Recent MC - New cycles & trying again Thread 2

[AMS19]

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A thread for all the amazing strong ladies who have recently experienced a mc/mmc but are braving it to try again! Fingers crossed for a lucky one for us 🍀

Hey @Ralala and @MSK1 another long cycle gal here. Sorry I’ve been away from the thread for a while as just needed a break but I’ve been keeping up with you all ❤️ Currently CD14 on our 3rd cycle post MC but 2nd cycle trying. Took soy iso this month and hoping it brings my ovulation forward, nothing yet but I ovulate so late that i need to try abs stay positive and just hope it will happen soon. Splurged on digital OPK and as soon as I get a flashing we’ll BD EOD I think and then lots when I get my peak! We BD every day last cycle and I got 15 days of flashing smileys!!! We were knackered and it wasn’t fun so want to avoid that. Sending everyone so much love and hope our new ladies are finding this thread supportive xxx

Sorry for the long cycles I hope you all get your rainbows soon. Yes to making plans this year now things are easing again making plans is the best thing to do . I'm pregnant again but if anything happens this time (hope it doesn't) I am going to try and relax again next time and maybe enjoy life and not let TTC take over although that's much easier said than done.

I do have a question though as i am sooo worried this time around and googling absolutely everything all day everyday. How dark should lines be 15dpo, my test line isn't as dark as my control line but scared they are not getting dark enough quick enough or am I still to early on and worrying over nothing. The photo attached. The 15dpo is taken this evening so possibly watered down after fluids all day. I just can't help overthink everything and worry something is going to go wrong

@wag1987 your lines looked fab. Especially 14dpo, so dark! I think your one today is a bit lighter cause you took it in the evening. Try to stick to FMU so you can see progression. They look great though

@TheHotelCalifornia I have absolutely everything crossed the soy kicks in and this is O week! Cd12 and blank opk for me, so waiting game. Going to sit on my hands and wait patiently...

@wag1987 your lines look great, and like AMS19 says its prob a bit lighter because its an evening test. Try to relax and enjoy, this is a new and different pregnancy!!

I’m cd23 and I think my AF is coming, had a bit of discoloured cm today so feeling a bit low, this journey is so hard.

Thank you @AMS19 , on google I had read people had better results in the evening that's why I did it but I will stick to FMU from now on.

@Jujujuberry I am trying to enjoy it but worried constantly fearing for the worst to happen.

What are your cycles like? Fingers crossed for you it is really hard I've had some pretty down days.

Thanks @wag1987 I feel like I have been low for almost 1 year now, after our first MC, Its just so tough to stay positive when the universe seems to not give you the one thing you want the most. My cycles are generally 24-26 days so I guess thats a good thing that its seems to be on time. Are you working in a job you like at the moment which will help distract you? Does gentle yoga help or meditation? Xx big hugs xx

@Jujujuberry sorry is AF does arrive. Are you tracking ovulation? I usually ovulate cd13-cd15 so am super grateful for short cycles like you. It means we did a shot at it every month which I know not a lot of ladies do! It's bloody tough, there is absolutely no denying it. But every day that passes is a day closer to our rainbow baby xx

@wag1987 lines look fine hun! I over obsessed last BFP cycle over lines, unfortunately it did end in mc but I didnt get as dark as line as yours in that cycle. First mc cycle my lines were super dark so it really doesnt go on darkness!

Going to be a tough week for me this week, reckon today I am 4wk6d/CD36, havent gotten past cd44 without miscarriage in the last year! Am still having sore boobs, a little bit of nausea at times but still having intermittent cramping etc so feeling a lot of stress and worry this week, just want this so so badly!

@AMS19 your so right and thank you for showing me the silver lining of this, short cycles can have their benefits :) I’m not tracking but we dtd usually every other day around cd 7-14. I had a wee cry this afternoon, because you always have that little bit of hope each month, and then when AF arrives it makes you feel so gutted. How are you going? Its nice to see you again, and I hope taking a break often from mumset is doing you the world of good 💓 xx

@Jujujuberry ❤❤

I'm doing good thanks. Definitely so good to step away from everything now and again. Even not religiously tracking every morning and missing the odd one or two helps. I'm cd13 today so hoping for a peak in next day or two 🙏 started DTD every day now just in case, but if there is nothing on an opk by Thursday will to back to every other. I feel weirdly so much more at peace with it this cycle. Watch, I won't ovulate this week and I'll throw my toys out my pram again though 😂😂

Hi ladies, good to see your updates :)

@Ralala @MSK1 @TheHotelCalifornia keeping everything crossed for you all, being in cycle limbo is so tough after an MC.

@AMS19 @Jujujuberry it's such a rollercoaster whatever happens - I've honestly seen people in these threads worrying because AF has come too quickly post MC or not quickly enough, because of ovulating too quickly or too late, because of not conceiving after the MC and also because of being pregnant again. It really feels like whatever happens that isn't "textbook" makes us worry and it's impossible not to be down about that. I'm sorry you're both feeling it atm, but I think it will get better over the summer with more distractions and fun plans. Being pregnant again and still without symptoms I'm just so anxious the whole time, I can't enjoy it and I can't even live life normally, eat what I want, exercise how I want etc, and yet I still feel like I'm going to have another MC. It feels like a losing game.

@wag1987 sorry to hear you've had down days too. I would agree with others about the tests, if you're comparing FMU with non FMU it's probably nothing to worry about. I've only taken two tests this time as I'm trying not to increase my already high anxiety levels lol, testing drove me crazy last time.

Looking for some advice about scans. As mentioned I'm basically symptomless and feel pretty much the same as the first pregnancy when I MC'd. That time I had a scan at 7+5 and baby measured 6w with no HB. I'm considering booking a private scan for later this week at 6+3/4 as I just want to find out if the same has happened. Do you think that's too soon? If they can't see anything I'll probably be offered another scan free a week later... but I know such an early scan is risky as it could end up giving me false hope. But then I just really want to know if I haven't made it further than last time.

Thanks in advance for your support on here ❤️

@Jujujuberry I know it's hard to stay positive I've been there.

No not tried meditation or anything. Currently working from home so lots of work to do but still find time to google everything which I need to stop.

Your cycles are good , have you tried SMEP that's what I did this cycle and got BFP although missed the last bit. I startedBD CD8 and ever other with my 3 days in a row being 12,13,14, my peek was CD13

@AMS19 I did FMU today and my test line is now darker than control 16dpo so I'm going to really try and stop testing if I can.

@AlbiMix

I really understand because I have booked a private scan for 6wks 6days because mine stopped growing at 5wks last time but didn't know until 12wks. I feel the same as you with regardless to false hope but even if I can hear heartbeat once it will be more than I had last time or if it is bad news then I will know earlier than later.

@AlbiMix I would definitely go for it. You can always then have another scan in 2/3 weeks. It is highly likely you'll see a heartbeat then. Not guaranteed but likely. And if you don't, then like you say, you can go back!

@wag1987 that's great news!!! So so pleased

Wow @AMS19 I’m so pleased to hear that its helping you feel calmer by not tracking every day, yay for you being in the funtime of the cycle! Haha fingers crossed for your peak, watch out hubby 😂 ❤️

@AlbiMix oh hun my heart goes out to you and I wish I could take away your anxiety, I know exactly how you feel as the other night I was imagining if this was the month for me I would be so worried so its like you want to be pregnant but you just want the baby to be born happy and health like right now!!! I say go for the early scan xx

@wag1987 Yay for your strong line this morning, now enjoy, you have an amazing miracle happening to you 💓 sending you strength xx I have heard of SEMP & perhaps if hubby is up to it we can do it this month :)

Thanks @AMS19 @Jujujuberry @wag1987 I've booked it for Thursday morning. I could've booked for Saturday but I'm seeing friends that day and I feel like if the scan is bad/inconclusive I'll probably need a couple of days to process that before seeing people. Trying to prepare myself for the worst as I can't afford to be hopeful. An MC really does ruin us doesn't it?!

Thanks again for your advice and support, I have no idea what I'd do without it. I've told no one about the pregnancy this time except OH so to be able to get advice from you all is such a relief.

@AlbiMix I have absolutely everything crossed for you. Both @pettylamby and @LauraT94 are smashing their pregnancies and I'm sure you will too. You ladies will get through this and it will totally be worth it xx

@AlbiMix sounds like a plan lovely, you are correct, MC really does ruin us!

@wag1987 brilliant news lovely x

@AlbiMix I had a scan at 6+6 and measured around 6+3/4! There was definitely a clear little bean to see and an obvious heartbeat that we got to hear too. It's early but you should get to see something. The anxiety only goes away for all of about 15 minutes after the scan but it's so worth it for that bit of reassurance. I hope all goes well for you regardless of if you go for the early scan or not ❤️ another benefit to the early scans is you get fab progression comparison pics with your later on scans! I had my 10 week scan on Friday and the comparison is mad ❤️ finally starting to feel a bit safer now but I don't think that anxiety will ever go away!

Hi ladies, so lovely to see all your chatter today. I do think any pregnancy after loss will be anxiety ridden because sadly we experienced a loss and it’s completely outwith our control.

Cd27 for me today. Probs around 10ish dpo by my opk. Although cycles have been long since the mc. If my opk was correct then af should arrive end of this week.

I actually think I have abit of a bug. Feel meh, upset tummy and very bloated. My little one had a vomiting bug last week so I think she’s passed it on to me. To be fair, I did moan the other week it would be useful to get a bug to kick start my diet again haha

@Ralala oh 10dpo is exciting. Are you planning on testing anytime soon?

Thank you @AMS19 @gizmo167 ❤️

@LauraT94 thanks for sharing your experience, I'm so so happy for you that your 10 week scan went well! Not long to go until 12 weeks and the "safety zone"! I mean I know after an MC the safety zone feels like it never arrives but that is a huge milestone. Keep us posted ❤️

Sorry you're feeling crap @Ralala hopefully it will pass quickly. fingers crossed for this cycle 🤞

@AMS19 my shortest cycle since the miscarriage was 36 days from memory. I think I will see if I can get to 31 days which is my normal cycle. Will probably test at the end of the week. cd29 I have had positives though with my little one and with my miscarriage so may crack on cd 29 haha

Thanks @AlbiMix. I am just back from the gym and surprisingly feel better for jumping about the place