Happy New TTC Bus - Jan 2021 - it's going to be a corker!

[BubsNumber2inTheMaking]

Thought I'd kick this off...

CD 7 for me following 2nd mc 🤦🏼‍♀️ Ready to kick the new year off with a bang (not literally, sorry husband), and get a blimin bun in the oven already!
Come on ladies, let's get each other through this. BFP's coming our way soon I just know it 😘💪🙌xx

@PositiveParrot yes it's a really lovely supportive bunch of women on here which definitely helps keep us sane on this journey! Wishing you all the very best and hope it happens quickly for you xx

@RD88 Welcome, sorry you've been feeling emotional. We started TTC May 2019 so around the same time as you.
Haven't told any friends and family we're TTC so this group of girls are great as they get how tough it can be and are full of words of wisdom! 😊

@SadieSazzle have you had any cp or mc? I haven't had a hint of anything the whole time. My gp says the fertility clinic will tell me up to 24 months is normal when ttc

@BubsNumber2inTheMaking I thought it would make ttc easier but I'm still here lol. It also makes ttc painful when it's most important because my insides are agony 😥 I can't just switch off and forget about ttc for a month because I know when I'm ovulating without opks 🤦‍♀️

@Dogmum13 I've not had mc or cp either. Only once, my period was 6 days late and I got hopes up but just seemed to be an anomaly. 🤷‍♀️ I never pg test though, just wait for AF

@SadieSazzle I've only recently started to test early to see if I am having any cp's but nothing so far so I don't think so. I've just started using the clearblue opks and turns out I'm on a high fertile day already at cd8 so maybe we've been starting too late! 😬

@Dogmum13 Thats good you have started checking...now is prime time! 😊 Enjoy!

@RD88 @SadieSazzle Hi ladies, Can I join? Also in the same bracket ... approaching 2 years since we started ttc. Really reassuring to know I'm not alone. Do u guys over analyse EVERYTHING??! AF is on her way out for me so just about to start cycle 4million haha! X

Hi @Ra1nb0w85 - welcome! I was pretty bad for symptom spotting and thought everything was a possible pg sign...I symptom spot less and less now though with each passing cycle! Definitely feels like cycle 4million! 😂

@SadieSazzle you're right - each month that goes by any symptom I get i almost feel like I have the upper hand because I've spotted it, told myself it's my mind playing tricks and moved on like I've totally owned it. Who am I kidding though because I secretly hope each time!! Have u sought any outside help yet? We have just signed up for initial fertility tests at Bourne Hall but a tad scared about starting this route X

@Ra1nb0w85 Have just got the ball rolling with the gp this month - had bloods taken and should be getting referred onto fertility clinic at some point though not sure of exact steps. Feels positive to be doing something about it. Hope you get on well with your checks!

@SadieSazzle absolutely - it's nice to feel in control of something. Fingers crossed for some reassuring answers for us both soon 🤞🏼🤞🏼

@dogmum13
Im trying clear blue this time. What is yout usual cycle length?

@Ra1nb0w85 yes I over think EVERY symptom then stop myself for a few months then normally start again 🤣 it's so frustrating when you want something so much but we just have to hope that the next month will be our lucky month. I've had 2 lots of bloods taken & gp said everything was fine with ovulation. @SadieSazzle thank you its nice to have support from ladies in the same boat, my family & close friends are aware but they never tried for this long so always say "don't stress about it,it will happen" which annoys me sometimes 🤣

@MgW1 25-28 days but usually ovulate on cd12 ish

@RD88 YES to your comment about 'don't stress'! it really pisses me off because it implies it's something I'm doing that is stopping conception. Which is bollocks. And tracking makes people who have never had to do it, think you're ocd and obsessing about ttc when they've got no clue! If I'm having lots of sex at exactly the right time every month and not getting pregnant, how on Earth would it happen if I didn't track and just had sex when not fertile?! 🤦🏼‍♀️ Grrr, sorry 🤣 rant over. Can you see, that hits a nerve!?🤣🤣🤣xx

@BubsNumber2inTheMaking 🤣 yes exactly!I totally get what your saying. My mam is the worst..." well in my day there were no apps or trackers, you just need to have sex regularly & it will happen" ok mam never realised it was that simple!!😐🤣🤣

@RD88 and @BubsNumber2inTheMaking
I hate the “stop stressing” so much too!! It definitely makes me more stressed 😫😂

@gracie2307
Hi how are you doing ? X

Anyone fancy comparing vitamin and herb notes? ...
I’ve just bought evening primrose oil. I take seven seas folic acid with zinc and vit b init. Am I missing anything?

Hi @MgW1 how are you? Thank you for your message and checking in. Im not too great tbh, AF arrived on Saturday and I dont know why but this cycle has really knocked my confidence with TTC, I just feel my hope has diminished and it made me feel very sad on Sunday. I know there's nothing I can do but keeping trying but its so hard and I have no idea why. My husband did a Swimcount sperm test at home and it was verging between the low/average on the quality of his sample (@33Carr - i would say the test was fine to do but the results we found to be a bit ambiguous and has probably led to more questions!) and I just worry that there's something underlying that's stopping us from conceiving as we are fortunate with our health and age and try to eat well/take vitamins and exercise. Then my head starts going down the what if we need treatment route and its just like arggghhh head explodes 😱 I dont know whether just to say sod it and just DTD every other day until AF and sack off the OPKs or keep on with the SMEP. My bathroom cupboard is now the size of a small chemist with all the various tests, vitamins and potions I've subjected myself to each cycle and lockdown just seems to make things worse mentally as its not like I can truly distract myself. I'll shut up now because I probably sound like a ranting raving baby-obsessed loon 🤪 it probably doesn't help that another one of my friends has come out that she's pregnant and my BF is about to pop any day now. How are things going for you? Xxx

@SadieSazzle

Morning girls and welcome newbies!

AF arrived...lovely start to the week 🙄 oh well, on to month 21! 3 days spotting before she arrived this time which is new for me. That normal for anyone else?

Hey @SadieSazzle how are you? Yes that definitely happens for me now and I never really noticed it/didn't think it happened as much before I started to TTC. Very bizarre. Makes it hard to count what is Day 1. X

@gracie2307 sorry you've been feeling sad this cycle...Some cycles are just worse than others too. Treat yourself to something nice and indulgent, allow a bit of sadness then onto the next go! 😊
Yeah, spotting can confuse it a bit. Will see what cycle is like this month then since that has been new.

@gracie2307
Im so sorry you have been feeling down , iv been feeling down after 2 losses , worried it wont happen because I am getting older. We will keep going but I thinks its effecting me now because been experiencing anxiety 😔 palpitations and.dry throat, im hoping it passes though , just been a massively stressful time with everything.
Well if you had tests and found out all was ok then you would prob not feel so bad, its the worry that your having thinking something might not be quite right. Why dont you speak to your G.p and maybe say you have been trying a few more months than you have and mention yours husbands test?
The SMEP is too hard going for us we are oldies 🤣🤣 i am trying the pink clear blue as the other ones didnt work as well for me , just flashing everyday for 5 days. However that was the month i took evening primrose and my ovulation was delayed.
Have you had a blood test yet? You can get various tests done via medichecks and i had a private ultra sound booked but i cancelled it because I have a NHS ultra sound now but babybond / ultra sound direct do private well woman scans about £135 and they check for everything. Dont get down it will happen eventually , i have quite a few friends who took in excess of 1 year first time. We are on a similar cycle now! Im on CD 4. Xxx

Hi everyone,

I’ve been following everyone’s messages since the last thread but took a break as I was feeling a bit hopeless!
I haven’t taken any vitamins, temp’d or stuck to opks this month as it was making me so anxious. Anyway I’d just about given up 10dpo today and no symptoms at all. This evening I’ve had a strange throb so I did a hcg strip and feel like I can see the faintest ever something but I don’t know. Il post it and if anyone can see anything let me know - I know how crazy faint it’s going to look and it’s way to early but I’ve never even got to the squinting point before so this is exciting for me!