Recent MC - New cycles & trying again Thread 2

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A thread for all the amazing strong ladies who have recently experienced a mc/mmc but are braving it to try again! Fingers crossed for a lucky one for us 🍀

Hi @JenTTC, sorry that you’ve found yourself here but you’re more than welcome. I’m the same as you, don’t post very often but find it a great help to read the stories of other people and it to know I’m not alone. X

@Badlydrawngirly yay thats so nice to have good news on your follicles!! Also what do you mean by that is where you have a tube? Yeah I am glad I found that book, you can take what you need from it, like you say there are too many supplements to keep track of, and you just find the ones that will work for you :) I’m cd 12 so nearing the end of baby dancing! 😆

@JenTTC hello! So sorry your here too, its a rough road but there is hope, I agree with you, its been soo healing for me knowing your not alone. Xx

Hi @Jujujuberry sorry I should have explained, I had to have my left tube removed in 2017 due to recurring ectopics.

My estrogen is obvs very low though because of the letrozole as I’m not getting high fertility on clearblue OPKs and I was at this stage last month.

Hopefully that will rise now I’ve stopped the letrozole.

I also found out that my neat friend is 13 weeks pregnant. She’s had an ectopic and had given up trying and while I’m happy for her it’s just hard as I would have been 18 weeks today.

@Badlydrawngirly excellent news about your follicles! Sorry to hear you've had to hear another pregnancy announcement, each one is just another punch in the face I find! But you've had this good news so absolutely everything crossed for a healthy egg!

@Brightspark12 you're so right, in a way it's liberating to have no expectations, but unfortunately I still know if I lose this one too I will not cope well and it will just confirm that there's probably something wrong underlying.

@Elsie2021 @JenTTC so sorry for your losses and good luck with trying again :)

Good luck @Jujujuberry!

Thanks @AlbiMix I am all over the place with it to be honest. I am obviously pleased for her because she had decided that they couldn’t afford to do IVF and she had pretty much given up but I can’t help feel that I should be in the same position of being able to announce our good news.

We’ve also had the added stress of DH losing his job yesterday. I am gutted for him as he told work about the miscarriage and they’ve basically kicked him when he’s down.

The last thing we need is extra stress, especially while facing the financial burden of IVF. It really never rains hey?

I’m still getting a blank circle of clearblue so am paranoid I won’t ovulate despite having the 2 follicles this month. My consultant said to get in touch if I don’t ovulate so I’m worried he saw something that would make him suspect that!

I’m trying to be positive I really am and telling myself a break for DH could be good for ttc.

I’ve got acupuncture later and I’m going to fess up that I’ve got out of the habit of taking my herbs 🤦🏻‍♀️ as I should have run out by now and at £55 a pop I’m not going to buy more when I don’t need them!

Sorry for the rant! At least it’s Friday (and I’ve managed about 12 hours of work this week!)

Thank you @AlbiMix!! Need it, hubby decided he was too tired to dtd, last night, so ill have to be happy with what we’ve already done, Agh. How are you doing? Xx

@Badlydrawngirly, gosh you’ve been through alot but that is really positive news about your follicles so just focus on that, and try not to worry about the ovulation, relaxing a bit will help alot!! Thats unfortunate about your OH’s job, if it helps my hubby lost his job during the covid last year and our first MC, so it seems to just be bad news after bad news, but now he has a job he is enjoying! Like you say some time off might be nice for him and a better job could be around the corner.

Thanks @Jujujuberry and sorry you went through the same. I think you’re right, something better is around the corner. I have to believe that.

It’s all just too much with my best friend’s announcement too. You’re right though, I need to relax! I’ve just been to have my nails, feet and brows done though so that was a welcome break for a few hours! Off to acupuncture in a bit and hoping he can reassure me.

These opks are driving me mental 🤣🤣 to me they are clearly fainter but Premom seems to be registering them as higher and my peak keeps changing. You can’t even see a second line on today’s one . I don’t think opks are for me. Maybe I should invest in the digital one!

@Ralala, I’ve only ever used the CB ones with the smiley faces and they’re ok. Quite expensive but I like the fact that they tell you what they mean. I’ve been using them for four months in total (two months before the MC and the last two months) and I’m only on my second box so they do last a while, think you get 25 in a box. Started using them again today, fingers crossed I’ll get my peak soon. It’s so stressful this TTC lark!

Just found out my stepsister is pregnant and I'm trying so hard to be happy for her but I can't shake the ugly feelings. I would have been 20 weeks now and it still hurts so much

Thank you all
Are we allowed to share potential lines on here? I feel quite sicky and tired, have done a few tests the last few days and got what i feel are faint positives but im really not sure, ive read so much about indent lines evap lines and false positives my brain may explode 😳 😂 id love to get your opinions on falses and faint lines, how long they last before they get dark.
I havent had a period since the misscarriage in march so have no idea where i am in cycle 🙈

Oh @Badlydrawngirly so sorry to hear about your OH's job, that is not what you need right now I'm sure. But as you and others have said, there may be an opportunity here as well, for him to relax, and hopefully find something else soon. I'm keeping everything crossed for your ovulation this month, are you opk'ing?

@Jujujuberry well hopefully you covered your bases even if he wasn't up to it the last time. Is it me or do men want to have sex all the time except when you want to?!

I'm doing ok, still in a kind of constant low-level freak out about having another MC but being able to see more people/go places is definitely distracting me from being pregnant again which I think is probably a good thing.

@Bunsterbun sorry to hear this, I think we can all relate to those ugly feelings. Go easy on yourself!

@JenTTC please so share :)

@albiMix thankyou!
Ive attached a pic of the 2 clear blue non digital strips (i always crack them open, not sure why!)
And the other is a first response early detection one with the cotrast and stuff!
Be honest!

Thanks @AlbiMix. I know everything will work out, it’s just hard to stay positive at the moment.

I thought he would go right off ttc but he’s excited at the prospect of two follicles! I’ve been using CB digital for the last 3 days as last month I ovulated early but so far I’ve only got blank circles so guess the letrozole has delayed ovulation.

I’m hoping 2 session of acupuncture will help build up my lining!

How far along are you now? I can imagine how hard it is and I hope you can get an early scan soon.

Hi @Elsie2021 and welcome to the group.

I had medical management of a MMC that I found out about at my twelve week scan (like you, I was 13 weeks).

I had a scan about 3.5 weeks after the MC to check that it had all passed and the sonographer confirmed that it was complete, but I think took another few weeks until I finally got a negative on an early detection pregnancy test.

It was really frustrating waiting for the negative but once it came it felt like a bit of a new chapter and that I could start to look ahead a bit. (Now on CD92 with no sign of AF, but that’s another story 😂)

I found that if I had any questions or concerns it was really helpful to ask them here, so I hope you will feel able to do the same. There is a wealth of experience and support available in these threads and the ladies are all amazing.

Take care of yourself x

Hope everyone is happy it’s the weekend!

I have had the week from hell - I had a job interview on Monday (mental health role) where I ended up having to discuss a case study about a woman who had had a stillbirth and it massively brought back the MC. I told them about what had happened but it was unbelievably challenging and it definitely threw me off my game as far as the rest of the interview was concerned.

It’s really set me back if I’m honest. All week I’ve had pains in my chest and tummy ache from the stress 😤 I’ve been up and down like a yo-yo! Still don’t know about the outcome of the bloody interview either 😂

Yesterday it felt like a real struggle to even get out of bed. Would so appreciate some positive vibes / some urging to get up and get on with things so that I don’t spend all day feeling sorry for myself!! I’m so aware that just doing nothing is detrimental but I’m really struggling to fight the apathy... x

Ladies, I've reached CD21 (normal ovulation day pre-mc) and there's no symptoms, no ewcm and no positive opk in sight. Anyone else's ovulation different the cycle after mc? I'm annoyed it's probably going to be an even longer cycle than usual and I just want my body to be normal now. From the day of my mc to my period was exactly 28 days so I have no idea what's going on and I'm getting frustrated 🤷🏼‍♀️

@CocoLoco88 I'm sorry you found yourself in that situation, it must have been very difficult to deal with. We all have those moments though and they won't last forever. Tomorrow is a new day, do you have anything you can do and look forward to?

@CocoLoco88 sending you positive vibes. It sounds like you and hubby are due some good luck soon!

Hey ladies, I'm in my first cycle post mc. I just got I believe a very positive OPK at CD12. I was always CD14 even after my previous miscarriages. Did anyone else's cycles change? Does this definitely look positive to yous? Sorry for the poor lighting, I had to take it in a different bathroom today. And sorry chipped polished our nail salons in NI don't open until next week lol. I never temp bc my temperature changes too much in general 🤞xx

[quote angc30]@CocoLoco88 sending you positive vibes. It sounds like you and hubby are due some good luck soon!

Hey ladies, I'm in my first cycle post mc. I just got I believe a very positive OPK at CD12. I was always CD14 even after my previous miscarriages. Did anyone else's cycles change? Does this definitely look positive to yous? Sorry for the poor lighting, I had to take it in a different bathroom today. And sorry chipped polished our nail salons in NI don't open until next week lol. I never temp bc my temperature changes too much in general 🤞xx[/quote]
Oops forgot the second photo

Awk third post sorry!
@Madeoftea funny, I was asking the same question as you were asking yours! I'm a slow typer. My positive OPK is earlier than normal. To clarify my story, my mc (at 9 weeks) was at the start of March and my first AF was 6/4. I didn't do any OPK testing between my MC and 1st AF as I only got a negative pregnancy test a couple days before AF.

I wonder if everyone's a bit off?

I give up trying to track my cycle . I MC 18th January and only had 2 periods since. Cycles are long and not following much logic!

@angc30 I'm on similar time line, ERPC on 5th March, 1st period 31st March then I got peak CD12 when I'm usually 14/15 I think xxx

@angc30 haha I guess its normal then, at least it's not just mine. Your OPK definitely looks positive to me! Have you been DTD?

@justwant2beamum timeline buddies! Not such a great timeline to have but hopefully we'll both get good news soon x

@Madeoftea we've been doing SMEP method and I think it's helped me fall pregnant each time just hope it happens again and sticks🤞 hopefully you'll get your opk tomorrow or soon! x