Magic dust for 2021 5month+ crew continued

[AKcheer]

Hey continued our thread! So sorry if I’ve forgot to tag anyone please feel free to tag anyone I’ve missed but hopefully they find us ❤️ Hope you guys have had a good day and here’s lots of baby dust for you still waiting to see if your pregnant this month and here’s a massive good luck to us who have just had AF for next year!

@Lynne425
@8LPS
@Kirby173
@Plm28
@Rose2108
@Molsy
@NatMoz
@Birchybirch
@Leavingitlate
@Louisa199
@JLP256
@Jamill87
@Loladoodle

@Rose2108 ah sorry to hear the call wasn’t great, that’s so annoying! Good that you are having bloods done, hopefully that is a step in the right direction. I would guess you need to book in with their reception? Looking on here it sounds like most GPs are quite happy to book in the bloods so I might try and ask mine if AF shows up for me in a few weeks.

@Rose2108 That phone call definitely sounded a bit of a letdown....and bizarre! Asking you for suggestions? Never heard the likes of it! I'm glad you're getting blood tests done, though and hopefully they come back all good! 🤞❤️ With regards to the day you think you ovulated though, the cramps could have been due to ovulation? I know that can be fairly common, and this cycle I had really strong cramps the Sunday morning after a positive OPK on the Friday, so hopefully you did ovulate and you never know, will keep my fingers crossed that you caught it! :)

Update for me - boobs are even sorer today which I have never had as an AF symptom, last time they felt like this I was pregnant with my wee boy! So I felt quite excited to test but another BFN at 11 DPO. Has anyone had/heard of a positive after that? It's always easier to take every month when you don't get any new symptoms, so my boobs have had me on an emotional rollercoaster 😂😭

@AKcheer Hope you're having a good day too and hope the blood tests go well tomorrow! xx

@Rose2108 wtf but sorry what type of GP did you talk to!!! I know nhs are going through so much right now but that is not the way to be with a patient!!! He honestly seems like he’s not bothered and also like he doesn’t even know what he’s bloody on about!! How discouraging. Have you thought about calling back and asking to speak to a female GP by any chance?? When I got booked into blood work the gp just said come get the forms from reception and then you can book your designated days. I know everyone’s stressed and are going through a lot but that gp shouldn’t be so dismissive to you like that.
Are you having AF cramps or weird ones lol?? I hope it ain’t bloody AF!

@KerryW87 I’m sorry you got another BFN. Maybe try in a couple of days!! I have seen on here people getting a bfn and then BFP a couple days later!!! So weird about your boobs though....don’t let it get to you and stay positive!!

Update from me - went for my bloods this morning. I’ve realised blood tests aren’t painful think I was just scared of them for no reason before which is a positive lol. No symptoms or anything yet. I’m about 7DPO and just feel normal. I wouldn’t even have AF symptoms yet tbh so let’s see what the next few days hold!!

@AKcheer Ah I'm glad your blood tests weren't as bad as you thought! :) Especially if you were afraid of them before, always good to know now that you don't need to worry! ❤️ Ahh here's hoping it's a quick TWW and hopefully your last one too! 🤞

I know I sound like a million other women on forum posts but I really did/do feel so different this cycle than any other cycle, the sore boobs are so weird but even though the last time I had them was when I was pregnant, I'll have to accept that it's just a weird fluke symptom this cycle because I had yet another BFN at 12dpo. So just need to wait on my period arriving now :( Gutted, but nothing else for it...upwards and onwards and fingers crossed for next cycle! 🤞

Hope everyone's ok today! ❤️ xx

Thanks for the advice, I'll call the GP reception tomorrow and then walk down and collect it. I assume I book the tests directly with the hospital? I've never had a blood test before but I have given blood for years and assume it's easier than that!

@JLP256 no harm in asking, I think it's probably the first step for most Dr's to eliminate potential issues.

@KerryW87 yes the cramps were very likely due to ovulation but they have never been that painful before... My instinct was saying something isn't right but I think it was just because ovulation was so delayed. Sorry about the bfn ... Moving into next month together!!

@AKcheer he was a locum... I hope when I get my results I'll get an appointment with the senior nurse who I used to see for the pill and she does smears etc. She's very good at gynae things! Keep is posted on the tests. Feeling hopeful for you xx

AF is due at the weekend I think; my predicter has pushed it right back to next week and saying my cycle will be 34 days but I just know that won't happen, it's never been longer than 30. Hey ho , we shall see!!

@AKcheer Excellent! I think one day later into the LP would be good, as opposed to a little too early which is what I think I may have done! I hope they all come back great. Do you know when you will get your results?

AF got me bang on time and the sore boobs have disappeared. Really did think this month was the one, but I'm also just glad it's over. Fingers crossed for this month 🤞 Cutting out alcohol this month and see if that does the trick since I've tried EVERYTHING else...must've subconsciously wanted to make cutting out wine the last resort 😂

Fingers crossed for the rest of you still in the TWW! 🤞💕

Aww that's a shame @KerryW87 but glad your looking positive!!

Ive not missed alcohol (yet) so far but with the extended lockdown it'll prob come!! Lol

I've started to listen to more podcasts and that's passing the time!! They are great because you can still do things around the house or go walks while giggling away to yourself when listening to the comedy ones xx

Hey @KerryW87 thanks chick!! I just want my results lol but now have to wait for them so annoying!! I just saw you got AF :( gutted for you mate. This TTC always playing mind games with us!!! Ahhh!! So glad your so positive and you can look forward to moving onto your next cycle!! Ha that’s a good shout re alcohol. I haven’t actually drank any this month not out of choice but I just haven’t needed to or I’ve forgot haha. My nov and Dec I just always needed wine but I’ve felt more zen in Jan lol. How are you feeling today xx

@Rose2108 not sure how the blood test works where you are but at mine I just went and collected the paperwork and they gave me a leaflet which had a link. Then there was around 5 places I could go for my blood test near me so I just booked it online and rocker up. Was so easy!! My surgery do them but they are always at funny times when I’m busy with work and the phlebotomy places usually start at 730 to 7pm Ish which works better for me. And the online booking was good!! Ooh maybe request it with the senior nurse if you can?
Don’t you just hate it when the app starts to change when AF is due lol it bloody annoys me!!!

Hey @Lynne425 how are you doing and feeling!!!!

@AKcheer Aww god I bet! How long do you need to wait? Here's hoping the results come back and everything is perfect then you know your month WILL be coming soon! 🤞💕 How you feeling anyway, any symptoms?

I actually phoned to ask about bloods today after I got my period and had a wee internal meltdown, haha. Feel so daft for thinking this was our month! Anyway I've got day 21 bloods on 12th February so will be glad to maybe get some answers.

We did a home sperm kit last year and it said my partner's count was low, so he's phoned the doctor too and they'll do an analysis on him next week so here's hoping it's ok🤞 He's been on Superdrug sperm supplement drinks for two months so we're hoping it's magically cured everything 😂

Haha aw man TEACH ME TO BE ZEN, PLEASE. I need to learn to find my inner chill without the aid of wine, haha xx

God it’s Friday (well Saturday technically) and for the past 2 hours I logged back onto my work laptop to pull some info together for some data. How boring!!

@KerryW87 Happy Weekend!! They said 3-5 days so I might just call my surgery on Monday lol and see if they have got them!! How am I feeling!? Hmm I don’t know! So my boobs hurt but they always hurt at this time a few days before AF so that’s completely normal. I also got 3 spots which again at this time they are my usual AF ones. The only diff this month is I’ve been getting some twingey pain to my lower left side and sometimes in my right but I don’t know if I’m overthinking it and if it’s always there near my AF and I just haven’t noticed. Or I don’t know if I’ve just pulled something - I mean I’ve been doing yoga and stretching so much so I easily could have!!! I’ve also got a bit of a backache but again this is completely normal for me. Usual stuff. So I don’t know, I’m not getting my hopes up because most just goes towards AF lol.

Ahhh that’s good!! At least your bloods are booked in!!

How was the home sperm test? I saw your message earlier and mentioned to my husband and he started Googling it lol. Hahahaha fingers crossed sperm is now fresh and strong!! Are the home ones pretty accurate??

Hahahaa yoga and meditation!!! YouTube videos!!! Helps with the zen!!!

Morning Ladies. Wonder if we will get snow today?! Something to distract us for oh... A whole of two minutes?!

So I'm on CD 29, expecting AF today or tomorrow (have usual cramps and symptoms). I think I'm 7dpo but ovulation not confirmed this month, so I'm not sure on dates. We've had such a nice weekend so far and the stresses of TTC have been forgotten! Until AF shows up and the mental cycle returns .

@KerryW87 I gave up booze this month actually, it was fine, I think because we've not had much to do so just been getting lots of early nights and doing walks / yoga / just dance on the PlayStation 😂. Theres a lady on YouTube called yoga with Adrienne she has loads of free videos. Start with something like the cozy yoga flow as it's a gentle intro! I think yoga is quite good for relaxation. And it ends with laying down under a blanket .

@AKcheer fingers crossed for the tests. Feels like some kind of positive step doesn't it when you're just at a loss re TTC! I have been working late too, sometimes just for something to do!

We discussed our next cycle last night and we are gunna start to do every other day dtd later in the cycle so it doesn't feel quite so regimented and exhausting! Day 8 - day 21, like ten times or something just took the fun out of it. Gunna start the plan on day 14! Give me strength....

@Rose2108 Ah I'm glad you've had such a nice weekend - it's such a nice break mentally if you can forget about symptoms and testing for a bit! I really hope AF doesn't arrive 🤞

Haha aw I used to LOVE Just Dance! The PS4 is in the boys' room, whereas in the old house when I was on my own we only had the one TV which meant we used to bust out the Just Dance often...might need to start bringing it downstairs now that you've reminded me of it haha!

@AKcheer How are you feeling today? It's such a nightmare that symptoms can mean either or, just adds to the stress! Hopefully you've had a good weekend and can try and forget about it until it's time, and then fingers crossed AF never arrives! 🤞

Some aren't that great, we bought one called Swimcount which tests motility as well as count. We did one last March which was low, did another one this morning because we had bought one before realising we'd be able to have a test on the NHS (hopefully getting that done this week) and the test this morning was low too :( He's so healthy; we eat really well, he goes running, doesn't smoke and he's been on supplements so just not sure what's wrong :( Hopefully an NHS one gives us clearer answers!

Got everything crossed for you both this cycle! 🤞💕

Hey guys how are you!!

We had so much snow today and it’s still snowing!!

@Rose2108 how was your weekend and how you feeling? Oh dear I’m hoping AF didn’t show up for you!! Oh yes, I might call docs tomorrow see if they’ve got my results like a little eager beaver!!
Ahh that sounds good!! Sounds less stressful to be honest. Sometimes I think we start so early and we get exhausted and let alone our hubby’s!! Gives you space to breathe!!!

Hey @KerryW87 I’ve had the worst backache today so pretty bummed because it’s the most common AF symptom for me. I also wiped one tiny spot of blood earlier so it’s on it’s way. Not due for another few days so might be mega early or I might just have spotted a tiny bit and it will come in a few days. I’ve just had so many PMS symptoms today so was quite bummed and when I told hubby he seemed so bummed to. Broke my heart! So yeah waiting game now for AF I think :( I’m 10dpo today and AF predicted on 14 dpo.
Ahhh I see that’s useful to know. If my tests come back ok then hubby might speak to doctor to see what he says and if doc isn’t helpful then can order one of those!
How are you? X

@AKcheer Aww I'm so sorry :( I know exactly how it feels - as an adult there's not really much you get your hopes up about - most things we already know for sure or we can control, so building your hopes up for a pregnancy every month and being let down really takes a toll. My partner gets the same way too, it totally does break your heart! it!

I'm going to keep my fingers crossed AF doesn't arrive for you! 🤞 but if it does then we need to think that each month it doesn't work is another month closer to the one that will! 💕 How you feeling today?

I'm ok, bit bummed about the second low sperm count - hoping they're dodgy tests but that's doubtful, haha. Holding out for some answers on the NHS one! Apart from that I'm good though! Homeschooling and work keeps me busy and it's our anniversary this weekend so hoping we can think of a wee lockdown-appropriate way to celebrate! 😂💕

@AKcheer I know I shouldn't tempt fate, but is it normal for you to have a small bleed at 10DPO? Could it not be something else (not AF...) over here silently hoping it is an implantation bleed... I am fine thanks! No AF yet but I am very confident she is coming... I think because I ovulated so late (CD 23) and am now only 7DPO that it might delay her a few days. I can't wait for a new cycle to be honest, I am going to take more vitamins, do a structured exercise routine, eat really well! I have read that for a short luteal phase you should try vitamin C, Omega 3 and Agnus Castus to regulate, so I will try these. I don't know why mentally I just need the new cycle to begin I feel like I am in limbo now. The whole thing is a mental chore isn't it! It's all still so new and disappointing and overwhelming.

@KerryW87 you are so right. As an adult we are in control of so much of our lives, I have never experienced this sort of emotion before! Like when you are unhappy with work, where you live, your relationships etc, you can control it (or at least try to). This just feels so new and you feel helpless don't you! I know I shouldn't say this but I think my husband may have low count too, he has smoked a lot of his life and likes a beer! But he has given up smoking and drinking in the week and he has been boxing on the punch bag and out running. Ugh, I hate this!!!

I am actually fine, just fed up!! lol xx

@Rose2108 You've hit the nail on the head, it honestly reminds me of when you were wee and you really wanted something (to be allowed to go to your friends house/a particular Christmas present) and it was just pure disappointment and you just wanted to cry...I genuinely feel like I cry like a child every month! It's ridiculous but I can't help it 😂🙈 It really does take such a toll, you don't realise until you're in it!

Ah I've heard good things about Agnus Castus for regulating your cycles, really hope that does the trick and it's the last month you'll need to take anything! 🤞

Although can I say, I take it for granted that we all chat on this forum and then I realised there are a group of women dotted around the place who I have never met, and yet we all know how often we all have sex with our partners, when we all pee into pots, our menstrual cycles or how our boobs are feeling....my own friends or family don't even know this! It's hilarious 😂 but it's also so helpful to give each other a bit of support! 💕

@KerryW87 😂 isnt it? I dont know about yours but anytime I bring up ttc to my friends they don't really want to hear about it, or they respond with pictures of their babies (which isnt all that helpful). Its nice to have a few people you can tell you had a good cry over a negative test and they will understand.

I'm 11 DPO today and can feel AF coming. Such a let down. The only positive I can see is my next cycle I'll get an HSG and then move onto clomid in March if all is positive. I read than an HSG improves chances for three months after so there's some hope from that.

Hey guys how are you? I’m feeling bummed...I took an internet cheapie as you do on 11DPO...BFN. Why did I even bloody take it???

@KerryW87 literally breaks my heart!! It’s like the only dream I have right now is to be pregnant! I’m just so ready for it when won’t my body support me LOL.
I love your positivity - yes it is another month down and another month closer!! That’s how I should be looking at it you are so right!!
Ahhh when will the NHS one be? I called docs about my results still waiting so let’s see.
Also love your last little paragraph!!! We all know so much about each other but don’t actually know each other!! I feel you guys are my little support group and the place I can go where I’m having a breakdown!

@Rose2108 how are you? I’m not sure I sometimes do have spotting but this was the tiniest bit! So I think it might be normal sadly!! But thank you for your positive wishes!! When do you reckon your AF will come? I mean I’m hoping it doesn’t come!!! But what does your app say?? Yeah I know I hate that feeling - just want a new AF to start. Oooh sounds like you have next month planned!!! Hopefully you won’t need all the vitamins etc and this cycle will be successful!! It is so hard isn’t it!! Mentally exhausting - where’s the fun gone!!! I’ve heard good stuff about Agnus cactus you know!! When are you planning to take a test?

@jules5232 I’m 11DPO too but got a Bfn but I feel AF symptoms I think. I don’t know my back was hurting so much yesterday and I thought maybe..but obvs not lol. What’s a hsg? Sorry if stupid question!!!

@AKcheer Saw your message and could honestly cry for you, I was EXACTLY you last week. Cried every single morning from 9dpo onwards because I had my hopes up so high and every BFN just totally floored me. I'm so sorry it was a BFN :( You're not out until you're out, though so you never know!

It's definitely important for us to be positive and it's totally right that it IS another month closer until your BFP! 💕 But it's still absolutely ok to be upset and have a rant and a moan - it's such an emotional thing to go through and it's only natural to be upset when you put so much into it every month! I honestly cry all the time about it, haha. So we're all here for as many rants as it takes until we all get there...which we will!

He's picked up the kit for it today...it's going to take some stealth planning - you need to phone the hospital, they allocate you a time and you need to have "produced the sample" no more than an hour before the time they allocate you and then drive to drop it off to them! The boys are obviously not at school so it's going to be a bit of a task...I'll give them extra PS4 time or something 😂😂

@AKcheer I was so tempted to test yesterday but never made it off the couch to buy some. An hsg is apparently a procedure where they send in dye and look to see if the fallopian tubes are blocked for some reason. The doc said that sometimes the test is enough to "clear out the lines" and helps conceive for a couple months if nothing is wrong structurally!

Thanks @KerryW87 so nice to see that you care!! Why do we even do it to ourselves? I was just so sad yesterday and I even dreamt of me crying saying all I want is a baby. God yesterday and my sleep was awful. It’s safe to say I haven’t tested today and won’t. Il wait for AF and then be on my Merry way for next month.
I really hope so!! I hope we all get there so soon. I can just tell how much we will all appreciate it ❤️❤️
Omg - this sounds like a planned operation and oh the pressure hahaha!! Hopefully he can get it to the hospital soon and they can analyse it and it doesn’t take too long. I’m hoping the home tests were wrong and his sperm is fine!! Keep us updated!!

@jules5232 just don’t know why I put myself through it lol. What an idiot. Oh wow never heard of that before. Sounds good!! I wonder if it’s painful.

Morning Ladies. Oh @AKcheer, I am so sorry you got a BFN. AF arrived for me this morning, so my last cycle was 30 days. It was only 1 week between ovulation and AF which isn't good, definitely need to try and work on that because a fertilised egg needs some days to cosy up in there before AF starts! I am hoping to bring it back a week or so but will be interesting to see what things month will bring. Not doing those CB tests again because they just frustrate me so much! Just gunna work on the basis I could ovulate any time between CD 16 - 24! I am sending you positive vibes; keep being your positive self and exercising and looking after yourself! You have no reason to think there is anything wrong with you. Aside from this group I am going to keep away from forums and google searching everything for the next cycle, the internet cannot answer my questions!

@KerryW87 I need this little group! To vent / for advice / to overshare lol. Thanks to you all for the support. OMG that is so funny re the sample!! Good luck to your husband! I don't think I could take the pressure haha.

@jules5232 that's crap, can't believe your friends are so unsupportive. It's amazing though how I have so many friends who have kids and none of them have ever spoken about TTC; probably why I thought I could come off the pill and get PG on day one.. I have opened up to one friends and she is very supportive, she has been amazing to be fair. HSG will be good!

So I picked up my bloods paperwork and I am so confused, one of them says "can be done same day" and one says "day 21 of 28". One is for "Gold Top" and one "Purple EDTA". I tried to call this morning to find out if this "can be done same day" is what I should use for the day 3 or whether they are both to be done on 21st? ... So annoying, couldn't get through to the reception but will try again later. Dr's in/around London are just so over worked and it is always quite chaotic when I go...

I am going into my 9th cycle now.... I could have made the baby and popped it out in this time!

Positive vibes girls! xx

Hey ladies. Sorry to hear about the BFNs/AF arrivals this week, it can be so so disappointing :(. Hope everyone is feeling ok! Just wanted to agree as well that this group has been so helpful to me so I’m so glad you’re all here and that we can rant to each other :).

@Rose2108 I know the feeling, the day after DH and I decided to TTC my sister told me she was 5 weeks pregnant, and now she is ready to give birth! Mad how quickly the time goes. Hopefully it will be our turns very soon :)💕

Hi everyone I got my bloods back and day 21 was also normal too!

Hey @Rose2108 thank you. I didn’t test again today I’m a wait for AF lol. I don’t even know why I did yesterday how stupid. Ahhh yeah it would be better if you could extend that a little bit. Hopefully next month it will be longer. Good idea - I like it. You’re taking the relaxed approach!! Maybe I will also do that as well you know it might be better and a lot easier to be honest. Yes please visit us girlies on this page!!
I’m sticking to my exercising, walking and yoga too! I think I had a bad day but I’ve picked myself back up :)

That’s so weird re bloods. All I know is day 3 is one and then day 21 or 7 days before period is another one. Hahahhaa oh god!! Can you believe that!! Could have had a baby by that time! Oh we have to see the humour in it!!