Pre-conception, planning and trying!

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Hi ladies

I’ve been eating so well this week and weighed myself this morning I’ve not even shifted 1lb?! It’s not been a week yet but I’ve been really good, I thought a pound would have dropped. I’ll weigh again on Sunday morning. It’s quite disheartening when you’ve eaten well all week and don’t see any change? I feel good in myself though for cutting out crap.

So you know I said I had those symptoms? Tuesday night I had a work call and had a moment on dizziness, it was just after I had dinner so I wasn’t hungry. Today I’ve woken up with horrible cramps, feels like the cramps I get day before I come on. I’m not due for another week though. I really hope a little accident has happened lol!!
I’ve also had noticeably more creamy-type CM? I don’t know if I’m just noticing it more now or whether a diff to this cycle. AF will most likely arrive in the next few days. Would be weird though.

@wrensandrobins thank you so much so good to have guidance as the opks are a mind muddle for me :)

@CookieMonster3001 that’s amazing that you lost so much weight how did you
Do it? Well done on the 5lb and good for you for resisting the wine! I’ve been so tempted all week :) good motto re DTD if in doubt haha!

@Curiosity101 thank you :) it’ll be good when I get a pattern and can gage a window :)

@sunflowersaremyfav93 hang in there so good that you have been good all week it could be water weight or honestly just taking a little longer! Omgosh so strange re all the symptoms I bet you don’t want to get your hopes up it I have fingers crossed for you!

So this morning I got my first 2 significant lines on opk app says 21% been zero all the other days. So I think that ties in with EWCM 5th and 6th 21% LH today and flo predicts ovulation on the 9th? I ran in to tell dh I had 2 lines and he thought I meant we were pregnant I was like ffs I’ve just had a period do you not listen lmfao! So I am planning on DTD everyday today until the 11th to give the best possible chance. You know after last month being desperate for it to happen though I feel way better this month and cause I am so into the diet and exercise from January’s ‘new year new me’ if it didn’t happen this month I’ll be okay :) I’m really hoping it happens by March for a 2021 baby but when the time is right it will happen and so happy to Atleast have signs of ovulation :) stupid question but if you get an LH rise will that defo mean you ovulate that cycle? Xx

@sunflowersaremyfav93 So many different things play into weight loss. For example you could be eating better and therefore physically taking on more fibrous foods so weigh the same because you have more inside of you. But that doesn't mean you wont have lost fat. Fingers crossed for you. Are you calories counting at all? I found it very useful in the early days to have an idea of what my BMR was and how many calories I was taking onboard.

I can't help but get a bit excited for you regarding your 'sort of' TWW too. I'm going to stay cautiously hopeful for you .

@mackjm20 I think I'd do exactly the same in your position. I'd have estimated similar to Flo. Are you testing with OPKs twice daily now?

Unfortunately an LH peak doesn't mean you will ovulate, only that your body will try to. But for the vast majority of people I think they do ovulate successfully when their body tries so I'd assume it means ovulation. Good luck for the coming week!

@sunflowersaremyfav93 I always used to find the scales didnt move much but noticed a lot of difference in how I felt and how my clothes fit. Dont worry too much, just keep going as ultimately you are still nourishing your body by eating better! Do you know what DPO you are? The month I got my BFP I defo had a lot more creamy CM after ovulation (normally I would dry up)... you never know! I am keeping my fingers crossed for you!

@mackjm20 most of my weight I dropped by doing the 5:2 diet, so I would have 500 calories 2 days a week and then around 1500 calories the other 5 days of the week. I do have to admit, the closer I got to my lower weight, the more I was doing and looking back at it now, I don't think it was healthy or sustainable. I would walk 2 hours a day and also work out for an hour every day (including my fasting days) and on some weekends I would work out for 3-4 hours. I got very skinny, but I wouldnt recommend that now. The fasting I would still recommend as thats how I lost most of my weight (in a normal way!). The 5lbs I dropped is just me going back to my normal eating routine to be honest and drinking plenty of water (which is hard to do when you are OPK testng too!)
You're LH levels sound good, as @curiosity101 has said, I would keep testing, and now switch to testing twice a day to catch your surge. You want to make sure that your test line is either the same darkness or darker than your control like which will indicate your peak. You will then ovulate 24-48 hours after that. I always ovulate the day after my peak. So if your app is predicting ovulation on the 9th, you may well get a peak tonight or tomorrow! Unfortunately, this doesnt actually confirm ovulation and only tracking your BBT will confirm this as you will get a temp increase the day after you ovulate. I would defo keep DTD and after you have had your peak, keep tracking your OPKs to see if your LH levels drop and just ensure you keep DTD until they drop back down. The fact you also have EWCM is a good sign. Keeping my fingers crossed for you lovely!! We will probably ovulate around the same-ish time so hopefully we will be in our TWW together :)

So I have also decided I dont want to wait until after my period to start trying again! I just wanna crack on with it! Although my cycle is a bit odd this month! FF app still says I am due to ovulate CD12-13 (normally 12). Yesterday I had a temp increase (CD10) but had a blank CB ovulation test and a mid high IC OPK. Today my temp has dropped back down, still a blank CB ovulation test and a lighter IC OPK which suggests I am not going to ovulate tomorrow as predicted. I am hoping that ovulation is just going to be a couple of days late, and it would be ideal if I ovulate on Sunday or Monday as DTD for us is much easier on the weekend! Yesterday was the first time DTD in 3 weeks and since I miscarried and it felt nice to be intimate again (although for some reason I was also super nervous!). At this point, I just want ovulation to be confirmed or my cycle to be over and done with so I can try again properly. So frustrating knowing I would have been 7 weeks gone this Saturday. blergh!

I have everything crossed for you @mackjm20!!

@curiosity101 That makes sense both me and OH feel a lot better in ourselves and less bloated, we’re eating more fruit and veg and less carby stuff and OH is doing dry jan with me so I’m pleased about that.
I feel like I shouldn’t get my hopes up because AF will arrive but I have a little glimmer of hope haha!!

@cookiemonster3001 Exactly, this is last month before TTC and I making sure our eggs and sperm are as healthy as possible. Yesterday I was 8DPO and has the creamy mucus... sorry it sounds so gross but like it was enough that it was on my knickers? I hope so but I won’t get excited... gosh this is what I’m like now I’ll be terrible when it’s a real TWW.
And that’s great news that you’ve decided to crack on with the DTD! Fingers crossed you ovulate soon, they say women are really fertile after a MC don’t they?
I can’t even imagine, every week much feel like a reminder? You’ll get your little bundle of joy soon though, I have no doubt.

@sunflowersaremyfav93 absolutely!! loosing weight is just a good by-product of eating well, but really your body is probably much better for it even if you cant see it on the scales!
I feel like you are in an unofficial TWW! Welcome to the fun!! I am going to try my hardest this month not to get caught up in the TWW especially as they say it can take longer than normal for your period to come back (which would make sense if my ovulation is being pushed back!) I have been reading SOOO many posts on SOO many different forums, and so many people have said they caught straight after a miscarriage, both my cousin and my sisters best friend did as well so it gives me hope. OH was also reading about it the other day and was like if its true, we really don't want to waste this month!
I am feeling much better about it now and don't get upset as much, but do get reminded every now and then and I just feel more gutted than anything else now, but every day is a step in the right direction and you are right, we will all be getting out bundles of joy soon! The other day my father in law commented on a Zoom call about when we are going to have a baby and it kinda felt like a kick in the gut! Had no choice but to just laugh it off really!

Annoyingly, I thought I would be super busy this week to keep my mind of it, but it actually hasn't been to bad!! So getting pregnant again is all I can think about!

Onwards and upwards!! Bring on ovulation!!

Help please! Okay just got my peak 111% what does that mean? When am I likely to ovulate? Gosh opks are actually exciting haha! I will be beside myself if I ever get 2 lines on a preg test haha! X

@mackjm20 woohoo!! that's a great increase from 21%!!! You are most likely going to ovulate in the next 24-48 hours so I would get busy tonight and tomorrow lovely!!!

Keep testing and you should see your LH drop over the next few days, and just keep DTD until it goes back down! Keeping my fingers crossed for you xx

@mackjm20 get DTD!

Question about ovulation, I've seen some people say they get the peak and from that they can determine when they ovulate as in the next day? I seem to get my peak very early morning (4am) on CD21 after that it goes down pretty quick. Would i then say ovulation day is CD21 or is it impossible to say, I've attacked a picture of my tests! I say I think I peak 4am since last month I tested at 4am (I couldn't sleep!) and it was 1.84 so a little higher than the peak I got this cycle at 12am!

Forgot the photo!

@MayDay27 it's normally assumed that you'll ovulate 24-48 hours after your peak. So for you it'd be CD22-23. Cycle tracker apps would probably all set CD22 as the ovulation day.

Some people get ovulation pains though, for those people it's easier to estimate ovulation. For me, roughly 12 hours after a peak I get a really uncomfortable bruised feeling between my hips and also if I sit down it physically hurts. This lasts for up to half a day or so before going away and only ever happens around 12 hours after a peak OPK. For that reason I always assume I ovulate within 12 hours of my peak, but I could be wrong!

@MayDay27 I agree with everything @Curiosity101 only to add that the only way you can really confirm ovulation has happened is by tracking your BBT and seeing a temperature spike. I always get almost like a period pain when I ovulate (It sometimes even comes from one particular side - my friends think I am insane when I say I know which ovary I have ovulated from!) but I always know I have generally ovulated the day after a peak because usually the day after peak my temp will dip a little or stay the same and then the day after it will increase usually around .2 degrees or more.
From your pics, I would imagine that you ovulate CD22 (late CD21 at the very earliest)

Now I am going to try and dehydrate myself so I can do an OPK tonight lol

@CookieMonster3001 Haha, completely forgot about BBT 🤦😄

Eugh, I did similar with my HPT earlier. I'm still nervously retesting each day 🙄 I know I shouldn't but I just can't relax. Fingers crossed for a positive OPK.

I thought I felt a twinge on the left side one night but I don't know how much I imagine things! I was hoping I ovulate as early as possible as my cycle is usually 31 days so ovulating 22/23CD leaves my luteal phase really short. Panicking a little about the length of my luteal phase

@MayDay27 Do you ever have longer cycles? Maybe you normally have a 31 day cycle because you normally do ovulate earlier?

@Curiosity101 I'm pretty regular with 31. I've tracked ovulation for three months now and it's been CD22 each time. My period last time was a little weird in that I spotted for a day then came on lightly then stopped for two days and then came on properly for two days! I wasn't sure if it was because I had started to take Vitex so I stopped. I go from being really excited to test and hopeful to thinking if my LP is only 9 days am I going to have major issues 😭

@MayDay27 Fingers crossed it's not an issue for you. If it is then there are lots of investigations that can be done to work out why. 😊

@Curiosity101 hopefully not! I wonder how long before your period starts the lining starts to come away, it says most likely day of implantation is 9dpo so I'm hoping my lining holds together till then at least 😆 anyone else just drive themselves crazy Googling!

Hey ladies, I hope you’re all well. Have just been trying to catch up on everything as took a bit of a break just to clear my head!

I was really hoping for some advice- I’m driving myself insane overthinking and googling! I have a short luteal phase- I have done since I came off the implant around 18 months ago. My LP ranges from 8-10 days. I also get brown spotting around 5 days before af and and have had all the physical tests to check everything is ok.

This was our first month TTC and things have all gone a little mad! I started to have brown spotting 4dpo. This was early for me so naturally started thinking the worse. The spotting continued until 6dpo when I had a sudden 2 day drop in my BBT and woke up on 7dpo with some red blood in my pants (not a few spots, more like a 50p worth that had spread.) since then I’ve had nothing. I’m 10dpo today. I’ve had mild cramps but not af or other pms symptoms I would normally get. My temp keeps rising to higher than it was before my drop. I’m suspicious as this means my LP is the longest it’s been for a while.

To complicate things, I started to take b6 and pregnacare on day 7dpo. I’m driving myself insane wondering whether there’s a chance I’m pregnant or whether it’s just the vitamins and they’ve worked pretty instantly? I think I will be ok either way, I need my LP to increase to help TTC- just the mental torment of not knowing now. Any advice/ experience? I don’t know whether I’m too early to take a test (I have some frer) and don’t want to get disheartened! Sorry for the essay post! ❤️

@TTCWC2 At 10DPO you would probably be able to test and get a BFP if you are pregnant, but you would probably be better with FMU. If you can wait until 12DPO then that'll be a more conclusive answer though.

Fingers crossed for you! 🤞

I've done my final FRER this morning. Hopefully everything is progressing ok but I'm not overly impressed by the lines strength. It's not an exact science though so I just need to assume the best for now. My picture is 10DPO on top, then 15DPO, 17DPO and 19DPO on the bottom.

@Curiosity101 thanks so much! Going to try my best to hold off until maybe Sunday morning and see what happens in the meantime.

Massive congratulations on your BFP! ❤️ It’s so nice to see it start happening for people in this group as few like we’ve been through the entire journey together- all the build up!

Morning ladies :)

@Curiosity101 thank you :) if LH doesn’t show ovulation are there tests I can get for actual ovulation for the next few months? My temp honestly changes every morning depending on whether I wake up in or out of the covers as I move so much in the night so don’t know how reliable the temping is for me it’s up and down every day. Will keep at it though :) your tests look good to me fingers crossed :)

@CookieMonster3001 that’s so good that you lost so much how long did it take? The 5’2 is good actually I kind of forgot about it until you mentioned it :) my app has moved my ovulation to today now. Hopefully you have your positive opk soon and we can tww together :) that’s so good that you and dh DTD and things are moving forward! If no one has told you this today you are honestly so amazing and strong :)

@sunflowersaremyfav93 thank you. Fingers crossed for you too :) anymore signs?

@MayDay27 thank you :) I’ve only just started tracking so unsure on this side of things but keeping everything crossed for you!

@TTCWC2 welcome back :) ah sorry to hear you have had such a rollercoaster hopefully everything settles soon! You are so good waiting not going to lie I’ve tested as early as 9dpo but like you said Atleast avoids unnecessary disappointment. Honestly keeping everything crossed for you :)

So update from me had my peak yesterday DTD immediately haha! Then the app predicted ovulation today. My temps are still up and down everyday depending how cold the house is so will keep going but not going to stress myself over them :) my LH was back to low this morning not sure if this is normal or not? But going to keep doing them twice a day until Monday just incase :) plan to DTD today tomorrow and Sunday just to cover all bases. I’m not pinning everything on this month as now I think based on when I’m supposed to ovulate I’ve missed it every cycle bar 1/previous 4 lol but gives me a lot of positivity moving forward if I can start to Mark a pattern :)

Also 7lb down since the 31 dec which I am so chuffed about as I know getting the bmi down will help. Also having done veganuary and dry January I’m hoping any egg that does ovulate will be super healthy :)

Happy Friday

Hey ladies,

Happy Friday! I'm going to read all message properly after work but I think last night I had a metal type taste in my mouth... this is very likely to be psychological though. How early can I take a test? I'm thinking of ordering on my prime account today and testing?