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[Minster2012]

Well ladies we made it all of 9 days before needing a new bus, I think I’ve had farts that lasted long, especially when they were in a bag (in blog joke) and now it’s an extra long one...bus, not fart 😜.

We are a chatty bunch it seems and we like to encourage ppl to get involved with our racing car of a TTC bus which can also be a bit of sex education class as well!

It may seem a strange ride here as we’ve got all sorts on our bus (not just the animals). We’ve got long term ticket holders where some of us have been around each other for longer than we care to remember now (so bloody hell some ppl here REALLY are bloody owed a sticky BFP now right??) but cos we love 💓each other and genuinely care about each other we cling together...despite some of us heading of to the infertility clinics, and we’ve got some newbies at the start of their TTC journeys, child number 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 18 we don’t care.

Any questions ask away, we LOVE ppl to get involved...we love those who chatter!! We also love a sex toy 😉

And if you see mention of my blog then blame these guys they made me do it...#shamelessplug

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Story so far...

June 24 BFPs
July 11 BFPs
August 18 BFPs
Sep 4 BFPs
Oct 7 BFPs
Nov 7 BFPs
Dec 14 BFPs

5 BFP already for jan...who is next?? 🥰

@DKDK123 OMG that just came up as I posted & I literally just did the exact face of 😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲wooooooooooooooooooooo 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

Thanks ladies, you lot are the best.
Sorry should've mentioned that the only conclusion of our 4 hour 'meeting' the other day, was the house proceeds will go into a joint account that needs two people to sign on transactions, and we are starting couples counselling from next Wednesday.

I heard the story of a friend of a friend today, who's husband (and father of their two young kids) told her he was leaving her for a high school friend he'd reconnected with online (no physical relationship). After much therapy turns out he was suffering depression, making very odd, out of mind decisions, went on medication, and now years later he and his wife are more in love than ever.
I so friggin hope that is what's happening here and there is a solution, I don't care how long it takes.

Thank you @Minster2012 I'm just sitting here a crying shaking mess as it caught me by surprise. I was completely neutral my last bfp as I just knew it wasn't going to stay but I don't know why I just have a feeling about this one and I hope it doesn't prove me wrong, I'm daring to let myself hope a little but still being realistic there's a high chance this will be another CP. If I make it to 6 weeks I'll relax a little as the other 4 havent gotten beyond that.
DH is at work its going to be a looooong wait for him to get home.

@DKDK123 oh my gaaaawd!! That's so bloody excellent!!!! Yayyyyy 🎉🎉

By the way @DKDK123 I could totally see the faint line on your test yesterday (easy for me to say now 🤣) and I'm sorry I didn't have the chance to reply and reassure you of it xx

@DKDK123 yayyyyy a great week for us both. Congrats ❤️❤️❤️

@Skip86 oh hun I'm so so sorry. Sending so many hugs. You are not a bad mum, you're dealing with some serious shit right now. Kiddos will be fine. Xx

It wasnt me that posted yesterday @Skip86 it was @DJmum83, thats who I tagged this morn and said she had to get a blazing bfp on her next test to lift everyone's spirits, little did I know I was sitting on one myself 😂
On the DH front, it's reassuring that you're starting couples counselling that means his heart must still be in it if he's willing to give it a try, I think your depressed and over stressed theory does seem right, men just deal with things differently than us. If he didn't love you he wouldn't have been ttc with you this past year, he maybe just can't cope with all the heartache that's been happening and is in that flight or fight mode his brain is saying run to protect himself. Keeping everything crossed that the couples counselling is helpful x

@Minster2012 no, he'd had a cartoon character put on them from a disney film. 🤣 They looked pretty funky (not something I'd wear though). My brother still lives at home (in his 30s) and scrounges off my mum.

@Skip86 Oh good god. Agree with @Juno231 - he can't just come out with that? Ok, things might be hard etc but surely you raise that issue first. Not just break up? Unless there's someone else? Surely you try to resolve the issues? I'm so sorry. Definitely ok to feed your kids rubbish, and have a good cry.

@DKDK123 yay! Congratulations!

@DKDK123 wow congrats 🥳 hope this is the stickiest of sticky beans hun!
@Minster2012 sadly out of bed now and sat in a towel, really should move faster considering I'm meant to log on at 9 🙈 still not looked out the window 😂 good luck with the redo, tender docs scare me but I do have to work on them for work sometimes and I just panic lol!
@Skip86 great, glad you're moving forward. Counselling will do you both good. I'm sure it'll be sorted out and you'll be stronger than ever at the end of it too xx

@Minster2012 how many EPO do you take?
Also your wine looks very yellow, what is it please? I'm a white wine gal other than Chardonnay!
Though I've had a few good Chardonnay's that haven't been too bad!
Absolutely green with envy that you've got snow !!!
@LB20xx all excellent signs!
@Skip86 I am so sorry, how shitty and out of the blue. You say you think he could be depressed.. could you encourage him to address that? I'm raging for you though what a bastard!
@DKDK123 Perfectly ok to cry, be excited and be terrified! Maybe try now not to let yourself test for a few days ? Sticky bean vibes your direction!!!
@DJmum83 can't wait for yours now after yesterday!!! 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

@DJmum83 aww yes I’m doing ok thanks and keeping fingers crossed for you.

@Franklydear looking forward to seeing your gloves and I’m doing ok thank you. Sorry to hear you think the nausea is AF related.

@DKDK123 aww yay!! Congratulations hun

@Skip86 so sorry that is really crap. Glad you have things in place and I hope all goes well with the counselling and things.

@DKDK123 congrats! How long were you trying for? xxx

Anyone else on the TWW??? Mine starts today. Not hopeful as just don't think it was timed very well this month.
but we are hopefully moving house beginning of March if the references go through- so I'm trying to tell myself there's no pressure for the next few months as it would be hard to move house and pregnant. xx

Omg @DKDK123 and @DJmum83 I'm sorry I got you mixed up!!! 🙈🙈 But DJ I do see something super duper faint on yours, have every possible thing crossed for you for Saturday 🤞🏼

Thanks again for all the love and support 💗 time and a lot of talking and healing is needed (unless the fucker just up and leaves before we get the chance). My family is my world so I just don't know what I'd do if I lost it all.

40 min walk in the rain for a school run, we have a main road to cross with traffic light and is busy, when we were getting to it, a woman with a couple of kids was crossing without using the lights, so the convo was
DS: wow, she is a bad mum
Me: you can't called people that, I am sure she's trying her best
DS: well, trying to not get killed with your children is pretty basic, really
Me: 😲

Photo of our newly found river, quite fast moving water too, not quite sure if to wash my hair now, I am going back to it in a bit more than an hour...

@amy2503 17 months, 4 CPs in that span so keeping everything crossed number 5 is the sticky one. I'm waiting on my referral for the fertility clinic to discuss possible IVF so hoping this wee one is going to stick just in time 🤞

@Franklydear, DS has a point 😂

@Skip86 OH and I did a year of couples counselling and he did a year of individual therapy as well a few years back. With him leaving the army (which is a one year process, so quite long) he was really lost and down and took it out on our relationship and did bring up leaving out of the blue. Absolutely crushed me at the time but he's much better now and couples counselling was very cathartic. I strongly recommend it so I'm glad you're going!

@DJmum83 sorry I missed your post yday, I do hope it turns into a stronger line for you - it's promising that your temp went back up too.

@DKDK123 congratulations!! Fingers crossed for a sticky bean 🤞. Early implantations are good though so don't you think there was anything wrong with how your body did the previous ones, those little embryos were probably just not meant to be xx

10DPO and my temp has dropped... Tbh I'm resigned to AF starting on Sunday so don't even know why I bother with the countdowns lol.

@DKDK123 omg! 🥰🍾
@Skip86 at least he's willing to work on it, I bet in stress too, I was in a terrible mood the other evening so DH made a hot chocolate and the hot water bottle, and he sent me to bed and he did bedtime (read play Minecraft till really late in a school night)
Gloves coming shortly, I got home 20 min ago and only did catch up with you

@Skip86 oh wow, I'm so sorry I don't even know what to say!! I really hope that he's just feeling the stress and just needs a break and then he'll come to his senses!! Men just don't need how to deal with emotions sometime! Sending you lots of love and hugs❤️

@LB20xx it all sounds positive🤞🏼

@DKDK123 wooooo!! Congratulations lovely!! Amazing news❤️

@DKDK123 there's no arguing with an autistic kid that knows he's right 🤷 still trying to put a filter on that he doesn't need to let people know their shortcomings

@Skip86 the biggest of hugs for you ♥️ this is a horrible situation to be in but I agree with the others: it sounds like he has some mental health things going on (like depression) and needs some help with it. It sounds like you've both just had so much going on and I can't even imagine the stress you're under. I'm glad you've got couples counseling planned in - he might also want to consider having counseling on his own too to help him work through stuff.

@DKDK123 Congratulations!!

@LB20xx keeping my fingers crossed for you!

I swear I can't even poas right... such a faint control line what hope have I got to see 2? Ffs and this one is a boots one I found in my drawer!

@franklydear bless him! Here's a pic of the lovely farmers field opposite us, now underwater. Apparently we've got snow forecast for later @minster2012?

So yesterday went running, deliberately got soaked head to toe by a lorry driver. This morning, out for a walk, deliberately soaked head to toe by a BT van. Why does this keep happening to me 😔

@franklydear I teach a class of autistic teenage boys, definitely need a thick skin with the no filter comments when they're around 😂 but I love it.