Feb Bus 2021 - no more TRYING to conceive, let's blimin do this!

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Here we go again girls! 💕 Wishing you all so much baby dust for this cycle! 👶🏼
CD4 for me today, cycle #60000000 at least. 🤦🏼‍♀️ TTC bubs #2 since Jan 2020.
2 miscarriages, umpteen national lockdowns, at least a stone heavier 🙄 Let's do this 💪❤️

@Sar1010 Hi 😊 ah so a similar age and time to us then. How old is your DP/DH?

So many positive, encouraging stories coming out of acupuncture that I’m itching to give it a try!

Ours is definitely more regimented. Wish I was spontaneous but I just don’t think that’s me unfortunately 🙈.

My luteal phase is quite short too 11/12 days. What is CoQ10?

Gosh I hope this month is the month for us all! We’d just squeeze in 2021 babies then 🥰. Xx

My partner is 34. We haven’t had any tests done yet as we’re getting married in July and for some reason my partner want to wait till after that to test?

I’m not sure what CoQ10 is 😂 I just googled short luteal phase and it came up a lot!

Oh I would recommend acupuncture if you need to chill out, it’s really helped me! X

@sunshineandshowers3

Yeah I’ve had pink spotting occasionally a few days before my period and then it goes brown but I would definitely call it spotting. So maybe yours was something else?

So easy! I can’t actually believe it’s taken me this long to use the clear blue ones. I put it in about 5-10 minutes beforehand and then got in to bed. Yeah we sort of skip foreplay for me which is a shame but I guess we’re thinking of the greater good 😂

She said she used preseed every time they DTD during fertile window and she did SMEP. She said previously she had just used preseed for the peak fertility days but this time every time. So I’ve tried that and hopefully going to complete SMEP tomorrow...

Let’s see how it goes. Really hoping it’s our time soon 💕 xx

@Sar1010

Ahh very interesting about the homeopathic herbs - I’m really in to all the holistic stuff.
I definitely want to be passionate and I took a couple months off Mumsnet to focus on just doing it when we’re in the moment and it was really nice .... but it didn’t work ... so we’re back to OPKs and started preseed 😂

I actually love the acupuncture though it’s so relaxing and definitely makes me feel more positive. Do you find it makes your period heavier? As I had it once last year before the lockdown and it made my period so heavy!

Also my acupuncturist suggests having three sessions close together before ovulation so that’s what I’m doing this time. Is that what you do?

@MiniBaker Yes I’ve had it the past couple of cycles and it’s completely thrown me 🤷‍♀️.

What time do you test with the OPKs? I always test first thing in the morning. Apprehensive to use them again this month as I used them for about 4 months or so last year with no joy. We shall see! 🤞

Yes when we use it foreplay is a no for me, but as you said, greater good and all that 😂.

Ah that’s all good, useful info then. I’m 29 next month and keep dreaming of a BFP before my birthday. I know statistically it’s probably unlikely but I really hope it does happen.

2021 Mummas hopefully 🤞😍🥰xx

@MiniBaker Sorry another question, with SMEP do you count the 3 days in a row from high fertility or peak fertility? 🤷‍♀️ xx

@MiniBaker yes it’s made my period heavier and longer! I’ve taken that as a positive! Because since my chemical in June my period have been pretty light and lasting only two days max!
No I haven’t heard of having acupuncture three times on ovulation but that does make sense. I have appointments every two weeks one is usually around ovulation and the other is around tww.

@sunshineandshowers3 I test OPKS around 11am so not FMU. But I have sometimes tested more than once a day when it’s around cd13/14 just to be sure not to miss the peak.

Oh yes a BFP before your birthday would just be LOVELY!! 🧡

@sunshineandshowers3

I have been using first morning urine too as that’s what it says to use in the clear blue instructions.. but when I used to use the cheap OPKs it said not to use first morning urine so I used to test around lunchtime. I prefer first morning urine though as sometimes I would forget once the day got rolling!

With SMEP, and I might be wrong... but with the clear blue ovulation tests I just thought having sex every day it says high and peak then one day off and then again the day after? But with the other OPKs I thought it was 3 days from peak...

Aww I keep thinking that we must be more likely to conceive now as we’ve been waiting so long. All fingers crossed for you 💕 xxx

@Sar1010 it’s really interesting the change acupuncture has on your body isn’t it!

My periods are pretty light too without it so I think it’s a positive that they are heavier.

Do your nipples get really sore around ovulation? Mine used to practically hibernate but since acupuncture they are out all the time and really tender. I presume it’s related.

Also does your acupuncturist use like electric box so the needles jump?

@MiniBaker Yes I always test first thing too when I have the time and, as you said, don’t have time to forget. The leaflet says with my length cycles to start testing from CD 6 so I’ll start testing from Tuesday.

Ah yeah it’s so confusing because with the clear blue ones you could legitimately get about 4/5 high days! Lots of DTD! I’m exhausted at the thought already 😂🙈

I like that thought process! 😃 According to the NHS website 80% of couples get pregnant within a year, so hopefully we’re in that majority 🤞.

Finding this morning quite hard with all the Mother’s Day posts if I’m honest. Whenever I see one that says ‘those yearning to be mother’s’ it really hits me 😔.

Sending lots of love! xxx

@sunshineandshowers3

Haha 😂 I think I’ve exhausted DH this week with all the DTD! I think he’s ready for a few days off now..

Completely with you 💕 I’m finding it hard today - feel like I’ve been bombarded with baby chat today - I’m in a group chat with DH family and 2 of them have had babies recently so constantly send pictures and DH’s mum is always talking about how cute they are and things they are doing and reminiscing on what it was like when my husband was a baby and I just want to shout - look we’ve been trying for nearly a year and it’s not happened yet can we change the subject 😬

Then my dad’s GF two daughters who are both younger than me have just had babies and they keep sending pictures too and I’m just like 😫

I know it sounds really bratty and I’ll probably be the same when I have a baby but I just feel like it’s so frustrating when no one knows you are trying and it’s a really sensitive subject xx

@MiniBaker 😂 We made the mistake of DTD last night before AF was properly finished so (sorry TMI) but feeling a bit sore this morning 😳.

Gosh you’ve got baby chat coming at you from every angle 😞 sorry to hear that. There isn’t really even any baby chat my end as no babies in the family (we’ve both got very small families) and I get the impression we’re the first of our friends to be trying. But seeing all the Mother’s Day posts still hurt 😔. Keep thinking by this time next year we could well be in a very different position! What day of your cycle did you start using the OPKs from? xx

@sunshineandshowers3 Ahh I know what you mean. Sometimes you think it’s over when it’s not quite...

Yeah literally surrounded at the moment it feels - I have to give myself a good talking to to try and take part in the conversations but I find it easier to ignore it.

Yes really hoping that by this time next year we’ll have babies! I think I started testing with the OPKs on Day 10 but I read the instructions on the clear blue pack and followed them to the letter as it tells you what day to start on there based on your cycle length.

Are you going to use preseed again this month? How often do you buy it because I was quite surprised that the tube looks pretty small...

My nipples have been constantly tender since ovulation this cycle - I usually get this a few days before AF only. Do you get sore nipples after ovulation up until AF? I’m thinking it might just be the acupuncture increasing my blood flow. But tiny part of me is hoping it’s a sign 🙏

Xx

Hey all - just a little update. Got my BFP on Saturday at CD31, first time I tested. Quite a faint line but tests again last light (not even with fmu) and I was a lovely strong line 😊

@MiniBaker - could be nothing but my only 'sign' was erect and sensitive nipples from about cd22 and a bit of bloating. On cd30 I needed to pee constantly. So could be good news!

@Wowthisisreall congratulations on your BFP 🥳 🎉 so wonderful to hear success stories on Mumsnet. You must be over the moon 🌙

Ahh I’m only 5 or 6 DPO at the moment - and my nipples seem to have gone back to normal now... wait and see nearer AF what happens. I can’t believe I’m 10 months in and still symptom spotting 😂 have I learnt nothing!?

@sunshineandshowers3
Hey, how are you getting on? I think I’m out again this month - feeling bloated and just got a tiny bit of pinky discharge which is usually my warning sign that AF is on her way in the next day or so 🤦‍♀️

I'm out, back on CD2. Hope all are well

@PeanuttyButter sorry to hear you are out. I’m out too - spotting from yesterday turned in to more blood when I wipe so gutted as tried loads of new things this month. Really feeling lost and frustrated x

@MiniBaker Hi 😊 so so so sorry to hear you are out again. It genuinely is completely gutting every month isn’t it 😔. Hope you’re being kind to yourself. I know from personal experience it’s easier said than done though! Sending you all my love, as always ❤️. It will be our month at some point, we have to keep telling ourselves that.

I got peak fertility today on the OPKs. DTD Monday, will do it tonight and tomorrow too. I’m CD14 today so have ovulated later than usual as I’m usually around day 11. I feel oddly okay this month. I’m going to really really try the mantra of ‘it won’t happen this month’ and hope to one day soon be surprised. I’ve been so busy with work my mind has been distracted a little thankfully.

@PeanuttyButter Sorry to hear that 😔 hoping you get your BFP soon! How long have you been ttc? x

@sunshineandshowers3
So gutting - it’s been a really hard one for me this time as I tried so many things - I don’t know about you but I feel like I get more upset when we’ve tried really hard that month so I’m with you in your attitude - it’s a great way to be.

Today I’ve booked in for private fertility tests, the ultrasounds and the AMH blood test at a clinic with a view to starting the journey towards IVF if it’s needed... we wouldn’t have considered it before but with the wedding off we’ve got some savings so hoping to get some answers and feel like we’re taking some sort of control of the situation.

Fingers crossed for you this month is your month and maybe the work distraction is what your needed 👶 🤞xx

Hi Girls, is this the latest bus? I just found this thread but is there a March one? X

Hi @SarahMumof1DS there is a March one now - I will try and send you the link!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/4179043-March-2021-TTC-Bus?msgid=105899242#105899242

@SarahMumof1DS

@MiniBaker Sorry for the late reply, as ever a mad busy time at school in the lead up to Easter.

How has everything gone with contacting a private fertility clinic? Have you got dates/ appointments in place? Is it costing the earth? 🙈I know my DP won’t even entertain the idea until it’s been a year...so hopefully come May I can persuade him! 🤞

How’re you both feeling about it all? Currently 6DPO and no symptoms whatsoever!xxx

@sunshineandshowers3 no worries I completely understand what it’s like! Do you get 1 week or 2 off?

It’s been really positive actually! I’m going in tomorrow for the pelvic ultrasound scan, antral follicle count scan and AMH blood test. Then we have an appointment on the 15th April to discuss the results. These first tests aren’t crazy money (£300 total) so I feel like it’s worth it for now as can just rule out anything or see if anything is wrong there to be aware of...

Oh my DH still wants to try naturally for a couple more months but we’ve said June / July we might look to have a cycle of IVF if results come back showing that would work for us... it looks like it will probably cost about £5000 for a cycle though... but I don’t want to wait a whole extra year for NHS and be even older.. and insane by then 😂

Had acupuncture again this month and made my period really heavy again which I feel is a good thing so hoping that’s working!

6po is early on, hoping this is your month 🤞 no symptoms that AF is on her way is good! xxxx