Magic dust for 2021 5month+ crew continued

[AKcheer]

Hey continued our thread! So sorry if I’ve forgot to tag anyone please feel free to tag anyone I’ve missed but hopefully they find us ❤️ Hope you guys have had a good day and here’s lots of baby dust for you still waiting to see if your pregnant this month and here’s a massive good luck to us who have just had AF for next year!

@Lynne425
@8LPS
@Kirby173
@Plm28
@Rose2108
@Molsy
@NatMoz
@Birchybirch
@Leavingitlate
@Louisa199
@JLP256
@Jamill87
@Loladoodle

@AKcheer that's great news that your bloodwork came back normal!

@AKcheer Bless you, I've been there and it's totally heart-wrenching when you have a day like that 😢 Definitely seems to happen round about testing/waiting for AF! I'm glad you're feeling a bit better today and that is brilliant your bloods are normal! 💕 Even more of a sign that it really is one month closer until it's your turn! :)

@Rose2108 Aw I'm sorry AF arrived :( I absolutely get you on the CB monitors, I used them the very first month we were trying, November 2019 and waiting for that stupid static smiley stressed me out so much that I binned it 😂 I really hope agnus castus or the other things you've looked into helps lengthen your luteal phase, might be just what you need and that'll be it! 💕 Bloods sound very confusing, here's hoping someone can clarify that for you!

Positive vibes for us all for this cycle! 🤞🤞

Had the most awful day at work. Does anyone ever have a day when you just want to punch someone through the screen!?

Thanks @jules5232 :)

@KerryW87 it sucks doesn’t it. It’s just a waiting game now. Due tomorrow or Friday but getting those cramps now so I’m guessing tomorrow maybe. Just want it to come so I can start a new cycle!! Yes nearer to my month hopefully!! How are you??

Hubby said he’s probably going to get a semen analysis done to check sperm and going to call docs

@AKcheer Haha. Actually yes! I've been having an entire week like that, though I suspect hormones may have something to do with my ability to handle them

@AKcheer Haha oh god, YES I have. You ok?

How you feeling? Hoping AF doesn't arrive today or tomorrow for you 🤞 but if it does then you're right, one month closer! 💕 Oh is he? Good idea, seems simple enough through the NHS! They just give you a kit to take home and a number to phone the hospital with and they give you a timeframe to have it "produced" and dropped off to them! Hoping all is good with his since your bloods came back fine too!

Yeah ok, thanks! Cycle day 7, this weekend is our anniversary and the first year we won't be able to go out anywhere but hoping to have a nice wee night in anyway so looking forward to that! Came off all social media after two more pregnancy announcements in one day - Im now the only woman of child-bearing age at work who isn't either pregnant or given birth in the past four months so I'm just trying to reduce the reminders where I can 😂🙈 So happy for them all, it's just a lot, you know? So I feel better for doing that!

@KerryW87 - Ah pregnancies everywhere! I have one group of friends where they ALL have kids except for me, and one group where none of us have kids... strange dynamics! And have very diff relationships with them both. I think removing yourself from it all is a good idea, I am only on instagram.

My best friend is about to give birth and my MIL has been quite.... nosy about it? Like asking when she is due, wanting to make her a blanket, asking if they were trying for a while. Part of me thinks she is just being nice but another part of me wants to scream "we are trying woman leave us alone" !!! They have no grandchildren and are heading to the 70's. But I am so over the digs and comments we have had since we got married 4 years ago.

That is good to know re the men's sample. I had no idea what to expect and not sure how my husband would feel about it. To be honest I now know that for about 5 or 6 cycles (before temping and OV sticks) we got it totally wrong! I assumed I ovulated around CD14. So we have really only been properly trying for about 4 cycles and even then I am not convinced we have really found the "fertile window". It's bleak.

@AKcheer sorry you had a bad day. I am finding it so hard to distract myself when I have a bad day or feel down. I am just over this lockdown! I want to book a holiday (even if I cancel it) so that I have something to look forward to lol!

Hey guys how are you? I’m feeling really stressed and anxious today. AF has come this morning :( and also I’ve been researching my figure for day 21 test which doc said was 26.7 and said it was normal but on the internet when I’ve searched it doesn’t look like it is normal? I’m so confused now.

@KerryW87 yeah think he’s going to call docs today but I’m so confused about my results now too. Oh hopefully you can have a nice romantic anniversary at home!! It’s different but is there anything special you can do? Oh god I know how you feel re social media. I don’t c much on Facebook but my Instagram was full so in Dec I just set myself a 5 min limit to go on which has worked wonders for me!!

@Rose2108 that’s really awks about it your MIL. It’s hard because when we get to a certain age, everyone wants to know but what are we meant to say? It must be so awkward for you. I know I just need something to look forward to as well :(

@Rose2108 Ah I would be tense about that too if that were me, does seem a bit odd that she'd be so nosey about your friend - also that's so shit if she's made digs and comments towards you :( It's no one's bloody business why you don't have children and if people took even a millisecond to consider that there could be a very sensitive reason as to why a couple might not have children then maybe they'd keep their mouths shut!

It is a total graft, isn't it :( Although, maybe that could be looked at as a good thing? Obviously not good that those months have passed, but that if it was timed wrong for all those months then it means there's less need to worry just now and chances are you're just well within the normal timeframe?

@AKcheer Aww I'm so sorry :( That is always the worst day, isn't it? Be good to yourself today, a wee takeaway later or order yourself something entirely unnecessary online? 😂 It's shit, but this next cycle could be the one!

Oh really? Oh man, that is totally confusing then! :( Can you phone your GP and ask about it? I'd be inclined to believe the NHS over an online source but I know fine well if it was me then I'd be worrying too, definitely try and ask about it to put your mind at ease! 💕

I honestly think TTC is WAY worse during this lockdown, we have nothing to plan or look forward to...it's grim! I'm going a wee walk after lunch and I'm happy to get out but also sick to the back teeth of going for a walk! 😂

Hey guys, @AKcheer sorry you have been feeling anxious and that AF has come :( I always feel the same way the first few days of my cycle. Hope you feel better soon! Make sure you take some time to rest and treat yourself if you can! That does sound confusing about your results - can you go back to your GP to clarify?

Agree with what everyone has been saying about social media, especially about pregnancy announcements...I’ve set myself screen time limits generally but also specific Insta/FB ones and it really helps! During lockdown I’ve been mindlessly scrolling so much.

Also, on in-laws, it’s funny you should mention that @Rose2108...my father in law lately keeps ‘jokingly’ asking DH when we’re having kids. He thinks he’s being funny
but it’s so awkward!

I’m about 5DPO now and this TWW is dragging...normally I wait until AF is due to test but this month I’m feeling so impatient!!

Agreed @KerryW87 TTC is rubbish during lockdown, I feel like if it was ‘normal’ times I’d have way more to distract myself rather than checking my Clue app 100 times a day!! So sick of the same walks 😂

I’m a ring the gp I think everyone. Waiting for them to reopen after lunch. I’m so anxious so need this sorted also I’m very hormonal damn my period!!

@KerryW87 hahaha I like your idea of online shopping I say casually as Gucci sends an email 😂😂 perfect timing!

@JLP256 fingers crossed for you girl!! Here’s to hoping you get a positive and the TWW doesn’t drag.

Guys it’s hubby’s bday next weekend. Any idea on what I can do that’s nice in current conditions? I’ve ordered a cake :) but what else can I do? Throughout lockdown we’ve done the whole romantic meals etc!!

@AKcheer I'm sorry AF started today and you arent feeling great! I'm right there with you, just started spotting this morning, letting myself just have a day. In 12 months I havent had a month where I really thought that this was it but this month I did. What a letdown. Which of the tests are you thinking might be off?

Do you have some friends or family that might have a virtual game night on his birthday? We did that a couple times through lockdown and it was really nice and felt somewhat like a party.

Aw @jules5232 I'm sorry :( It is so much harder to take when your hopes have been raised! Same advice goes for you that I gave to @AKcheer - wine/takeaway/a wee gift to yourself through the wonder of online shopping! 💕

@AKcheer Good idea, hope you get through to them ok this afternoon! Let us know how you get on :)

It's so tricky to plan during lockdown isn't it? Yeah, a wee FaceTime catch up and drinks with his favourite people could be a shout! Shame it's bloody January otherwise a cute wee picnic/bbq somewhere with some wine and treats could be nice! You'd need your waterproofs and hats and scarves though if the weather where you are is anywhere like here 😂😩

@JLP256 You're so right - at least before we'd plan days/nights out or go meet friends. Literally nothing else to do bar google pregnancy symptoms and track cycle days 😂🙃 Here's hoping we're all pregnant soon and then at least we can...Google weekly pregnancy developments instead? Change things up a bit 😂

Side note: If this works for this cycle I'll be sure to send the ASOS link 😂😂

@KerryW87 you're right, it definitely is. This is also the first time I have felt a little like maybe this is all hopeless after 12 months, though could be the AF roller coaster playing tricks on me. I'm going to take your advice and have some wine and online shop.

Hey guys god I’ve been a mess today! I’ve had a mini breakdown and couldn’t stop crying but hopefully I’ve cried it out. Going to also call gp in morning re bloods. Will update you guys!

@jules5232 thank you. It’s just hard the first day. Oh gosh you’re spotting. When are you due AF? I always think spotting is weird because I’ve seen a few people spot before period and period never comes because they are pregnant. Do you usually spot?
I think the day 21. She said I’m normal absolutely fine and it was 26.7 but google tells me I should be over 30!?

Ooh that’s such a good idea. I think I might organise that and we can all have a drink and have a laugh! Thank you!!

@KerryW87 I know! I actually remember in the summer going to the park...having a picnic. Having some drinks and getting some sun! Now it’s too cold and always bloody snowing!!!
Love you’re pic of your sexy garms!! I think I may need to invest in a corset after watching bridgerton or at least I might go on Ann summers and see what I can find! Thanks for the inspiration!!

@AKcheer Aww I'm so sorry, I really feel for you ❤️ Trust me, after losing wee J I've had more wee mini breakdowns than I'd like to count, it's totally natural to feel overwhelmed with it all and frustrated when something you want so badly isn't working out :( It's good to get it all out and have a good cry sometimes, then just do whatever helps you feel better about it all - getting clarification on the bloods will help, and then rant away any time on here and try to focus on the birthday celebrations! 💕

Haha, I'm trying my best to chill my mind out this month, take a more positive approach and bring back what it used to be like in the pre-TTC days...with the help of the ASOS sale 😂 Definitely, get looking online! That'd count as a birthday present for your husband as well, haha! xx

@AKcheer I am just so sad / frustrated for you. Just seems you are doing everything right! Totally normal to have a wobble when she arrives. I think the internet can be a dangerous place and I would probably be inclined to believe the GP as they have no reason to lie? But perhaps you can get a follow up appt and talk through the info you have found? I totally get that powerless feeling! It is so hard.

@KerryW87 Haha that is so funny, apparently I am going to ovulate on valentines day . I need to have a word with myself because I haven't worn makeup for about two weeks and am in a tracksuit for a third day! Whoops. Don't worry people, I still wash daily haha. Re the cycle mess, yes I do agree weirdly when I felt like I figured out I ovulate so late, something kind of clicked and I felt very relaxed. It explained alot. Felt like I was starting from day one again!

@JLP256 I am with you on that, on my wedding day my FIL said on the dancefloor "now go and make me some grandchildren!" - I felt like slapping him in the face! I was 27!! He has also done really cringe things like made birthday wishes and blown out candles and then said a comment about how his wish is to "do with my son and daughter in law". Bore off old man!! (I do actually really like him but this vexes me !!)

So it was my hubs birthday last weekend. I bought him a Darts board and we played darts in the garage and listened to music and had a few drinks! We also met up with a couple and us girls went off for a long walk and the boys did too. In the evening we did an online escape room with friends too! It was good fun - it's called the panic room.

Guys I had my first official TTC cry last night hahaha - it was like a film!! I was out walking, it started raining, and one of my friends text me to say she was PG (12 weeks with a scan pic). What pushed me over the edge was she said "we only did it once that month so when I was late just assumed it was going to arrive" - I think the tears were more rage then sadness??!!? Anyway I stood under a tree out of the rain and text her back with lots of well wishes and congratulations, whilst having a little cry. Feel better today but man was I miserable last night!!

Hey all!
Spoke to docs today and the doctor explained that 30 is a guideline and my result of 26.7 actually falls within the threshold to say ovulation and progesterone is ok. They check it with the other bloods and it’s nothing to be concerned about. He also said sometimes if it’s not exact on the 7 days before the next cycle then you could be a day out. I had bloods taken on 20th, but period started on 28th so really 21st would have been a better day for my test but there’s no concern which is good so I feel better.

@KerryW87 absolutely! You are right! I feel much better today so I had a wobble but I’m ok! And now can focus on hubby’s birthday!! Hahaha I asked hubby today and said maybe il get some sexy outfits he was like “I just want them off though” 😂 ok then!!

@Rose2108 yes you’re right. After speaking to this doc I felt much better so I’m glad!! I think I need to relax and let nature take it’s course!!
Oh wow that sounds like a great birthday!!! I’m going to see how fun I can make hubby’s! See what activities we can do. I might check that escape room out though so thank you!!

Oh no I’m so sorry!! It’s so disheartening and hearing comments like that really doesn’t help! It makes me wonder why it’s so easy for some and not to easy for us! But it’s ok to cry! It’s ok to have a wobble! It’s the worst when it’s friends or someone close to you because you want to be happy but it also reminds you of your situation and if you’ve been trying for a while you do think why isn’t it me! But have a rant and have a cry. Our time will come!!! I’ve been in your situation I know how you feel ❤️❤️

@Rose2108 Aww no, I so feel for you 😭 It's a horrible feeling, isn't it? Of course you're happy for your friend, but it's also so upsetting when it's something you've been wanting too, especially when you've been trying for a while. You had every right to have a wobble and a miserable night, just hope you're feeling better today ❤️

Ohh is the online panic room quite good then? I've always thought the real ones looked like great fun, might look into the online one and rope some friends in just as a way to kill some time during Lockdown 8.3 😂🙃

@AKcheer Ahh, amazing! That's definitely reassuring. I'm so glad you managed to get through to your GP and get some clarification, it would have just played on your mind otherwise!

Hahaha, fair enough! Ah well, keep the money you'd have spent on that and buy yourself something instead 😂🎉

My partner phoned the hospital this morning because we thought we could do the sperm sample today and drop it off for analysis...must be one hell of a lot of couples also doing the same because turns out the next slot they have to drop off a sample is 10th February! 😱 So sadly we won't get any answers this cycle, but nothing we can do. I usually feel fairly hopeful every cycle but I'm on CD8 now so should be starting SMEP but honestly don't think we'll bother following it - didn't work the last two cycles we tried it so think we'll just try and cover a few days of the window and not stress even further. Just don't feel this will be our month at all...not sure why I feel so negative but I do! 😂🙈

Sorry for being MIA - sometimes find replying to messages on my phone so annoying cus I have to scroll so much lol! So I have to get my laptop out which I have done now :) Just caught up with the messages!

@Rose2108 - yes AF making an appearance is definitely less devastating than a BFN! AF came a couple of weeks ago and I was absolutely gutted. First time I've cried about it, and each month it gets harder to cope with.

@AKcheer & @Rose2108 - I completely agree with DTD every other day, that's what I'm doing as well. For a couple of months, we tried to do it once a day for 4 or 5 days straight and it was just too much to cope with. I have seen online that DTD in the morning means better sperm..or something..? So we even tried that and DH was just too exhausted.
@AKCheer I'm sorry that you and DH couldn't DTD - hopefully didn't affect your chances given that sperm can live in your body for a few days after sex. Where are you at in your cycle now?

@KerryW87 - hope you're feeling better now! Or hope feeling sick is a sign of something good!

@Lynne425 - hope your appt went ok!

So AF arrived a couple of weeks ago and I just felt like shit. So did DH, but at least I have you girls to rant to if I need to! However DH has no one else and I wondered if anyone knows of any support forums like this, for the men who are TTC? The only decent one I found was on FB but looked like it was only for men going through IVF and other fertility treatments/problems. Plus I'm not so sure DH or I would like it if the following notification popped on his friends/families pages: "XXX has liked a new page on FaceBook - Chat for men with fertility problems" lol - definitely not something we want to broadcast at all!

Has anyone noticed that their PMS symptoms have worsened or changed since TTC? Even where I am right now in my cycle, my boobs are pretty tender and I'm not anywhere near AF!

At the mo, I'm in the functional DTD phase of the cycle lol, and I could be ovulating today or tomorrow. I have been inputting my temp on Premom app and overnight, it changed just magically my ovulation day from today, to 3 days ago?! I saw on the App Store reviews that the app can have glitches sometimes - but how annoying! I got a static smiley face on my OPK on Tuesday if that makes any difference. I'm still not au fait with tracking when I usually ovulate so the app change has really thrown me off now.

@Rose2108 sorry, I missed your message about your friend who is pg. I had the same thing when my friend told me she is pg back in December - nothing will take away your happiness for them, but god is it a slap in the face when they say that they didn't have to try hard! I'm sorry you were so upset, I know the feeling exactly!

Oh dear for some reason I seem to have missed reading loads of messages! Sorry for the spam all!

@AKcheer - can I ask what you said to GP to get them to check your bloods? I've not been to GP at all yet because I'm 32 and been trying less than 1 year (I'm currently on cycle 10 of TTC). I'd be grateful for any info as I'm dying to get the ball rolling on getting any tests done on me/DH to see if there are any problems! Just feel so impatient and fed up now and would rather they tell me if something's up! But I know that's not always the way these things go..