Recent MC - New cycles & trying again Thread 2

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A thread for all the amazing strong ladies who have recently experienced a mc/mmc but are braving it to try again! Fingers crossed for a lucky one for us 🍀

Morning @Bunsterbun I'm really sorry. I had my MVA at 11+1 but baby stopped around 7 weeks. Its bloody tough isn't it! It does take a whole, it too me 7 weeks for my hcg to drop below 1, although I did ovulate when my hcg was 9 6 weeks after my mva. I'm now on my 4th cycle (including the one straight from the op where I'm unlikely to have ovulated). It's taken so much longer than I expected having fell first time before. But as you will have seen loads of ladies are getting their BFPs now so there is definitely hope for us all

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Morning *@Bunsterbun* I'm really sorry. I had my MVA at 11+1 but baby stopped around 7 weeks. Its bloody tough isn't it! It does take a whole, it too me 7 weeks for my hcg to drop below 1, although I did ovulate when my hcg was 9 6 weeks after my mva. I'm now on my 4th cycle (including the one straight from the op where I'm unlikely to have ovulated). It's taken so much longer than I expected having fell first time before. But as you will have seen loads of ladies are getting their BFPs now so there is definitely hope for us all

@AMS19 Sorry you had to go through that. It is awful, I'm still getting positives on boots test strips and FRER, so convinced myself I must be pregnant again but they are getting lighter. You never expect it to be such a long process do you? It's so cruel. I have never tracked ovulation before but I think I may starting from next cycle with OPK's. You're bound to get your BFP soon! Yes I have loved seeing all the happy scan updates, it fills me with hope.

PS I've never posted on Mumsnet before so just getting used to posting/replying etc.

@EsseKey yes, so if I count the first day of 'proper' bleeding, so not just spotting I ovulated just a few days later than normal and my next period was bang on when I would have expected it. The next month ovulation was back to day 14. I hope your cycle sorts itself out quickly.

@Tabbycat92 I've had 3 early mc... I've had scans with two telling me what I already knew and one where I didn't bother because with the bleeding it was so obvious and the EPU wouldn't book me in. I do quite like the closure (otherwise I start hoping it was twins with one left) but with the one I didn't have scanned a FRER was negative in a few weeks so that gave me my answer. I'm so sorry though, it's still so upsetting. We have tried again straight away with all our losses... it took 6 cycles to get our daughter - now 17 months and then I fell pregnant three cycles after each loss - three this year.

@Bunsterbun I'm so sorry... the men just don't get it at all I don't think. My friend said to me yesterday it's because their lives aren't 'run' by cycles; it's impossible for us not to think about it and ache for another baby when everything we experience is so cyclical and hormone driven. Try not to think of it as month by month but in chunks of 3 months at a time... so 'I'm not pregnant this three months, let's see over the next three months.' I found the time between my first mc and falling pregnant with Dd excruciating but if it had happened sooner we wouldn't have her in this form. It will all happen as it is meant to (and I'm clinging on to this now, hoping we will get our meant-to-be second baby). 💕

@Bunsterbun no I couldn't believe I was still getting positive FRERs 6 weeks later! Such a long drawn out process. But...I'm over the other side now and you will be too soon! You've come to the right place xx

@glowingtwig I'm sorry you've had to go through it so many times. They really don't, he is very supportive most of the time but he thinks I need to move forward but I'm finding it difficult to do that. That's so true, hormonally and physically they don't go through what we do. I will definitely try that, thank you for the advice. It sounds like a good way to deal with the time in between! You will get your second baby and they will be so precious ❤️

Morning ladies, just catching up. @LauraT94 and @Pettylamby delighted to hear your scans went well!

To the new ladies in the group I’m so sorry you e had to join but the ladies here are lovely and give such good advice.

My question for today is about opks. I’m using clear blue and they obviously give you your smiley faces. I’m also using the easy@ home opks (because I was interested after seeing some of you use them). I’m currently ‘high’ on Clearblue but with the easy @ home I’m ‘low’ when I scan it into premom but ‘high’ on fermometer. Has anyone else run this experiment?😂 I mean I’m obviously going to tell my hubby it’s go time every night until it’s low on all of them (I’ve decided this month we’ll do this rather than every second day- why not give it a go and hopefully still time to recharge!!)

@AMS19 I had a negative test at the EPU, but there's obviously isn't as sensitive as a FRER! It does go on for a very long time, and when I think I'm making progress emotionally, something hits me back into the place where I was. Thank you, it feels nice to finally speak to ladies who understand what it's like. You're all incredible x

@KJLM I don't use clear blue but I would say the key day is when premom gives you the peak. It will become clear so keep testing at least twice a day! I got my peak yesterday and as you can see it came out of nowhere. But absolutely keep DTD regardless! I had to go twice yesterday cause we missed the day before then my peak appeared the next day 🤦‍♀️ so the lack of warning wasn't ideal at all!

Thanks @AMS19. I’ve attached my last cycle with premom but it was a day or two out from ‘peak’ with Clearblue. It’s very strange. I’ll continue my experiment and see how it goes 😂😂

I’ve decided this month not to track bbt because I’m trying to not be as obsessed with it all this month!

@AMS19 just looked again at your picture. Your morning one of 1st April looks pretty high but it says low?

@KJLM I think its probably because clear blue measures estrogen as well as LH and most ladies get a estrogen surge pre their lh surge. So your estrogen surge is likely 2-3 days before your lh and hence the different days. The peak on your opk will definitely be the most reliable one to go off but at least you've had some warning!
Yes temping does make it obsessive. I'm only temping for 2 more cycles then taking the summer off to enjoy myself without focusing on getting pregnant constantly

@KJLM premom has anything below 70 as low, but it was definitely on the cusp!

Since we are all sharing our tests 😂 I got peak on Cb this morning. Strips still say low but that looks quite high to me?!

@Mellous oh yes! Test again later, you can see mine was like yours in the morning and peak by the afternoon! I'm definitely feeling twinges on my left ovary side so really hoping I'll ovulate today and see a temp rise tomorrow 🤞🙏

Also @Mellous you realise this is prime time for a Christmas baby 😂😂 ovulation today = 24 Dec due date, ovulation tomorrow = 25 Dec due date. I mean, I'd take it all day long but you have to laugh!

Hi everyone, it’s really nice to catch up with these messages and see that people have had good news at their scans, so chuffed to see that 🎉

I am now on cd 77 (🤨) following my MC and having a really down morning about it. I’m fed up of waiting for my period 😤 there’s zero happening re ovulation too as you might expect!!

This isn’t new as I had majorly irregular periods (cycles between 3 and 6 months) before getting pregnant and never got a clear answer about why, but I’m struggling a bit with it this morning for some reason 😔

Totally don’t want to bring the mood down but this is such a supportive group and I was hoping it would be OK just to vent a bit here.

Like lots of others have said, while my DH is the sweetest and most supportive, I don’t think he quite gets how much our lives can be taken over by cycles/tracking and the emotional effects...

x

Hey @CocoLoco88 gosh I'm sorry that's super frustrating! Can the GP prescribe anything to include a period? If not, Have you looked into acupuncture/Chinese medicine? I only say that because I've seen a number of girls on here in a similar situation to you who have found after acupuncture and/or Chinese medicine their period has arrived soon after. I cant even imagine how frustrated and pissed off you must feel with it all! And absolutely rant the hell away on here, that's what we are all here for, the high and the lows!

Induce a period*

Hi everyone. So glad I found this thread. I'm new here. 👋. I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks in January. It was our second pregnancy. Which took us a year to conceive. I was broken. I had quite a lot of complications after it. But 7 weeks after my period started. So I'm on my first cycle. (CD18). I've had signs of ovulation , but never a bright test. After we dtd I bleed a bit. But it's never fresh blood. It's brown that comes out in the toilet. Nothing when I wipe. I'm thinking it's old blood maybe ? I don't want to go insane doing loads of ovulation tests , we've just been dtd every other day since my period ended. I just hope it happens faster this time. My son who's 5 took us 2 months to conceive. We didn't even try. Has anyone else had bleeding or brown discharge after sex after a miscarriage. Or has anyone had problems with ovulating after a mc. Thanks ladies x

@AMS19 yes I know I think I’ll ovulate tomorrow! I mean it’s not ideal but, like you, I’ll def take it at this point haha xx

@MeganN91 welcome! Yes I had loads of spotting, after sex and just generally. I never had spotting before but in my last cycle I had spotting 4 days before period, had a 5 day period, then had spotting on and off all the way up to ovulation! All very odd. This cycle I've been drinking raspberry leaf tea from CD1 which is meant to help balance hormones and have had no spotting at all since my period! No idea if it had an effect or just coincidence but progress either way 🙂

Also @MeganN91 obviously super sorry to hear about your mmc! Sorry should have said that at the start. We all know exactly how you feel! Most of us have been speaking for 4 months now since the start and it's the most incredible support group. I dont know if I would have made it through without these ladies. This is technically our 8th thread!

@CocoLoco88 I hear you! My cycle is very irregular, I didn’t have my period for 5 months last year but despite several tests, I didn’t get a clear answer why either.
The GP and gynaecologist kept reassuring me that everything seemed fine. Did you speak with your GP about it or had any tests done recently?

I have also read that acupuncture could help and if AF does not arrive in the next 2/3 weeks I might give that a go!
My MC was 3 weeks ago and I really want to start TTC as soon as I get my first period.

Morning ladies, just wanted to add that I have been reading all your messages and I am so happy for all the ladies that had their first scan and shared updates about their pregnancies in this thread. It really gives me so much hope!

I have been quiet because I have spent the last week dwelling in self pity, crying and feeling very upset. It’s been almost 3 weeks since my miscarriage and the only friend I told about it in person had the brilliant idea to tell me that she is expecting a baby.

I know that I should feel happy for her, but the timing to share her news could not be worse! She told me all about her successful first scan, the heartbeat of her baby etc...and even called me a few days later to ask me advice on NIPT bookings.

I am genuinely happy for all the ladies in this thread believe me, but I can’t help myself, I don’t feel happy for her at the moment and I am avoiding her as much as I can!

Do you ever get these ugly feelings?
I have never felt this way before, I am usually very supportive of my girlfriends and I’ve never been a jealous type of person, not even of my DH or previous partners, but I feel so bad about it right now.

I am sorry for the rant, but I cannot admit these feelings to other people, I think they will never understand me!

Hope you have a lovely Easter weekend and I am keeping everything crossed for all of you TTC this month! xx

@Greenluce I completely understand. My best friend is pregnant and 4 weeks apart from where I would have been! And when she moans about anything or sends me scan pictures it just makes me so angry. And I do really resent her. It's her 5th and here is me without any, seems so unfair. I'm not sure we will ever be as close again after this which is really really sad and on me. But I've learnt we feel what we feel, and can't change our emotions, so why beat ourselves up about something out of our control? It won't change anything, let's face it, we'd chose not to feel jealous if we had the choice