Pre-conception, planning and trying!

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@Curiosity101 I know it's not a clear graph is it?! Annoying as the first chart I did I was super pleased as it was textbook, of course as soon as I actually start TTCing it goes all wacky! At the moment I am inclined to agree that FF had it right at CD12, the peak OPK I got on CD11 was 1.06 on Premom and yesterday's only 0.96, and the other signs line up. If only the temp shift was clearer. I am starting to wonder how reliable the thermometer is my temps were much clearer a few months back, I am wondering if the room temperature now we're into Dec has something to do with it!

P.S yes FF is funny. It tells me off for my up and down temps 😂

I have now nearly convinced myself that I am pregnant mentally, whilst knowing that I can't be.

Why do we do it to ourselves. I'm not even TTC and have used condoms, my period isn't even late till tomorrow, and my temps albeit a rise today are low.

And yet.. 1 migraine and a tiny amount of spotting yesterday, (spotting outside the window for implantation bleeding) and I'm convincing myself I need to do another test today and therefore I have held my pee for 4 hours like a crazy person

Yet I know in my heart it is essentially impossible, and my period will come tomorrow.

I'm literally losing the plot, I used to be a normal sane human. Now I am a baby making obsessed madman

@TheNewMrsW I think the ovulation you had was right, did you get the egg white after sex or after you felt a bit turned on? It might have been arousal fluid hanging around which looks similar consistency? I sometimes get a dip below my cover line in the lutual phase

@wrensandrobins I've been there a couple of times the last few months, when we weren't even ttc yet and I was convincing myself I was somehow pregnant! Once you start thinking about it it's inevitable I think, cos you notice every little thing even things that are probably perfectly normal and you never noticed before.

The EWCM wasn't after sex or anything but it was only the tiniest little bit, I just dug out TCOYF and read this interesting tidbit, wonder if that's what's happened?

I am awaiting tomorrow's temp with interest (and not a small amount of frustration lol)

@TheNewMrsW that sounds right! I love that book! So useful!

@wrensandrobins I felt similar this cycle. There was one time 1/2DPO which if I was wrong about ovulation dates could potentially lead to a pregnancy. And my boobs were extra sore this cycle. I've not done a HPT and am expecting AF in full force tomorrow. But if I'm honest I've been severely tempted to test 'just incase'.

@Curiosity101 it's so hard not to! I'm also due on tomorrow 🤣 we really are on the same cycle! Hopefully it will arrive on time (if it's coming) and we can get on with TTC! I think mine is on its way imminently because I just snapped at my partner for eating raw pasta- that was a clear indication I didn't need to do a test!

@wrensandrobins 😂🤣 Don't worry. We can keep eachother on the straight and narrow next cycle. I honestly do recommend getting someone to hide your tests for you. I'm thinking till 10DPO would be perfect, but I'm already thinking we'll '9 DPO might show it up...' 🙈🙉 I've promised I won't test without DH though (or rather won't look at any results without him). So if I say 10DPO to him then he'll keep me to my word 🤣😂

Yes good plan! 🤣 it's a good idea to hide the tests because I know my resolve will disappear!

Help 🥺

I've been tracking the last 2 cycles which were 29 days and 26 days....
This month the Femometer app says I'm currently 35 days now... but I've done a cheapie & clearblue test on 26th nov which were BFN as well as a cheapie on the 28th, still BFN...

The app couldn't pinpoint a temp spike for ovulation. We only dtd on the 10th due to opposite shifts...

I'm panicking slightly and getting cranky as hell 🥺

@gems05 If you're doing BBT is there any chance you could load your data into FF and share it on here? Maybe someone could see if they could find any clues in it?

What is it that's making you panicky?

@gems05 how long have you been off contraception? Could your cycle still be settling? @Curiosity101s post is a good idea we might be able to shed some insight if we can see a chart?

Panicky as to why I'm so late so far... I don't know 🙃
my BBT has been slightly all over the place this month seeing as heating has been on some nights etc

@Curiosity101 I'm so glad I didn't waste that pregnancy test 🤣 I literally went to the loo and my period has arrived only 2.5 hours ago I was convinced I was pregnant haha

@gems05 I don't think house temp makes a difference, I went camping and it was absolutely freezing and it didn't impact my temps at all! That looks like an annovulary cycle to me, which is apparently completely normal!

You definitely have not ovulated in that cycle that I can see

I had implant out in august...
so thinking the last 2 cycles were my "settling down" periods
I have been taking pre natal vitamins as part of our ttc journey but we were thinking to ntnp the next few months cos of life events occurring next year (redundancy, new jobs)

@gems05 I'm struggling to read that graph I'm afraid. I'm not massively experienced reading BBT so it really does need to be in FF for me. Hopefully someone else will have some ideas though 🤞. My guess would be that you've had an anovulatory cycle and so you may skip a period but your cycle will restart when it usually would and then you'll ovulate again next month. That is just a complete guess though.

@wrensandrobins 🤣🤣🤣 I don't know if I should be laughing or not but that did make me chuckle. I'm expecting mine imminently. FF says tomorrow but my bet was today.

@Curiosity101 it's fine to laugh, I had a laugh too 🤣

@gems05 I agree it looks like an anovulatory cycle, happened to me last month, fairly common apparently! You might get some breakthrough bleeding in the next few days like I did.

Welll good afternoon my lovely ladies!!!

@thenewmrsw currently it does look like you ov'd CD 12 based on the thermal shift and they usually say your thermal shift should be maintained for 3 consecutive days to be considered for ovulation. The crosshairs are probably there because there is some conflicting information. I get this a lot, mainly because its possible to have fertile CM after ovulation, and I get watery CM sometimes after and it throws it off. I would go with what you feel to be honest, and continue to DTD regularly just to cover all angles! Love that FF is telling you guys off! haha

@wrenandrobins I know that feeling hun!! TTC makes a woman go crazy! Also why was your partner eating raw pasta?!

@gem05 to be honest I cant see much signs of ovulation in your graph. It might be that your cycles are still trying to get back to normal after the implant?

Well you will all be glad to know that my new found tactic seemed to have paid off last night. I didn't even tell him I was going to do it, and I think he got excited at the thought of getting a blowjob tbh. For a moment, I thought I might have put him off when mid blow I told him he better tell me when he's close because I'm not taking it in the mouth, but apparently that just turned him on more and turned out to be a successful session!! He did say that he doesn't think much came out after DTD the last couple of nights, but I was just more happy that he was happy and comfortable! I ovulated yesterday, so hoping it wasn't too late..

I am now officially 1DP0! woo bring on the dreaded TWW!

Yayyyy @CookieMonster3001!!! Love how men think they can tell how much came out, all it takes is one swimmer 😂
Zita West says it's good if you're doing it frequently because it'll be good quality, fresh sperm so if you did it a day or whatever before then that's a good thing. I have a good feeling, everything crossed for you.
So you'll be testing just before Christmas, is the plan to wait until AF is due?

I had my peak yesterday on the OPKs, today I'm 0.78 which is still pretty high and I have EWCM so even though I'm 1DPO would that count as still pretty fertile?

Bring on the weekend, work has been mental this week. I'm so tired 😩

@sunflowersaremyfav93 defo!! I just thought, some is better than none and the way the previous night went, I don't think we would have ended up DTD at all last night cus he felt so deflated! I feel pretty chill about it now, but I said that last month so I know I will end up testing before AF...but I am out of cheapies and i'm a tight bugger when it comes to spending money, so I am going to hold out and test at 12DPO which will be Monday 14th (just after my sisters wedding which will help keep my mind off stuff!) and yep, just before Xmas!

Keeping my fingers, toes and whole body crossed! OH just came up to me and poked me in my stomach saying I wonder if there is anything in the oven yet. I said, you do realise that's not where babys grow?? Men.. lol

I would imagine that if you had your peak OPK yesterday, you are probably ovulating today and tomorrow would be 1DPO for you.

Tell me about it... cant wait till Saturday been a hectic week!!

@CookieMonster3001 yes I think so too, temp this morning was higher than it's been all cycle so thinking it was just a momentary dip. Well done on DTD and yay for 1DPO! Think I'm now 7DPO, will probs pee on an IC on Sunday doubt I will last any longer, not expecting anything though.

@sunflowersaremyfav93 if your peak OPK was yesterday you are probs ovulating today and LH might go down gradually over a few days rather than a sudden drop.