Recent MC - New cycles & trying again

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Hi all,

A thread for the ladies from the recent MC/MMC group and for anybody else who wants to join us as we discuss getting our cycles back on track after MC and starting to TTC again x

@ams19
@abimix
@plantmummy87
@thehotelcalifornia
@pettylamby
@laurat94
@neady1980

@DMT1982 egg white cervical mucus is a pretty sure sign you’re gearing up for ovulation, so sounds to me like you did ovulate a little late this cycle xx

@DMT1982 definitely sounds like its been a bit delayed. Worth recording the ewcm in your app so it can update itself for future cycles! Xx

@PlantMummy87 keeping everything crossed for you. No reason to think it's a chemical at this stage, wouldn't expect anything other than extremely faint lines at 9dpo so remember that and try focus on that!! Some people would get BFN at 9dpo then still go on to have BFP so a faint line at 9dpo is still a line and is on a good track. Can't imagine how hard it is though. Maybe test Sunday or Monday with FMU as 11/12dpo is more realistic for seeing a line and will have doubled or more than doubled if Monday.

@Brightspark12 that's so annoying my cheapie sticks are getting lighter but I think I'll wait for them to go negative then just take it as negative. I'm not wasting more money on the frers to get disappointed - I've also read you can ovulate/get pregnant/get your period with small amounts of hcg so I'd say 6-25miu is minimal and your other hormones could still be working normally? That's what I'm hoping and telling myself anyway.

Happy weekend ladies

@glowingtwig thinking of you, did you get your results?

Hi ladies, how are we all. Sorry I have been quiet. Work has been busy and the glorious weather has meant I’m making the most of any opportunity to get out in the sunshine. I think I have ovulated going by CM drying up and achey boobs. Not sure when though . AF due next Friday so will see what next week brings as I’m only cd24 xxx

Thank you so so much everyone did your thoughts today. I was a nervous wreck at work but luckily my GP rang in the morning so I didn't have to wait all day. It's good news so far... HCG has gone up to 1096 which is definitely a good rise from the 267 it was three days ago. She's very happy so I am feeling a bit better. By no means thinking it's all going to be ok yet, but I have a glimmer of hope.

Another HCG on Monday is booked so hopefully that shows another decent rise, then I can have a scan at 6 weeks, (but I think I'll book for 6 and 4 days as more likely to see a heartbeat then).

Sorry about AF @AMS19 but good your cycle is starting to get a bit more normal.

@PlantMummy87 a super light line at 9 DPO I think is good!! Oh gosh I hope they get darker and darker!!!

@yepstilltrying tons of luck for your first HCG! When will you get the result?

Xxx

@glowingtwig that's amazing progression!!! Oh I'm so so pleased for you xx

@glowingtwig wonderful news!

Great news @glowingtwig

@glowingtwig I am so happy for you xxx

@glowingtwig I'm so pleased for you with such lovely HCG progression! I hope you enjoy the news and don't stress too much about the next one but I know it's next to impossible not to stress! ❤️🌈

@AMS19 sorry AF got you 😢 hope you've got a lovely relaxing weekend planned and some pampering for yourself! Hope it's not another beast for you!

@PlantMummy87 I'm so excited for you! 🤞🏻🌈

@DMT1982 does sound like Ovulation to me! Hope you have managed to cover all your bases 🤞🏻

@Pettylamby do you think you'll hold out and not test tomorrow? 😜 No pressure at all haha, but I'm definitely going to wait until Sunday. It'll have been a week since my 2-3 and I'm terrified it'll still be 2-3 if I do it any sooner 😂 although my nausea is kicking in today (5 weeks exactly) so I would imagine HCG is nice and high!

For anyone that does have a BFP, here's a November Baby group on Facebook. It's completely private and has an ambiguous name so none of your friends would know you're on there or what it's about. There's quite a few ladies who have had MC on there so it's a nice and supportive place to be! I'm finding it a lot easier to keep up with than MN at the mo but I'll definitely be coming back here to support you lovely ladies no matter what ❤️

www.facebook.com/groups/830127751051335/?ref=share

Whilst I'm on the subject of updates and BFPs etc, what's going to be the threads policy on scan pics? I've moved my scan forward to the 1st April as I just couldn't wait until the 9th! And of course if it's happy news I'd love to share with you all. But I can totally understand that scan pics can be quite triggering! So I'll be more than happy just to share the news in word form haha. But I wanted to check what the general group opinion was, and I think it'll be handy for us all to know the consensus! ❤️

@glowingtwig excellent news! Xx

@LauraT94 so glad you hear you sounding so positive! It's great. So I think given those who will likely be triggered and most upset by it probably won't speak up my view is the safest bet to protect them is to say no pictures and just words on here. Then everyone feels in control of what they chose to read based on who posts it whereas pictures can't be unseen xx

@AMS19 fab point! Hadn't thought about people not feeling comfortable speaking up ❤️ and on that note if I do ever say anything insensitive please (anyone) feel free to pull me up on it! I won't be offended, I just often get carried away and stuck in my own head 😂

I'm trying to stop myself feeling positive because I want to protect myself. But quite honestly I've fallen into the trap of believing the BFPs 🤦🏼‍♀️ I can't say the anxiety has gone away at all but I do find myself making plans etc xx

Hi ladies!

Just catching up..

@AMS19 sorry AF arrived for you! 😭 Hope you are okay!

@glowingtwig great news about the HCG levels! So happy for you!

@PlantMummy87 I don't think anyone will judge you here for early testing! It takes someone with will power of steel not to and most of us have shown zero will power at some point! Fingers crossed for a BFP when you next test!! 🤞🏻

@LauraT94 I'm still holding strong, although saying that I've taken an FRER everyday! Started to worry a bit today as I've not really felt nauseaus the past two days like I have been feeling since i got my BFP... So obviously my mind is racing and convinced myself something is wrong again! I also feel like my last 3 FRERs look exactly the same... Which I also know is stupid becuase they are not an exact science but I just feel a bit less confident about everything now! (not that I was feeling overly confident anyway!!)

So yeah... A bit anxious over here!

Oh and we are now scan buddies too... Mine is 1st April as well! 💕

@LauraT94 I think that's absolutely how you should be!! The stats are all in your favour and everything looks so perfect, you absolutely should take comfort in all the signs. It is highly likely baby is going to be perfect, so let yourself enjoy the moments you can. It won't hurt any less if you don't let yourself enjoy it and something happens, so you may as well ❤❤❤

I'm sorry you're feeling worried @Pettylamby ❤❤ not sure if it puts your mind at rest a tiny bit but my symptoms got worse after the baby would have died. So I think there is zero correlation between symptoms and the success of the pregnancy. I knows it's hard but I promise, you'll these "signs" are probably either not as extreme as you think or not related at all xx

@Pettylamby ah I'm sorry you're feeling so anxious 😢 I stopped doing FRERs after I got my strong dye stealer at 17dpo (Monday) as I felt I wouldn't be able to see any proper progression after that! I'm still doing the ICs every other day as I can see a clear progression on them. Did them this morning so I'll hold tight tomorrow, do nothing and then do my digital on Sunday! Ahhh no way we're scan buddies!! I'd have loved it to be the Friday so I was 100% 7 weeks but 6+6 is good enough 😂 x

@AMS19 oops sorry I missed off your reply in my last post but thank you so much! ❤️ that's very true about it won't hurt any less!! I keep thinking it'll be worse if I let myself believe, but of course it's going to be 100% awful either way if it doesn't work out!

Thanks @AMS19 💕 - I've done enough irrational googling to know that it is completely normal for symptoms to come and go and some people have none at all but its just so hard having no control or even confirmation yet of what's happening in there! The rational side of me knows there's every possibility everthing is fine, but the irrational side is much stronger and pulls me back to the loss over and over again!

@LauraT94 I wish I had stopped on the FRERs top! It's a bad habit! I've thrown a few out but here's the latest lot... The last 3 are the last 3 days!

@Pettylamby wow I've never seem dye stealers like that before!! Thats an insane test result!

I should probably stop testing shouldn't I @AMS19 🙈🙈

@glowingtwig great news on the HCG! Got my results today. 251 - today is the day my period should have started. Go back for another test tomorrow so I really hope it's gone up!

@Pettylamby the only thing I would say is hook effect might kick in soon. It did for me at 6 weeks. So just so you don't drive yourself mad when they start going lighter from that it might be safe! You'd definitely be getting a 3+ now I reckon, I've honestly never seen tests that dark! Maybe it's twins 👶👶

@yepstilltrying that's a brilliant level considering your period is only due today! Congratulations!