TTC 35+ Thread 8

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New thread ladies! Hope this works! 😃

@Kitekat81
Yes I have had those thoughts but they don't last long. Different for me because I have 2 children already and id have another 2 if I could 🤣 i don't do lie ins and we have had romantic holidays about 10years ago , still had the odd weekend but pre covid. If i went away for a week with my husband we would have run out of things to say after 24 hrs 😂😂
Don't stop trying .... you will get there 🙏xx

@Sleeeeeepy and @Kitekat81 I’ve been having these feelings this month too. Is all this really worth it? Should I be putting my life on hold waiting for a baby to happen? Is this the right thing? Should I just embrace my future and live a lovely life without stress and childcare bills? But I know it’s because this month has been particularly difficult with life events! I’ll be back pining for a baby in no time I’m sure of it!!! But I am 💯 trying until December then moving on if hasn’t happened!

Happy Easter, ladies. I booked a week away in a converted barn on a farm in Cornwall this week so we can see some family and have a break, so I am really looking forward to that in July. So sick of my 1 mile radius of London right now lol. I have no idea what will be happening by July for ttc but eh, whatever, I’m leaving London for a week or two either way.

Yeah @Kitekat81. I just don’t know how this will all go, which I hate. I wish I could know it would work and make plans, but the worst bit is being in limbo, like at a crossroads where you don’t know what your future holds yet. It’s frustrating. I wish we had it easier in ttc terms, I really do 😔

Fingers crossed for @Feanorous!

Happy Easter lovelies!
@Loladoodle I'm with you, we've DTD this month but generally, we're just getting on with life and don't think of it too much. Something upset me this morning - I had an awful feeling that my ex's partner could be pregnant. OH said not to worry about it; 'yes it would be nice' he said, 'but what's wrong with each other's company?' 😌
Plus next doors cat seems to have adopted us, so she's keeping us busy as it is 😂😂

@Sleeeeeepy I don’t know why but I’ve relaxed significantly after just 3 months of ttc. I’m feeling more robust within about this whole thing. I still want it badly and will give it my best shot but if it doesn’t happen, the future wouldn’t seem so grim or dark anymore. It will be what it will be 🙏🏻

@thislittlebird enjoy your holiday, that sounds like a great plan. A much needed break away! Yes the limbo is the worst part.

@Kitekat81 I love babies (my niece and nephew are a piece of my heart)! They’re so adorable. But teenagers, that’s another story and it comes with a whole bagful of challenges and complexities.

AF should arrive today (CD26) according to my app but no sign yet. I’m so tempted to test...

@Loladoodle how old are you if you don’t mind me asking and how long ttc? (I may have asked you before but blame it on my memory) I know what you and @selina37 mean about getting on with life while ttc - basically trying while taking the pressure off. I feel I’m emotionally there as well but I’m still at the start of my ttc journey (ttc only 3 months now) so for now will keep at it for an indefinite period of time and open to exploring assisted reproduction options if unsuccessful naturally this month.

It's good to know the way I'm feeling isn't unusual, though I'm really sorry it's happening to any of us. Thankyou for your support as ever you fab lot.

I have eaten so much today, the sun was out and spring is here. At least the world feels like it's opening up again no matter what happens with the ttc x

@feanorous how are you getting on? That looked like a promising line!

@twelvestars still hanging on in there? No period? When are you testing?!

I'm having a weird period, so light i basically haven't had to use a tampon. I felt so queasy yesterday that I ended up doing a test just to make sure I wasn't preggo and it was implantation bleeding, but snowy white bfn again. Sigh. Anyway, CD 4 and waiting to start opks.

Have a lovely Easter all xx

Happy Easter all! Just wanted to say on the teenager front - THEY ARE NOT FUN! 😂 they're mean, grumpy, strop bags that eat you out if house and home, use you like a taxi and have a toddler meltdown but with a lot more door slamming (and sometimes breaking) if they don't get their own way! Think kevin and Perry eating like they've not seen food for a week and staying up all night, sleeping all day! Just for reference I have two - 16yo boy with asd and adhd (the worst strop bag and most awkward one) an almost 15yo girl who although she is the easiest going can also throw the biggest strops when her own way is not had! Then my partner has two who live with their mum most of the time - 14yo boy with adhd who cries when he doesn't get his own way and bully's his little brother and 13yo boy who suffers really badly with health anxiety and panic attacks! They even make me question ttc but I know it's short lived compared to the rest, apart from maybe my son as he's a bit different but I wouldn't change any of them, much 😂 so yes the teenage part is definitely the worst!

@Twelvestars will you test or wait a few more days?

@Noodella18 sucks cause I like a bit of a heavy AF (I don’t know why though 🤣) and mine aren’t and never have been. The good part is you’re only a few days away from opks and dtd! But anyways any chance it’s a late implantation in your case?

@Marvellouslymadmum love the family dynamics there! You know, all I have to do is close my eyes and be transported back to when I was a teenager and that’s when I remember how difficult teenagers can be. It’s a critical phase of growing up cause you’re maturing and all those hormones are gushing through and all that teenage angst and coming into one’s own and one’s identity being shaped, etc... I miss being a teenager - the earliest phase of true self discovery. What about you ladies?

Honestly ladies I’m confused. I don’t wanna get my hopes up and I am treating this as an irregular period. I will try not to test until CD30 though I have a feeling AF will show up before then. Or should I before?

Confused.com 😅

@Twelvestars I'm the same, I can remember it like it was yesterday and loved being a teenager, my oh however although he loved evening a teenager and into his twenties seems to have this deluded memory that he was an absolute angel (apart from the stealing cars and being kicked out of school bit 🙄) apparently he never stayed up late or answered back/slammed a door or anything, though I've had some interesting chats with his sister that say otherwise 😂😂

As for the testing don't ask me, I'm usually pretty good at ignoring the symptoms that I've spotted and waiting until af but since my iron levels are now better my brain has forgotten the last three years and I'm symptom spotting like a trooper and of course consulting good ole google and even if I try to wait for af I've realised from looking at my temp charts that actually my Lp seems to change every month and can be 9-17 days long 🤯 so I wouldn't know when af is due anyway!

If you're tempted do it and just be prepared for a possible bfn I guess!

@Marvellouslymadmum Your OH seems like quite the character. I’ve done a whole lot of door slamming and answering back and speaking over and eye rolling and so on 😅 I feel bad in hindsight, most times my parents were right and had my best interests in mind. But a teenager will always be a teenager!

It’s hard not to symptom spot or pee on sticks! It becomes a way of life 😅 I agree with you especially now you’re feeling like something that was missing has been fixed and your body’s better prepared.

I’ll see how the next few days go and in any case, I have zero expectations except for a BFN! Need to protect my emotional well-being.

@Twelvestars he really is. He was just a bored teen back then but quickly turned things around way before I met him. I feel really bad when I think of how I was to my mum and dad when I was a teenager!

It's so hard not to symptom spot, I just keep trying to tell myself it's highly likely it wasn't just the iron that was wrong so I don't get too hopeful! I usually expect the bfn but still get upset when it's there or maybe more angry at myself for testing and having any kind of hope, who knows 🤷🏼‍♀️

@Marvellouslymadmum and @Twelvestars I think I liked being a teenager at the time but now I wouldn’t want to go back to it! So much peer pressure at that age plus I was really into the guys that treated me like dirt! When I look at groups of teenagers now I feel relief that I’m out of that stage (by a good few decades haha) Also social media...wow you have to develop a thick skin these days, so glad it wasn’t around until after I finished Uni!!

As for testing, I usually wait until day of missed period. I’ve been stung many times by symptom spotting so I’ve given up with that. Unfort as my cycle length varies from month to month and AF is often later than expected it’s always been a BFN so far 🙄
so I don’t test before AF often, I think only 3 times in 20 months of TTC!

Can’t remember who said they were binge watching the Office but the British version is my absolute fave prog of all time! 😄

Happy Easter Sunday everyone! I was scoffing my chocolate Lindt egg last night bought by my darling OH 🙂

I've made it to 10dpo without symptom spotting. It's because I have been so incredibly busy, and any possible symptoms I'd have regardless from being so busy. Only thing possibly connected, but equally not over thought is noticeable cm. 4 or 5 days to wait I guess

@Marvellouslymadmum I know exactly what you mean about OH thinking he was an angel 😇 🤣🤣

Happy Easter everyone, hoping to jump on this thread for some support and info. I'm 38 and on cycle #8 (I think) absolutely no luck so far and only had 1 positive OPK in all them months, I'm booked in for 21 days bloods a week on Monday. Anybody know what the process is from there? I've basically given up this month as losing hope a little and feel I've left it too late but never really wanted babies until 12 months ago. I just want to make plans and book holidays but can't as we don't don't know if we'll be pregnant or not, I stupidly thought I'd just take my implant out and bam I'd be preggers 🤣🤣

@Misty84 that's very true! It's a totally different world to when we were teenagers - no mobiles and internet was only used for email 😂

@climbershell that's what I'm usually like but for some reason this month has gone out the window!

@selina37 they are funny aren't they?

Hi @DNpink82 and welcome, I had the day 21 bloods and day 2-4 I then had to ask to be referred as they didn't show anything up (we've been ttc for 3 years) so now waiting for my referal for amh and afc scan but here the waiting list is loooooong so looking at going private as that's as far as we will get on nhs due to already having children from
Previous relationships but none together as well as the fact that I'm over the age limit here anyway!

@DNpink82 hello and welcome! 👋 Which OPK's are you using? I know some ladies on here have struggled with normal OPK'S but managed to get readings using the clear blue ones. I would say try not to put your life on hold as much as possible (I know that's easier said than done!) but you need to have things to look forward to that aren't related to ttc. If you do end up pregnant and also have a holiday booked, I would say that's a pretty nice problem to have! 😄

@Kitekat81 I've tried a few OPK's but settled with easy@home and premom app. Problem is we like Caribbean holidays and they still have Zika so can't if ttc/pregnant although holidays might not be an option this year anyway yet 🙄

@DNpink82 ah yeh that's a good point about Zika. We are just at the point of starting consultations with ivf clinics and one of them asked us to sign a declaration saying we hadn't been to a country with Zika in the last 6 months. Not been a problem in lockdown obviously but in normal times we would be hoping to go to Thailand in January/February, so not sure what we'll do when it comes to planning that for 2022 🤔

@Kitekat81 I don't even think it's a problem anymore but obviously they're being cautious. We were meant to be going to Bali last September then starting ttc in December, obviously that got cancelled so I had my implant out in August and went to Turkey in September, not quite the same lol 😂 Husband is 40 this year and wanted a special holiday but all the nice places have a Zika warning

@DNpink82 yeh to be honest if I was still hoping to conceive naturally I wouldn't be worrying about it as the risk is so low, I didn't give it a second thought when we were there in Jan 2020 and I was already off the pill at that point! But I wouldn't want to jeopardise our options when it comes to fertility treatments. Might have to be a bit creative / less ambitious with holiday destination choices for the next couple of years! 😄