Recent MC - New cycles & trying again Thread 2

[AMS19]

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A thread for all the amazing strong ladies who have recently experienced a mc/mmc but are braving it to try again! Fingers crossed for a lucky one for us 🍀

@Badlydrawngirly I'm 7/8dpo also but missed out last month due to ovulating earlier than normal and OH was away so im sure im out unless by some miraculous miracle the little swimmers stayed alive for 3 days. We did decide to take a relaxed approach last month which was good for us but now I cant help thinking i missed out 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️.

@Neady1980 it can happen! I was so shocked we conceived in December because we only dtd once and I had no idea when I was ovulating! I’d pretty much given up and thought we were going to be trying ivf this year.

I was only using OPK’s this month because was meant to have my NK cell biopsy but the window fell over this weekend!

@AMS19 thank you, I really appreciate it! I’m not sure if people just don’t know what to say. I’m disappointed in my SIL who hasn’t even been in touch to ask how I am. She’s meant to be popping over later and I feel quite annoyed and I’m not good at hiding my feelings!

You’re absolutely right, it’s exhausting. I’ve gone from not wanting to try again to being elated seeing a solid smiley on an OPK. I can see how they could take over your life an cause lots of extra stress and therefore be counter productive. What is actually like to do is have a good drink this weekend but that’s what happened over Christmas and then I felt guilty when I got my BFP.

I’ve looked at my squinter again and come to the conclusion I am crazy and there’s nothing there!

@badlydrawngirly I was the same in December when I conceived only dtd once and wasnt tracking anything, I didnt even do a test until i was 9 days late. I think now because I know i can get pregnant I'm just over thinking it. In fairness when i conceived we weren't even looking after our bodies we were drinking and eating crap, it's crazy to think it happened back then

@Neady1980 we were the same, working all hours, 5 coffees a day and lots of takeaways and junk food, plus alcohol over Xmas! I’m really not sure how it worked. I am overthinking it too. I only have one tube which means I don’t have a great chance each month. The whole process is a completed head !

@Badlydrawngirly @Neady1980 honestly you hear time and time again how people try for months and nothing and then give up and fall that month! That's why I think I should just track for one more cycle then leave it to the God's over the summer, drink all the wine and eat all the amazing good and if it doesn't happen, start tracking again come autumn when life shuts down and everyone goes into winter hibernation!

@AMS19 it's very true, my OH keeps saying to that December we literally did no exercise had lots of lie ins, ate crap and really went ott on the drink. We decided then to do dry January and get back to bring healthy after a month of literally abusing our bodies. I was due AF on the 2nd and I'm regular and decided to do my first ever test on the 11th and was positive with 3+ weeks on it. Now that we are more conscious of what we eat, exercise regularly and barely drink nothing is happening for us. I think it happens when you least expect it. As my OH says life is for living and making great memories and if a baby comes along the way then it's a bonus

@neady1980 your OH is 100% right! But, so much easier said than done isn't it! But I'm definitely taking the summer off, I need to have time drinking and eating what I want guilt free or I'm going to go insane!

@AMS19 I know he is right and always positive never let's anything get him down which is great but it's always in the back of my mind.

I think it’s absolutely true thy it happens when you’re not expecting it. It’s really hard to just forget about it. I’ve got an appointment with my consultant on Friday and he’s going to let me know how soon we have before we move to ivf, based on my blood test results.

My body is now playing tricks on me and I have started having AF type cramps. That happened when I fell pregnant in December but I’m really losing any hope!

@AlbiMix are they the one step ones? I was using them and I was the same I thought I wasn't ovulating cause everyone's lines looked so much darker but I got pg in January so it's just they are crap! I've now bought the easy at home and the lines are so much better. I think they cost the same as the one step so I'd order some easy at home if I were you ive now binned the one steps 😂

Hi all, just been catching up. Cd4 for me. AF has been heavy and painful but it seems to have settled down this evening. I had read some horror stories that the second AF was worst than the first one post MC so I’m thankful this hasn’t been too bad.

I have some OPKs for this cycle. Like I said , cycle has been erratic so I’m not sure I’m ovulating. Hopefully opks will help! Xxx

Thanks @AMS19 & @justwant2beamum for the opk tips, they are the super cheap one step ones, like 50 in a pack. I will definitely look into the easy@home ones, now I'm hoping I did ovulate when I got that positive and didn't have a "false start" as we didn't DTD after that day (I wanted to but OH didn't and I didn't want to force it). I'll find out in 10 days or so when AF is due (hopefully AF won't mess me around this cycle).

@Badlydrawngirly I have everything crossed that your squinter sticks my love!!! Keep us posted. I'm resisting the urge to test mega early 😂

I completely agree about people's reactions. Having told a few people about my MC now I've come to two conclusions:

1. If they haven't been through it they just have absolutely no way of understanding how challenging it is every day post MC, and how absolutely all-consuming it feels. They either assume you should be over it by now or just don't know what to say to you, so they don't say anything. The only people with whom I've genuinely felt listened to and understood by are the people on these two MN threads
2. When I've told someone who has just announced a pregnancy (to basically let them know I can't engage with them right now) they say "oh sorry" and then proceed to complain about their awful morning sickness or some other healthy pregnancy related ailment that I wish I had. It's like...I just told you I lost a baby and your response is to complain that you have morning sickness. Because that's the same.

Hi Ladies, feeling low today I’m on cd2 of 2nd cycle post MC. Have any of you had lots of ewcm during your period? Could I be fertile right now? Im just so confused with my body and life, especially now I know I have a genetic problem where I’m in a higher risk for future MC.. life is so shit right now, so sorry I just wanna ball up and cry

Morning @Jujujuberry I'm really sorry you're feeling low. When do you have the follow up on your tests? There could definitely be more they might be able to do to help things ❤ and yes, I had exactly that. I posted on here about it actually because I was so confused by it! I had it the 4th and 5th day of my period. But don't worry it continued right up to O day so I think my body just started gearing up early and the estrogen was clearly pumping which is a really good sign xx

@AlbiMix this is my one step ovulation sticks from when I got pregnant in jan if that helps so definitely ovulated (Premom didn't scan it as peak it was "low 0.56) but I've since marked it as my peak myself. And I wouldn't have said the test line was darker than control! Hope this helps. I have the easy@home for this month hoping to catch ovulation!
Honestly I was ready to go to the docs and ask if I had low levels of LH and something was wrong with me cause of those bloody one step opks!! 😂

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@AMS19 how was your temp this morning? I had a rise so think I did ovulate yesterday. I had the worst pain all day yesterday in what I assume is my left ovary. I’ve never had it as bad as that! It hurt to walk!

@AlbiMix @justwant2beamum I also found one step to be useless. I used easy@home this month for the first time and they were much better xx

@Mellous hi lovely. Yes a rise this morning! So I am hoping that means I ovulated either Friday or Saturday. I think Friday because that was when I had the stitch like cramps on my left side, and it just took a while for the temp rise. Will need to wait another 3 days though for it to be confirmed given you need 3 days of higher temps, fingers crossed through 🤞🤞 think I'm going to start my B vitamins in anticipation of having ovulate and hope I don't jinx it

@AMS19 ahh fab!! We are going to be very close in dpo and testing then! What do the b vitamins do? xx

@Mellous they help extend your luteral phase. Since the mmc I've had spotting from 9/10DPO so hoping this will stop that happening. But didn't want to push back my ovulation day so decided only to take it post ovulation! I think I'm probably 2DPO today based on when I had the pains so yes super close 🤞🤞🤞🙏🙏

@AMS19 Thank you for your kind reply, its good to know I'm not the only one that's had ewcm so early! I'm still waiting to have my referral, because of Easter its been quiet, so again staying patient and just trying to stay positive for whats to come. Yay temp rise for you, fingers crossed this is your month!! xx

Morning ladies!! Just catching up on everyone’s messages. @Jujujuberry I’m sorry you’re feeling so low. My tests revealed I have a higher risk of trisonomy abnormalities in future pregnancies too and therefore miscarriage but the consultant couldn’t tell me how much higher and said even a geneticist would struggle to put a figure on it. I’m in two minds whether to pursue it (would have to go privately) and at the moment I’m just trying to go with the flow. It’s difficult though, it plays on my mind too so I sort of get how you’re feeling. I really really hope your referral comes through quickly as knowing you’re getting the help/answers you need etc will hopefully make you feel more in control ❤️ As for EWCM, well I’m on CD14 today and have had it for the last couple of days but both my OPks and clear blue digital have come back negative! Really want it to hold off a couple of days as I have a hideous cold right now and sooooo not in the mood to get down and dirty! Plus I don’t think my hubby would be up for it given he told me last night I looked like death warmed up 🤣
To all the ladies who recommended the worst girl hang podcast - thank you!!! I’m not usually a podcast person but Ive listened to three this morning already 😁 the one about ugly feelings was spot on and so refreshing to have someone say out loud how you’re feeling. @AlbiMix you’re completely right about people not understanding - I think until you’ve been through it you don’t quite get the full impact / emotions of it xx

Morning ladies so I'm about 8/9 dpo today and woke up with brown cm first time I've ever noticed this. Has anyone ever had this also have diarrhoea and that's strange as I'm normally constipated. I dont know what's going on 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

@Neady1980 when I was pregnant with my little one I had a really upset tummy. I thought I had a tummy bug and then AF didn’t show. For me is was absolutely a sign although we were back packing across Asia at the time so i didn’t think much of it ...!