit the pain is so bad 😭

@Kay00 I'm so sorry AF is here and you feel rubbish. Hopefully seeing your friends might take your mind off feeling sick even if it's for a couple of hours.

So a massive shock for me, after ovulating at CD30+ for my last 3 cycles, I'd given up with using OPK's until later on each month. I did one on Monday but was blank, had a bit of a dodgy stomach this morning (tmi but I usually get them when I ovulate) so thought I'd do an OPK and it was Peak today at CD20!!! I know it doesn't mean anything will happen but I'm so happy I could cry 😂 I won't tell OH though, but luckily we DTD this morning pre OPK!! Sorry for rambling! Happy Saturday ladies! Hope you are all enjoying the sun ❤️

@WhirlingD Honesyly, I was exactly the same. I came off the patch mid February and spent the first couple weeks googling everything and convinced myself i was broken, without even giving my body a chance to kickstart. It took 6 weeks for me, so sorry you’re on a longer wait but as others have mentioned it can take so long for your body to readjust. Especially after being on the pill as your body has to readjust all its hormones. I know it feels like a forever wait but it will all return, be patient and keep reading through the threads. The first wait for AF is horrible but the day she turns up you’ll wonder what you worried about!

@Kay00 oh no sorry to hear that. Did you go to see your friends?
I hope your feeling okay today. Look after yourself ❤️
@missc07 that's great you got your high! Fingers crossed for you.
@TheDaydreamBelievers I want it but my issue is the actual place doing the jabs is saying no its against their guidelines so they won't give it to me!
I'm gonna ring again on Monday and bring up all the new news articles and try again.

@missC07 @lovebug06 thanks ladies. I'm home now and feeling much better after catching up with friends, a lovely walk, 3 x glasses of wine and a large slice of cake 😆

@missC07 yey!! Hopefully this is your ovulation 🥳🥳🥳

Even though I'm not convinced I'm in 2WW (because v unconvinced I actually ovulated), I am somehow convincing myself that the small spotting I've had today could be implantation... even though i know it's probably the spotting before short AF I had in my last annovulatory cycle 🙄🙄🙄 This TTC lark does make us nuts.

@Kay00 I'm sorry you had a tough day and were sore, glad you managed to get out anyway!

Bit the bullet and ordered an AMH blood test through Superdrug Doctor service, our trust doesn't do it and health insurance doesn't cover it. I'm 5 days late - sadly no sticky beans as PT have all came back stark white.

Beginning to wonder if my COVID vaccine has messed this cycle up as I bled for 14 days instead of my usual 8. OPK tests have been stark white too. If AF hasn't arrived by Wednesday I'll call GP and I'll be chasing hospital for scan as the surgery have now sent request through as urgent.

Impatiently waiting on cycle 13 starting. Annoyingly GP works to 12 calendar months rather than 12 cycles so will need to wait till next month to move forward with NHS referral. Even though I'm an 'old bird' at 35. Having to put off health insurance as need to pay for a filling now which 'due to COVID' needs to be done privately or wait 16 weeks for NHS appointment. Paranoid about waiting 16 weeks as my teeth are garbage.

Pass me the crisps!

@Kay00 wine and cake is the best tonic for the witch visiting! Hope you are cosied up too ❤️

Not much going on here! CD15 and still having flashing smileys on CB and last two days ewcm so I hope I ovulate fairly soon. My RHR is through the roof though so it’s very confusing not sure if it’s delayed ovulation slightly as I started my thyroid meds this cycle.

Afternoon ladies!

@MissC07 This is amazing news about your CD20 peak!! Hope you manage to jump OH today too Let us know if your temp goes up! Would love this to be an early ovulation for you!

@Kay00 Sorry AF turned up! Your day sounded lovely and just the thing to forget the period pains. Hope it's not as bad today for you?

@Moocher90 I'm one day behind you and getting flashing smileys too...my 5th one today! Hoping the peak comes soon for both of us!

@mrsmacmc How confusing. I have heard things about delayed periods after the vaccine so it could be that. Have you tried speaking to the GP? I'm also 35 and went to see them last month. We've been trying since last August and have a chemical in that time. She sent me for bloods straight away and I have already had a letter from the hospital about the referral. I think it depends which doctor you see because I was dismissed by another because of the chemical. It might be worth a go though?

@TheDaydreamBelievers This TTC stuff definitely messes with your head! I hate the TWW! My fingers are crossed that the spotting wasn't anything AF-related for you.

@WhirlingD Welcome! I think at 38, you maybe need to wait and try for 6 months before going to the GP. Obviously then there's the waiting list, but I don't think they'll dismiss you.. so unless you really want to go private to move things along faster, I think you'd be fine to ask for help! In the meantime, make sure you're taking your folic acid or maybe a ttc mutli-vitamin like Seven Seas and Vit D. I hope AF turns up for you soon

I have a hungover DH so no BD for me today! The Clearblue opks are flashing still so at least it's not peak! Hope everyone is enjoying a bit of sunshine today!

I’ve been taking soy iso for five days and actually got a faint LH line today on CD7. I’m tracking temp and I’ll do more OPKs over the week. I don’t think my actual peak will be for another 5-7days BUT last month I didn’t ovulate till CD35 so I am much happier. At least I don’t need to wait ages at the start of every cycle 😊

Thank you all for your support. It’s nice not to feel alone in all this business.

@FlyingGiraffe oh that’s good news about only having to wait 6 months. I’m taking all the recommended vits.

@Kay00 @Lovebug06 my acupuncturist thought the same, ie withdrawal symptoms. What annoys me is that I told the GP countless times that I wanted to have children soon and they assured me (multiple times!) that there are no after effects of the pill. Garbage! I would have stopped much earlier otherwise.

Today I got a little bit of EWCM and a fairly dark OPK. But I’ve had all this before so I’m not getting my hopes up. Perhaps I’ll try the BBT charting again to see if anything has happened, although I doubt it.

How many times per day should you POAS to catch a peak? I’ve only been doing once a day so far but perhaps I need to up that when I get a line?

Survived a garden soirée with the outlaws this afternoon. Mentally draining and got chilled to the bone.

Brain can't concentrate on uni assignment which is stressing me out slightly. It's not due till 13th May and I've got a session assessment on Tuesday morning along with being back in the office for a 'team day' tomorrow. Urgh!

@FlyingGiraffe it's very confusing! I've yellow carded twice now as had picked up mutterings regarding vaccine and periods. Saw the GP beginning of March and she was adamant that even though I'm 35 we need to wait the full calendar year - must be local trust guidelines. I reckon I've had a chemical back in November - hindsight is a wonderful thing but because I hadn't notified GP at the time they won't take it into account 🤷‍♀️. Going to contact them on Wednesday and request a catch up appointment. Had a horrendous headache yday which is normal for me just before the witch visits so will see if anything appears, at least it would let me reset for next cycle 😆

LoD tonight so a wee disco nap to make sure I'm able to follow the episode tonight.

Hey hey ladies happy Monday 🙄
Can I join? Off the pill a month (nearly) and nothing happening.... using opk but apart from 11 days of smiley faces I’ve nothing going on except bloating, sore boobs and the odd cramp!! I need positive vibes 😢😢 xx

@Springflower3 welcome - you've come to the right place! Although frustrating, I think it's really positive you're getting oestrogen surges already! Your body is definitely trying to set itself up for ovulation at least :) Fingers crossed it gets the hang of it soon.

Sorry I'm being quiet ladies - I just don't have much to report as we're not TTC this cycle. I'm CD13 so potentially ovulating today if it's the same as the last two cycles.

Got my first ever covid test on Sat ahead of the surgery, and a pre assessment appointment over the phone on Wed. The latter is a bit weird as usually a pre op assessment would involve blood tests and things like weighing me etc. I guess they might leave the physical stuff to do on the day? The lap itself is next Tuesday at 7am. Getting a little bit nervous about it all - even the covid test!