TTC first baby thread 26

[Annny27]

Hello all, setting up a new thread for us old timers to keep up and stay sane on the ttc journey!

Hi everyone,

Can I join please?

Im 25 and trying to conceive baby #1.
Ive previously suffered from a miscarriage and 2 ectopics (one was may 2020) and we've been ttc since October.

Ive been seen by private gynos and they seem to say everythings fine but i feel like something's wrong with me.... I only have one tube due to my EP but have been told that this shouldn't really stop me from having a baby.

Any tips on trying?

Babydust to all ✨💕

@orangeloo yeah I am not overly concerned about the IVF working in order for us to conceive as we have not had issues there, it's just getting past 8 weeks so I hope someone can give us some more info and maybe some stats about how and why this is the best route to go down! When is your first cycle starting? sorry if I have missed this from earlier in the chat

@Lozzlepop ah yes of course I really hope they are helpful and can give you some answers. I'm on stims now so it's all starting to happen. It's funny you wait for ivf for so long and I'm pretty prepared but it's still seems crazy when it all starts happening. X

@ilkerandamelia hi, sorry for your losses. I think the only tips are just the usual, be healthy, eat well etc but I would also say look after yourself mentally. Just keep trying, I'm sure you will have success. There may be miscarriage groups on here too that you may find useful. X

@orangeloo that's interesting you say that about AMH as I've just been told it has to be at a certain level for me to qualify on funding for the NHS because if it's too low it indicates diminished ovarian reserve (DOR) and it's very unlikely IVF will work with your own eggs . . . As it happens, the area won't fund AMH blood tests (go figure) so they looked at my FSH levels instead.

@Lozzlepop I'm getting a repeat FSH done on the 16th which will be CD3. So I changed surgeries in October to a different CCG as the previous 1 only funded up to age 35 (I turned 35 in September) so they had to look at everything again. And this area requires FSH levels below 10 (they basically treat it as an alternative to AMH because they won't fund the AMH blood test)

I'm still absolutely fuming for you @miw01 can't get over the incompetency!

I've got all the gadgets ready to roll for cycle 8.

Good luck for all the ongoing appointments and procedures. Lots of love to you all xxx

@MIW01 I think it's definitely worth looking into as are second opinions maybe. I don't know what nhs criteria is re amh but I would think private amh criteria is lower and I think they may do more mild or natural IVF for people with DOR. X

I've just found out my BFFs are pregnant with 2nd baby! Of course I'm happy for them but I am absolutely devastated for us . . . Far more devastated for us than happy for them in fact. We had arranged to meet up tomorrow but I just can't bring myself to do it right now after our recent news. Another friend of mine gave birth a couple of days ago to a baby they've been waiting 7 years for to confound things.

Thanks @CycloGoose neither can I!
Hope you're feeling OK @orangeloo unfortunately we can't afford to self fund which is why it's so devastating. We've maxed out our borrowing so that's not an option either
@ilkerandamelia have you tried acupuncture? I jist started sessions had 4 now.
Hope you can get some answers @Lozzlepop

We had people round today and it was just so normal (apart from the fact we were all outside under blankets). It was a nice distraction from all consuming TTC inner monologues XXX it might be nice to see them and just not talk shop xxx

Hello everyone been trying to conceive for 13 months with #1 just had a failed IUI from last month, and starting the second pretty soon

Welcome @EllaRose123 I'm sorry to hear of your recent disappointment. Lots of us on here have been TTC for a while now.

Hi everyone.
Egg collection was last Friday, got 21 eggs only 4 mature :( 4 fertilised. We have one top quality blastocyst frozen waiting for us. I couldn't have a fresh transfer as they were concerned about OHSS but I was fine.
It was a tough 5 days. I know we are lucky to have one but that first phonecall was so disheartening - going from such a high of 21. I only had 7 days of stims so think my dose was too high and ovaries went to much too fast. FET should be next cycle all being well. For anyone about to embark on IVF. It really is a tough rollercoaster. I was as prepared as I could be I think but emotionally nothing could have prepared me for it all. Take all the support you can get and look after yourselves. X

@orangeloo congrats on getting through it, you're right the emotions and physically commitment is hard going. How did you feel after EC? I remember I couldn't walk for about 3 days and still sore up to a week later.
Take it easy until transfer and good luck for your little eggsy waiting for you x

Hi everyone. I’ve been MIA for a bit.

Im trying again this cycle after 2 cycles of stopping TTC. I’m currently taking progesterone. And I’m on 9DPO.

I’ve now had all the infertility tests on the nhs and I’m waiting for my appointment to book into IVF. I was really worried that the wait for funding would take ages so I emailed my CCG to ask how long the wait was. They were very confused and said there is no wait for funding unless you have an unusual case. I’m slightly confused by this as I have read that the wait for funding can hold things up.

Regarding the recurrent miscarriage tests. My original November 2020 appointment has been delayed until This month. However I was told that I wouldnt actually get the results until September 2021 at the earliest. So I made the decision to pay privately for the recurrent miscarriage tests. I made the appointment and a week later I had my blood taken. My consultation is next week where I will be given my results. So basically from booking the private bloods, within 2 weeks I will have answers. Compared to 12 months on the NHS.

I just couldn’t take the incompetence of the NHS any longer. I don’t actually mind the wait and I understand it’s because of COVID. What has annoyed me is that every time I have phoned up they keep saying it’s only 2 months away. Had they have told me the full info and the total wait time earlier I would have paid privately a lot sooner.

@MIW01 I read your FSH story and I panicked. My result was 9.1 last October. I also was told my result was normal as it was less than 10. However from reading online it’s not normal at all. However I had my AMH test done and it was 40 which I believe is good. So a high FSH doesn’t necessarily mean low eggs.

@orangeloo sorry to hear it's been tough and fingers crossed that it's all worth it!

@XjustagirlX I completely related with the NHS incompetence ... if knew my 1st FSH test came back at 9.2 which, as you say isn't normal! It's just within the threshold for funding, if I'd know it was supposed to be below 8 when I had it done in June 2019 I would never have waited and we would have made the decision to not go ahead with the house renovation and instead use that money for fertility treatment ... I am so, so angry with the NHS. I feel like they've essentially ruined my life! I know that sounds extreme but I am feeling so much grief atm. I am getting another FSH test done on Friday and essentially being given 'a second chance as apparently FSH levels fluctuate a lot anyway, which is also ridiculous! Why not just fund the AMH tests which is what the guidance refers to? It's all absolutely ludicrous!

Thanks @MIW01. I have heard they can fluctuate too so I have everything crossed for you. I am so sorry for what you are going through. I would love to think that if you kicked up enough of a fuss and complaint that u missed the threshold because of them they would make an exception but I know this is wishful thinking too. I really hope something comes through for you. X

@Kiza thank you. I wasn't too bad after egg collection although was in pain and sick the night of. I'm also still rather bloated and getting twinges in my ovaries 10 days post. Hope you and your little on board are doing well X

@MIW01 are you able to pay for that one AMH blood test privately? I managed to find a fertility clinic near me where I can select which blood tests I want without paying for a full package.

I completely understand your views on the NHS. I’m the same. I honestly feel like the NHS is a shocking organisation. I think our A&E service is amazing but everything else is terrible. No one knows what’s going on and no one takes any responsibility for their clients.

@XjustagirlX the NHS won't accept a private AMH test unfortunately. I'm getting a FSH test done this Friday. So will wait and see what results come back and will got from there getting all necessary tests done.

Just accepted now that if it doesn't happen naturally then it is most likely we'll have to use donor eggs if we want IVF. Just absolutely devastating.

Hey all - can I join?

I’m nearly 32, & my husband and I are TTC our first. It’s been about 6 months and my hopes of things happening quickly have evaporated. It’s surprised me though how all-consuming I’ve found it?! Each month gets divided up into the stages of waiting-trying-hoping-resetting - and all the while wondering if this month could be the one.

Currently waiting for AF to finish up so I can try OPKs for the first time... which will be a whole new learning curve 😅 If anyone has tips for a clueless beginner, I would be eternally grateful!

Hello ladies! Long time no speak - lost the thread for a while! I am meh tbh - bit depressed it's been soooo long and fed up. Like most of us I imagine!

Got my hycosy this cycle on cd12 so hopefully wont ovulate untill a few days after that so we atleast get a chance this month!

@orangeloo it sounds very emotionally draining! Do you feel sad that you couldnt do fresh transfer or were you just happy not to have the OHHS risks?

@kiza hope you are doing well!

@miw01 it's so frustrating that they wont even try ivf! Like miracles happen why cant they just try:(

@xjustagirlx when have they said you might start ivf?

Sorry to hear you're feeling so down @Anny27 when I had my HyCoSy I was told that sometimes that can 'flush' everything out and help increase chances TTC. So hopefully that's the case fpr you

Welcome @Belano it's quite standard to take up to a year TTC even if you're in perfect health I know that doesn't help matters though. I'm now 3 years in! OPK wise you have cheap pee on a stick types or the digital types which show you smiley faces. For the cheap types I recommend one step or overview which you can get on amazon. And Clear Blue Advanced digital for the smiley faces.

@Annny27 I’ve got my next appointment on 11th May where he will fill in the forms for ivf. He did say there was no wait so hopefully I can get sorted quickly.

I’m currently using the progesterone suppositories. On 13dpo. AF due on Monday. I’m going to do a test on Sunday morning. Progesterone is do confusing. @Annny27 did you feel pregnant when you took it? My bbt is still high, I’m feeling sick in the morning and I don’t yet have my AF spot on my face. I’m worried it’s just the progesterone though.

It comes in waves doesnt it @miw01 some days I am optimistic and others I want to lock myself away in my room and never see anyone again 🙈🙈 when do you get your FSH result back?

@xjustagirlx tbh I feel pregnant every month 😂😂 but my boobs were much bigger when I was on progesterone and I had a bit more heartburn. So you never know:( good luck for testing tomorrow! Xx

Hello ladies! We are a bit quiet here but thought I would update you anyway! Consultant thinks I have endometriosis as my scan showed that my ovary was stuck to something e.g.adhesed with endometriosis

So going to be put on the waiting list for a laproscopy and hopefully get things sorted 🤞🤞

Hello everyone,

Totally got out the way of writing on here, but kept having the occasional nosey.
Hope your are well.

Still ttc and no luck yet 🙄 and not much further forward with any tests either!
Kind of got stuck in a rut and fed up of chasing, but gave my self a shake, and I'm going to be on the ball now and getting pushing 😂

@Annny27 hope you don't have to wait too long 🤞🏻 did you have symptoms of endo?
Sorry if you have already explained this earlier in the thread 🙈