TTC after MC - November 2020 (Thread 15)

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Hi All,

Please tag anyone from the old thread 🥰🥰

And anyone else who would like to join please do xx

@chloedancer897Me too, I keep on checking in here to see any testers but we seem to have lots of comments but not many testers at the moment eek. I get a joy our watching other people’s testing eeek.

@J785948 that’s totally what I do with OPKs. The best balance. You can also temp BBT to see your temp rise to finally confirm that ovulation has happened 👍

Hi @HappyVibes - lovely to see your name. You too @chloedancer897.

I’m in my Tww and plan to test Saturday or Sunday this week. Due AF on Sunday. Where are you at?

Welcome to all the new ladies. Sorry for your losses. X

Ooh yay @RichmondLady1981 we are often TWW buddies. I’m 11DPO today...AF prediction is bit messed up because of CP last cycle so due somewhere between Weds-Sat. How many DPO are you today lovely? Xxx

@Hanbanxx it took me just over 2 weeks to ovulate after surgical removal x

@HappyVibes I think that's probably very likely. We were due to get married last Friday but chose to delay due to not wanting to cut our numbers down - hence TTC. We were very unlucky that our MC fell just before we due to get married. It's not been a good week xx

Hi everyone, sorry if this is TMI but just wanted some advice. My MC happened on 29.11.2020 and bleeding only lasted three days after that. We have been TTC since the bleeding stopped and just went to the toilet and noticed very light blood on the toilet roll after I had a wee. Any ideas what this could be? Thanks in advance xx

@Hanbanxx I imagine DTD just caused a little bit of bleeding perhaps? It’s still early days. I remember when my bleeding had stopped, I’d go to the gym or for a jog and then I would lightly bleed again. As long as you’re not in any pain I think you’re ok.

@HappyVibes I’m 6DPO 😀 Did you take clomid this cycle and manage to dtd in good timing? My static came quickly this cycle so only dtd the day before and the day of ovulation. Let’s see. My DUe date would have been NYE which is a tough one to take.x

@Hanbanxx - I have had this with cycles after both miscarriages, I think it's just a bit of left over blood mixed with CM.

@J785948 @RichmondLady1981 ah I hope this doesn't impact on TTC! I don't want to have to stop and start again, having something to focus on is what's keeping me going xx

@Hanbanxx - providing it's only a tiny bit of blood and it is sometime after you have actually stopped bleeding during MC don't think it would stop you TTC.

At the time I decided I was only going to worry about if it happened on the next cycle. If it had I may have called my EPU but it happened only the once.

When it happened to me this cycle (first after 2nd MC) it was the day after we dtd. I think some women also have spotting when they ovulate too, so could be that

@J785948 thanks so much for your advice, my OPKs haven't picked up any ovulation so I'll just keep an eye on it! Xx

@RichmondLady1981 - I am in a similar situation as you, I would have been due on my original pregnancy on the 20th December (which is sadly also our wedding anniversary) so the next couple of weeks are going to be tough.

I feel ok at the moment but I don't know if that's coz we have a chance (currently 3/4 DPO) but I am not sure how I am going to cope if AF comes. Have you thought about how your going to cope over Xmas/NYE? I feel like I want a plan as to how I am going to cope with it all. Easier said than done though I suppose!

@HappyVibes I’m planning to test tomorrow! I tested on Sunday and got a bfn. I will be cd44 tomorrow. My longest cycle has been 41 days. I keep thinking AF is coming but nothing yet. Keep getting cramps and my boobs were sensitive end of last week but not so much anymore. Also have that gushing feeling sometimes (sorry tmi) like AF has started but nothing is there. Cramps are quite bad tonight. I’m clinging to the hope that I have ovulated later in my cycle.

When are you looking to test? X

@Wishingfornumber2 good luck with testing today! Everything crossed. Xxx

@J785948 I totally understand. When I first had my mmc I stupidly set a target in my head to try to get pregnant before my due date on NYE. Too much pressure isn’t it? I didn’t try the first month as it was all a bit much for me post surgery at the time but this will be our 5th month of trying. Back in the summer when everything was kicking off with Covid I sat down and booked a weeks holiday in a house by the sea for over NYE as I guessed I’d need a distraction. I have a 19 month old son and I swear he has been my strength through this. To add a sickening twist to the story, I am predicted to ovulate on NYE so I guess that will take my mind off things. Not sure if we will be in the mood to DTD though! I’m 7DPO today. X

@Hanbanxx how are things today? Has the bleeding eased?

@HappyVibes are you testing soon?

@susiebluebell how are things progressing with you?

@Hanbanxx I had this for a while lovely with the light bleeding...I just wore panty liners for a bit. It was sometimes light or sometimes dark clots still just flushing and clearing out. I actually saw it as a good sign as my body fully clearing and getting a nice new and clean environment for a healthy baby. It doesn’t stop TTC at all, it’s just your body clearing out lovely xxxx

Morning @RichmondLady1981aww not long off testing then eek. Good luck lovely. I am 13dpo today (got confused yesterday). I may test tomorrow, or perhaps wait it out until Saturday (which I’ve never been able to do). Looking back at my first positive, I got a BFN at 15DPO, and BFP at 17DPO so part of me wants to get to 17 before i test.

@J785948 We are very similar as our first loss EDD is 13/12 so very soon. I’m actually coping well and really surprised as I thought this month was going to be tough. That may be different depending how the testing goes. Also my sister in law is due this week so may be different then, as we obvs were due together within days.

Sending you both love xxxx

Thanks @RichmondLady1981. Tested this morning with a frer. When I look hard I don’t know if I can see a vvvvvvv faint line. But think it’s just my mind wishing there was something there 😫. Will attach a pic but nothing to see really. X

@HappyVibes that is music to my ears that it doesn't stop TTC, I was worried DTD would be pointless until the bleeding had stopped. That gives me hope! Xx

@RichmondLady1981 it's still very light, not transferring on my underwear but sometimes there if I have had a wee and wiped. I'll keep an eye on it as I did worry that I did have some mind cramps. I would welcome my period in all honesty so I can get it over with! Xx

@Wishingfornumber2 morning!

It’s always difficult to see on screen but unless my eyes are tricking me, I see something towards the bottom of the result window?? Is that where you can see something?

@Wishingfornumber2 - I find the photos don't show up as clear as in person, I would take another test tomorrow if AF doesn't come. Best of luck!

@HappyVibes and @RichmondLady1981 it is really good to speak to other people in the same situation as me with EDD as later this month. Thank you for your kind words. I agree, putting pressure to have a viable pregnancy before EDD is too much - but likewise, I have also done it.

I don't really know how we have got through it tbh, I don't consider myself as a strong person. Myself and my husband both had a day off work together yesterday and went and really had some fun together, first time since my most recent MC (due to lockdown) and was really needed.

I also feel ok at the moment, but likewise, not sure how I will feel once I have tested - I think it's because I have hope as we have times our dtd exactly the same as when I have fallen pregnant both times before.

AF is sadly due two days before my EDD so if we are not successful this cycle, I think I am just going to be kind to myself that weekend, with no booze as otherwise I think I may burst into tears!

I know I have said this before, but it's so good to speak to other people in similar situations, I know my family/friends feel sorry for us, but you really don't know how you feel/how it affects you until you have been through a miscarriage, or two like we have.

@RichmondLady1981 @HappyVibes fingers crossed for you both this month xo

@chloedancer897 that’s so kind. Thank you so much. Hope you’re ok. 💋

@RichmondLady1981 and @J785948 thanks for your replies. I have got one test left which is a CB digital so going to use it thurs morning just to give it another day. I have been TTC for over 2 years now after my MC in July 2018 so will be so shocked if I finally do get a bfp!

I have my fingers crossed for you both too! 🤞 xx