Recent MC - New cycles & trying again Thread 2

[AMS19]

Previous thread

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/4184729-Recent-MC-New-cycles-trying-again?pg=1

A thread for all the amazing strong ladies who have recently experienced a mc/mmc but are braving it to try again! Fingers crossed for a lucky one for us 🍀

I'm ok atm, had. A few cramps but no other symptoms really. I'm so nervous this time around and worried it will be a chemical. How do you know if it is a chemical?

I've booked a private early scan this time as don't think I can wait the 12 weeks. Not that it would make a difference to any outcome but more peace of mind for me.

Here is a photo of my 10dpo and 12dpo (today) I would have. Thought 12dpo to be darker.

@gizmo167 sorry forgot to tag you in the comment below

@wag1987 I can Defos see progression from 10 to 12 xx

@wag1987 Definitely looks darker. I'm keeping everything crossed for you, hope you're doing ok and not driving yourself too crazy (not that I'm one to talk!).

Aw @wag1987 that line looks darker to me, keeping everything crossed, I worry too about chemicals, I lost both my last 2 at around the 6 week mark so every tiny twinge I panic, constant knicker check!

@Chev2021 @gizmo167 thank you. I am a constant knicker checker right now

Bfn for me today on a frer (11dpo) so I'm out this month. And wasted a frer. Boo!

Hi everyone,

Sorry I’ve not posted in a while. Congrats to all of those with BFPs so far!

@LaurenNH, mine is the same sometimes. I do get where he’s coming from as the romantic element isn’t really at the top of the priority list at the moment.

Can’t believe what I did this morning! I’m CD17 and was hoping to get a static smiley on my CB OPK. I totally forgot to do it! Such an idiot!! I did it at lunchtime, didn’t go to the toilet for 5 hours before hand and got another flashing smiley. Really hope I’ve not missed my peak. Just worried as it says to use FMU on the instructions. I’m such a dope! Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated. Thank you

Hi all, I've a lot of catching up to do! Lots of reading for this eve, I'm looking forward to it and hoping you are all doing well. I took a step back for a bit as there was so much going on and it was all a bit confusing. Docs weren't sure but finally realised that the first ERPC wasn't fully successful and I had to have another one done. That was 3 weeks ago now and I'm mentally exhausted from the whole journey and just want toove past it.

Can anyone tell me what their period was like after their ERPC? I had my last surgery on the 6th and I ovulated two weeks later, around the time that I would have always ovulated. It was definitely ovulation as I used opks which I got the highest peak I've ever gotten on and it went back down after (it was also low before the peak) I also had all my ovulation symptoms. I am now 5/6 dpo and I have gotten my period. Its so soon after ovulation and I'm really concerned that my body has gotten into a bad rhythm of a very short luteal phase or something.
Any body else experience this with their first period post MC or ERPC? Xx

Hi @Cienega, sorry to hear you have had such a hard time. I’m 3 months post miscarriage (ectopic at 8 weeks) and having long unpredictable cycles. Sadly some of us take a little while longer to settle back down than others xxx

Good morning ladies, how are we all? Cd25 for me. Peak opk on cd14 , think I ovulated cd15-16. Should be due AF next Thursday/fri but I have had such long cycles since the mc. We will see if my opk was right.

Anyone testing soon?

Also where are we all at post mc? If AF arrives this will be my 3rd one post mc. I had hoped to be pregnant again but I need to remember I am yet to have a normal cycle yet xxx

Good morning @Ralala, thanks for your reply. I'm sorry your cycles still haven't settled, that must be so frustrating for you 😣
I probably need to accept that my cycles will be all over the place for a while too. I guess when I ovulated bang on time that I got excited and thought my body was jumping back into its normal cycle straight away, I should have known better after all my body has been through. To be honest I more expected my period to take longer to come as opposed to coming so soon after ovulation. I also expected it to be a heavy one but it actually only lasted half a day with a small bleed and now seems to have gone. Can I even class that as a period? God its all so confusing!! 😔

Morning all,

I’m the same as you @Ralala, third cycle since MC but only second one trying. CD18 for me and still no peak (at least I didn’t miss it yesterday). Really hoping we’ll get lucky this cycle as if not we’re going to have to stop TTC for a bit as we’ve got our rearranged wedding next March and my OH says that it’s too risky for me to potentially br 9 months pregnant. At this point I’m over the whole wedding thing now, this will be our third date, total bloody nightmare to be honest. And then a MC on top. You couldn’t write it.

Hope everyone is enjoying the sunshine. Happy Saturday!

@Cienega I had an ERCP at the end of last heat following a MMC at 9.5 weeks. My first period back was around 5.5 weeks and was pretty heavy compared to pre miscarriage. It lasted around 4/5 days and this was longer than my usual 3 days of bleeding. I had a mixture of brown and red blood throughout. My next period was 28 days later which was my cycle pre miscarriage and was again the same length and volume as before. Third period was 32 days long which threw me however I did wonder if I had ovulated late due to symptoms as not testing with OPKs. I have since had a rainbow scan with a gynaecologist to check everything is ok and it’s fine in there. He did say just to keep an eye on long cycles just in case I am not ovulating as anything over 30 days can sometimes mean an issue. Hope this helps x

Hey @Ralala 🤞 your opk was right, sounds promising.

I'm in my first proper cycle since my mc and I only just had my peak yesterday on CD27! I'd been feeling so down and had given up this month so we hadn't even DTD for over a week, I had to get on that ASAP! Kicking myself now, but didn't realise my cycles would be so off.

I hear you about the long cycles! My first was 6 weeks. Second 5 weeks. So I’m hoping my third is 4 weeks! It’s really frustrating as you have no idea when you are ovulating. I did have lots of ovulation signs around my peak opk so I’m hopeful it was correct . I stopped testing after a few days as I was still showing something on the opk and it was confusing my app!

I’m so bloated today. Not sure if it’s the heat or the fact I have been drinking gin every night in the garden with hubby when the little one is in bed🤣

Morning ladies

Sorry I keep dipping in and out. I'm finding mentally it helpful to take a step back from here now and again, but obviously thinking of you all often.

Cd12 for me so hoping it's O day in the next few days. Post mmc my O day was CD11, CD13 and CD15 so hopefully soon 🤞
This is my 4th cycle now after the mmc (not including straight after the MVA where I wasn't tracking but based on my hcg levels highly doubt I ovulated). This has all taken so much longer than I ever imagined and I can't believe I lost the chance for a 2021 baby! I am praying I'm pregnant by my due date in July, but if not, my MMC anniversary in December. Its absolutely heartbreaking trying after a miscarriage, the pressure is so much more intense for me now because I feel like getting pregnant again will emotionally fix me. I knew the reality is it probably won't, but I can't help thinking it will. Anyway, thought I should put my feelings on here in case anyone feels the same.

Sending lots of love to you all and keeping everything crossed for sticky beans for those with bfps!! Xx

Hi @AMS19

Absolutely hear you. The pressure is real and while it is us placing the pressure on ourselves, it doesn’t make it any easier.

A girl at my work is due in September round about when I was due. We are Facebook friends although work the same office. I’m going to have to delete or block her. It’s constant posting about it. I don’t mind pregnancy related posts but her weekly countdown and bump pics are really pushing me to my limit xxx

@Ralala it's brutal isn't it. You can stay friends with her but "unfollow" her. She won't know you've unfollowed but you won't see any of her posts. I've done that with a few "friends" on there. How you getting on? Xx

Hi @AMS19, pleased to hear that you’re doing ok. I totally get what you mean about thinking that getting pregnant again will fix you, I feel the same. No luck so far yet but keeping everything crossed for this cycle! I’ve had to unfollow a few people on Facebook including some people who moan about their kids. If only they knew how lucky they are!

Happy Sunday everyone x

@MSK1 what cycle is this for you lovely? I was so upset and stressed last cycle, whereas weirdly I feel more relaxed this cycle. I've kinda accepted it, and just decided to start living my life again and if it happens it happens. I still desperately want it, but it weirdly feels less stressful than it did xx

@AMS19 @MSK1 ahhhh the pressure of it all. Will unfollow her for a little bit . It’s just a reminder sadly of where I would have been if that makes sense.

In general though doing ok. In that limbo of do we make plans for end of the year when hopefully the world opens back up again or fo we see if I fall pregnant again

It’s definitely getting a bit easier now that we can see more people however we’ve had two of our friends announce that they’re expecting over the past week. I’m obviously thrilled for them but it’s just bloody hard.

@AMS19, this is Cycle 3 after the MC, done my CB OPK this morning and still no peak (CD19 now so I’ve given up!) Not sure what’s going on really. Know that all the pressure isn’t helping so maybe I’ll do the same as you and stop tracking for a few cycles, not sure if the added stress of it all is helping. Sending you lots of luck for this cycle. Will keep my fingers crossed for you x

@Ralala I would definitely make plans. I was avoiding making any plans and I think that made me more depressed. So now we're having a party at ours in May, have a holiday in June and September and I have a spa day booked in June. I felt like I had to get on with life and start living again because it was making it worst being in this bubble just waiting. So now if it happens amazing, and I'll make it work, and if it doesn't then I have fun things to distract me.

@MSK1 yeah even though this is my last cycle tracking I've already eased off a bit, not bbt tracking every single day etc. Not cycle I plan to bbt track only cd11 to post ovulation and use opks. Then cycle after that no bbt tracking and just opks. So slowly wind down from it all. I'll then pick it all back up in the autumn again. But in the mean time, I'm going to enjoy enjoy post lockdown socialising, drink all the wine, enjoy all the food, and trust in my body xx

@AMS19, this sounds like a plan! I hope that taking a more relaxed approach to it all will do the trick. Just worry as I’m 35 now but what will be will be I suppose. X