Recent MC - New cycles & trying again Thread 2

[AMS19]

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www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/4184729-Recent-MC-New-cycles-trying-again?pg=1

A thread for all the amazing strong ladies who have recently experienced a mc/mmc but are braving it to try again! Fingers crossed for a lucky one for us 🍀

Af starting to finish off now for me. I’m only cd5 so will start opks about cd10. I normally ovulate cd15-cd17 but I want to do a week beforehand so I don’t miss it. Like I said, I’m
not sure I’m ovulating since the MC

Thanks @Ralala I think I'm coming down with a sinus infection, headache and feeling blocked up, I havent taken anything for it so normally I would blame any medication on the diarrhoea

@Neady1980 without getting your hopes up all your symptoms are classic early pregnancy signs! And the spotting could in implantation 🤞🤞

Happy Easter everyone! I'm going to eat chocolate and drink prosecco and not feel bad about it! Xx

@AMS19 it would a miracle as we only DTD 3 nights before I ovulated as he was away and I honestly cant remember when I was pregnant the last time as I only found out just after 5 weeks and I remember my symptoms from then on till the MC. I was putting it down to PMS which I dont normally get. I have dinner on and a couple of bottles of prosecco in the fridge for us and the parents 🙈🙈🙈

Happy Easter everyone

Thanks @Albimix! I tested again this morning and not even a squinter so think I’m definitely going mad!

@Jujujuberry I’m sorry you’re feeling so low. I’m angry at everything and especially my body as after so many losses and being nearly 42 I just don’t feel like it’s going to ever happen. Can you speak to your consultant about the tests again as it doesn’t seem to give you many answers? Was it the karyotyping tests you had?

@Neady1980 the only time I’ve had brown cm is around implantation or the day before AF so no help I’m sure! Have you had a positive OPK yet? Sometimes you can spot when you ovulate.

@Badlydrawngirly I'm due AF next Sunday, I ovulated on cd 11 this month but got ewcm from cd 9 dont know what's going on

Hi ladies, I hope you’re all okay.

I had a bleed this afternoon and took a trip to the EPU. Bit of a waste of time really, took bloods but they didn’t have the facility to scan me. So I’m none the wiser. I have to go back for bloods in 48 hours and a scan on the 13th - But I’m not holding out hope. This was the around the same time as my previous miscarriage.

I must admit, I’m not enjoying the TTC journey one bit. I just feel so angry that we have to go through this heart ache over and over! It’s just so cruel. Sending hugs to you all. Doesn’t seem fair being this sad on such a lovely day! Xx

@Summersun001 oh sweetie!!! Let's keep positive, I had a bleed in my pregnancy and everything was still totally fine (the mmc wasn't in anyway related). I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'm honestly stressed about not getting pregnant and stressed about the idea of being pregnant. Sending you so much love xx

@Summersun001 oh love try not to worry too much - I appreciate that’s much easier said than done! There are lots of reasons for bleeds and it doesn’t automatically mean anything bad. How many weeks are you? I’ve bled at 7/8 weeks before and it wasn’t mc-related. Such a shame they couldn’t scan you but hopefully you’ll have a better idea on Tuesday with your bloods. I’m so sorry you’re going through the horror of uncertainty - it’s shit, it really is! X

Oh ffs!! Just got my positive OPK out of nowhere (was still low last night and forgot to check this morning oops) and haven’t been having sex so now I need to crack on this evening despite feeling like shite. Arrrghhhhh!!

@SuzieDeLaTour today is prime day so don't panic. Go today, tomorrow and Tuesday and you'll be covered!! Yay for the peak!!! Xx

@AMS19 I’m stressing that I’ve already ovulated?! Would it still show positive (just did a CB and had a smiley static face) if I have ovulated? Only reason I’m panicking is that I had EWCM the last couple of days and has really tailed off this afternoon!? Nothing 🤷‍♀️ I’ll be gutted if I’ve missed my opportunity!! 😫 x

@SuzieDeLaTour honestly I think it's highly unlikely you've already ovukated. You usually ovulate 24-48 hours after a surge. That's why SMEP says you go every day from the first positive opk! You'll be totally fine, just do it asap today and again tomorrow and the next day!!!

@Summersun001 I'm so sorry you've got more uncertainty ahead of you- that sick feeling when you see blood is absolutely terrible. Why oh why don't they scan us at this point? The waiting is so cruel. Like others say though, bleeding is so common and doesn't mean certain mc. Will have everything crossed. Were the bloods HCG? ❤️

Agree with @AMS19 @SuzieDeLaTour get going ASAP then tomorrow and the next day (forgive the looking like death comment). I always get EWCM 3 or 4 days before ov and 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼 for youuuuu!

I'm heading into fertile week (on cycle day 12) and even though we're not supposed to be trying I'm plotting when to jump on DH - I can't seem to let it go at all 🥴. Haven't tried an OPK yet but it's only a matter of time 😂

@Greenluce
so sorry to hear how you feeling! But I totally get you! It is very very difficult to hear about other people's pregnancies while you are getting through this. So if avoiding pregnancy news helps you, just do that, no one has to go through this! but at the same time I think this is a safe place to express your feelings, we get it and we don't judge you!
I have been feeling jealous and full of resentment at my friends for the last 2 years (when the first one had her baby)! it is very difficult, because I am at the same time really happy for them and I love them and their kids so much... so I also feel guilty because it's not their fault if they had kids and I hadn't :( this mix of emotions is very common I think and it's normal and I try to tell myself that is nothing to feel sorry for. It's human nature and I am trying to embrace it for what it is, maybe just trying to avoid being around my pregnant/mum friends too much. I am living in the fear of hearing about second pregnancies now...it's a nightmare!

Jumping on the opk train :D here where I am at:
I have bought both femometer and clear blue (I have only used clearblue before mc). I am still waiting for my first period after mc which happened 19 days ago. I decided to start testing with femometer 4 days ago, just because I wanted to see what was going on and I didn't want to spend too much money on that...I am keeping the clearblue for the next cycle when (hopefully...?) I will know more precisely when to start testing.
So far, 4 tests and all negatives. But this morning my cervical mucus was very much ovulation-like (egg white appearance, stretchy...)... so maybe in a couple of days I might see a peak?
good luck everyone
and happy easter!

@AMS19 @glowingtwig thanks ladies, I’ll try and calm my craziness down 🤪 have got the lemsip on the go (what a sexy beast ha!) and plan to pounce on my husband shortly and then again tomorrow...let’s hope he can overlook the “death warmed up” look and perform!! Xx

@SuzieDeLaTour without being too crude, just go for a position that means he is distracted and can't see your nose running 😂😂 job has to be done! You're definitely on the money if you go tonight and tomorrow! Definitely!

@EsseKey ooooh exciting!! Keep POAS and it will come, hopefully soon.

We've DTD basically everyday for 10 days. Need to try wean my husband off now I've totally ovulated but he now thinks this is the new normal. He needs to remember we are married, this is absolutely not the normal!

Hopefully not totally! If only I was that sure!

@AMS19 this makes me smile ahahah he did his job now can take it easy fingers crossed for you!

if I am really ovulating in the next few days it would be amazing. My partner and I can only see each other during the weekends (and this time until tuesday morning thanks to the bank holidays) because of his work and sometimes he works at weekends so it becomes very difficult to make sure we dtd at the right time...and especially now that my cycle might behave a bit funny after mc... so if at least this one time I know we got it right, I will avoid that feeling of having missed the fertile window due to his stupid work ;(

I know we have to figure out a way to see each other on the right days even though he is away for work during the week (but it's only 1h30m away so it's not impossible to commute and spend the night together...although not ideal!!) - I think he will be on board with that but we haven't actually talked about it it yet. Hopefully we can make this work!

Hello everyone! Joining across drom the miscarriage support thread thank you for the invite @AMS19 ! So I was discharged from EPU on a 25th march after a expectant management of my mc. We already have a 3 year old so this was my second pregnancy. Currently in the tww after the mc, I know I had positive opks and we dtd so am now 7dpo but haven't had a period yet since the mc so not entirely sure how long I will need to wait! Thank you for letting me join :)

@essekey fingers crossed!!! Just make sure you cover basis between now and Tuesday when he goes. Then even if you ovulate Wednesday or Thursday you'll still be covered!

Welcome @kiwi17. There are a few ladies in or about to be in the TWW so you've got company! Xx

@AMS19 10 times?! 🤣
Hope my husband doesn't see this... awful but I can't be bothered at the moment if not in fw! Awful but true. Just tooo tired and probably still getting over/traumatised by this latest mc.

@SuzieDeLaTour mmm lemsip. Feel better soon 😘

@glowingtwig honeslty it had been serious dedication to the cause this cycle. Attached from my FF chart. If you don't have FF the I line is sex, PM being evening and XX being twice in one day...
How you feeling emotionally? You're so bloody strong! You should be so so proud of yourself xx

@AMS19 Aaw thank you for saying those lovely things. I'm ok, it all seems forgotten about in our house so in a way makes it easier to get on and carry on.

Crikey!!! You really have been committed! Good going! 🤩 I really really hope this gets you that well-deserved BFP!