TTC after MC - Jan/Feb 2021 (Thread 17)

[PumpkinEverything]

A new thread for those trying to conceive after miscarriage.

Have tried to tag as many people as possible!
@Bellabubble
@Pancakes7
@TheDaydreamBelievers
@bez91
@NatJ24
@NatNoo96
@ELMcg
@RichmondLady1981
@susiebluebell
@Garman
@RS2609
@bumptobean
@bubblybrit
@PrettyPinkPansies

Hi @NatNoo96 sending you lots of love as I know it can be tough and feel like it’s never going to happen. Thought I would share with you that we too have been similar in the sense of not having issue conceiving as such, but more about having a healthy sticky bean that was our area. We had four losses, and I know that the experiences can make you feel hopeless and deflated.

Unfortunately the NHS criteria is three consecutive losses for investigation but I know that private clinics can support and help which we looked into. Their waiting lists are really good too and you can often get an appt in pretty decent timescales which is helpful.

After my testing and investigations all came back clear, I was prescribed 5mg folic acid daily & progesterone for as soon as had a BFP, in addition to 150mg aspirin as soon as had BFP. Consequently to this, we conceived that next cycle and so far have a very good feeling about my current pregnancy, awaiting 6-7 week scan on Saturday and all feels good and healthy thus far.

Hopefully this helps reassure you a little, and gives insight into some avenues of support / options to ask for after investigations.

Sending you love xxx

@Starfishh it is really hard isn’t it to hold out? It all depends more so on when your AF is due than DPO, and then on which tests you use. It’s most ideal to wait until AF is due / 14DPO. But I know all too well how hard it is to wait for that xx

Does this look like a positive ovulation test? I got my static smiley yesterday but the cheapies weren't quite positives yet and then this was a cheapie today at 2ish. X

Sorry meant to attach this one x

I'm so bad at this!

@PumpkinEverything thanks for your rey, it's so hard isn't it. I'm trying not too test early but also trying to decide whether I should calculate on a 28 daydy cycle or a 30 dya cycle... Common sense says the 30 day cycle but impatience says the 28 haha its just nice to talk to people in the same position x

Hello all, I have been watching this thread for a while and just wanted to join to share my experience.

DP and I have a DD (almost 4), have been trying for DC2 but I had a MC 15th December at just over 9 weeks. EPU said to wait 3 weeks then do a pregnancy test to see if positive and if so phone back (which was horrible), but all negative so were told we could try again after next AF. 1st AF after MC finished this weekend so we are now TTC again.

I didn't tell anyone about the MC apart from my line manager at work and my brother and SIL who had to come to look after DD in the middle of the night while DP and I went to the hospital when I started passing big clots. I am excited to be trying again but also nervous.

DP and I are both early 40s.

Sending positive thoughts to all.

@NatNoo96 I’m sorry you’re experiencing this :( I have had 2 mc in a row - fell back in Jan last year, had a mmc, then fell pg in Sept and had an anembryonic pregnancy. Even thiugh I’m 2 months away from turning 37 they won’t do any tests until 3 miscarriages in a row. It sucks so much! I’m currently 5 weeks pregnant and from ladies on here who have had fertility consultations, they have been prescribed low dose aspirin and progesterone. I have got some 75mg of aspirin that I have been taking since my bfp - I just wish you could get progesterone without needing a Dr’s prescription! Sorry I can’t give tou any real advice - but I can definitely sympathise with you! x

Hey @FruityPolos so sorry for your losses... Best of luck for this month!

And to the other ladies on here I'm so sorry for your heartache , couldn't tag all but I have been reading your stories on here.
I have children, but seperate for one more u feel like this maybe my last chance.lre so desperate agyer miscarriage at 11 weeks and chemical pregnancy a few months after... X

@HappyVibes good luck for your scan! I’m going to be booking an early one again - but I don’t know when is the best time. I don’t want to go to early and get myself worried because they can’t see too much. How are you feeling? xx

@Bellabubble thank you lovely I’m feeling okay thank you. Not the best but feeling grateful and blessed so not moaning. I spoke with the scan clinic and they advise that the latest they should see the heartbeat is approx 6wk 2-3days. So I’ve booked for 6wk 4days. Good luck lovely xxx

@RS2609 I’m currently 5+2 so still very early - it was about this time in my first pg that things stopped progressing. The last one was anembryonic, and at the 8week scan it was an empty sac that measured about 6+6 - so I’m trying so hard to not panic and overthink! I haven’t booked my scan yet - but am aiming for somewhere after the 7 week mark. How are you feeling? x

@Bellabubble I know exactly what you mean. I think after having a loss it’s so normal to feel anxious. I’ll be 6+1 sometime between Thursday and Saturday which was when we miscarried last time. If we get past that hurdle then I’m thinking of booking a scan in for 8 weeks. Trying to just take each day at a time. Looks like we are in very similar positions, keeping everything crossed for you xx

Hi ladies.

I’ve been catching up on the thread over the last couple of days so been rather quiet myself.

Welcome to all the new ladies. I’m sorry that you find yourself here. I’m sure you fill some ease through this group whether its some answers to your questions, finding someone going through a similar thing or event just having a cry. We have seen it all and we dont judge! Please do reach out to any of us if you are feeling low, we are here for you ❤️

Bit of background on me and my journey
DH and I are trying for our first baby. I am 25 and he is 30. As everyone else on this thread, we just want a sticky bean to grow into our rainbow baby.

Started TTC in May 2020
Had a chemical pregnancy in July 2020
2nd pregnancy in October 2020 which ended in MC at around 9.5weeks
AF arrived a week later than usual just after xmas
I then started tracking ovulation in Jan which confirmed a peak on 10th Jan.

The TWW was just horrendous! I promised I wouldnt test early, but i caved in and did two test. One at 8DPO the other at 10DPO. Both returned with a BFN which was so disheartening. I wasn’t ready to give up so I ordered more PTs and tested again at 12DPO.

I could not believe my eyes when I saw a line on the FRER at that point. I burst into tears and went crying to DH who was very concerned at 9am on a Saturday morning.

Im now 4weeks pregnant (from the LMP) but I’m so fearful so I’m not able to enjoy the happiness i should be feeling. I’m in genuine fear that it’s going to go horribly wrong like before. DH on the other hand is over the moon. I feel like im raining on his parade.

I’d like to ask my GP for an early scan just to reassure me because I’m not even able to sleep overnight as my mind keeps racing to the “what ifs” scenarios. Has anyone got experience with this?

Sending you all lots of love xx

Hi ladies, I'd like to join if that's OK. I had medical management for a MMC a couple of weeks ago so might be a while before my cycle settles. The littlie should have been 11 weeks when I found out but had stopped growing at 8, only a couple of days after a positive looking early scan. I'm 38 with two little boys, feeling pretty positive but suspect I'll get impatient waiting for my cycle to come back in.

@NI101 Generally you won't get an early scan on nhs. I've had early scans for both my last 2 pregnancies to check all is ok. (1 was my son who is 20 months old. Most recent pregnancy was mmc in July 2020)

I really hope all goes well this time. I completely understand the fear. It's awful just it. But try and keep positive but keep busy so you don't over think it. I'd recommend booking a private scan for 8 weeks for reassurance. Fingers crossed for you x

@HappyVibes I’m glad you’re doing ok - it’s such a hard time isn’t it! Good luck for Saturday, let me know how it goes! xx

@RS2609 I’m keeping everything crossed for you too! xx

@NI101 sorry you’re feeling this way, it’s a tough time.

Due to covid unfortunately they aren’t offering early scans at EPU. I think they only generally offer them under certain criteria in any case, but at the moment the criteria appears to be even more limited to only if you need injections during pregnancy or had previous ectopic.

I asked my GP for Hcg bloods and they gave me great reassurance...perhaps this is something they will offer.

You could schedule a private scan as they are still running at the moment, so that could give you reassurance?

Xxx

Hi - I was on the old thread but had no been on here for a few weeks !
Hope everyone is OK?
So I am 6 weeks post miscarriage and last couple days have felt odd with higher then normal temp, tested today at 2pm, super faint line thought nothing of it as I haven’t had a negative test with FRER yet (I have had complete negatives with clear blues the last couple weeks), then at 7pm this evening felt hot and dizzy so decided to do another and the line is darker !!!!! Would it get darker if it was still old hormone and later in day? I’m going mad; just want to know where I stand now :(

@Mammaofgirls I’m not too sure re if it would be higher or lower and how to interpret this, as I know that some women previously said that their tests are higher on an evening than morning. I would test again with FMU so you are more confident in the reading. Then compare again the same time of the day in a couple of days as HCG doubles. Hopefully you’ll have more clear answers in the morning lovely 🧡 Xxx

Thanks so much for replying , yes will test again in morning and see what it says !
Thank you xxx

Is anyone in their ttc time of the month. I've got the clear blue fertility monitor but keep forgetting to do my ovulation test in the morning. I am sticking post it's everywhere lol. My ovulation seems to vary by a couple of days. One month was peak day 12/13, next month was 15/16. Fingers crossed for this month.

@NI101 that's great news, congratulations. Try and throw yourself into something to distract you and take each day at a time. You can get an early scan from about 6 weeks but some private places will do abdominal only, internal scans may be better at that stage which is what I had on one of my previous MCs.

Tested this morning at 14dpo and BFN 😔 pretty gutted but hey onto month 8 hoping for a sticking bean. Haven't told DH yet, he'll be completely relaxed about it i think you certainly carry more of the weight and pressure as the female. Going to try and throw myself into exercise, I have a few pounds to loose which is hard when TTC, being extra cautious through TWW, being pregnant twice in between and repeat 🤦🏼‍♀️

Ah @bez91 wish it had been better news this morning! Hopefully AF turns up at least so you’re on track that way. Losing weight at this time is a minefield isn’t it?! I’ve been trying as well and it makes me worried I’m not eating enough calories right now, yet they say that losing weight can help conceive 🤦‍♀️

Thank you @PumpkinEverything 🤗 hoping for AF soon although no idea when she'll arrive, anytime in the next 7 days 🙈 it's a tough one isn't it, I'm not particularly overweight, more so on my bottom half but still a size 10 I just don't carry it well because of my height and still haven't managed to shift the extra few pounds from the 2 unsuccessful pregnancies so just going to throw myself into that for now 😊 really really have my fingers crossed for you!