Recent MC - New cycles & trying again Thread 2

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www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/4184729-Recent-MC-New-cycles-trying-again?pg=1

A thread for all the amazing strong ladies who have recently experienced a mc/mmc but are braving it to try again! Fingers crossed for a lucky one for us 🍀

@glowingtwig well just make sure you are actually okay. You know we are all here for you if you do want to talk about it, anytime xx

@AMS19 wow that is some dedication to the cause!!! Your husband is one lucky man 😄😄 x

Thank you so so much @AMS19 honestly you ladies have been such amazing support and I'm so grateful for you checking in on me.

Also... not sure if any of you follow Pregnant then Screwed on Insta... shes just done a post about the impact of Covid rules during pregnancy loss... definitely worth a follow/read and some amazing work being done 💫

I am now CD12 and I’m still spotting from second period post erpc - has anyone else had this?

CB tests just say low.

I’m wondering if pregnacare conception vits are causing irregular cycles - I’ve heard it’s been known? And seem to remember it when I tried them 7 years ago.

Has anytime else had this? I’m so frustrated no sign of ovulating don’t know whether to bother dtd
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Haha you ladies make me laugh! @AMS19 10days in a row, nice one!!

@SuzieDeLaTour oh gosh I hope you still had fun dtd while not feeling 100%! I’m sorry to hear you have a higher risk for MC too, its just so bloody unfair, I dont know how much emotional heartache I can take.. but I’ll wait to see what our geneticist says (hopefully it wont be too long before we see them) but yes its to do with my chromosomes. My GP told us to keep having fun in the bedroom meantime, and who knows we may get that golden egg.. I thought hmm maybe we could have fun in the shower or kitchen instead! Lol

Hey @Badlydrawngirly I totally understand your feelings about will it ever happen, and the bloody emotional rollarcoaster, I feel separated from society since my two losses. I’m so sorry you’ve had losses too.. have you been tested? I have just started reading ‘it starts with the egg’ Im generally pretty healthy but hopefully there maybe some more insight on how I can nurture my eggs even more. We will have our babies ❤️

@Summersun001 hang in there hun! Gosh so sorry your having to have this happen as there is so much uncertainty. Just try relax and take good care of yourself xx

@SuzieDeLaTour honestly it's such a shame the temps just haven't played ball at all this cycle as its definitely the best coverage we've had! But temps have been a nightmare, with a huge rise pre ovulation which means I can't identify a clear post O rise 🙄
Hope you managed to get on it and are feeling a bit better today xx

@glowingtwig I know getting on with it seems easier but do make sure you’re ok and take the time for yourself xx
@Jujujuberry ha that comment made me laugh. You should have said that to your doctor 😜
@AMS19 well you’ve certainly done all you can (and more!!) so try not to stress about temps - fingers crossed for that sticky bean!!! X

@AMS19 forgot to say we did get on it - still feeling rough but going to try and go again today if I can get my husband to do it despite my less-than-sexy demeanour right now! Lemsipping it up like it’s going out of fashion 😀

Good call to manually mark! Premom will learn that and adjust the threshold in next cycle.

Hey ladies. Happy Easter everyone! Just found the thread and would like to join.

I had mc on the 2 nd of March at nearly 11 w. A week after my husband got a call saying he's suspected for prostate cancer (he's only 44). So decided to go ahead and ttc without AF in between. Used opk test and now 10dpo. Took ic test yesterday and it was negative. Even I think I have pregnancy symptoms.

I think my way of coping with the loss was/still is to concentrate on getting pregnant again. I knew getting pregnant on the first cycle is unlikely but it is still sad to see negative test. I wish it was easier just to get on with life and not to get overly obsessive with getting pregnant again.

Well done @SuzieDeLaTour dedication to the cause!! Make sure you're dosing up on the orange juice too xx

I had a miscarriage on 13/02/21. It was my first time pregnant and I was probably only 5 weeks pregnant when it happened.

After the bleeding stopped we decided to try straight away and not wait for the next period first.

As I had no idea when I would ovulate next (have always struggled with tracking etc) we decided to just have sex practically every night until my next period arrived.

Still no period today and I had the weird feeling I had last time I was pregnant as though each breath wasn't enough for my lungs so took a test and it was positive!

I assume I'm only 2 weeks pregnant maybe? Couldn't say for certain.

hey @NatMoz well that's good news! It's a bit difficult to tell how many weeks pregnant at this stage but I guess you can try have an early scan at some point that can help you understand how many weeks you are?
@MiamiBeach104 gosh what a pressure you must feel at this point, I really hope you'll see a bfp very soon!
After my mc also our minds have been 100% focussed on getting pregnant again... it's the first thing my partner said when we knew from the scan that it was not going to end well... it didn't take too long first time, I really hope we can get another bfp soon but I have to admit it feels like the lottery - you kind of hope to win but you know you will probably not. so sad :(

I have a question for you ladies, how long does EWCM last for you?hours?days? I always struggled a bit to identify it, it has never been "textbook EWCM" for me. But yesterday morning when I went to the loo I saw it, perfect as it should be, however after a while I went to the toilet again it wasn't there anymore... ?

Please read below x

just POAS and it looks like the line is getting darker . I am using femometer so it's still quite a subjective measure but the color intensity is definitely more similar to the control line than it has been in the last few days! I'll test again later to see if it goes any darker...

sorry guys I just needed to tell someone, my partner is ok with me sharing, but he has a limit last time when we were ttc he freaked out when I showed him the big static smiley face on the cb, he couldn't perform poor man. I promised I'll keep a bit more to myself this time but I kind of still need to tell someone!

@NatMoz - wonderful news! Congrats to both of you. Do you have any other pregnancy symptoms? Fingers crossed all goes well

@EsseKey - thanks for your kind words. He had MRI today and depending on the results biopsy next. Had a chat with a midwife on my MC follow up appointment so she said if things go for worth we could get sperm freezing and possibly IVF on NHS. I do think why us, why both things had to happen at once but need to stay positive

Prior MC I used to have text book EWCM on a monthly basis. It would last for about a day. I could see it properly first thing in the morning and then it would just feel slippery throughout the day.

I'm not too sure if you can get pregnant without EWCM (I didn't have it this month, just lotion/cream like which continues now as well).

I've read so many threads on how to deal with obsession about getting pregnant and quite like a couple of ideas: buy yourself a small gift/experience every time after AF arrives and concentrate on some other hobbies/activities instead (I'm concentrating on the garden)

@MeganN91 looks like on CD21 the two lines are almost identical in intensity although it seems that the test line is still slightly lighter than the other one? you might have your peak very soon, but I'm also not familiar with this type of tests so I might be wrong.

If you are unsure you coulds do a pregnancy test and see how it goes - if for any reason the opk test is picking up pregnancy hormones then they should be picked up by a true hcg pregnancy test I guess :)

[quote EsseKey]@MeganN91 looks like on CD21 the two lines are almost identical in intensity although it seems that the test line is still slightly lighter than the other one? you might have your peak very soon, but I'm also not familiar with this type of tests so I might be wrong.

If you are unsure you coulds do a pregnancy test and see how it goes - if for any reason the opk test is picking up pregnancy hormones then they should be picked up by a true hcg pregnancy test I guess :)[/quote]

Thank you so much for replying. I'll keep testing. I'm kind of doing it in secret. My partner told me I need to just calm down with all the testing as he thinks I'm stressing myself out. He's like just relax and it will happen . Men ! 🙄 x

@MeganN91 - I understand you well where you are. I did pregnancy test yesterday and was bit grumpy it came negative. Tried telling him but he couldn't understand me given that it was too early to test anyway! He's ok me telling OPK results but I might just keep the rest to myself or mumsnet

ladies, what is your opinion on the weight when trying to get pregnant. I don't really follow my weight but checked a couple of days back and was only 53.5 kg and my height is 169cm. I still fall within normal BMI as per NHS calculator (bit on a lower end). I think that's bit too low. TBH, I thought I'm 59kg all this time! maybe I lost couple of kilos because of stressing of miscarriage. would you think I need to gain bit of weight?

[quote MiamiBeach104]@MeganN91 - I understand you well where you are. I did pregnancy test yesterday and was bit grumpy it came negative. Tried telling him but he couldn't understand me given that it was too early to test anyway! He's ok me telling OPK results but I might just keep the rest to myself or mumsnet [/quote]
Yes. I think I'm going to keep it all for on here too. I think he thinks I'm going a bit crazy at times 😆. I'm sure he thinks you can just have sex any time and get pregnant too 😆 x

Hi everyone,

I’m new to MN and to TTC. We had a little surprise in January found out I was pregnant end of Jan and I had a MMC - went for a private scan at 7+3 and she said there was no heartbeat and the baby was only measuring 6 weeks but told me that ‘if you’ve had no bleeding you’ll be fine’ and to go back again in 2 weeks and they made us PAY AGAIN for that scan. 2 weeks later the situation was the same even though I still had symptoms so was referred to EPU at my hospital and ended up having a MVA at 9+5. Did the hospital hCG test last week and it said miscarriage ‘successful’ - horrendous wording but still very very slight positive on a CB test earlier in the week. On Friday I had really bad stabbing bum daggers and the whole area was painful but seem ok now - my boobs have started hurting again so maybe it was ovulation? Not sure.
Anyway as we weren’t TTC originally but now we are I have no idea what I’m doing and there’s sooo much out there I feel overwhelmed but I think this thread is so helpful so far. Hope you don’t mind me joining in!

Morning ladies- just been catching up on all the messages. Feeling pretty shit today myself, almost 5 weeks post MC no period still. My boobs are sore, feels like AF is imminent, took some FRERs negative so not pregnant again. Just feel really upset today! Part of me feels a bit angry that people seem to just move on and forget about what you’ve gone through as @AlbiMix said- I would’ve been nearly 15 weeks now. Also every fucker on my social media seems to be pregnant or just had a baby. Having a good old cry today and feeling sorry for myself. Deffo going to give that podcast a go xxx

@Brightspark12 your comment made me laugh - I've stayed off social media since my MC because I also know every fucker on there will be announcing a pregnancy or birth 😂 and I still haven't escaped as I found out via someone else that another friend is pregnant. But also the one and only time I attempted going back on Instagram, literally the first thing that came up was some guy announcing his second child yo the world and I was like fuck this, I'm out again.

@AMS19 10 days in a row?!?!?! You absolute hero. I'm quite speechless. Doing the opks made me realise indefinitely feel more turned in during the FW but still nowhere near enough to muster the energy to get on it that many times 😂

@SuzieDeLaTour TBH I'm pretty sure it takes a lot for a man not to want to shag so I'm certain he was still into it lol. Hope you're feeling better!

Welcome to new joiners and congrats on any BFPs ...I'm 9 DPO and I'm feeling ravenous all the time which is the only bug change I noticed when I was pregnant before, but trying not to read too much into it...

@CMcA21 I'm so sorry about your MC. TTC can definitely be overwhelming at first but I think between us all we have a fair amount of knowledge! Is there anything in particular you would like to know about? I'm quite relaxed and stick to DTD as regularly as we can but I do use OPKs to sometimes narrow it down because I do tend to ovulate quite late in my cycle.

@Brightspark12 I've been feeling like that too. My first AF is just finishing for me and I've found it quite tough and a bit triggering but glad that it's a start of a new cycle. Waiting for it is the hardest especially if you had regular cycles beforehand.
Everyone I know is either pregnant or has an under 1 so I get that too. I would have been 16 weeks today and it just doesn't seem fair and people have stopped asking me how I am and I've got to go back to work soon after being furloughed since Christmas. It was nice that I didn't have to consider work through all this but it means no one knows and I feel like I've got to go back and pretend that everything's fine when it's not.
Sometimes you just need a good cry and you might be feeling more positive tomorrow. Have you got lots of Easter chocolate? Maybe cosy up today (it's snowing where I am!) and remember not to put any pressure on yourself.