TTC after MC - Jan/Feb 2021 (Thread 17)

[PumpkinEverything]

A new thread for those trying to conceive after miscarriage.

Have tried to tag as many people as possible!
@Bellabubble
@Pancakes7
@TheDaydreamBelievers
@bez91
@NatJ24
@NatNoo96
@ELMcg
@RichmondLady1981
@susiebluebell
@Garman
@RS2609
@bumptobean
@bubblybrit
@PrettyPinkPansies

@vitaminb33 I am on one hand desperate to be pregnant again, but also very sure that when (hopefully) I do get pregnant, I'll be a nervous wreck up to probably after the 20 week scan

Hey @Loll35, I'm sorry to hear this I hope your ok, wil lu try again for next month? No AF for me yet I'm due. Mondays did another ffrer today but not first morning urine again, another negative so I'm also thinking I'm out this month. Going to try not to be too disappointed.

@PumkinEverything your doing amazing you have more will power than me haha

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Hey ladies! Sorry i'm way behind on chat but what do u guys think of this....have I missed my peak?
DTD on wed and was waiting for my peak to try again. Will DTD tonight and tommorow but kicking myself now as I had really bad ovulation pain yesterday and not so bad today.
Only my second month of using Premom so wondered if others have experinced this?

@PumpkinEverything sounds lovely and good job on filling your time! I'm always very much strictly 14dpo or later as there's no ambiguity that way 😂. I've thrown myself into exercise since my BFN which has lifted my mood 😊

@vitaminb33 very much feel that, My most recent MC was my second and I did find just taking a day at a time helped and not looking forward to each milestone like scans, announcing etc etc and just looked forward to getting to the end of the day still 'feeling' pregnant. It's hard and I when I get a BFP I will feel that rush of anxiety again, you're not alone 💕

Hi @elsimo I have only just started with premom myself so I am not the best with it yet, but I dont think that means you have missed your peak. If you keep testing it should monitor you getting higher and it will then register your peak once it goes to 'high' and then peaks. The readings you have are still reading as low so I think it should still go higher than that. Others may correct me but thats what I was thinking would happen as mine seems to go up and down a little on the numbers and graph but overall the reading is still 'low'

@PumpkinEverything well done on not testing yet you are doing very well!!! Not long to go 🤞🙏

Thanks @NatJ24, I just wasn't sure cuz it had seemed to peak and go down again.
I was pregnant with twins last time and often get really bad ovulation pain and it eases and then comes again so not sure if thats me releasing 2 eggs or not 🤔 xx

Thanks for the encouragement @ELMcg @NatJ24 @Jaym78 I find the weekends to be easiest as I can distract myself a bit better 😂 I do work full time, but because I’m at home at my kitchen table my mind wanders a lot! Great idea @bez91 it’s crazy how much better it makes you feel! I managed one barre workout on the sweat app two weeks ago (which was way harder than I expected it to be as I thought it would be easier 😂) and haven’t done anything since as I’ve been playing mario kart 😳 any sign of AF at all for you yet?

@chloedancer897 I just wanted to say hi and that I’m still on here too from April last year although been trying TTC #2 for 2 years now. So know exactly how you feel about others coming and going and still being here. Had tests done too and all ok so far. Just on a waiting list now for a gynaecology appointment at my local hospital. I’m 13dpo today but tested and bfn.

@Florence15 yes mine was also at 11 weeks, I definitely think the first trimester at least will be an anxiety mess. And honestly because mine was a MMC I'm worried how I'll react to scans! I'm also trying to reconcile myself to it maybe not happening (I've provisionally promised finally getting myself a dog as therapy).

@TheDaydreamBelievers I know what you mean - I had terrible anxiety during my first (healthy) pregnancy and it only started to improve at about 24 weeks, and that was prior to experiencing a miscarriage! And I think once I started feeling movements it improved a little.

@bez91 thank you that is really helpful, I'm so sorry you've been through it twice. You're right it does seem better to take it a day at a time, and just accepting that it is going to be difficult.

@PumpkinEverything oh yes, well done on completing that! Ive done that workout on Sweat before - completely unaware what barre was before hand, it's pretty intense 😆 although I have lost quite a bit of fitness since august so starting back on BBG beginner 🙈
Good for you, you should be taking it easy 😊
Had cramps all the way through my TWW but they stopped Tuesday and no signs since so just hoping it's not going to be a ridiculously long cycle!

Urgh raging.....LH totally dropped so defo missed it. I knew it as I was sore on Friday and had such a sharp pain on Friday night but didn't say to my OH as he has been saying he thinks we have been having too much sex and should have waited longer.
Moral of the story.....don't listen to OH when they come up with random theories based on nothing lol.
This is not good timing either as my sister in law is due to have her twins tommorow and another friend told me they were pregnant this week!
Arghhhhhhh!! I hate TTC.
Rant over

@elsimo oh no! I get so confused by these ovulation tests because initially I thought the test line had to be equal to or darker to indicate ovulation, which would be 1.0 or more on the ratio on the app. But then reading on the premom site it says:
If the highest ratio value (peak) in your previous cycle was below 0.8, then the will adjust to the following:
Less than 0.5= Low
Greater than or Equal to 0.5= High / Peak
So then I suppose you can have lower readings and it be a peak?
Mine went up and bit yesterday and has gone back down today, but I didnt take it as a peak because my CB is still giving me a blank circle 🤷🏼‍♀️ and being cd10 today was thinking it is too early anyway.
Fingers crossed if that is your peak you will still be ok with when you DTD because dont you ovulate 24-48 hours after a peak? 😃🙏🤞

@elsimo are you sure you haven’t got it covered from having sex before it? I read something that around 2 days ovulation gives a really strong chance.

I’ve just had what I think was my first implantation post my MC earlier in Jan, or it could be AF but felt too short for AF and it was early so who knows. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Anyone else has intense cramps and bleeding for like 2 days post their MC?

@elsimo O-2 is a good chance! Best (statistically) are O-1 or O but O-2 is next! And obviously the different chances between these days are tiny numbers. So, you're in with a shot!

Hey @Jaym78 yeh I'm okay, we honestly didn't "try" properly this month so it was a bit of a long shot but yes I'm ready to go for it this month so feeling positive. My cycle seems to have settled and I think I'm ovulating on day 16 but il use opks too. You're still not out until af shows so keeping my fingers crossed for you!

@elsimo mine always drops like that before I get my peak. Try to test least twice a day from now on ( I test 3 times as my peak last only for 12 hours so even with 2 test I would miss it)

Absolutely back to beginner for me too @bez91 I feel so unfit 😂🙈 thats so frustrating since she should have appeared by now since you ovulated. I always thought the longer part of a cycle was before ovulation rather than it potentially being after.

@elsimo I would keep testing as it could just be that your body tried and it didn’t work and you could get another one. As others have said, if it was your peak I think you’re still in for a shot since you DTD two days before 😊

@elsimo definitely keep testing for a few more days incase you get what they call the slow rise. Also - after your peak - ovulation takes between 12 to 36hours to happen - my last lh surge happened on the Saturday and we dtd on Sun and I got my positive.

@Loll35 im out this month too AF arrived early hours so day 1 of cycle for me ... looks like we're on the same track again. Be nice to keep up with you xx

Thanks guys for all your comments.
I'm sure I ovulated on Fri night as I had a really sharp stabbing pain, then it all eased.
I will keep testing tho incase.
I had all this ttc anxiety under control as I had tried for so long before my MC in November but feel like i'm back to the start again and it's driving me crazy xx

Sorry to hear that @Jaym78 how are you feeling about it? Yes definitely keep updated, good to have a cycle buddy x

@PumpkinEverything I know, the only thing I can think is that I didn't ovulate when I thought I'd got my peak 🤷‍♀️ will keep waiting patiently 🙈🙄

@elsimo as others have said I'd keep testing, I'm not up on that app or those types of OPKs but like someone else said your body may tried to have ovulated but didn't, regardless you're still in with a chance at -2 days definitely!

That’s what I was wondering @bez91 did you stop testing after that? I think it’s always a bit of effort to keep going due to needing a 2 hour hold 😂 I’m hoping that I did as I had ovulation pain like last time 🤞🏻

@elsimo don’t forget - once you ovulate - you still have up to 24hrs after ovulation that you can get pregnant x