The filthy sisterhood of basques 👯‍♀️babydolls with easy access holes, IVF drugs & supportive hugs -TTC bus 28

[Minster2012]

Well ladies we made it all of 9 days before needing a new bus, I think I’ve had farts that lasted long, especially when they were in a bag (in blog joke) and now it’s an extra long one...bus, not fart 😜.

We are a chatty bunch it seems and we like to encourage ppl to get involved with our racing car of a TTC bus which can also be a bit of sex education class as well!

It may seem a strange ride here as we’ve got all sorts on our bus (not just the animals). We’ve got long term ticket holders where some of us have been around each other for longer than we care to remember now (so bloody hell some ppl here REALLY are bloody owed a sticky BFP now right??) but cos we love 💓each other and genuinely care about each other we cling together...despite some of us heading of to the infertility clinics, and we’ve got some newbies at the start of their TTC journeys, child number 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 18 we don’t care.

Any questions ask away, we LOVE ppl to get involved...we love those who chatter!! We also love a sex toy 😉

And if you see mention of my blog then blame these guys they made me do it...#shamelessplug

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Story so far...

June 24 BFPs
July 11 BFPs
August 18 BFPs
Sep 4 BFPs
Oct 7 BFPs
Nov 7 BFPs
Dec 14 BFPs

5 BFP already for jan...who is next?? 🥰

@Minster2012 trainers? Marry me? What, I'm lost? 😂 thanks for the pic...yeah pretty sure what I'm drinking is like 25% or something. Crap.

@Minster2012 ueah i figured a chic wouldn't get me pregnant 😂

@Nats7504 sorry about af. A 2 flippin days early the efficient bitch!

Oh duck there's me and my messages getting mixed up. Wine. It's a bastard.

It should have been.....
@paintfairy I hope those trainers said will you marry me 🤪😋😛

@Katao I
Hopefully the evening primrose oil and Pom juice will make a fluffy lining. The choc COULD make you feel good. I COULD send you a pic of the wine that's Making me FEEL good and my messages a bit squiffy???

@DJmum83 if they aren't supportive they are at least VERY funny. Or at least me. You can laugh at me. I don't mind ☺️😆

@paintfairy im still confused did he lay your mum or the girl for a visit??

@Katao at least a chic's early visit would do it in style 😜in my head thats REALLY FUNNY

Good evening ladies! Just had a quick skim through catch up on today's posts! Will read through properly in a sec ☺️

So just a quick update, I'm now into CD42 and my symptoms are

• bloating
• had cramps on Friday and Saturday and tiny bit of spotting on Sunday morning
• weeing more often
• pulling/ full sensation just underneath my naval area
• heavy boobs
• feeling more 'wetness' than usual

Trying not to get too hopeful but these are hopeful signs if I do say so myself!
I swear if AF turns up out the blue this week before I test next week, I'm done with the world! Please help keep me sane girls! 😳

Morning all
@LB20xx very hopeful signs, but I’ve been fooled before, my own signs are also there, but I had them all before and nada
@Minster2012 pic coming, when I finish them later this morning, ha very a late start shift for some stupid reason, you defo making not much sense after the wine😂, I think bossboy has given up on the parading himself in misery, wasn’t working😒

@lb20xx @franklydear keeping everything crossed for you both!

@Minster2012 if AF not here tomorrow or Saturday I'll test again.
My temp still up but I'm crappy like period coming xx

Hey @Minster2012 no mafs for me lately, life is literally kids, cleaning, cooking, or catching up with this thread 😂

Sorry I've been absent, have been reading though. Yet another long winded post from me:

As you all know my DH works very long hours in the business we own, so I'm by myself a lot. I arranged for the kids to be looked after on Tuesday and went to our office to have a meeting with him, with grand expectations of spending hours drinking coffee and brainstorming for what our next year holds, what to do with the money made from recent house sale etc etc.

He started the meeting with 'I don't think we should make any decisions on these things now because I don't feel good about us and we might need to start making plans to separate'.

💔

WTF?

I'm completely heartbroken.
We are still officially 'together' and he hasn't physically left, but his heart isn't in it it seems. We had such a truly shithouse year, including his dad leaving his mum for another woman after 40 years of marriage, our company was sued by fuckwits and we lost a lot of $$, and two pregnancy losses at 12 and 14 weeks.
I can't help but think he is horribly depressed and is just trying to retreat away from the whole world. Not sure what to do. Spent most of yesterday being a shit mum and crying while kids watched tv and ate chips.

Sorry. I don't know how I started on this thread going from excited ttc-er, to MC-er, to no longer ttc at all, to very likely single and desolate. FUCK.

And after I got him the butt plug and everything.

I've a day off work today so have been scrolling thru catching up on everyone's stories feeling the highs and lows rollercoaster that everyone's going thru. Then got to yours @skip86 and literally shouted WTF out loud in shocked rage for you!!!! So unexpected and I can't even begin to imagine how you're feeling right now with that kind of bombshell dropped on you. Sending you the biggest virtual hug ever. I think you're right tho this past year has been so stressful for all and sounds like you've had so many additional stressors on top of it that hes just not coping with anything just now and is trying to retreat away from it all. I hope the two of you manage to get a chance away from the children to sit down and calmly talk everything through to get to the root of the problem and work it out from there. I know nothing any of us say can make it any better but just know we're all here for you.

And @blackcurrantqueen sorry to read that you're going thru such a shitty time right now too, sending big hugs your way too.

No pressure @DJmum83 but you need to get a blazing bfp on Saturday to cheer everyone up 😉

And on the 2nd hand baby stuff chat, a lot of what I got DS was 2nd hand after I saw the ridiculous price of baby things! I figured I could buy new but would have had to return to work earlier or buy 2nd hand to save money and take longer off on maternity leave so I went with that option. His pram was a mothercare orb one that was in excellent condition as it was a spare pram from a grandparents house so barely used and they gave it to me for £50! I've kept it for #2 if that ever happens.

@blackcurrantqueen sorry to hear you're having a rubbish time. Sending hugs your way🥰

@DKDK123 anytime anyone mentions the orb I cringe now as there is a lady in my baby WhatsApp group who worked for mother care and we asked her what the worst prams etc were and she said the orb was the worst one and was always getting recalled or returned😅 I nearly bought the teal orb with my DS but went for the silver cross wayfarer instead. Not keen on the chrome frame anymore that's why I'm swaying more towards the bugaboos 🙈

@Skip86 oh lovely I don't even know what to say, but you know we're always here for you💓

@Nats7504 yes you are indeed the only one who still does ironing!!

@Skip86 I'm so so sorry! What an arse is! On what planet do you come out with shit like that without having communicated properly or tried to fix things first? I'd tell him he owes the relationship to at least try and that you two need couple's counselling pronto. Have faith though that whatever happens you'll be happier for it in the long run ❤️

@Skip86 fuck sake! Your dh is broken, hugs to you and dss will be fine with tv and chips, you can’t pour from an empty cup.
I found a lovely threat about ducklings in a pond and the family living there looking after them, but I lost it, I invested so much time on it, I shall find it again

@lucyrp I must have hit it lucky with the one I got then as I totally loved my orb, would walk for miles every day with the baby and never had any issues with it.

@Nats7504 @Juno231I iron ds uniform in the winter mornings, because he has sensory issues and cold clothes hurt, does that count?

@Vil10 how exciting!

@DJmum83 I'm sorry I can't see one :( but it is early and my eyes are shit!

@InkyPaper aww that's sweet of him. Never feel like you're letting anyone down, it's all luck.

@bez91 sorry about your mc :( welcome.

@blackcurrantqueen so so sorry :( x
Loving the cross stitch!

@Minster2012 yay for next stage!

@LB20xx nah those signs are good!

@Skip86 ummmm. What?!?! Have you spoken to him since? I don't even know what to say... see how the next few days play out as like you said he may be dealing with him emotions in a very VERY odd way. I can't believe that. Hugs to you ❤️ and the butt plug :(

Here's something I came across on Instagram, for the IVFers over here. And a little something just to keep everyone going ⭐️

Forgot to mention, we had sex for the first time in nearly 3 weeks last night due to af and vag issues.
Omg. What a friggin release! Definitely back on it.

Morning!! And sorry for not making much sense last night, blame wine squiffies & AF for wine squiffies I'm cramping sooooo bad this morning. No joe wicks for me this morning

@Katao new Pom juice for you!
@LB20xx & @Franklydear ooooooo I'm hoping along with @DJmum83 & @Dollybird89 too!

@Skip86 🤨😭😢🥺😩. O skippy. There is no "shit mum status" when you've just had that. Chips & tv for kids is essential. I lovely I'm hugging you so much right now. I'm guessing you suggested counselling? It must have been such a hard year for you. He's just trying to hide. It's not fair.

@Nats7504 I do some ironing but not much. Not compared to the twelfty million loads of washing I do 🤪

Oh and anyone else got snow??

Mass catch up from last night and this morning incoming...
@Minster2012 yay glad she arrived! Step closer to transfer now 👍🏾 and omg that chicken sandwich from the nhs, Jesus 😳 yay to the wine had last night, I've still not touched a drop since the 2nd jan! Let's see how much longer I can go...@Juno231 how are you doing with dry jan?
@bez91 welcome and so sorry to hear about the MCs. You're in good company here!
@Florence13 thank you, me too selfishly! One sister has two already and the other hasn't exactly been ttc but she has her own thing going on with wanting to go down the donor sperm route and going it alone.
@DJmum83 good idea with waiting now, see what happens! Best of luck 🤞🏾
@blackcurrantqueen haha great cross stitching there! 😉 good luck with the epu, must be even harder working in the same place. You can do it hun x
@Skip86 so so sorry to read this hun, I think he just needs time after an awful year like you say. Would you go for marriage counselling? Could be one to suggest if not already xx
@Justanothercyster thank you for that ivf quote ❤️ glad you're back on the saddle 🤠

@Minster2012 ooh great pics! Not even looked outside my window yet 😂

Holy shitballs 😲 It wasnt even fmu as I'd already peed this morning without testing as I'd ruled myself out yesterday. Realised after I couldn't eat my breakfast that maybe the nausea/tiredness/heart palpitations this week hasn't been due to work stress as I'm off today so should be chilled so poas and had to use another one from a different batch just to check it wasnt a faulty batch!! 11dpo. The past 4 CPs have shown up bfp early around 8dpo, dare I hope that the problem has been with early implantation and that this might finally be the sticky bean 5th time lucky? Tho the 'stress' symptoms did started at 7dpo so it must have been burrowing away in back then, it just hasn't shown any signs of a bfp till now. Not sure whether to cry be excited or be terrified. 🙈

@notyetamumbuttrying you are doing brilliant boom for dry jan! And I soooooo wish I was still in bed. Even Facebook is fucking be over not loading pictures I cannot even contemplate looking at the tender that screwed me yesterday not saving my sodding questionnaire answers but dogs had a run around whilst DS still asleep. Boom!! Win for minster. It's raining now so snow will be gone soon