TTC 35+ Thread 7

[sickofthisyear]

New thread- apologies for the unimaginative title!

@KG1145 thank you! Isn't it's funny how you can just meet someone you weren't expecting to meet and it's just obvious, lovely story

@Magnum99 oh it’s a complete mind field isn’t it. And so stressful, I find when ttc I become I complete maniac . Analyse every twinge, spot, symptom. I’m glad your GP is pro active though and has organised a scan for you so quickly, they sound brilliant. I hope that it is a one off for you and that you get some peace of mind from tomorrow’s scan. I thk you are just right to feel that way this month. I kinda feel like taking the month off tbh after last month and then I won’t have this balls to deal with if it happens again but then I know I’ll be kicking myself after if I don’t try so god only knows. I usually get a static on cd12 but thking that might be pushed back a bit this month??? Will try try try not to over thk but who am I kidding lol.

Oh I've completely missed the stories about how we met our partners - I've not been very active on here in the last week or 2 in an attempt to not get obsessed with TTC.

I also met my hubby online. We'd both just come out of long term relationships, my son was only a few months old, tbh I think I just wanted a bit of male attention. We spoke to each other for weeks, maybe months and then one night I just invited him over (in hindsight not very wise) but I felt like I'd known him for years. Then our first real date was a few days later at the Christmas markets.
We were on and off for the first year as we just weren't ready for something serious after our previous break ups but then something just clicked and 10 years later we're still here going strong. It's not all been smooth sailing but the more we go through together the stronger we become. He's the most loyal guy who will do absolutely anything for me, our kids and our extended families 😊

@Fredsmama sorry to hear about your CP - I had one last year after a D&C so I got my hopes up horribly just to have it dashed away. GP wasn’t much help either and didn’t seem very knowledgeable about CP’s. Fingers crossed for you your next cycle is the one! This will be cycle 8 for us! Here’s hoping....

Gosh, pineapple first thing in the morning is like eating tough old boots! Relieved it’s only eaten around ovulation!

@Misty84 😂 I tend to eat the core first because it's so chewy and bitter then the rest of the outside bit to take the taste away lol

@selina37 that good ole b6! 🙏 it keeps the spotting away with a nice bfp this week for you!!!!!

Lovely reading about how everyone met partners and found happiness, especially after tough times/relationships. I am so grateful every day to have met mine, it was just one of those things where everything aligned and seemed so easy right from the beginning (even though my circumstances were far from easy at the time). When you know you know!

All usual pre af symptoms going on here, expecting af at the weekend if not before! Had a random 22 day cycle last month and on cd22 today so hoping I don’t get af soon and have another weird short cycle.

@Loladoodle can't thank you enough for recommending it! 💐 God a BFP would be so awesome, but I can't see it's going to happen! I'm expecting AF at the weekend too. But if it comes, at least I know my cycle seems to be getting better!

@selina37 if no bfps by the weekend will def be a few gins!!

I updated the Premom app today as DTD yesterday and now it says test twice a day ovulation in 5 days but Clue has me ovulation in 7 days.

I've got my day 1-3 fertility blood tests today at 1. Just spoke to the Dr about progesterone test who was pretty useless and told me not to take too much folic acid (I am a carrier of the mthfr gene so take a higher dose) ....

I'm so anxious about CP at the moment. My period is due today and I've had some cramps no blood. Yesterday I took a test and it was still positive and darker so that's reassuring , I'm just working myself up.

Is there any point in having the blood tests today, will they shoe anything about how viable the pregnancy is... It's infertility day 1 - 3 test, full blood count and liver function....

@Kitekat81

Totally agree with the above. Sometimes in all this we focus so much on what we don't have (a baby!) but forget what we do have. Three years ago I was 36, single and having counselling because I thought I'd missed my chance to meet someone and have a family. I was also having lots of problems with my skin (*@thislittlebird* will understand this) and I thought I was unloveable Then at 37 I met my partner and just clicked straight away, within a month of our first date we were living together, and the rest is history! I would so love for us to have a family together, and I know he will be a wonderful father, so I really want to have tried everything we can for this. But if it doesn't work out, and we don't get our family, I know we'll be just fine as we have each other 😊

Yeah, all of this. I'm so focussed on it and I do lose sight of what I have. I've been lucky to meet a really great man and I'm not The Single One anymore.

I think one of the things that makes this harder still is I know he would like to be a dad, and I know he would be a great dad. I don't want that not to happen, for me and also for him.

Need to catch up on the thread now...

@Loladoodle yes it will be the gins as opposed to anything else I reckon 🙄🍸

@KG1145 I'd have the tests anyway. Nothing to lose I guess, is there? You can at least talk about your fears if just for gaining a little comfort. If the test is darker then that's great! Try to stay calm xxx

@sickofthisyear

Also while everyone is sharing- I gave up alcohol immediately last year when we decided to TTC. Hadn't done that this time, but going to now. Period starting imminently 😔 But have to weigh that against how long you're planning to try for and how much you'll miss alcohol. It could be a long time to deny yourself of anything nice. I was lucky to conceive quickly on cycle #2 last year (although the pregnancy ended at 16 weeks) - if I'd been trying a long time I'm fairly sure I'd have allowed myself a drink or two by now!

I haven't given up much really. It's been so long that I can't quite bring myself to do it. But on the plus side I don't drink a lot anyway (and when I tried to have a gin last night it tasted gross, the drugs I'm on maybe?).

I probably should cut back on caffeine, but I don't really have any other vices and it feels harsh having to curb it. Ugh.

@KG1145 did you do a digi yet? Maybe that would help now that af is due and levels should be high enough for a digi now? Or can you ask Gp to do blood test for levels so that you can start taking progesterone?

Just skimmed the mother's day stuff and I avoided it all tbh. Sorry you had a rough time @sickofthisyear.

I broke down at the end of Sunday. I saw my pregnant friend post a pic of her mum and her on instagram and it broke me. She's due this month.

I've never had a Father's Day to celebrate, used to have a Mother's Day with my grandmother (raised me, dead now) and my relationship with my mother has never been so bad. She never lived with me after age 3, last year she didn't come to my wedding and it's proving really hard to get past it all. I just really would like my own little family and not just this mess.

I do have a family with my husband, but you know what I mean.

@KG1145 I'd still get them done but not sure if it'll help give you any answers about the pregnancy. Great that you got a darker line today though!

@thislittlebird how are you doing?

@KG1145 This is the book:
www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B00VGJMAHA/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_d_asin_title_o02?psc=1&tag=mumsnetforu03-21&ie=UTF8

So far it's really interesting and really highlights how much our gut does, how much it's connected and how influential it is but also how overlooked it is in every way really. Really interesting stuff.

Love the story on how you met @Marvellouslymadmum

Sorry to hear about your likely CP @Fredsmama

@Marvellouslymadmum yeah, rough few days tbh. As mentioned up there Mother’s Day is a big black hole of nonsense for me so I just didn’t want to think about ttc really.

I decided to start testing today with the clear blue gadget. It finally gave me a LOW. Not sure if that’s because of the rejigging thanks to the acupuncture or what, I dunno. It did test a day earlier at cd7 (usually starts asking for sticks day 8, but I ovulated earlier last month and it’s asked for one earlier) so will be interesting to see how it pans out and if it’s straight to HIGH again tomorrow.

My plan not to try at all this month is feeling shaky at this point. I don’t know what to do. I guess I should read more on steroids and antibiotics and ttc. Not sure what others would do in my shoes, it’s hard to know what’s best.

How’s things with you?

So rushed out on my lunch break for the tests and forgot the forms so having to reschedule anyway... 🙈 Not succeeding very well on keeping stress levels down.

The consultant who already recommended progesterone wants to charge me another consultant fee (£150) before he'll even do the prescription. Yet he was the one who said I 'needed' it from when I got a bfp. It feels ridiculous tbh and I'm annoyed he's made this recommendation without testing my progesterone levels when he did the other tests.

I think I'm going to buy another test to pee on and try and reschedule the blood tests deep breaths

When in doubt pee on a stick 😬😂

Thanks ladies for keeping me sane! 😘

@KG1145 I'd definitely be doing a digital with date as well if I was you 🙃

I think I may be different from some of you, in the fact that I want a family no matter what. If it doesn't happen in the next year then IVF etc, if that doesn't work then adoption, ideally a baby

I'm cd 11 today, so a day off dtd thank god lol. So busy at work, just want to have an early night to sleep lol

My peeing after work on opk is fine, was bursting when I got in at 6pm last night, so went normal person, 45 mins later did opk & it was slightly darker, so all good

@Farfaraway1 thank you ! I have fingers crossed for our BFPs this cycle ! I didnt expect to feel as annoyed as what I did xx

@thislittlebird I completely get that, I had a rotten Mother's Day myself to start with but it turned out ok in the end.
My clearblue have asked me to start testing a day later this time as my cycle was 27 days rather than 26 of last month so that makes sense.

I spoke with a different doc on Monday and she completely understood, was lovely and referred my oh for an sa and me to fertility so 🤞🏻 I should get amh and afc and clomid if needed! However today I've come down with a chest infection and I have brittle asthma, so got another appointment tomorrow and will most likely be given steroids and antibiotics too as it's standard protocol for me, they're high dose too as I end up in hospital if I don't have them 😕 I'll carry on ttc anyway as I was given both when pregnant with my son and they told me the risk to baby was higher if I didn't have them than if I did

@KG1145 oh no that's annoying! That's shocking that he wants to charge you again have you not had progesterone tests at all?

@Marvellouslymadmum your story on how you met your partner is beautiful. Why not write a story about it? That whole part about the cousin and band. How small this world can be! And also @Magnum99. Online relationships can be very beautiful owing to the angst and mystery that builds up over time whilst getting to know the person. You get to know the person in a deeper way that is perhaps not possible (in the early stages) through face to face dating and eye contact. Also all the day dreaming that comes along with it 😅 My husband and I met at a local pub and every time we’d bump into eachother he’d come upto me and try to open up a conversation. I wasn’t interested at all the first month and felt I was better off focusing on my career and what not. Then something clicked. We had a long distance relationship as he lived abroad and would travel back and forth for me. So there was a lot of daydreaming and angst and all that jazz. We got married after 7 months of meeting. We never know when love comes our way but that’s the beauty of it all... in how it unexpectedly it hits you and suddenly everything falls into place. This thought always brings to mind the song “At Last.