Post Pill Party - The Ceilidh

[TheDaydreamBelievers]

As the Post Pill Party Mosh Pit dies down... sweaty and bewildered, the ladies head to the bar to freshen up. Suddenly, a fiddler bursts onto the stage, beginning a merry tune. Everybody swings into an energetic Ceilidh!

Our heads are spinning, our bodies are knackered but we arent giving up dancing when the music is this catchy!

This is the 8th post pill party thread for women whose bodies don't know the correct dance steps after hormonal contraception. Raise a dram to combating delayed ovulation, flabberghasting follicular phases, loopy luteal phases, bizzare temp charts and OPKs whiter than a Scotsman's bum!

@Emmgrem your pre-ov temps are quite high (well, by my standards) so it could be that your are just having a normal Estrogen surge, causing your temp to dip, which will be followed by a temp rise again... I hope so!

I feel like I’m in a dilemma. We cancelled our wedding in 2020 and had moved it to June 2021. We had just moved it to 2022 however with the news that weddings will probably be allowed to go ahead I feel like maybe we should go for august 2021.

I feel like there is always going to be a subconscious deadline in my mind if we go for 2022 knowing that eventually we have to stop trying just because there wouldn’t be enough time for me to loose weight after giving birth to get back in my dress. Realistically we have about 4/5 more tries this year. And that’s like leaving it to as late as possible.

We could just agree to stop now and I wouldn’t go back on the pill just leave everything as it is and just be “careful”. Or we keep trying for a 5/6 more months when maybe it doesn’t happen and we’ve wasted another year we could have got married.

I’ve not been keeping up with chat so sorry guys hoping everyone’s going in the right direction.

I’m just getting so jaded with my whole body. I was so relieved in January when I finally got AF on CD137 and thought maybe I’d start falling into a routine again but it just isn’t happening. I’m now on CD45 with no sign of O or anything happening I just feel so rubbish about it all and don’t really know how to proceed

I can’t exactly ‘try’ if my body isn’t even working out how to have a period / ovulate

Chart just because - really testing FF limits on how many days it can show at this point. If anyone has any advice I’d really appreciate it as I’m at a loss

@Sperr I had this dilemma too last year and it's so hard to know what the right thing to do is. I guess ultimately you have to decide what the most important thing is to you. Our wedding was meant to be September 2020, and although we did actually get married with a small ceremony then, we moved the 'wedding' to September this year. After trying for 5 months I then had the dilemma of whether to put TTC on hold and prioritise the wedding, or carry on and just work around it if we did get pregnant. I'm now 17 weeks and have just started arranging moving the wedding to 2022 as my due date is 1 month before the 2021 date.

It's so tricky, but I think all you can do is go with your heart and decide if you feel like you could stop TTC. For me I couldn't contemplate the idea of stopping, so I decided I would be more comfortable fitting the wedding in around a baby, but then again we did go ahead and get married, so that probably made me feel different knowing we were already married, and that the new 'wedding' is technically just a party for our friends and family, although still the whole day we originally had planned, just without the legal bits.

It's the most difficult thing trying to plan huge life decisions around the last year or so! xx

@Robyn101 was 137 your first period off the pill? My first cycle was massive, then my second one more like 50+ days, so hopefully soon for you.

Did you get any testing in the first massive cycle? Id push the GP to do some bloods to see if anything is off (cycle hormones, androgens, thyroid as a minimum). If they do end up doing this, get the actual numbers as they often fob off with "looks okay" when it doesnt really.

Found some listing pics of the master bedroom and the kitchen for you to enjoy! The kitchen has an asbestos filled lean to and on the right it weirdly has a tiled wall a bit like in a wet room?

@Emmgrem I agree that it looks like you might be having a wonky cycle post CP. Could be early AF or actual ovulation happening later than expected? Maybe jump OH just in case.

@TheDaydreamBelievers tbh that's such a healthy attitude to have - carry on DTD and nothing else matters really.

not sure why only one pic attached!

@MintGreenLife I think I would like to get legally married and then just do the “party another time”.

Can I ask how you did the legal ceremony? Did you use the same venue or did you go to a registry? Did you do anything afterwards? Xx

@Sperr that worked for us, I just felt happy to be married after all the 'is it on/isn't it' stress. It just made the whole TTC thing feel a bit more straight forward too as we didn't have to worry as much about working around dates etc, which as you know is impossible when you've been trying a while.

We were very lucky in that our venue let us have the ceremony space for free on the day and move the date to the following year, and now have let us move the date again. At the point we got married you could have up to 30 people outdoors, so we had some food and drink in a family members garden afterwards, there was only 15 of us in total but we were lucky as we have small families.

There are ways around it and while it wasn't what we originally planned looking back now I probably wouldn't have changed it xx

@thedaydreambelievers I had a withdrawal bleed around a week after coming off the pill and then CD137 was my first proper period. I called my GP and they fobbed me off in December (told me to wait 6 months and see if AF returned because I’d been on the pill over a decade. Also told me to lose weight ) but then i ovulated naturally and had an AF so I left it with a hope that things might get back to normal

I know I probably need to ring the doctors but i absolutely hate it, the reception are absolute dragons and are like dragons on heat since covid that feel it’s their personal mission to stop anyone talking to an actual doctor 🤦🏻‍♀️

@Robyn101 I feel for you. I feel lucky that my GP agreed to just test what they could even in covid19 times! They werent as good on the interpretation but that was lack of knowledge rather than blowing me off. The reception staff are also awful though!

@Robyn101 big hugs Its horrible not knowing when ovulation will happen... I really sympathise x My only advice it to detach... keep tracking and keep DTD but don't get your hopes up that 'today is the day' you will ovulate xx

@LauraT94 @Juno231 haha!! Your listing photos actually look really lovely. Here are my listing photos... the house was an absolute mess! It was on the market for ages and had no viewers (surprise surprise) so we were able to get a decent discount on the asking price.

@Kay00 that last photo . Why would you photograph it for sales without picking up some rubbish?! Also... lotion by the bed always looks suspicious.

By "you" I mean the estate agent, not you personally haha

@TheDaydreamBelievers yes, i mean the estate agent's photographs... they didn't take many of the inside (you can see why lol) but the outside of the house is really very beautiful. Its unique too, the only one in Exeter. We are sloooooowly doing it up... there was a lot of damp work, new electrics, new heating etc. to do before we could start decorating.

@kay00 the first two pics look super cute and then that last one omg haha. Gross! Btw the bench + table in my kitchen pic is where I'm sat right now! We asked them to leave them behind as otherwise we'd have had nothing to sit on in the kitchen.

Oh and our sofa was meant to arrive early Jan but the dates keep moving so it's currently arriving mid March. Bear in mind we've been on bean bags since October now!

@Juno231 cute! I think your kitchen looks lovely lots of cupboard space!

Also... the green in your bedroom is quite funky, could look amazing depending on hoe you decorated the rest of the room... and how brave you are haha. Is that an original fireplace I see hiding in the bedroom?

@juno231 haha. whilst waiting for our first ever sofa to be delivered (about 10 years ago now) we bought a 3 piece blow up suite . It was all fun and games until they started deflating haha!

@LauraT94 wow that lime green kitchen, great space though!

@Juno231 there are no words for that wallpaper

@Kay00 I hate it when people don’t tidy up for estate agent photos! I think I’d be cleaning for a week before hand 😂

All of your listing photos make mine look tame! Window in the first pic is now doors, grey carpet (big mistake) and grey walls (basically looks like something out of a next store or Mrs Hinch’s house 🙄) so looking forward to refreshing it in the summer! Walls will be a dark greeny, earthy grey with more of an industrial feel

@TheDaydreamBelievers OH really wants baby so at least I know he’s really dedicated. I think i was just having a hormonal morning. You forget that hormones exist after years of being on the pill!

This was the front...so much curb appeal 😂😂😂

@sperr I think that message was maybe for @MintGreenLife?

Also @MintGreenLife how are you?

@ChinChilly haha so much soul and warmth in that place! We've stripped the floral wallpaper off (and the ceiling wallpaper!) but the walls behind it are falling apart now so we can't do anything until they've been sorted.

Not sure what to do with the lime green skirting boards, door, cornicing, architraves etc - sand it all, prime and repaint? I'm such a novice!

@kay00 yes that's the only original fireplace left! All the others have been replaced by horrendous surrounds and gas things. Plan is to try and strip the paint off and see what hides underneath.

@Juno231 I know 😂 can you tell it was a rental for 10years while relatives lived abroad! With the skirting boards etc it depends on condition really if they’re general ok then a sand down and prime and paint should do it, ours had ahout 10 years of white gloss build up and needed replacing really, the wood work sanding is a right pain in the arse

I’m thinking this colour for the walls when we redecorate 🤔