Recent MC - New cycles & trying again Thread 2

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A thread for all the amazing strong ladies who have recently experienced a mc/mmc but are braving it to try again! Fingers crossed for a lucky one for us 🍀

Hey @dragonleo I am in the same awful boat, with 2 MC its just tiring now, and a bit deflating.. but somehow we have to find our strength and carry on!! This group is great for support ❤️

@Badlydrawngirly I’m glad acupuncture was good, and yay for being consistent for 2 cycles now, its the small wins which are big!!

@AlbiMix aw I have an auto immune condition too, feel like life has been great up until we have decided on starting a family now its just hurdle after hurdle. But we will get there!! Hope you had a nice day!! Xx

Morning ladies, just popping on to say hi. I'm staying away from MN at the moment as I found the last cycle mentally quite draining. But will pop back now and again

@plantmummy87 @KJLM thank you both so much for reaching out to check on me. My inbox won't let me respond to any messages, no idea why! But so grateful you both thought to check I was okay!

Cd7 for me, 4th cycle post mmc (not including straight after the mva where I don't think I ovulated). This is my last cycle tracking religiously, then I plan to be more "relaxed" about the whole thing over the summer and enjoy life!

Hope everyone is well xx

@Blondiebrownie6 Yeah, been tracking for a while but recently started using Natural Cycles (on top of three other apps) and only took ovulation tests when it said too. This was the first time I've taken LH tests. They looked like not quite strong enough to be a positive so I think I must have just missed it. I'm going to start testing sooner this month and hopefully catch it.

Funny enough, I seemed to have been more successful when I just go by discharge and how 'in the mood' I am. I think the tracking has made the obsession worse.

@AMS19 I'm CD 06 and feeling the same. Sending good vibes your way.

@AMS19 fingers crossed for this cycle for you 🤞🏻✨

Hi all, sorry to see those that have joined us but stay strong your rainbows are coming. Congratulations on the BFP in the group and I'm hoping I can join you. Done a test 10dpo today and faint second line. This was my second cycle since MC in February so praying this one sticks.

@wag1987 Looking good, keeping my fingers crossed for you.

@wag1987 youre same position as me! I had my last mc on 14 February so just second cycle after. I got my (albeit faint) BFP on Sunday, going to retest tomorrow with a proper test and not a cheapie and fc the line will be darker!

@gizmo167 :) pregnancy buddies . Fingers crossed for us both

I'm going to retest in a few days to make sure. I can't believe it x

I feel awful even posting this but another pregnancy announcement on IG has just floored me. I am obviously over the moon for people with good news but it still cuts. Even the 'we luckily got pregnant really quickly' is hard not to take personally.

How do you all deal with it? I've only just started feeling better today after two/three days of weeping constantly.

Hey @AMS19 it's lovely to hear from you. Sorry you've been feeling drained, it's all so exhausting. Hopefully being able to do more and see more people will help ❤️

@Jujujuberry @Badlydrawngirly sorry to hear you're both in the autoimmune club but I'm glad we have each other! I have IBD, it's mild but I'm on immunosuppressive meds which I will stick with, I'm just worried if this is a flare that I might have to take steroids. I've been feeling a little better so hoping maybe it'll pass. The maternity team at the hospital I've chosen were super efficient and I've been booked for my MW appointment in May and scan in June, but I'm trying not to focus on that as I fear I won't make it past those dates. It's sad that there's just no excitement after an MC.

@Chev2021 yea I believe your cervical mucus is a strong tell tale. The strips can be useful but they do become totally obsessive I’m currently peeing on them all bloody day!! Do you track them on app? I’ve found the apps good it’s it indicates if it’s just a high or a peak reading and you can clearly see your daily readings and any trends. Although they can be Obsessive so depends if you want to go that far.

I hear you on the Instagram stuff too.....I deactivated my account in January (just before I got pregnant and was struggling with announcements and my own infertility) and I haven’t been back on! It’s far too triggering. If you can maybe try coming away for a couple of weeks ? I think it’s helped a lot and I have no plans to go back on it any time soon. Sorry you are having hard time but please know you are not alone In this rubbish journey xx

@wag1987 congrats! ✨ looking like a good strong line for 10dpo!
@Chev2021 I also deleted insta around mc and kept off for quite a few weeks definitely helped me!

Congrats @wag1987!

@Blondiebrownie6 I do track them on the app but I don't think it's been long enough to really provide any useful data. I think the combination of coming off birth control last year, having a MC and only just starting to settle into a cycle and use the NC app hasn't helped. I use other apps which seem to know my cycle a bit better and at least provide an indication of my fertile windows.

Thank you, that's a great idea. I've just deleted the app off of my phone. Thanks also for your kind words, it's so nice to know that we're all in this together and aren't alone. It often feels like a very lonely place so having some buddies on the interest who understand makes a huge difference.

@justwant2beamum thank you, I'm so glad to hear it helped you. :)

@wag1987 Congratulations! That looks like more than a faint line to me!

I’ve got my scan tomorrow to check for ‘retained product’. Strangling looking forward to it. Hoping for some answers so I can move on!

For anyone that has had the same scan, I’m expecting it to be vaginal, is that right? Just wanting to know what to prepare myself for!

Sorry @Chev2021 you said In you last post you tracked on 3 other apps, my bad! Well hopefully you can get on it this next cycle and just maybe up your testing from day 9/10 onwards. I know when I got my BFP the peak LH test was between 8am and 11am when I done another later that afternoon it had dipped right down again so it was quick. It was cycle day 22 I think and I had nearly given up on that cycle but carried on. Obvs it didn’t end well anyway but it was my 2nd ever peak reading in 18 months so
It’s given me with a little hope it will happen again in the future.

I hope you find it helps you :) its strange at first but the break does do you good I think. Oh totally , I know it’s easy to say but I do generally find this hub can have a big impact and it’s comforting to be around others who know exactly how you feel. I’m up and down generally , but feeling my up from the last few days depleting as still no AF after initial excitement Sunday !

And congrats @wag1987 it’s looking like a positive :)

Xx

Thanks everyone. I am not sure how I feel to be honest. Obviously I'm happy but really apprehensive and don't want to get my hopes up in case something happens.

Hey @AMS19. Take as much time away as you need. I do that. Totally ghost mumsnet , social medial, WhatsApp groups if I need it.xxx

@wag1987 congratulations!!! Lovely line.

Cd21. Not much to report. No idea what length of cycle I will have this month! I’m hoping My 3rd AF post MC comes earlier than 5/6 weeks again or not at all would be nice

This mornings test on cb x

@gizmo167 looking good 😌 how you feeling?

@gizmo167 yay looking good ✨

Great to see those BFP's gives me hope!

I survived my first AF after MC. It was not even close to my usual period. Back on to OPK testing and hoping for the best. Good luck to all the ladies out there we'll get our BFP one day

Congrats @gizmo167 !!!!

I ovulated yesterday for the first cycle after chemical pregnancy, which happened straight after 12w MMC... this month my husband is having some issues DTD. He's never experienced that before and I guess it's probably the pressure? Anyone else found their DH has gone through this? I'm thinking next month I will stop tracking ovulation and try and make it a bit more organic...

Thanks girls x

So scared, more so with this one because I know my time really is up! Terrified it will end up chemical or another mc! Next couple of weeks are going to be hell!

I'm feeling ok @wag1987, boobs starting to feel fuller and getting tender, not as many cramps last couple of days and little bouts of nausea at times setting in, how are you hun?