Christmas BFP’s positive thoughts (let’s support each other)

[Idreamof2more]

Hi ladies, have started this thread for anyone that has not had their bfp this month but is going into their next cycle positively hoping for their Christmas or New Years bfp. Let’s support each other..laugh/cry. No such thing as TMI. Let’s celebrate together! Xxx

Just because I had bad cramps and thought what the hell. If I’m honest I did get a bfp 7 dpo with my son which got darker so who knows ??

Oh wow! That's early! Will have to see how it goes 😊

I also don’t want to test at all early, my last chemical was awful and I don’t fancy a repeat of that!

May I join? Just done 1st cycle. Came off implant in September. Everything back to normal but AF here so will try again mid-December.

Me and OH both 38 so chances are smaller sadly. Think we'll give it 6 months then go straight to IVF if we are able.

Fingers crossed all

@Leonberger yea, it's made me wary too!

@Noodles4Me im 37 and my oh is 38 and despite it ending in a chemical we got a BFP first cycle trying. So don't write it off yet!

@Mamamoonbeam. I know stupid of me really but I'm am going insane waiting and symptoms spotting.
What day dpo would you recommend to test? I didn't realise i was so impatient!!!
Haven't really helped myself as I'm a bit disheartened now and just made myself sad

@DOB78 unless you're prepared to but ICs and poas every day until af arrives/or not, I would test after af is due or a couple days before with a frer. For me that is dpo 14-16 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Mamamoonbeam. I've looked on clearvlue and First Response sites and they earliest they recommend testing is 1st Dec which is 9dpo 6 days before AF is due. I've bought Clearblue Early Response tests so I'm just going to wait and see.
I felt so positive before today seemed like I had some early symptoms but could just be PMS.
Apologises for being a downer to the group x

@dob78 just be aware that pregnancy tests have a much lower reading accuracy 6 days before af. You can test, but it doesn't mean you'll get an accurate reading.
Plus chemical pregnancies that will show early but end when af is due can be pretty brutal.
I don't want to be a nay-sayer but my experience has been tainted by testing early and having a chemical. If you think you can brush a chemical off and carry on without too much upset, then do test early. Otherwise I would excise caustion, especially at our age where there's an increased chance of cp due to potential low egg health.
You're not being a downer, just had your eager excitedness dashed x

@Mamamoonbeam. I think I'm just freaking out I feel like we're going to run out of time and that would be devastating for us both.
I'm going to try and wait till after 6th when AF is due as I wouldn't want to get our hopes up only to be disappointed.
OH will be home all weekend so that'll keep me distracted.
Thanks for the much needed reality check.

@DOB78 I know how you feel. Time feels like it's creeping away but the worst thing we can do is stress about it. I have started tracking lh and bbt but out of pure curiosity. I would recommend you track your cycles using an app so you know roughly where your fw is and if you want to get involved with tracking more things then do, but be wary about becoming obsessive. We're trying and if nothing sticks by month 3 we will tentatively make enquiries with the GP, just to log things.
Are you taking supplements? X

@dob78 this article is pretty good x

www.nefertility.com/international-fertility-blog/after-age-35

Thanks so much @ Mamamoonbeam. I use premom and flo to track my cycle which has been chaotic since I had implant last year.
Ive been taking Pregnacare Conception since September. I'll give the article a read now too

@Idreamof2more that is quite a visible line! I wonder why it’s disappeared. You are still very early, maybe try again in a few days? Good luck though!

@galatea098 hi! Charts are looking good! I’m currently 11 DPO. LP has been 10-12 days since I started tracking. Nearly caved and tested this morning but managed to hold off. Aiming to test after the weekend as I’m on night shifts til Monday morning. AF due over the weekend. I might give in though. Sometimes I think I have symptoms but the. I thi I o they are all in my head 😂😂😂 x

On the to POAS or not POAS question with DD2 I got a BFN on a FRER at 11dpo then tried again on 14dpo because it was my birthday and wine suddenly tasted disgusting and only got a faint line then. Maybe we all need something else to pee on as a distraction. Maybe an actual stick...

And thanks for sharing the article @MamaMoonbeam - I conceived easily at 34 and 36 but now I’m 39 I’m wondering if my eggs are a little elderly. And sorry about your chemical, hope next month is your month.

@Aozora if peeing on an actual stick would give me an answer I'd do it!!!
Wish I could sleep the next week away

@aozora13 😂 yes, let's keep the pees on the sticks or in the pee pots. I know I'm not going to waste all on my money on FRERs from now on - that's for sure! Thank you, I was so surprised to have a BFP as it was our first month trying and not surprised that it didn't stick 🤷🏻‍♀️ I'm hoping supplementing with concentrated fish oil will help, I also take pregnacare conceive.

@dob78 it's worth looking at tracking your bbt, that way it can confirm if you've ovulated. 😊

@Mamamoonbeam I'll have a look at that too. I also take Omega 3 which along with multi vitamins helping with weight loss before TTC. I have underactive thyroid to add to the mix.
I'm still hopeful for this month AF hasn't arrived yet but I will seriously take on board all the advice you've given me. Thank you for the support you are saving my OH from a massive headache!

@dob78 you're welcome 😊 I take the fish oil for the dha! Have a good weekend x

@galatea098 not sure about the urine thing. Everything is a potential sign isn’t it. So hard to figure out. Not any real noticeable symptoms for me. I have felt very very slightly nauseous for a few days but that could be coz I’m tired from nights. Had very mild cramps for about 20 mins during my shift last night, and I have gotten a few spots but again could be the shift pattern. Nothing to write home about basically!y temp had stayed up so far at 12DPO but that’s after I first wake up which is normally around midday so after 3/4 hours sleep. So not very reliable. Just a waiting game at the moment. Desperate to test coz I just want to know but partner wants me to wait at least til I have finished this stretch of nights x

Finally at the 2 WW, this cycle has seemed to go on forever. Wishing Christmas baby dust on everyone! Good luck to those testing soon

I'm in the TWW now, 5-6dpo. Can't call it either way at the moment but trying to keep level headed about it... 😫

@YouBoggleMyMind I think we are roughly at the same stage although I missed ovulation day and the day before so not holding out much hope

Annoyingly my cycles are usually up to 33 days long so extra long to wait!

My next fertile week will be Christmas week after this one