Recent MC - New cycles & trying again Thread 2

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A thread for all the amazing strong ladies who have recently experienced a mc/mmc but are braving it to try again! Fingers crossed for a lucky one for us 🍀

Ladies can I ask, when you were bleeding post MC/ERPC, was it ever clear stretchy cm with tiny bits of blood in it? Have had that once yesterday and today but hadn't had it at all up to now. Pretty certain it's not ovulation cm. Sorry for all the questions I'm driven demented at the mo with this whole process 😩

Cd34 for me.... arghhh I was so hoping my beast AF last cycle would have reset my body. I feel so hormonal, headaches, dizzy and my boobs are sore. BFN so a waiting game for AF.

Ah thank you @Ralala, I'd say your right to be honest! It's the longer this process goes on the more time I have to think and overthink, its dangerous! 🙈Xx

Ooh fingers crossed for you @Ralala! Xx

@Cienega it’s such a hard time. I think if you look long enough at a test you see what you want to see and same with interpreting symptoms. I’m just really frustrated that after waiting 6 weeks for my AF to come back after my MC , my 2nd AF is now looking like it will also be the same time. I really
could be doing with a large glass of wine in the pub with my bestie .... argh

Ah I'm sorry @Ralala that really is shit. It's so disheartening I know 😣 sending hugs x

I had my appointment in the epu this morning and they did a scan. There is no tissue remaining from the erpc so they aren't sure yet what is causing the positive pregnancy tests. They did find a haemorrhagic cyst though. I've yet to talk to the doctor about this but in the mean time has anyone had one of these or know anything about them??

Did anyone who done OPKs before and after their loss notice a difference in ovulation surges? It's been 12 days since my daughter was born asleep and my temp dipped this morning, RHR is steadily increasing which is a telltale sign ovulation is on it's way but my OPKs are still very low. Also is it normal for ovulation to start so soon? I did have a negative HPT on Saturday x

@No1worrier I had a natural MC in January and since then my cycles have gotten shorter,ovulation is earlier

@Ralala really hope AF comes soon - such a pain when you’re just waiting for it to turn up and it takes forever.
@Cienega that’s good news they scanned you and couldn’t see anything. Could they do a blood test to check if it’s a new pregnancy? I don’t have any experience of cysts my love, hope one of the other girls can help!
@No1worrier I haven’t really noticed a difference to be honest but I wasn’t tracking as much pre-MC as I am now. I know after my first MC I must have ovulated within 3 weeks as I conceived my son and I was roughly the same after my latest MC - about 3.5 weeks post op. That said I ovulate later in my cycle - usually day 18/19 so for ladies who ovulate earlier it might be feasible that you ovulate two weeks after your little girl was born. I remember my midwife telling me that women had turned up pregnant to their 6 week post partum check up so it’s definitely possible for things to kick in quite quickly! X

Thank you @SuzieDeLaTour, I noticed you saying that you conceived your son before your AF, was everything okay with dates etc? I am scared to try incase my anxiety gets worse with not being able to date the baby so trying my best to wait until AF. I'm hoping that with ovulation being soon then it will arrive sooner than later x

@No1worrier there was some confusion at the EPU when I first fell pregnant as they couldn’t decipher whether what they could see on the screen was contents of the old pregnancy or a new pregnancy - I would have only been around 4/5 weeks at the point so not much to see! I think I had about 4 different people come in to take a look 😄 I then got scanned at 7.5 weeks - I knew exactly when I ovulated and when we had unprotected sex so I just added two weeks on to those dates and my dates matched up to the sonographers thankfully!! I think as long as you know exactly when you ovulated you’ll be able to pretty much work out your dates within a few days xx

Hi Ladies!

My first AF turned up for me a couple of days ago which I was initially pleased about but I'm not actually bleeding anywhere near as much as I normally would in a regular cycle. I was expecting it to to be quite heavy because I didn't have much mc bleeding so I'm not sure what's going on. My cycles are normally around 33 days and this started exactly 4 weeks after my mc and I've had no pain or cramps like I normally expect either. Has anyone else's first af been lighter? Did it go back to normal? I guess I'm a bit worried that my whole cycle will be different and I'll ovulate earlier next time too.

Hi @Madefoftea.

My first AF post mc was also 4 weeks after, but light in comparison to normal. I was however still getting faint positives on FRERs up until around 7 weeks post mc so was told for me it was more likely a hormonal bleed as opposed to a proper AF. I had a scan at 6 weeks post mc and there was no retained product, so just took a while for my hcg to fall. My second cycle post mc was longer as I ovulated later, I think due to the left over hcg, I had some spotting mid cycle and think this got my hcg down to at least below 5 and then ovulated cd 25 (it was a long frustrating wait), but once I ovulated my luteal phase was pretty standard. My second AF post mc was a lot heavier and super painful compared to normal, but think this was my body doing a good clear out that I had needed.
The cycle after my second AF was a lot more normal and ovulated at the normal time for me.

I think it does some times it does take a bit of time for things to get back to how they were which is so frustrating, but they will x

Thanks so much @SuzieDeLaTour xx

I've since seen the doctor and my god what a morning. I'm an emotional wreck. So far I know baoit the cyst but there is also something else they spotted in the scan that they think is a haematoma but it's in the outer lining of my uterus. I won't know more about that until I see my consultant on Friday. Anyone ever have a haematoma?

He has no idea why my tests are still positive so he took bloods to check my hcg levels and the epu will review my chart and bloods and call me tomo.
My endometrium was measuring about 3mm which he felt was very thin and would be surprised if I was pregnant based on that.
Anyone ever know their uterus lining measurements when falling pregnant!?? Would love to hear some success stories so I can cling to some sort of hope! I still have symptoms so I'm really not sure what's going on x

@Madeoftea my consultant told me to expect the first 3 months to be “all over the place”and not follow my usual cycle. My first period was a monster but the second one which finished a couple of days ago was much more normal. I wouldn’t worry too much at this stage, it can take a while for your body to adjust x

@Cienega oh love what a confusing and stressful morning for you. I had a haematoma with the pregnancy I just lost - it started around 8 weeks and I discovered it because I was bleeding and was scanned by the EPU although I know it’s possible to have one and not bleed. It was still there when I miscarried two weeks later and from what I can gather had grown a bit. From memory I’m sure my lining was around 14mm during my Scans but I could be wrong! Xx

@Pettylamby how are you doing? Not long now until your scan! I hope you’re feeling more positive?
@glowingtwig I’ve been thinking about you, I hope you’re doing ok
Has anyone heard from dippyegg? X

Cd35. No AF. So frustrating

Thanks so much @SuzieDeLaTour. X

Oh I'm so sorry @Ralala that's so frustrating x

Update for me.... The epu just called now to ask me to come in for another scan tomo. She said my hcg is 74. She said it could just be old hormones taking a while to leave my system.
Anyone have any idea about hcg levels and where 74 would fall? 🤔

@cienega not sure when I miscarried my HCG was 120 and 2 days later went to 75 and was told to take a pregnancy test 10 days later, dont know if that will help. I was 8 weeks when I miscarried

@Cienega I’m not sure either - at around 5 weeks my HCG was 1900 but I have no idea what it was after my ERPC. I do know my 25miU test strips took a good 4 weeks to turn negative but I didn’t have any blood tests post op so can’t offer you much more than that! Good luck tomorrow, sounds like you’re going through the mill. I hope they can shed some more light on things for you x

Hi ladies

@SuzieDeLaTour I've spoken to dippyegg and she is just taking some time away but I'm sure will be back on soon to update on everything. But she is okay and I'll let her know you were asking! How you doing? I'm cd12 and no sign of ovulation so looks like it's for the first time ever going to be past cd13. Really praying not too much past it, I loved my early ovulation! On the brightside I've had zero spotting through the while of the follicular phase so that's really good!

@glowingtwig I've also been thinking about you loads

@LauraT94 @Pettylamby @PlantMummy87 how you ladies getting on? Think you have scans this week for some of you?

@Seasalt1984 and you lovely, how you doing? Xx

@Cienega it's really hard because everyone's HCG levels are so individual and different each pregnancy too (I learned this recently). The day after I started miscarrying mine had plummeted to 250, if that helps x.

Thanks @SuzieDeLaTour @AMS19 😘 I've had an ok last few days - being able to have people in the garden has really helped. I contacted our lovely vicar (also a retired GP); he is a very special person and explained to me gently how I needed to restore body and mind before trying again and suggested midsummer. This feels like forever away so I'm not sure about that, but I do feel more at peace with waiting a few months until all the investigations are complete.

My lovely GP called this morning too to check in on me and was really reassuring and said that all signs point to us being able to have another baby, it's just a matter of getting the right egg. So her positivity also makes me feel calmer.

I still feel sad and (this is weird but I always link stuff to the seasons strangely) seeing all the leaves unfurling and the birds building their nests makes me think of how my little August baby should be born in a few weeks, a little spring sprout. And how this latest little one should be blossoming but isn't. So I had a cry in the hammock just now. Then got cold so came in. But the gut-wrenching feeling when I wake up each morning and remember another one is gone is fading a bit in intensity.

Wishing you all heaps of luck this cycle. I'm so excited to see more BFPs... they are coming!!!